I missed a few pages, but never mind, as seems to be repetition. If I'm wrong apologies.
Lots of posters seem quite worried about living a day less, so into health checks and medications, or not, to prolong life to the very bitter end.
While I'm no role model, isn't it more important to live life rather than worry about death? So what if I die before my father did? He was rather demented and a very sad man last time I saw him alive. I was quite upset at his existence, and he wasn't short of a few bob to be able to afford a good rest home.