If you cannot say anything positive about your exes and place all the blame on them, it honestly makes you seem one-sided and leaves you open to criticism. My wife once met a friend of my ex, who asked her what I had said about our relationship. My wife simply replied, “Nothing.” That is one rule I live by: never speak badly about your exes. In the end, responsibility also lies with you, especially in how long you allow painful experiences to shape you, and how bitter you choose to become because of them. I told them both that if I started complaining about my ex and talking about how hurt I felt back then, I would also have to admit that I was the fool who stayed too long, and now have to make excuses. I would rather learn from it and move on than drag it into the next chapter of my life. That part of my life is history, and not something I need to keep revisiting—not with her, and not here. For me, that is closure. And looking back, it was not just pain; it was also experience, growth, and a lesson for life.
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