Why do so many guys buy homes for the mother in law.

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I like my mother in law, respect her even feel a certain degree of love for the woman but i would never part with the kind of money required to purchase a house for her, no way.

 

How many people can really say when they buy the house that they really wanted to, or was there another motive, im sure there are guys here that truly wanted to i dont know.

 

If they had the means to do so do you think they would be out planning a home for you.

Edited February 27, 20188 yr by Rodwalloper

Keep her from moving in with you is my guess.

my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in   all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade  to make for comfortable living

Exactly what KMartin mention ...  keep her from moving in with you.

1 hour ago, Lamkyong said:

my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in   all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade  to make for comfortable living

I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter.

your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also.

19 minutes ago, Rodwalloper said:

I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter.

your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also.

wanting to not to keep the daughter.???sorry lost me there

I assume its a bit hard to not buy them a house after gloating to them how much of a go getter you are on your pension.

My in-laws have never intimated that they want anything from me. The MiL even quietly returned the sinsot to my wife a couple of days after the wedding. And they already have a very nice house which Pa built years ago on a piece of land he bought in central Ubon (for 25,000 Baht!). I generally give them a few thousand to cover expenses when we stay there, but that's it.

Firstly,  buying the MIL a house? Jesus Christ 

 

Secondly, why the hell would they allow their MIL to ever even contemplate moving in?

 

Some guys here are such suckers and seem to never have heard about putting their foot down and not letting people take the p! ss. 

 

you have two choices, the old dear live with you or not.
pick your option depending on how you have been 'groomed'

stupidity

46 minutes ago, Rodwalloper said:

I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter.

your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also.

I suspect my MiL buying my truck with her money and putting it in my name will probably do your tiny little head in.

 

But never mind, eh? As you say, it is their business and thereby absolutely NONE of yours.

 

Bloody noobs....

14 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

I suspect my MiL buying my truck with her money and putting it in my name will probably do your tiny little head in.

 

But never mind, eh? As you say, it is their business and thereby absolutely NONE of yours.

 

Bloody noobs....

 

It's a forum and you will get ridiculed for doing something stupid....like buying a house and paying the stipend to your MIL.

 

So, if you want people to mind their own business, don't post or read this forum.

 

 

It's just a cultural difference. In the West, old people in need either live in their offspring's house or in elder accommodation, with any shortfall in funds made up by pension or the welfare state.

 

In Asia, it is the responsibility of the offspring to care for their parents and in some cases their siblings, family first, no welfare state. Buying houses is part of the process. Never helped me as my wife does not get on with her grasping parents, who never looked after her as a kid, so they will get nothing from us.

There is someone wielding great power over you whispering in your ear. Personal wealth can be fleeting for a farang in Thailand.

9 minutes ago, Timebandit said:

There is someone wielding great power over you whispering in your ear. Personal wealth can be fleeting for a farang in Thailand.

Tell that to the many, many bitter and twisted new(ish) arrivals who are living the Thai dream but only AFTER losing the farm to wifey back home.

Because they buy the daughter 

15 minutes ago, sawadee1947 said:

Because they buy the daughter 

Settling in OK are we?

That is what a Thai woman marries you for , especially bar girls who selling themselves to build mother and father a nice house .

I replaced a second hand  tin shed for a proper kitchen and will soon do a bathroom make over. Why? Because I can. They have never asked a thing from me. They also returned sin sot money. Trying to live at their age with no water pressure and a bucket is not on. It's all under the heading of family.

Some of these "mothers in law" probably have more houses than buffaloes !

You will find out that in most cases, the guy is well off, and is also a member of the fat, ugly, tattooed, facial haired brigade, who can only get a wife by buying her mother a house as well as his wife and looks after them financially, and is usually about thirty years older than his wife, and is too stupid to understand that it is very likely that his wife is also going to have a Thai boyfriend who he thinks is her brother.

4 hours ago, Lamkyong said:

my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in   all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade  to make for comfortable living

That was very sensible, and the chances are you will all live happily ever after. That is the sort of thing I would have done, but my wifes house was already half built for her and her son and daughter when we met, and her mum and dad and brothers have their own house nearby.

I see guys doing this and then sending their bargirl "back home". It's more of a <deleted> corral than a house really. 

2 hours ago, Lamkyong said:

wanting to not to keep the daughter.???sorry lost me there

I'm lost also, but I do get the gist of it.

 

 My wife and I have been married for 4 years and I have bought my MIL 3 items and she never asked for.any of them. She had an old refrigerator and if you opened the door to far, the top hinge pin would come out and the door would fall off. One Saturday, I was at Tesco and they were having a weekend appliance sell. I bought a Panasonic refrigerator and arranged delivery for the following Monday. Well Sunday afternoon, the MIL called my wife and was excited and in tears because Tesco had just delivered it.   Then one time when we went to visit, the FIL was trying to make 1 good fan from parts from a second. So the next week I bought a Sharp floor fan and took it to her. I couldn't understand much of what she was saying but her smile I'll never forget.  Last Summer, I bought a 32" Sharp TV to replace the 20" she had.  I took it to her home set it up and left, while she was visiting a neighbor. Didn't need to see her face to know she would be happy and thankful. 

2 hours ago, BobbyL said:

Firstly,  buying the MIL a house? Jesus Christ 

 

Secondly, why the hell would they allow their MIL to ever even contemplate moving in?

 

Some guys here are such suckers and seem to never have heard about putting their foot down and not letting people take the p! ss. 

 

But a lot of the silly old Farangs need to buy the love of their Thai wifes and her family as that is

the only way they will get them.

25 minutes ago, johnmcc6 said:

I replaced a second hand  tin shed for a proper kitchen and will soon do a bathroom make over. Why? Because I can. They have never asked a thing from me. They also returned sin sot money. Trying to live at their age with no water pressure and a bucket is not on. It's all under the heading of family.

I am not trying to get at you, but is it not a bit stupid to pay a sin sot in the first place, it is a Thai custom, not yours.

my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in   all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade  to make for comfortable living

Mine has a far bigger house than me. And ours is not small

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2 hours ago, Classic Ray said:

It's just a cultural difference. In the West, old people in need either live in their offspring's house or in elder accommodation, with any shortfall in funds made up by pension or the welfare state.

 

In Asia, it is the responsibility of the offspring to care for their parents and in some cases their siblings, family first, no welfare state. Buying houses is part of the process. Never helped me as my wife does not get on with her grasping parents, who never looked after her as a kid, so they will get nothing from us.

In Korea , where it is considered as Asia, parents buy their children a home to settle in after marriage.