Popular Post swissie Posted March 14, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 14, 2018 As I keep close contact with my Farang friends in Thailand, there seems to be a re-occuring theme and appearantly more common than I ever thought. Here it is: Oftentimes, when Thai wife gets mad at Farang hubby, instead of discussing a problem with hubby, some Thai wifes tend to go silent for days at a time. (Avoiding confrontation, I suppose). The affected Farangs usually don't take this well. There was a time when I too was confronted with lenghty periods of silence. The day came, when I decided to counteract the "silence-terror" by checking into the nearest hotel (in the sticks), leaving message that I would not return home unless she would regain speach quickly. Otherwise, she would have to visit me in the future at "Lulu's Bar and Grill and Dancers" in Pattaya. Extremely effective. Had to apply this strategy only 2 times. Miraculously, she regained speach in less than 24 hours on both occasions. After that, no more "silence" episodes. Just curious, how other TVF members handle (handled) this or similar situations. Cheers. PS: Clearly only addressing Farangs that have found themeselves in such a situation. Posts like "My Thai Wife of 69 years has never done anything like that to me" are unnecessary, as they would be "off topic" right from the beginning. 3 1 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jacko45k Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 Years ago I gave mine 500 baht and told her to go home to her village for a while. The break perhaps did us both good, but she soon began to realize in that environment where her bread was buttered. Recent times we have both got closer and it is rare.... but I just leave her to it if she has a bottom-lip event. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cornishcarlos Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 I enjoy the peace and quiet.... I've got very good at making her sulk :) 4 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chrissables Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 Try this........... "Are you ok darling?" No answer "Anything i can do for you?" No answer "I'm moving to Soi 6 for a few days, ok" Answer most likely! 2 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post anono222 Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 I am shocked when she invades the ambient silence by speaking. Remember.... silence is golden, enjoy it when ya got it. 6 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post dotpoom Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 I never have that problem......She has the problem... ( with my silences). 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cms22 Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 Yep, get that too but these days it only lasts for a couple of hours. Even so, it's so immature - and she's nearly 40! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post smotherb Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 I divorced the childish drudge and found another who could act more sensibly. 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post weegee Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 Say nothing, and start packing a suitcase.... 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jacko45k Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 16 minutes ago, cms22 said: Yep, get that too but these days it only lasts for a couple of hours. Even so, it's so immature - and she's nearly 40! In Thai years that's about 13! 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Krataiboy Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 How do you deal with the silent treatment from your wife/gf? Celebrate. 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aussieinphuket Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 Be Happy - slience is golden ..... remember the old saying... "when a thai woman is talking to you she is lying".... "when a thai woman is not talking and silent she is thinking of the next lie to tell you" ........ 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 1FinickyOne Posted March 15, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 15, 2018 I give her some time to stew... it usually goes away after 5 minutes, but it is mostly a rarity for us - my wife is mostly happy, but then I can have the opposite problem, when happy, she talks too much. I once advised a friend new to Thai, to shut up if his wife gets angry and give her 5 minutes. When she got angry, he told her "24" said I should shut up for 5 minutes - she answered, "better make it ten!" You have to give extra points for funny. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jobwolf Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 1 hour ago, jacko45k said: Years ago I gave mine 500 baht and told her to go home to her village for a while. The break perhaps did us both good, but she soon began to realize in that environment where her bread was buttered. Recent times we have both got closer and it is rare.... but I just leave her to it if she has a bottom-lip event. Hide your money and go out and don't come back for 3 days. Then everything will be resolved within minutes, one way or another. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RichardColeman Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 My wife (40, well educated teacher) got moody with me for a few days as I asked her to put the baby to bed at 11.30 pm as I wanted to see something on the TV before bed ! But she usually comes round a day or so later. Sometimes I wonder if they are like this rather than confront the issues as they still worry about their ex clocking them one before and fear the same. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien365 Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 If my wife does this she is waiting for an apology or for me to try and sweet talk her and show her that I care. Being stubborn I refuse to do this if I did nothing wrong in the first place. So, I wait for her to get over her childish silence and look forward to the make up sex 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikosan Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 I simply ignore her and carry on as usual, it generally doesn't last long then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lacessit Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 I was married to one of those many years ago. If I knew then what I now know, the first time she tried it on I would have told her to &&&& off. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobbyL Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 2 hours ago, cornishcarlos said: I enjoy the peace and quiet.... I've got very good at making her sulk :) This. A bit of PlayStation or Netflix in peace is great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyFriend You Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 (edited) 2 hours ago, weegee said: Say nothing, and start packing a suitcase.... I can see the reaction in my head "Where you go??" she will say with kitchen knife in her hand - Edited March 15, 2018 by TunnelRat69 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 My wife doesn't do the silent treatment. To her credit, that is one area where she has become Westernized. Arguments are normally short blowups, mutual silence for a short period of time, and either we both drop it, or we talk it out. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maxcorrigan Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 (edited) Yes my Thai wife is the same well educated in the Thai manner ie never wrong (ex Teacher) but gets angry quickly, as i do, then argue over something ridiculous, which i forget quickly, she then goes into a sulk that can last for days depending of the strength of our argument, other than that, she's one in a million! Edited March 15, 2018 by maxcorrigan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OmarZaid Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 After a good spat ... three days of silence is my golden rule .... together, we go on about our business without speaking .... it works wonders .... many times, the original spat is never even discussed again. Usually, with sincere relationships, this works wonders because the cause is some stupid misunderstanding that actually sorts itself in the silence. Insincere relationships will never sort themselves no matter the problem solving approach . . .just sayn 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sead Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 You van either accept to live with her mindset until you die or chanhe to another one. There are girls that are intelligent and know how to conversate. But yes its a common problem in thailand and thaigirls 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crankshaft Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 pack her bags and put them at the front door....worked for me... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingjock Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 When I was back home my ex never spoke to me for three months, I told my mate, and he said " hang on to her, not many of them about " Their like hens teeth 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moe666 Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 I have a good laff and then go for a beer or two or theww or four. I just ignore her until she speaks to me 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toscano Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 My Falang friends and I don't have that experience , in fact the opposite , we are screamed at . Any attempt to defend ourselves verbally is deemed an argument ; so we have learnt to give wives the silent treatment . My wife only takes half an hour to an hours to come and apologize , say she's sorry to talk too fast and too loud . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HooHaa Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 2 hours ago, RichardColeman said: My wife (40, well educated teacher) do you think of her in those terms or are the parentheses there to help us understand your wife is different? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThaiWai Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 Mine used to pull that crap. She went 3 days once. I ignore it if I am right, I apologize if I am wrong. She has learned that if don't apologize I never will and she cools off. The time frame has gone down from 3 days to 1 shower length. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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