Foreigner hangs himself, burns house down next to final message to wife: "You have stolen everything from me"

[Maestro]

Removed a troll post.

[Justfine]

28 minutes ago, Fish Head Soup said:

How could you possibly know that from his post?

He said he built a house for them.

[lamyai3]

11 hours ago, Thaijack2014 said:

I'm thinking about it. To me it makes no sense. Anyway, what happened was tragic. How about this: I'm a wittness of a guy being ripped off. I don't like him, he's a loser anyway, brought me into some kind of trouble with his girlfriend, as he was turning my words against her and had a fight about me with her. The girlfriend is my wife's cousin and we know for a fact that she's a bloodsucker. If I would warn this man, we would be outcasted not only by the cousin's family, but also by others of the family as everybody is protecting that bitch. My wife said, she don't want to be involved with them anymore, I'm not welcome in her house as well. But this guy is paying everything. She's around 45, has a grown up daughter and he wants to marry her. They already made clear that he would pay a sinsod of 500.000 Baht. She's not worth 20 Baht. That's the kind of woman who would not shed a tear if she would ruin another person's life, same what happened to this man. We were not sure about it, but now this man went back to his country and I don't have any contact with him... otherwise I would warn him.

 

Not only would your warning probably go unheeded, if he trusts the girl he may well confide in her what you said. It could backfire very badly. 

[HooHaa]

20 hours ago, Miss Pickle said:

This is yet another very sad story. I had a friend come over here when he got early retirement with all his money met a girl bought a house in her name then a few months down the line the guy he thought was her brother turns out to be her husband.Needless to stay her went home penniless and had to get emergency housing. At 40 years old he could have gone home and had a life ver very sad. One thing confuses me how are his hands cuffed. ??

How are his hands cuffed? Have never seen handcuffs.

[Justfine]

9 minutes ago, HooHaa said:

How are his hands cuffed? Have never seen handcuffs.

Have a look at videos or movies. Handcuffs are metal objects that restrain the arms.

[Justfine]

57 minutes ago, lamyai3 said:

Not only would your warning probably go unheeded, if he trusts the girl he may well confide in her what you said. It could backfire very badly. 

Can't stop people from making mistakes.

[BEVUP]

3 hours ago, Justfine said:

They got a free house.

Yes people don't understand them

They can easily revert back to their ways, with their brand new house/car & ect

& all the Bitching / Hitting / Screaming & Carry on episodes means they want you out as they have got what they want

 

Even though my wife was feeding her family (with cash or mortgages ) there certainly is no agro

[DonnyT]

21 hours ago, webfact said:

Police are trying to ascertain who he was by finding his friends.

The only white guy in Thailand immigration don't have an address for?

Sounds like some sort of conspiracy.

[Justfine]

16 minutes ago, BEVUP said:

Yes people don't understand them

They can easily revert back to their ways, with their brand new house/car & ect

& all the Bitching / Hitting / Screaming & Carry on episodes means they want you out as they have got what they want

 

Even though my wife was feeding her family (with cash or mortgages ) there certainly is no agro

Yep another farang got played. 

[ChiangMaiLightning2143]

18 hours ago, ajarnmarc said:

My girlfriend since 2005, who I have two children with, has apparently decided to do something very similar to me.

We have a business we made together, yet the paperwork is in her name, since the company isn't a Ltd. just private owner business.

We bought a truck together, where I paid the initial deposit of 150,000 bht, and thereafter we paid the monthly payments together, yet when the truck was finally paid off in 2014, the misses waited just two months to go about taking out a private loan for 500,000 bht from a loan agency in 2015.

I never knew a loan had be placed against the truck, I believed it was paid off, until October of 2017, when the loan agency came to retrieve the truck. 

Loan agency informed me that most of the payments were made late, sometimes up to four months without making a single payment, so they were left with no options but to come to retrieve the truck.

As a result this 500,000 bht loan placed in 2015 against the truck I believed was fully paid off, is now not due to expire until 2020, at the earliest, for a 2010 model truck.

The loan payments on the truck is higher than we initially paid, when we originally bought the truck, but what makes it even worse, is the misses never invested the 500k she received from this loan, 

back into the family in any way, so there were no signs she had come into a large sum of money.

At one point in 2017, she decided since I had never found out about the loan she took against the truck, she would try her luck again, and take the Honda Forza to the bank to take out a loan against that. This I paid for in cash, yet the book was in her name, due to me not having a work permit at the time of purchase, I later had planned to place the Motorcycle in my son name, since he's now 11 years old.

After she fell behind in both the Truck payments and the Motorcycle payments, she decided to convince my son to open my safe box; he was the only one who knew the combination, in the event something happened to me. She took out all the gold garments I had purchased for myself during our relationship; the ones I bought for her, she had sold already.

Went down to the local gold store and sold everything, this all happened before the loan agency came knocking for the retrieval of the truck. 

I just never had any reason to put it all together, yet the pieces were slowing falling into place...

When I ask her what she did with all the proceeds from any of the moves she made, 

the responses were always meet with silence...no response at all coming, other than she knows she made a mistake.

I had very little, yet she has managed to take it all.

This lady was a room maid when I met her, I was the manager of the hotel she worked at.

She was hired as a part time staff, after we started to see each other after working hours, 

I spoke to a friend of mine who worked at another hotel near by, to see about getting this new interest in my life a full time position, so we might be able to pursue a long term relationship.

After she secured the new position, she proceeded to move in with me back in 2005.

 

Because we have so much time invested into this relationship, plus two children, 

and our business, it's hard to break free. Even as I try to make any new business or job of my own, 

she tries to find a way to lean onto that as well. Asking me for money to help pay her debts, or coming to my place of work, if I secure a position in the public sector.

 

At the end of the day, I too have thought about taking my own life, 

as it seems like I have no solutions to the problems laid out before me.

So I can totally understand this mans situation, and relate to his decision, 

as I attempt to remain strong for our children, but at times it's very hard indeed.

Rule number 2, "Never purchase a home to be registered in a Thai woman's name"

You don't need a work permit to buy a vehicle get a certificate of residence letter.

 

This tragic story , not enough information to blame the woman. No matter what to commit such a violent arson and suicide indicates the gentleman was severely disturbed and needed professional psychological treatment or intervention. R.I.P 

 

Always remember. NEVER invest more than  you can AFFORD  lose and keep a small emergency fund and a "bug out" bag packed.  Make plan, and  a backup plan(s).

[Get Real]

8 hours ago, Fish Head Soup said:

You're posts usually suggest otherwise. Maybe you're genius like at pretending to not know how things work? Bravo.

That comes from an expert I suppose? Tourist visa and worried to be rejected?

[Justfine]

1 minute ago, ChiangMaiLightning2143 said:

Rule number 2, "Never purchase a home to be registered in a Thai woman's name"

You don't need a work permit to buy a vehicle get a certificate of residence letter.

 

This tragic story , not enough information to blame the woman. No matter what to commit such a violent arson and suicide indicates the gentleman was severely disturbed and needed professional psychological treatment or intervention. R.I.P 

 

Always remember. NEVER invest more than  you can AFFORD  lose and keep a small emergency fund and a "bug out" bag packed.  Make plan, and  a backup plan(s).

How about not marrying someone you can't trust. If you have a bag backed thinking it's a shaky situation then it is and it's doomed from the start. It never ceases to amaze me why people marry duds then wonder why it fails. 

[DonnyT]

9 minutes ago, Justfine said:

It never ceases to amaze me why people marry duds then wonder why it fails. 

Probably because all women are 'duds', and can't be trusted.

If not today, they will be sometime soon.

 

Marriage is dead in the west due to anti-male legislation, here you have to be spectacularly stupid to lose it all.

Edited March 30, 2018 by DonnyT

[theshu25]

sounds like she is a mad gambler

[todlad]

Whatever the full story here, how wretched must the other people involved have been to cause this 40 year old to do that to himself? Beyond words and beyond the pale.

[cornishcarlos]

15 hours ago, Donotdisturb said:

The mind boggles that westerners marry people 10.000km away from home with completely different culture, mindset and bankaccount/savings. I stick to my great farang gf who isn't interested in my money because she has 5x more. Hahahah.

 

Each to their own... 

[chrisandsu]

51 minutes ago, Justfine said:

How about not marrying someone you can't trust. If you have a bag backed thinking it's a shaky situation then it is and it's doomed from the start. It never ceases to amaze me why people marry duds then wonder why it fails. 

Water always finds its level.

[BEVUP]

1 hour ago, Justfine said:

Yep another farang got played. 

Yep & soughted it out once I knew about it at the 11 th hour

That's how most of us get played by not even knowing about it 

May have even bee the OP's situation, but in his case had nothing left to retrieve anything salvagable 

[pete cox]

am i missing something here?. they said he was handcuffed with his hands behind his back, kind of hard to hang yourself that way. even if you manage to get the handcuffs on after you put the rope around your neck, maybe he had some help?

[Justfine]

6 minutes ago, pete cox said:

am i missing something here?. they said he was handcuffed with his hands behind his back, kind of hard to hang yourself that way. even if you manage to get the handcuffs on after you put the rope around your neck, maybe he had some help?

Actually easy as explained on here many times.

 

 

[Skeptic7]

The note said...

 

23 hours ago, webfact said:

Now you have all exactly as you wanted."

 

...and sadly, he was correct. This type of "life leaching" is nothing new here and in many cases premeditated. The Thai parasites won again, but not quite a total victory as he managed to burn a good bunch of the booty.

Edited March 30, 2018 by Skeptic7

[Gecko123]

37 minutes ago, pete cox said:

am i missing something here?. they said he was handcuffed with his hands behind his back, kind of hard to hang yourself that way. even if you manage to get the handcuffs on after you put the rope around your neck, maybe he had some help?

You write the suicide note. You then take a can of gasoline, douse the house and light the fire. You then climb up onto an elevated platform where you have already arranged a noose and tighten it around your neck. You then take a pair of handcuffs out of your pants pocket, slip one cuff around one wrist. You then put your hands behind your back, and close and lock the second cuff around your second wrist. Then you jump. To those speculating that it was an inside job, how do you explain the arson which severely damaged the property the wife would likely inherit, and how do you explain the suicide note handwritten in native English?

Edited March 30, 2018 by Gecko123

[BEVUP]

12 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

You write the suicide note. You then take a can of gasoline, douse the house and light the fire. You then climb up onto an elevated platform where you have already arranged a noose and tighten it around your neck. You then take a pair of handcuffs out of your pants pocket, slip one cuff around one wrist. You then put your hands behind your back, and close and lock the second cuff around your second wrist. Then you jump. To those speculating that it was an inside job, how do you explain the arson which severely damaged the property the wife would likely inherit, and how do you explain the suicide note handwritten in native English?

& if they don't get it this time they never will

[lanista]

Sounds like the poor guy destroyed all his remaining assets to stop his wife and family cashing in.

I wonder if  he discovered his wife was still married to a Thai man.

Alot of farangs dont know until its too late...........the damage done!

 

If youre going to marry here in LOS you must do a  professional PI check and its very expensive, 

If you cant afford it then you definitely cant afford to marry a  farm girl and all the baggage that goes with it.

 

[dontoearth]

19 hours ago, BEVUP said:

Not in all cases

The problem is the the husband doesn't know of the pressures the family put on the daughter until it's to late.

Then there's only 2 options 

1 - Try & solve the mess at a cost that you were not expecting (if you can ) & Tighten the belt into your favour

2 - Walk away depending on situation

     Once they know you have got the money they will not stop.  There is no belt tightening measure.  

[mogandave]

3 minutes ago, dontoearth said:

     Once they know you have got the money they will not stop.  There is no belt tightening measure.  

once they know you'll give them money...

[Wilsonandson]

Wonder if he was an English teacher? I mention it as his handwriting looks like he has prior experience writing on whiteboards or something. It takes a bit of practice to write like this accurately due to the letter size and completely different wrist angle... if I tried doing it the words would slant downwards and it'd be practically illegible. 

He was an oil rig worker.

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[rubyjuan]

99 Thai chicks out of 100 are no good!

[kannot]

6 hours ago, travelman6 said:

Foreigners NEED to GET smart, when it comes to marrying a Thai woman.  There are a few exceptions, but MOST are only after money.  If you do marry, GET smart and hire a VERY good lawyer  and protect yourself financially.

She then screws the lawyer making sure  gets pregnant by him

[jamesmith]

I hope it will not happen again, I have heard so many cases like this. I myself have known two people killed himself because of the same reason. Feel so sad for them. I understand why they end their life , they put all their money, love and everything for this country, for this woman, hoping that he could have a wonderful life, but ...........