Danish man marries his Thai ladyboy sweetheart - but has never asked if she's a he!

[Andre Leonard]

I wish John and Anne all the best. They are both at an age where they know what they want. Some of the best women I have known were 50+ years.

[ravip]

4 years and not a single trial run?

[tifino]

 

After 4 years he should have found out if he likes whatever he gets.

after burrowing through all the latter Posts, I came back to this one

as it gets to the core of someone foreign having an understanding of Thai culture

 

having known her those 4 years, to me he knew not to ask the obvious question; as it would have put her into a position he wouldn't want his 'love' to find herself in...

for to ask the question, and to get an answer; it would have required her to either flatout lie

she would have then been 'against' him for putting her in that position.

 

at the other end of the equation; he wouldnt want to have her say the truth, because it would have made her lose face

 

he might be not be a fan of Little Britain, as it is too close the bone for him? 

especially the earliest Tong Ting Ying Yong episode 

Edited December 3, 2018 by tifino

[soleddy]

Homophobia is a hate crime in many places. Some posters on here would be facing a court appearance in 5-10 days, once bailed.

This is 2018, not 1918. People who mock others for being different are themselves a bit odd in the head.

 

I wish the couple all the happiness in the world.

 

[ravip]

 

555, you can tell these guys that a thousand times, but they never seem to get it. Or why would a ladyboy find a gay man attractive? They wouldn't, they would think it absurd. A lot of strait men like ladyboys because they find them more feminine that girls, and better and more responsive in bed than girls. Absolutely nothing to do with being gay. How can people live in Thailand for so many years and just not understand that gender and sexuality can be far more flexible than a lifetime of pub bigotry has led you to believe?

"they find them more feminine that girls"

"and better and more responsive in bed than girls"

 

WOW! This indeed is news. But find it difficult to find the courage to prove it!

[marcusarelus]

 

"they find them more feminine that girls"

"and better and more responsive in bed than girls"

 

WOW! This indeed is news. But find it difficult to find the courage to prove it!

No courage necessary.  Either you will like it or you won't.  If you don't like it don't do it again.

[i claudius]

 
What do you think a gay man would want with a ladyboy?

His dangly bits?

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[Tchooptip]

 

This topic has been discussed ad nauseam in other threads on here, with openly gay members confirming they have zero attraction to ladyboys. The target audience should be obvious anyway when you consider the location of the ladyboy bars - not in the gay districts of Bangkok or Pattaya, but mixed right in amidst the regular girls... they represent about a third of all the bars in Nana Plaza. 

 

I read TV every day for more than six years now I never saw the subject discussed "ad nauseam" sometimes yes, but I probably never paid attention.

"they represent about a third of all the bars in Nana Plaza". At least I've learned something  

I also learned the openly gay members have zero attraction to ladyboy, so only the gays not openly gay are attracted by ladyboys 

[i claudius]

See the Transphobics are out in force again today!!!

We are not transphobic,couldnt care less what people like to do for sex ,but just because you think your a woman does not make you one,born a man die a man,its nature ,but we will never see eye to eye. So lets just accept each others views and not call people names

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[smotherb]

 

And straight man do not sleep with another man????

 

Though gay man in denial would very much be in love with someone who looks like a woman but has the hardware of a man 

So, let's follow your logic a little further. If a gay man could overcome the exterior appearances for the hardware he wanted; could a strait man overcome only a third of the hardware for the exterior appearances he wanted?

[BestB]

 

So, let's follow your logic a little further. If a gay man could overcome the exterior appearances for the hardware he wanted; could a strait man overcome only a third of the hardware for the exterior appearances he wanted?

I have no idea what you on about.

[smotherb]

 

I have no idea what you on about.

Did you read the post to which I commented? It said, " Though gay man in denial would very much be in love with someone who looks like a woman but has the hardware of a man "

 

Let me translate for you. If a gay can forget about appearances for hardware; could a strait forget about some of the hardware for appearances?

[Mikeasq60]

All I have to say is "Good Grief". What a surprise on your wedding night if this isn't what you intended.

[lamyai3]

 

he might be not be a fan of Little Britain, as it is too close the bone for him? 

  especially the earliest Tong Ting Ying Yong episode 

This is a masterclass on the subject... 

[BestB]

 

Did you read the post to which I commented? It said, " Though gay man in denial would very much be in love with someone who looks like a woman but has the hardware of a man "

 

Let me translate for you. If a gay can forget about appearances for hardware; could a strait forget about some of the hardware for appearances?

Again i have no idea what you going on about

[Different]

Some people are really crazy, thinking they do all they like to do, thinking there isn't another everlasting life.  But I wanna just whisper for those who are on the first steps of living their lives in lust, stay with doing things that are not accepted by others as natural human values.????

 

[0815]

 

That's the theory.

But it seems there are guys who just don't know. Maybe they have 0 experience what a women should look like or they don't look or whatever.

I heard the story of this guy who was with his holiday bar girl for two weeks on an island and he was so happy that he found the perfect girl. He showed a picture to my friend who knew "her", except it wasn't a her...

It always was a friend or the friend of a friend. 555

[manarak]

 

True.  But he's marrying a ladyboy, so it's irrelevant.

don't waste your breath/energy.

discussing with people who aren't able to even understand the explanations is a complete waste of time.

[HHTel]

 

[neeray]

 

After 4 years he should have found out if he likes whatever he gets.

Maybe he wasn't "getting" and this is why he has no clue if she's a he or he's a she.

 

[starfarm]

 

555, you can tell these guys that a thousand times, but they never seem to get it. Or why would a ladyboy find a gay man attractive? They wouldn't, they would think it absurd. A lot of strait men like ladyboys because they find them more feminine that girls, and better and more responsive in bed than girls. Absolutely nothing to do with being gay. How can people live in Thailand for so many years and just not understand that gender and sexuality can be far more flexible than a lifetime of pub bigotry has led you to believe?

Bravo

[longstay]

You all seem to comment this story as its only about sex. meaning you married your partner because she/he was so good in bed? Marrying somebody is hopefully much much more than the sex act.

 

[AlexRich]

Did it mention the Sin Sodomy?

[neeray]

 

You all seem to comment this story as its only about sex. meaning you married your partner because she/he was so good in bed? Marrying somebody is hopefully much much more than the sex act.

 

Undoubtedly correct but if the sex is no good, the marriage probably won't be either.

The two go hand in glove as a rule.

[bendejo]

 

You all seem to comment this story as its only about sex. meaning you married your partner because she/he was so good in bed? Marrying somebody is hopefully much much more than the sex act.

 

 

I tried that more than once -- the relationship was good but the sex not really so.  "Love will find a way" I thought.  A recipe for disaster.

One gal turned out to be into S&M, couldn't really get off without some of that in the mix.  Not into it myself so never suggested it, and she never mentioned it in our time together.  I didn't know about it until a year after we broke up.  If she brought it up when we were living together that would have ended it right there, a real turn off for me, and she knew that.  Looking back I suspect she made have had a secret playmate during our time.

 

 

[lanng khao]

 

I have seen a sex change operation... The result can be very convincing

 

Made a tunnel where he had a funnel..

[samsensam]

 

I get from OP that John does not mind what gender his love is. Just surprised it took him 54 years and 3 marriages to realize he was gay.

 

 

eh? where does it say he's gay? suggest you read the article before commenting.

[catman20]

 

Speechless!

so should he be, hes made a laughing stock of his self.

[catman20]

 

Undoubtedly correct but if the sex is no good, the marriage probably won't be either.

The two go hand in glove as a rule.

i agree but after a few years i think most people get fed up with sex with the same person, 

[Gracas]

We have not considered the possibility that John the Danish man started life as a girl and transgendered (if that is what you call it) to a man. So it could just be roll reversal.