DannyP Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 (edited) Big condolences for You. I'm really sorry about your wife and your situation and hope you will well. But from other side it's still unbelievable for me. Sorry for being importunate. 1. Do You have a bank account and credit card? Because you will need it to buy flight ticket in cheap price. If You have, how do you open and manage, If you not have valid document and not visit your counties three decades? 2. You don't have in your area any Thai or foreign friends who can help you? No one? You are 30 years there, it's impossible to know no one. You are more Thai than French. No kids or family from your wife side? You were almost 30 years with her so you can't contact with someone from family about help? What about family in your country? Do you have some contact or when did you have last time? Maybe you should find your family on Facebook, refresh contact and ask about help? Not only financial. 3. How do You survive in Thailand almost 30 years? How did You make money? You wrote you used savings, but... did you had enough savings for almost 30 years living in Thailand and support your wife? How did You transport all savings to Thailand in one trip In a few bags and change in exchange office? Or you and your wife had a small business there? Edited May 3, 2019 by DannyP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leosurin Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 Sorry for your loss.What about the house and land?...if you are not planning to come back in Thailand ever again,it may be worth try to sell it.If, like you claimed, your wife doesn't have any relative left who is gonna get the propriety once you are gone..?You could get a bargain deal,was you legally merried? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 hour ago, DannyP said: Big condolences for You. I'm really sorry about your wife and your situation and hope you will well. But from other side it's still unbelievable for me. Sorry for being importunate. 1. Do You have a bank account and credit card? Because you will need it to buy flight ticket in cheap price. If You have, how do you open and manage, If you not have valid document and not visit your counties three decades? 2. You don't have in your area any Thai or foreign friends who can help you? No one? You are 30 years there, it's impossible to know no one. You are more Thai than French. No kids or family from your wife side? You were almost 30 years with her so you can't contact with someone from family about help? What about family in your country? Do you have some contact or when did you have last time? Maybe you should find your family on Facebook, refresh contact and ask about help? Not only financial. 3. How do You survive in Thailand almost 30 years? How did You make money? You wrote you used savings, but... did you had enough savings for almost 30 years living in Thailand and support your wife? How did You transport all savings to Thailand in one trip In a few bags and change in exchange office? Or you and your wife had a small business there? Hi DannyP and thanks for your condolences 1) I have a bank account, but no credit card. 2) I open it many years ago, and still work. 3) I would like to show you where our house is: the first village is around 10 km. We built our house complete in the middle or nothing. We no need nothing: just our plan was to leave here in peace. 4) Has some foreigners: but someone passed away, someone i never had any contact with them. 5) I cannot speak even a word of Thai: just basic words. I would like you to understand that my life was totally dedicated to my wife and try to keep her with me as much as i can. How do you feel if the woman that you married, from a day to another, will be diagnose with a disease that soon or later will kill her? 6) In my country i have just a house where i want to go and finish my days there 7) Most of our money was savings from my job: 90% of what we have i spent try to give my wife a good life and treatment as much good as i can. And yes savings where enough for live here. In the past i had a very remunerative job and when i decided to move here, my old company paid me a good IDD. You know DannyP: for years i eat rice and pork, rice and chicken, boiled rice: i forgot how a pizza smell, how a pasta smell. I try to save for treat my wife. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 2 minutes ago, leosurin said: Sorry for your loss.What about the house and land?...if you are not planning to come back in Thailand ever again,it may be worth try to sell it.If, like you claimed, your wife doesn't have any relative left who is gonna get the propriety once you are gone..?You could get a bargain deal,was you legally merried? Hi Leosurin I also thought about this: the house is in the name of my wife. I don't know if i can sell or not even if she passed away. At the present moment, when i back to France, the house will be empty and don't know what will happen. We were legally married: we married here at France embassy and they sent our documents to my city of residence in France to be legally married over there too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luckyluke Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 I applaud your devotion Arthur1960, however I not admire you at all and even blame you. Your wife was sadly diagnosed with a terminal sickness, but apparently you didn't forseen anything. Life is about loving/dedication sure, but also about reality. And reality is anticipating. Wish you the best possible in the actual circumstances. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CH1961 Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 You are/was legal married and had not to show an ID/documents when your wife died? This is BS ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, CH1961 said: You are/was legal married and had not to show an ID/documents when your wife died? This is BS ???? Please respect my wife No one ask me nothing: i just arrange her cremation at temple. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 5 minutes ago, luckyluke said: I applaud your devotion Arthur1960, however I not admire you at all and even blame you. Your wife was sadly diagnosed with a terminal sickness, but apparently you didn't forseen anything. Life is about loving/dedication sure, but also about reality. And reality is anticipating. Wish you the best possible in the actual circumstances. Hi Luckyluke I didn't expect you admire me and you can blame for all u have to blame: i just ask respect for my wife, That's it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luckyluke Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 ^ It is my opinion that no one disrespect your wife here. Why should one? On the other hand your attitude may be subject to many comments. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunolem Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 13 hours ago, Leaver said: France is a very attractive option, if you are French, and broke, and in need of medical care. ???? Don't dream! I am French and I have been living in Thailand for 20 years. The result is that I am not entitled to social security (public medical insurance), and I am not even authorized to open a bank account! Can you believe that? France is the most socialist country in the world and as such the only thing that matters over there is not your nationality, but whether or not you pay taxes! If you are not able to show a tax filing for the previous year, you are entitled to nothing! The OP will certainly not be welcome home, and cannot expect any help, at least public help. Expatriates are looked upon with disdain, as tax evaders... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, luckyluke said: ^ It is my opinion that no one disrespect your wife here. Why should one? On the other hand your attitude may be subject to many comments. My comment was not direct to you: sorry if i gave this idea. I open the 3ad just for ask what to do to clear my situation without being caught. I no ask nothing, i no ask help, but some people here have the right to put bad comment: they have the right to do, just not disrespect my wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunolem Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 39 minutes ago, Arthur1960 said: Hi Leosurin I also thought about this: the house is in the name of my wife. I don't know if i can sell or not even if she passed away. At the present moment, when i back to France, the house will be empty and don't know what will happen. We were legally married: we married here at France embassy and they sent our documents to my city of residence in France to be legally married over there too. One thing is sure: you won't be able to sell your property without showing your passport! So you might as well considered it as a loss already and move on to the next step... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 3 minutes ago, Brunolem said: Don't dream! The OP will certainly not be welcome home, and cannot expect any help, at least public help. I prefer to die alone in France than here in a cell detained with......i don't know with who. But what you wrote is correct: dream Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luckyluke Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, Arthur1960 said: I open the 3ad just for ask what to do to clear my situation without being caught Fair enough, except, in my opinion, somewhat late. See my post 96. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 5 minutes ago, Brunolem said: So you might as well considered it as a loss already and move on to the next step... Yes Brunolem This was my consideration from the beggining Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DuiDui48 Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 When i read your post Arthur1960,i wish more then anything that the world in general would be so much better with dedicated/loving and CARING person like you.We need people like you..loving people.I will pray for you and please if you can,keep us posted how things goes. God bless you Arthur..wish you nothing but the best. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, DuiDui48 said: When i read your post Arthur1960,i wish more then anything that the world in general would be so much better with dedicated/loving and CARING person like you.We need people like you..loving people.I will pray for you and please if you can,keep us posted how things goes. God bless you Arthur..wish you nothing but the best. I really appreciate your messagge. I will Duidui Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AGareth2 Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 29 years is a long terminal illness wish I had 29 years left 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 2 minutes ago, AGareth2 said: 29 years is a long terminal illness wish I had 29 years left She was not ill for 29 years, but I made a choice for the diagnosis and the cost of treatment. I tried to give her a quieter life possible. Then, of course, other complications arose because of the disease. She died, I'm alive: everything I did was not enough. I miss her a lot: I don't know if any of you have ever experienced the feeling that I am feeling. I hope not. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritTim Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 hour ago, Arthur1960 said: I also thought about this: the house is in the name of my wife. I don't know if i can sell or not even if she passed away. At the present moment, when i back to France, the house will be empty and don't know what will happen. We were legally married: we married here at France embassy and they sent our documents to my city of residence in France to be legally married over there too. I believe if you are your wife's sole living relative, even without a will, you will be entitled to the proceeds from the sale of the house and land. However, you will not be allowed to be the formal owner of the property, only an "administrator" for a short period while arranging the sale. Does the property have a chanote? Maybe, you can find a trustworthy real estate agent and deputize them to sell the property on your behalf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, BritTim said: I believe if you are your wife's sole living relative, even without a will, you will be entitled to the proceeds from the sale of the house and land. However, you will not be allowed to be the formal owner of the property, only an "administrator" for a short period while arranging the sale. Does the property have a chanote? Maybe, you can find a trustworthy real estate agent and deputize them to sell the property on your behalf. I appreciate your advise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orton Rd Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 An almost unbelievable sob story in fact. 3 minutes ago, Arthur1960 said: She was not ill for 29 years, but I made a choice for the diagnosis and the cost of treatment. I tried to give her a quieter life possible. Then, of course, other complications arose because of the disease. She died, I'm alive: everything I did was not enough. I miss her a lot: I don't know if any of you have ever experienced the feeling that I am feeling. I hope not. So how many years were you overstayed for before looking after the Mrs became the reason/excuse? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunolem Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 2 minutes ago, BritTim said: I believe if you are your wife's sole living relative, even without a will, you will be entitled to the proceeds from the sale of the house and land. However, you will not be allowed to be the formal owner of the property, only an "administrator" for a short period while arranging the sale. Does the property have a chanote? Maybe, you can find a trustworthy real estate agent and deputize them to sell the property on your behalf. He cannot show his passport, so he is entitled to nothing. The only thing he can do is to keep a low profile for the time being... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 1 minute ago, Orton Rd said: An almost unbelievable sob story in fact. So how many years were you overstayed for before looking after the Mrs became the reason/excuse? Yes, she was an excuse. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happystance Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 (edited) On 5/1/2019 at 6:07 AM, Arthur1960 said: Normal walk with dog also will be a risk? Or just motorbike and car? Edited May 3, 2019 by Happystance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CH1961 Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 You got the answer to all your question 15 minutes after you opened this thread two days ago. Even direct help with transportation, money and accomidation was offered by TV-Members. You are still sitting in front of your computer and writing on TV you did not even one time in the last 29 years! What are you looking for ???? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur1960 Posted May 3, 2019 Author Share Posted May 3, 2019 2 minutes ago, CH1961 said: You got the answer to all your question 15 minutes after you opened this thread two days ago. Even direct help with transportation, money and accomidation was offered by TV-Members. You are still sitting in front of your computer and writing on TV you did not even one time in the last 29 years! What are you looking for ???? Close the thread if this makes you comfortable. I no ask nothing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orton Rd Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 4 minutes ago, CH1961 said: You got the answer to all your question 15 minutes after you opened this thread two days ago. Even direct help with transportation, money and accomidation was offered by TV-Members. You are still sitting in front of your computer and writing on TV you did not even one time in the last 29 years! What are you looking for ???? I wonder how many bleeding hearts would have been offering such help to a similar criminal if they were from west Africa or Pakistan? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunolem Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 3 minutes ago, Orton Rd said: I wonder how many bleeding hearts would have been offering such help to a similar criminal if they were from west Africa or Pakistan? Most French are from West Africa... 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olmate Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 4 minutes ago, Orton Rd said: I wonder how many bleeding hearts would have been offering such help to a similar criminal if they were from west Africa or Pakistan? Time for your morning dose then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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