Damsel in Distress - but later...

[ChrisKC]

 

 

The woman you see with me in the photo on my profile is one of the most delightful and happy people I have ever met but it wasn't always that way!

 

She is Thai, born in Bangkok this month in 1975. Her name is Valai.

 

Never my girlfriend, mia noi or anything of the sort.

 

We first contacted through Skype when she needed help about visas for a Polish man visiting Thailand

 

When she was born, the father had already left for his mi noi, leaving the child and the mother with nothing! For the next four years, they lived variously at temples and for two years, both slept under tables in a market while it was closed for the night.

 

Her mother, a dragon, was not best suited for such a situation but to her credit, was able to make some ends meet and when I met them 25 years later, they had a makeshift home and Valai was working at the University using her degree in Political Science to earn a living. It took seven years of a difficult life studying and graduating.

 

I told her I was married and that I was sharing her story with my then wife. Valai befriended me and explained her mother wouldn't let her go anywhere unless accompanied by her, including waiting outside the University all day, every day, when she was studying and later working there. Her Mom was not allowed in the Office (good!). A situation I found to be true for a further four years when my wife and I were with her! Valai never knew for more than thirty years what is was like to go anywhere by herself!

 

But one night (in particular) we were talking on the phone and she explained that the Polish man had been to see her and caused much physical and emotional pain and that her mother was not very sympathetic as Valai had “escaped” for a night and effectively got herself into trouble, losing her virginity at the same time.

 

I am sorry to say that these two problems compounded, leaving her suicidal. That night I spent five solid hours talking with her, so eventually I told her my wife would talk with her in the morning. That happened and both of them were in tears as they appreciated they had fantastic chemistry between them.

 

A week later we met in Bangkok and from that moment we knew we had an adopted daughter! Already by then, a tide started to turn towards her achieving some kind of resolution in her life. After about six months we arranged to rent three apartments in a new Condo development. One for Valai, one for her mother, albeit next door, and one for us for casual use.

 

Valai had never been anywhere, on a bus, on a train, in a car, no bikes. We exposed her to to a whole new set of experiences, staying with us in Chiang Mai, visiting many place around Thailand and generally helping her to enjoy some basics of life.

 

She was a happy girl but still dragging Mother around with her. All that happened during the period 2005 to 2009

 

But something happened – she met a Swedish man Bjorn, who was perfect for her and two years later they married and went to live in Sweden where she still is. Speaks Thai, English and Swedish and has a good job. She is really happy and I know that for sure.

 

We talk often together now and have had regular contact for 16 years. I am her daddy and my ex wife her Mama! And Jeab, my now wife, is her new Mom. They get on so well together. Her philosophy of life is to be admired and she had to be so strong in all her life, Now she is happy and she has all that she deserves. I am so proud of her!

 

Two years ago, her mother died and while things were panning out with that she stayed with us here in Lampang.

 

 

It is a lovely story with an unhappy beginning and a middle but the most comforting ending!

 

 

 

 

 

PS This text was copied and pasted from my word processor but has not transferred too well. Can the Moderator change it for me? Thank you

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[ChrisKC]

Why did I write this story today?

 

I was inspired by Village Farang who's excellent post earlier with beautiful photos, that prompted Members of this forum to engage in something nice and positive and give us some respite from the current goings on re Covid.

 

Life in Thailand is not all bad and for me hardly ever has been!

[Kwasaki]

2 hours ago, ChrisKC said:

Life in Thailand is not all bad and for me hardly ever has been. 

Agree so go to London and your see much worse off people in shady awful places in a rich country and it's bloody cold and wet most of the time. 

[CharlieH]

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[RobMuir]

Beautiful story. Thankyou.

 

Village Farang certainly has a positive attitude that grates with those who endlessly Thaibash and are obviously jealous of his happiness that they could never achieve. 

 

I wish Valai a happy remaining life.

 

 

 

 

[spidermike007]

Great story. Thanks. A kind and open heart is a beautiful thing. You helped her to have a life. Good on you. 

[thaibeachlovers]

I can put in a plug for the Pattaya orphanage here. Children do not need to be actually parent less, as they take children who's parent(s) can't support a child. The parent is not excluded from the child's life either.

 

Any farang can support the orphanage financially by donation, or sponsoring a child. They also take farang volunteers.

 

It's now known as the Father Ray foundation.

 

https://www.fr-ray.org/