Another Classic Crazy Thai Wife Moment

[Fat is a type of crazy]

8 hours ago, FarangULong said:

It's thanks to guys like him, that more and more women are acting exactly like that, including the mental gymnastics that whatever they did, it's your fault, the switching on the "little girl" voice when you do get mad, throwing temper tantrums and being completely illogical, to get their way (as people tend to get tired of arguing with someone like that, and then just submit, instead of telling them to straighten out or I'll leave)...

 

They have it so easy manipulating those guys, and more and more guys are becoming like that (I'm thinking it has to do with this whole pushing for "don't be toxic-masculine", and such), in turn creating more princess-syndrome women.

 

I stopped feeling sorry for guys like that, but I'm starting to despise them, because they make it that much harder for everyone else, who doesn't want to put up with this craziness. If man act anything like this, then it's "he's bat <deleted> crazy" and what not. Or if he does something typically male (well what used to mean "manly" anyway) "boys will be boys" doesn't count, if she does it's "well girls will be girls teeheee". And they enable it.

 

I suggest these people should read "the manipulated man" by Esther Vilar, it should be a huge eye opener for many of these simping fools... Not that they will, but then he shouldn't come crying on here, when she divorces him and takes that new house and then some.

 

The fact alone, that the deposit "wasn't a big deal", speaks volumes. Almost all women want the man to take charge, no matter what they say. Just like they don't REALLY want you to be "more in touch with your emotions", and what not. This is even more true for those Thai girls, who don't have that whole torn mentality between 3rd+ wave feminism and their actual nature. All he's doing is proclaiming to her how weak he is, that she has all the control, etc.

There's some truth in this and I have seen many guys stupidly manipulated into buying stuff and pandering to their girls and it can be disturbing.

At the same time I am sure we have all seen a lot of dickish arrogant men who think they are right all the time and drive there women to despair. Yes they might stop their women acting like this but it can be by pushing them into compliance by bullying, boredom, and control. That 'no matter what they say' sounds good but I don't think it is healthy approach and depends if you want a fun life with an equal or someone pushed into compliance. 

My girlfriend has had her moments and I certainly don't pander to or reward her. I can recognise that a relationship that is 95 per cent good and 5 per cent bad can be good if you feel she is learning how to handle her emotions and I keep an open mind as to if I am a bit responsible. That last part doesn't mean being pussy whipped into submission, or leaving common sense behind, but just being aware that men can be crazy too in different ways. 

[FarangULong]

1 hour ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

There's some truth in this and I have seen many guys stupidly manipulated into buying stuff and pandering to their girls and it can be disturbing.

At the same time I am sure we have all seen a lot of dickish arrogant men who think they are right all the time and drive there women to despair. Yes they might stop their women acting like this but it can be by pushing them into compliance by bullying, boredom, and control. That 'no matter what they say' sounds good but I don't think it is healthy approach and depends if you want a fun life with an equal or someone pushed into compliance. 

My girlfriend has had her moments and I certainly don't pander to or reward her. I can recognise that a relationship that is 95 per cent good and 5 per cent bad can be good if you feel she is learning how to handle her emotions and I keep an open mind as to if I am a bit responsible. That last part doesn't mean being pussy whipped into submission, or leaving common sense behind, but just being aware that men can be crazy too in different ways. 

Of course it's not always no matter what they say. I thought it was clear, that this statement was in regards to the leading thing (as in the men taking the lead). There are also always outliers and exceptions, but the vast majority say one thing and mean the total opposite.

 

Or, for example (wasn't specified in the original comment, just elaborating further, but initially the statement was only meant in regards to taking the lead, but it DOES apply to other things as well), when they fall for you, and then later on they bitch and moan at how you are, and want you to change. But if you actually do change for them, then you're boring and not the guy she fell in love with (not to mention she won't respect you one bit for making the effort).

 

They don't REALLY want you to change. Sure, you can make some MINIMAL adjustments, as nobody is perfect, but if you give in to every change she demands, it's already over and she'll either end up leaving or cheating or both.

 

Women are a bit like the far/extreme left in that regard. They say one thing, and then they do the opposite. Watch what she does, not what she says, and go by that.

 

Of course I'm not always right either. I've made plenty of mistakes in relationships, and learned a thing or two the hard way. But I learned, which cannot be said for quite a larger & ever increasing number of men...

 

And I'm also fairly sure, that nobody wants a doormat, that has no opinion of her own, and always does as she's told, either...

 

Why is it, that some people always have to interpret things from one extreme to the other? Like in the other thread, where something similar was discussed, one guy immediately started acting as if I and BT had advocated for slapping women around and raping them, if they're your wife and don't put out. When nobody ever said that, but the message was that nobody should accept going sexless for 6+ years in a marriage, and that only a spineless simp would accept that, and only a fellow spineless simp would be like "well ask what's wrong and what she needs you to do, maybe you did this that and the other wrong, maybe she needs bla bla", instead of telling him to wake up and smell the coffee, and that he should've laid down the law years ago, that this isn't acceptable, and then either work it out or leave...

Edited August 16, 2021 by FarangULong
rephrasing + added a paragraph...

[thaibeachlovers]

On 8/17/2021 at 12:28 AM, clivebaxter said:

The lower age parents can legally consent to is 15, anyone wanting sex with 13 year olds wants locking up, or moving to another country. ID cards have photos on them..

LOL. Age of consent is lower than 13 in some countries- just google age of consent.

 

They use sister's ID as IMO farangs can't tell the difference.

Edited August 17, 2021 by thaibeachlovers

[thaibeachlovers]

On 8/17/2021 at 3:07 AM, DBath said:

Yeah, well point taken and I may have been one of those 15 year old boys back in the day, but I was talking about those out of touch 60+ers who have the delusion that a 13 year old girl enjoys being ridden by one of them. 

Why is this even being discussed? Any farang trying it on with an under 18 year old in LOS is going to end up in an unpleasant place, other than marrying them with parent's consent.

[thaibeachlovers]

23 hours ago, FarangULong said:

when they fall for you, and then later on they bitch and moan at how you are, and want you to change. But if you actually do change for them, then you're boring and not the guy she fell in love with

It's IMO what women do, and it's not cultural, but universal.

[Kwasaki]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

LOL. Age of consent is lower than 13 in some countries- just google age of consent.

 

They use sister's ID as IMO farangs can't tell the difference.

Sounds like many here haven't heard of Muslims taking wives at 9 years old. 

[canthai55]

My Father said to use your first Old Age pension cheque to buy a marriage license.

That is when you need someone to take care of you.

Until then stay single

Wise Words

[wavodavo]

On 8/14/2021 at 10:09 AM, BritManToo said:

Never reward bad behaviour! Never chase, plead, phone or apologise.

I agree..Many years ago I bought my Thai gf to Australia for a visit. I decided to show her the Gold Coast so a mate and his Thai wife joined us and we rented a lovely high-rise apartment on the beach. that afternoon we went to the pub and left the 2 women there .When we got back after a couple of hours my girl was gone. She had gone to the Casino . I knew that she liked to gamble back home and I intended to keep her away from the casino but she was too fast for me. I rang her phone a couple of times no answer and I decided not to go after her. So we stayed in the unit and at midnite I rang security and told them not to let her in and went to bed. Igot up at about 3am and there she was sitting on the beachfront in front of the hote.l When she saw me on the balcony she started yelling out and waving but I pretended that I didnt see her. It was in winter and there was a cold wind. I then went to bed and made her wait until 10 am to let her in. When she came in she was madder than a bear with a tooth ache.!!! That day we went out and she slept all day and was real quiet and sheepish  and she would have been broke. Its fare to say that she learnt her lesson.. and this will surprise you all..NO apology. 

[FarangULong]

On 8/18/2021 at 1:03 AM, thaibeachlovers said:

It's IMO what women do, and it's not cultural, but universal.

I agree. Someone else claimed certain things were Thai only culture, when really it's just a general overly spoiled women who never take (or are made to take) responsibility for their actions thing.