Avoid trap of losing money to women

[Sparktrader]

Apha male - angry guy with tattoos

 

Attracts bogan chicks

 

Good Sportsman - often a bit girly and modern. Pretty boy.

 

Dates models

[LaosLover]

If you think -even for a moment- that you're an alpha male, you're really a bit of a comedic figure, like the never actually seen in the wild "Chad".

 

Just stand up for yourself, don't be a doormat. You don't have to mimic Clint Eastwood in High Plains Drifter.

[Sparktrader]

2 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

If you think -even for a moment- that you're an alpha male, you're really a bit of a comedic figure, like the never actually seen in the wild "Chad".

 

Just stand up for yourself, don't be a doormat. You don't have to mimic Clint Eastwood in High Plains Drifter.

Sigma male his characters

 

Independent

 

 

 

 

[LaosLover]

This whole alpha-drama may be playing out solely in your own head, completely undetectable by outside observers.

 

How often in your life do you think, "wow, that guy is really alpha and not a run of the mill rhymes with grass hole"?

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Sigma male his characters

 

Independent

I'm an Omicron male.

Someone that's not all that serious, you'd like to avoid, but can't no matter what precautions you take ..........

[Sparktrader]

1 minute ago, LaosLover said:

This whole alpha-drama may be playing out solely in your own head, completely undetectable by outside observers.

 

How often in your life do you think, "wow, that guy is really alpha and not a run of the mill rhymes with grass hole"?

Who cares really

 

Alphas look weak to me. Act tough but all show. Insecure.

 

Sigmas more secure. They dont need groups to impress.

[Sparktrader]

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm an Omicron male.

Someone that's not all that serious, you'd like to avoid, but can't no matter what precautions you take ..........

Im half Sigma half Z

Edited April 18, 2022 by Sparktrader

[LaosLover]

Fun to gas on about on the internet, but under what real life circumstances can you envision yourself saying out loud, "I am a Sigma Male (and proud of it)"?

[Sparktrader]

Most dont know what it is. I wish I was a bird. Rather fly around. Humans are rather limited. A bird can fly all over the place. 

[The Hammer2021]

On 4/13/2022 at 7:34 PM, richard_smith237 said:

I guess it all depends where you are, who you hang around with, where and how you met your significant other.

 

 

The vast majority of Western guys I know in Thailand are in perfectly normal relationships with Thai women, not really much different from the west... Mutual respect, similar socio-economic status... just regular decent couples....   I don’t know why some guys struggle and end up in disastrous situations. 

 

 

And end  up on this forum!

[BritManToo]

On 4/13/2022 at 7:34 PM, richard_smith237 said:

The vast majority of Western guys I know in Thailand are in perfectly normal relationships with Thai women, not really much different from the west... Mutual respect, similar socio-economic status... just regular decent couples....   I don’t know why some guys struggle and end up in disastrous situations. 

I've only encountered one couple like that.

 

[ratcatcher]

On 4/13/2022 at 6:54 PM, LaosLover said:

If I had a relationship with a poor person in Alabama, I'd likely run into a lot of the same poverty-based relationship problems and expectations as I read here. If it were a black person, there would be cultural differences.

 

But Alabama is like wealthy Switzerland and a black Alabama sharecropper is practically my sister compared to the disparities in Thailand.

 

When I lived in England as an American, I underestimated the differences between them and me because I felt that I "knew" the place because of the shared language, which you don't even have in Thailand. But England is like Mars to Americans and Thailand is like Pluto. So always remember you're visiting Pluto and that you're not a Plutonian.

In view of  your planetary references, I was wondering if that information regarding Mars & Pluto came from Uranus?

[tomazbodner]

On 4/13/2022 at 6:37 PM, Sparktrader said:

Every guy I know who lived in Thailand lost money. $100,000+ Married Thais and money went into family or taken by women or just wasted on randoms.

How many people do you know? Actually I am glad that you don't know me.

[tomazbodner]

But seriously, Sir...

 

It takes 2 to tango. People often end up in disastrous relationships because of where they look for partners, and what kind of people they are likely to find at such places.

 

I don't think you can expect a smooth ride when finding your partner at a night club, or a bar. Now of course, there could be exceptions everywhere, but in many cases things do go wrong. Add to that different upbringing and values, different culture, different interests, and in this forum also a large age gap, and this wouldn't even go smoothly at members' original countries.

 

Without much of a social safety net, for many, the family is the safety net. Add to that protecting the face, and it's not so far fetched to imagine someone being "forced" to show success by channeling wealth to family, to show off to the neighbours. Of course, then comes parents' greed, especially in some very remote areas, who see their children as nothing more than their slaves to be forever grateful to their parents for nothing more than giving them birth. As what some of these parents did after the birth couldn't even be a remotely plausible description of upbringing. That is, before some of them even got sold off to gangs, or just expected their monthly income from their daughters to buy stuff... to show off...

 

I used to work in media and had a chance to join interviews of both the underprivileged girls that some members here enjoy renting, as well as their ignorant parents, and many stories were heartbreaking on one side, and making me want to strangle someone on the other side.

 

The sad thing is that when left to "the street" to educate children, nearly never anything good comes out of it. So having an expectation of things working out from a visitor's point of view is very naive.

 

But as said, there are always exceptions. Just far too few.

 

Go meet girls in a park. Cinema. Gallery. Travel fair. In a restaurant or convenience store. In gym. At an animal shelter. Book store. You know, places where you might find people who are interested in "normal" things, maybe same things as you are, and you'll have a far better chance of success and avoiding problems later.

[Sticky Rice Balls]

On 4/17/2022 at 10:39 PM, Sparktrader said:

I hear custard is better

to each their own......figgy pudding for me

[Danderman123]

I only go with ladies who have Thai husbands.

[olfu]

On 4/13/2022 at 8:03 AM, 86Tiger said:

 

 

 

.......Whats the best way to avoid this?........

 

 

Never go to Thailand.

Yes, go to Hong Kong and Singapore where prostitution is legal.

[Kwaibill]

First thought is what does it mean to "lose money" to a woman? Bad luck at a blackjack table?

I allow myself about 5 tnousand baht allowance each month and transfer the rest to my wife. She may just be a better money manager, and certainly can more conveniently deal with bills, etc., from a language perspective. Poor girl is a better wife than I am as a husband, I think. I say " girl", but she says "old lady" in her mid fifties.????

Anyhow, unless you invested in a ponzi scheme with a female con artist, you presumably received some value in return. You may have made a poor financial decision, but I can't see where money was "lost". Yes, a few ladies have cost me in the past, but it wasn't like I walked up to a complete stranger and said " Here's $10,000, miss, have a good time."

[dj230]

Find a woman with a job or find a girl in your league, a 20 year old girl isn't going to date a 50 year old man for nothing, they're going to date a 20 year old guy for nothing though. 

 

Keep fit and take care of yourself and maybe you'll be able to date someone 10 years younger.

Edited April 23, 2022 by dj230

[BritManToo]

13 hours ago, dj230 said:

they're going to date a 20 year old guy for nothing though. 

My woman never dated anyone for nothing, not even when she was 18.

I don't think she's different to other Thai women.

Edited April 24, 2022 by BritManToo

[Sparktrader]

They all want something. Money, house, gifts.

 

 

[bbko]

A 60-70 y/o foreigner dating a lady half his age and unable to speak/read her language.....what could go wrong?  555.

[RafPinto]

13 hours ago, Kwaibill said:

First thought is what does it mean to "lose money" to a woman? Bad luck at a blackjack table?

I allow myself about 5 tnousand baht allowance each month and transfer the rest to my wife. She may just be a better money manager, and certainly can more conveniently deal with bills, etc., from a language perspective. Poor girl is a better wife than I am as a husband, I think. I say " girl", but she says "old lady" in her mid fifties.????

Anyhow, unless you invested in a ponzi scheme with a female con artist, you presumably received some value in return. You may have made a poor financial decision, but I can't see where money was "lost". Yes, a few ladies have cost me in the past, but it wasn't like I walked up to a complete stranger and said " Here's $10,000, miss, have a good time."

That's what I call a "poor financial decision".

Given you other half everything and just keeping 5000Baht for yourself.

Good luck.

[BritManToo]

10 minutes ago, RafPinto said:

That's what I call a "poor financial decision".
Given you other half everything and just keeping 5000Baht for yourself.
Good luck.

He ain't called 'Kwai' for nothing.

[RafPinto]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

He ain't called 'Kwai' for nothing.

Bridge over the river kwai.

[scubascuba3]

2 hours ago, Sparktrader said:

They all want something. Money, house, gifts.

 

 

i had a Pinup agogo girl 19yo move in for a while, no money, i guess she was hoping for something medium\long term

[dj230]

On 4/24/2022 at 9:50 AM, BritManToo said:

My woman never dated anyone for nothing, not even when she was 18.

I don't think she's different to other Thai women.

was she dating someone her age?

[donkaew]

A nice song about this matter.

Peter TheTweeter is a real tearjerker about an elderly European who, like many, tried to find his happiness in Pattaya, Thailand. The story is based on things that regularly happen in Pattaya and which newspapers also report about. The music is from the song El Paso (1959) by Marty Robbins, also a tearjerker in which even two people were killed.

Enjoy!

 

 

[JetsetBkk]

14 minutes ago, donkaew said:

A nice song about this matter.

Peter TheTweeter is a real tearjerker about an elderly European who, like many, tried to find his happiness in Pattaya, Thailand. The story is based on things that regularly happen in Pattaya and which newspapers also report about. The music is from the song El Paso (1959) by Marty Robbins, also a tearjerker in which even two people were killed.

Enjoy!

 

 

No kidding, he looks exactly like a friend of mine who has been happily living with his Thai lady for years. I'll send him and a few friends a link, just for a laugh!

[Adumbration]

On 4/18/2022 at 7:50 PM, BritManToo said:

I've only encountered one couple like that.

 

I know a few couples, but each and everyone the guy brought all of the assets to the table.