hellohello123 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 (edited) This isnt restricted to thai women but asking (maybe he offered) a stranger 1 month after meeting for living expenses, shows little self respect Some women, money is the only thing they care about But I guess there are those sugar daddy websites Edited July 10, 2023 by hellohello123 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danderman123 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 I recently went to the village with a lady, respectfully sleeping the first night with her in what passed for a hotel, got up in the morning, went to another village with another lady, left there and met another lady and went to her rather remote village (actually just a house out in the middle of nowhere). It didn't mean anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ChipButty Posted July 10, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 10, 2023 One of the first things I used to ask them was how much debt have you got.........? I have seen huge amounts and they are expecting you to pay it off, as for the kids I would be gone with the wind, most of them dont have any respect for you, I had a one years ago with a kid the only thing that came out of his mouth was farang this farang that, tell that little <deleted> my name is not farang, I remember one farang who lived in Phuket and met this woman here eventually he was invited to sticky rice land to meet the family just like you, she had arranged a party it seemed like half the village turned up unknown to him it was a wedding ceremony he was getting married and didn't know it until the last minute, I could tell you some stories, You must have heard stories about the so called brother, who you think is the brother but it's not, it's the husband, 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mansell Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 You seem either very naive, or immature, or haven’t dated a lot of women. …….maybe both! In love after a month….Yikes! Where are you from? It sounds like you are heading down the road that runs off a Cliff……put the brakes on and slow down before you hit the forty foot wall in front of the cliff. Can you speak Thai….can she speak good English? If the answers No to both of those be very careful because there will be some huge misunderstandings now and down the road. Good luck. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiSePuede419 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 If you sleep in the same room that means you're "married" according to local customs. ???? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FruitPudding Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:27 PM, Myran said: "after < 1 month of dating" "but do feel I love her" You can't love someone that you don't know, and getting to know someone on that level takes considerable time. Considering you're just a month in and already giving her money and getting invited to the family, it doesn't really sound promising. Only you can decide what works for you, but it's not a relationship I would take any further. Yeah, it won't end well. Most relationships are doomed, especially here. Vast majority of local women looking for farang are just looking for money. What else is the attraction in farang? It ain't the white skin or long noses. They also sacrifice their respectable status in Thai society to become the "farang wife" which is never said in a nice way. It's for money and for their family. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homburg Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 "The problem is all inside your head she said to me...." Listen to Paul Simon and take heed! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BritManToo Posted July 10, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 10, 2023 (edited) 54 minutes ago, Mansell said: You seem either very naive, or immature, or haven’t dated a lot of women. …….maybe both! In love after a month….Yikes! Where are you from? It sounds like you are heading down the road that runs off a Cliff……put the brakes on and slow down before you hit the forty foot wall in front of the cliff. Can you speak Thai….can she speak good English? If the answers No to both of those be very careful because there will be some huge misunderstandings now and down the road. Good luck. I married my Thai woman 2 weeks after meeting her in a bar, at that time she had no English at all. Then she spoiled it by learning, apart from that it's been great. Edited July 10, 2023 by BritManToo 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
novacova Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:19 PM, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new Thai gf 555 this gets me every time 555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 32 minutes ago, FruitPudding said: Yeah, it won't end well. Most relationships are doomed, especially here. Vast majority of local women looking for farang are just looking for money. What else is the attraction in farang? It ain't the white skin or long noses. They also sacrifice their respectable status in Thai society to become the "farang wife" which is never said in a nice way. It's for money and for their family. Sad experience you have about women in Thailand. A shame 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
proton Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 hour ago, hellohello123 said: This isnt restricted to thai women but asking (maybe he offered) a stranger 1 month after meeting for living expenses, shows little self respect Some women, money is the only thing they care about But I guess there are those sugar daddy websites Also, noodles, durian som tam and nam prik ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardinalblue Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 I doubt you would be throwing money at a women in your home country who has a job and 2 kids after one month of dating…. why here? Because thailand is third world and needs to be rescued? I am still 1.5 years away from my social security checks…came early from your GF after only one month of her time….I wish I could get a ROI like that like…. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 2 minutes ago, cardinalblue said: I doubt you would be throwing money at a women in your home country who has a job and 2 kids after one month of dating…. why here? Because thailand is third world and needs to be rescued? I am still 1.5 years away from my social security checks…came early from your GF after only one month of her time….I wish I could get a ROI like that like…. Its just mind boggling how some men who have never done this back home, let alone heard of it, Come to this country and do it so easily and quickly Can you imagine what would happen if back home a girl.of similar age said " i need an allowance" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KhunLA Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 25 minutes ago, BritManToo said: I married my Thai woman 2 weeks after meeting her in a bar, at that time she had no English at all. Then she spoiled it by learning, apart from that it's been great. 11 weeks ???? for 1st Thai wife, and took as many months to realize, not the best idea I had that year. Divorced her but hung out for a while before I threw her out. 2nd Thai wife, live with 8 yrs before marrying, hmm, wonder why that is working ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BritManToo Posted July 10, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 10, 2023 6 minutes ago, hellohello123 said: Its just mind boggling how some men who have never done this back home, let alone heard of it, Come to this country and do it so easily and quickly Can you imagine what would happen if back home a girl.of similar age said " i need an allowance" My Brit wife lived off me for 25 years ................ My Brit mom lived off my Brit dad for 30 years. So I'd say it's entirely normal for women to live off men throughout the history of mankind. It's women being provided with fake jobs and given money by governments that is abnormal. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 minute ago, BritManToo said: My Brit wife lived off me for 25 years ................ My Brit mom lived off my Brit dad for 30 years. So I'd say it's entirely normal for women to live off men throughout the history of mankind. It's women being provided with fake jobs and given money by governments that is abnormal. There's a bit of a difference leaving off you once married Vs Meeting 1 month and getting an allowance That is unless you are bill gates rich 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 minute ago, BritManToo said: My Brit wife lived off me for 25 years ................ My Brit mom lived off my Brit dad for 30 years. So I'd say it's entirely normal for women to live off men throughout the history of mankind. It's women being provided with fake jobs and given money by governments that is abnormal. Yes, good women should know their space and when to talk! You got it Right Britman 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeyai Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 10:40 AM, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. What a complete Tool ( No Not the OP ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nip Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:19 PM, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new gf, divorced and working for an insurance company in Bangkok and a mother of 2 young children that live with her parents (children’s grandparents) in a city in Isaan wants me to visit her family for the weekend . She actually invited me the first time after only 1 week of dating but I turned her down then. This time I feel a bit uncomfortable but have agreed. Fwiw, I have been supporting her financially somewhat as well and her son is sick with long COVID, but have explained that there are limits. There are several other red flags I am feeling in the relationship but do feel I love her. Feedback welcome. Thank you everyone You don’t need advice from Thaivisa members the only person you need to listen to is your sixth sense who is rightly telling you to bale out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LikeItHot Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 They are all liars. And for the guys that say they are not all liars, that just means they found a good liar. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LikeItHot Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 I understand when these girls get knocked up young the first time but what I can't figure out is where the second kid comes from. Remember what George Bush said "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice um er well you get the idea" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 34 minutes ago, hellohello123 said: Its just mind boggling how some men who have never done this back home, let alone heard of it, Come to this country and do it so easily and quickly Can you imagine what would happen if back home a girl.of similar age said " i need an allowance" Doesn't take much to understand why some do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignok Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 hour ago, FruitPudding said: Yeah, it won't end well. Most relationships are doomed, especially here. Vast majority of local women looking for farang are just looking for money. What else is the attraction in farang? It ain't the white skin or long noses. They also sacrifice their respectable status in Thai society to become the "farang wife" which is never said in a nice way. It's for money and for their family. My gf loves my nose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BTB1977 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 She will be pregnant with your kid soon. Than too late to run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jts-khorat Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 12:27 PM, Gecko123 said: A trip up country to meet the family is something of a rite of passage for many foreign guys. Can be very insightful and educational I really do not understand the negativity many here bring to it. As @Gecko123 said, such a trip will be very educational and there is no better way to learn about a person than meet her family: see how she handles her children (!!), see how she reacts to the financial pressure family (and most likely the whole village) will put her under when with a foreign guy, see how she behaves with regard to him when she introduces him to parents, family or friends, see how willing she is to translate all kinds of conversations (assuming the OP does not speak Thai well already). Also, obviously, there is no faster way to get an intimate sight of Thai/Isaan culture and how those people think, which as a tourist or living in Bangkok is really difficult to get on your own. Even if this relationship would be full of red flags, I would definitely go, because afterwards, I really would know if those red flags are true, or if there is indeed that rough diamond found, where a relationship makes sense. If it does not, the knowledge and insight gained would be invaluable with the next one... So yes, I would dive in with all fours -- I actually did with every serious (from my end) relationship I had -- and evaluate later, if this is something to pursue. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Theory Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:19 PM, AventurasEnMadrid said: but do feel I love her. ???????? really ?!!!! After a month !!!! I guess she found you "weak". ???? well, good luck to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 2:01 PM, Madgee said: My oh my ..... I see a little sarcasm and dry wit goes way over your head. I'm single and intend to stay that way for the foreseeable future but I do live in Isaan and often see these sad guys in tow with a couple of laden trollies at the checkout. As they say: No money no honey ........... Or should it be no trolley no dolly? Well, when you see sad guys, it is actually an mirror effect. You see what you like to see, and to be true with you, single in Isaan? Oh, never mind, I never gonto temple, marked, onlynto hardware stores when needed, and big shopping once every two weeks. The rest of the time, I got for myself. It is possible to create a good life even in Isaan as a member of a family, but as many points out, you are not only choosing a gf, you are also choosing the family, because the family comes with it. So better get find put early what their expectations is! If taken for a ride first trip, you know how bright the future will be! Not once have I felt my wife family wants to play me, they have been decent all the way to me, and real. You know when the girls is playing you, and red flags comes up quite quick, and thats when you have a choice! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chongalulu Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:40 PM, at15 said: imagine dishing out your hard earned money to a woman that has been impregnated by another mans sperm. unbelievable. " It's a wise man that knows his own child"... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chongalulu Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 47 minutes ago, bignok said: My gf loves my nose. " My gf SAYS she loves my nose” or in your case ,Bignok,your beak...? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jts-khorat Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 6 hours ago, Almer said: I live in Issan never had rat, but I have only been here 8 years You are seriously missing out. Much juicier than chicken, soft meat, really delicious. A trip to Isaan without rat on a stick would be only half as good! 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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