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Thai tax tangle: Expats warned of new rules on overseas income
Yes, of course it does 😳😳 Income is assessable, if you are a tax resident, it is earned in 2024, remitted to Thailand in 2024. That is what makes it assessable income in Thailand A DTA makes it non taxable in Thailand. But that is too difficult a concept to grasp. -
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Hegseth has been confirmed.
I'm talking about Hegseth hiring "some of the best minds." OMG! -
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Swiss Dog Owner Defies Thai Beach Ban, Sparking Fear Among Locals and Tourists
The self entitlement of the privileged class in Thailand is truly astounding. -
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I spent two hours helping a girl to get a new job
Your frustration is understandable; maybe I can offer some explanation: but before I do that, being an employer in Thailand myself, just a few remarks about labor law in Thailand Most Thais don't even have an employment contract, so practically if they want to quit, they just don't show anymore and that's it, which is quite comfortable yet not the reason for the lack of the contract. It's mostly the employers, who do not want an employment contract with the employees as it gives them a lot of rights and benefits: labor law protects them, they have a vacation entitlement, starting with about 15 days per year, have the right for paid OT, after working hours and get even more for that on the weekend, not to forget health insurance. By law the notice period is 30 days, so both sides can quit the contract by telling one month in advance. In real life the employees can just disappear and there is not much the employer can do about it. It is possible to agree on longer notice periods, so if you really want to know the truth, ask her for her employment contract. If it says 60 days, she has been telling the truth yet failed to inform you in time. If there is no contract, she has a notice period of 30 days by law but as mentioned, if she just doesn’t show anymore, there is nothing her employer can do about it, except not paying her wage for the rest of the month. Now back to your “failed” communication: There are 2 huge obstacles, which will always make a free of misunderstanding communication quite difficult: 1. Sex she is a woman, and men and women will never speak the same language. Just to give you one of many examples: Husband and wife are driving on a highway, when she spots a service station and tells him, in case he is hungry they could stop for a snack. He answers that he is not hungry and keeps driving. Sometime later he realizes that her mood has changed to the worse for reasons, he has no idea of. He, being a man and therefore always communicating very directly understood her suggestion, that they could stop for a snack in case he is hungry and assumed that she isn`t, as in that case she would have told him from the start. She, being a woman and therefore always combining communication and emotion was trying to tell him, that she would like to have a snack and at the same time remind him, how much she cares for him, by asking if he is hungry and now understands his reaction, that he does not care for her in the same way she does. 2. Culture Anthropologists differentiate high context and low context cultures. In Low context cultures, like Northern Europe, The US or the UK direct verbal communication is needed to properly understand the message being communicated and it relies heavily on explicit verbal skills. People communicate more directly by explicitly stating what they want to communicate. High context cultures like most African or Asian countries exhibit less direct verbal and non-verbal communication utilizing small gestures and reading more meaning into these less direct messages. They prefer harmony and well-being of the group over individual achievement and tend to be more aware and observant of facial expressions, body language, changes in tone, and other aspects of communication that are not directly spoken. I am far from being an expert for high context communication but growing up with four women (granny, mother and two sisters) was quite helpful to understand Thai people. For example, I was at some office with a friend, where he asked them for a certain service and the Thai employee answered “Khit gon”, which means, “I`ll think about it.” Later I asked my friend where he was going to get that service. He answered: “I`ll wait for the decision of that guy first before looking elsewhere” “But he refused already.” “Didn't you listen? the guy said, he will think about it.” “Which is a clear no.” “No, a no is a no and a “I'll think about it” is not.” It was. This may be the reason why so many of us think, that Thais are dishonest, sneaky or even liars and cheaters. I am not saying all of them are 100% honest – I mean, we talk about Pattaya, the largest brothel of the world - but it wouldn't surprise me, if in many cases the message just didn't get through. Maybe she was trying to tell you that out of some personal reasons she did not want that job but she also appreciated your efforts and obviously caring for you she did not want to disappoint you so typical for her culture she did it between the lines and with respect and consideration for your feelings but you just didn't get it forcing her to make up a story about some two months notion period. And you on the other side would not have put so much effort in finding her a job if you would not care for her but now interpret her behavior as mendacious and see her as a person who cannot be trusted, which understandably hurts you a lot as I can clearly read from your posts. Buddy, for me it is absolutely clear that you both feel a lot of affection for each other maybe even more. Don't be that stubborn Farang. Ask her for a meeting, swallow your anger as it only results from misunderstandings due to cultural differences, therefore is unfounded and talk to her with a low and friendly voice, explain her, that you would be happy, if she takes that job but would not scold her, if she doesn't and that it would be very helpful for your relationship if in the future she would talk more directly to you as you are coming from a culture where this is the only way of communication. Yet I also read between the lines, that you are very motivated to get her into that job in your friend’s restaurant and - forgive me if I'm wrong - it sounds to me like you want to get her out of some other job and into one, where you can control her. So that in her free time ahe is with you and when she is at work she's under observation while you are free to do, whatever you want to - I guess you know what I mean. If that's the case, all I can tell you is, don't even try. In these things they are always much smarter than we are. -
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Undercover International police
I can't be bothered. I said I shouldn't have got involved in this thread. -
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Does air conditioning reduce PM2.5 ?
I agree. An aircon does not draw air into the room from outside unless windows or doors are open ie the dirty air can get in.
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