Marrying a Thai Wife: Overrated or Underrated?

[save the frogs]

14 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Both parts must have or do something to maintain attraction in an relationship. Sad thing, very often both parts quit being interesting for each other after settled down, or do lot have time or make time for each other. 

we're working too much.

and men and women both working long hours is bad for relationships.

being semi-retired is a good situation to be in. you have more time and energy to nurture.

good post. one of the more thoughtful posters.

i don't believe a lot of the nonsense other people post about relationships on here.

 

 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

But we ain't using a gay fantasy figure as our avatars!

It was to honor you my dear Britman after your comment on overrated actor Jason being gay, and I heard to many times I look like him. 😁

 

Anyway, its either Bruce or Jason they seems to see, I see neither of them. Anyway I do not mind.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hummin

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 11/25/2024 at 8:58 AM, SAFETY FIRST said:

Nothing to do with ratings.

 

I'd say most of the guys marry in Thailand for convenience. 

 

Less money in the bank required etc. 

 

You'll find lots of guys here on a pension so it's all about the bottom line, affordability. 

 

Marrying in any country should come with a warning. 

 

[Albo]

3 hours ago, sqwakvfr said:

I grew up in the USA. I do not like rice or noodles.  My ethnicity is Korean. I love Baseball, college football and hate KPOP. I speak some Korean. Bottom line is most Thai people are confused to as to who or what i am. When I speak English like a white foreigner it sometimes makes them feel uneasy. They look at me like somekind of weirdo that they have never encountered.  If  I spoke broken English like many Asian foreigners it would put them at ease. Being an Asian has never been a plus for me because I am who I am.  Most Thai people don't understand who I am. Frankly I don't care what Thai people think about me. 

 

News alert: they don't care either. You're one of 40M these days.

 

I can hardly make better sense of who you are and how that fits here better than you, but it sounds like you're overly sensitive and finding issues where only laziness or nescience lies.

 

You may very well be internalizing some foreigner related issues which exist here with all of us.

 

Starting to sound bitter. Try another country.

 

Thais, certainly in 2025 despite the addiction to tourist dollars,taxes are exhausted of random farang weirdness. Asians are hardly an exception

[NoshowJones]

On 11/25/2024 at 7:24 AM, BritManToo said:

I pay my MIL 3,000bht a month NOT to live with us.

If she comes to visit -100bht for every day here.

Result ....... not seen her for 2 years .... well worth the money ..... so much for close family bonds!

 

I don't really interact with her family or friends, they pass through but a wai from them and a wave back from me is about it. I don't let her mix with my pals either.

Mrs Jones and I lived together for five years before we went to get married in Bangkok.

 

[RSD1]

35 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

News alert: they don't care either. You're one of 40M these days.

 

I can hardly make better sense of who you are and how that fits here better than you, but it sounds like you're overly sensitive and finding issues where only laziness or nescience lies.

 

You may very well be internalizing some foreigner related issues which exist here with all of us.

 

Starting to sound bitter. Try another country.

 

Thais, certainly in 2025 despite the addiction to tourist dollars,taxes are exhausted of random farang weirdness. Asians are hardly an exception

A bit harsh bro. It may not be so easy being another Asian in Thailand if you don't fit the mold. If you're a westerner then you're not expected to fit in. The Thais probably cut other Asians less slack. 

[sqwakvfr]

56 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

News alert: they don't care either. You're one of 40M these days.

 

I can hardly make better sense of who you are and how that fits here better than you, but it sounds like you're overly sensitive and finding issues where only laziness or nescience lies.

 

You may very well be internalizing some foreigner related issues which exist here with all of us.

 

Starting to sound bitter. Try another country.

 

Thais, certainly in 2025 despite the addiction to tourist dollars,taxes are exhausted of random farang weirdness. Asians are hardly an exception

Wow. Thanks for the unsolicited judgement. I do not know what your experience has been like. I gave a small sample and you judge me as bitter and overlly sensitive. What else do you know about me?  Lastly I do no recall asking you to understand who or what I am. Also, LOS has not hit 40 Millioin this year. 

Edited 2 hours ago by sqwakvfr

[sqwakvfr]

18 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

A bit harsh bro. It may not be so easy being another Asian in Thailand if you don't fit the mold. If you're a westerner then you're not expected to fit in. The Thais probably cut other Asians less slack. 

I think you understand what it's like for an Asian who grew up in a westen country.  This concept is something most Thai people do not understand.  I have been going to a Chiang Mai Ram hospital for years.  Everytime I go I am asked "you need translator".  In the past I would say no.  On my last visit I said "bring me a translator".  The hospital employee then realized I was speaking fluent English and gave a half ass smile.  Of course this is just my experience.  Anyway TIT.

Edited 2 hours ago by sqwakvfr

[RSD1]

1 minute ago, sqwakvfr said:

I think you understand what it's like for an Asian who grew up in a westen country.  This concept is something most Thai people do not understand.  I have been going to a Chiang Mai Ram hospital for years.  Everytime I go I am asked "you need translator".  In the past I would say no.  On my last visit I said "bring me a translator".  The hospital employee then realized I was speaking fluent English and gave a half ass smile.  Of course this is just my experience.  Anyway TIT.

But there are also times where you can fly below the radar because you're Asian and you don't stand out as a foreigner, as long as you don't speak with them. So you probably can get some comfort there at least. But you won't usually get treated with kid gloves the way a westerner might, even with perfect spoken American English. 

[Albo]

18 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

Wow. Thanks for the unsolicited judgement. I do not know what your experience has been like. I gave a small sample and you judge me as bitter and overlly sensitive. What else do you know about me?  Lastly I do no recall asking you to understand who or what I am. Also, LOS has not hit 40 Millioin this year. 

 

I have experienced some form of racism nearly daily over decades in Thailand. I accept it. You are the same race as the Thai and are all hair-on-fire about service staff not remembering your triggered self. If it's not working for you there are hundreds of other countries for you to visit

[Albo]

13 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

But there are also times where you can fly below the radar because you're Asian and you don't stand out as a foreigner, as long as you don't speak with them. So you probably can get some comfort there at least. But you won't usually get treated with kid gloves the way a westerner might, even with perfect spoken American English. 

 

Many, many (attractive) Thai women avoid dating, partnering, marrying those not Thai. This guy has a ticket to dating far and wide over the typical farang. Yet, just complaints. He might not speak a lick of Thai, but his date avoids all judging Thai eyes merely by being Asian ethnicity.

[sqwakvfr]

24 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

I have experienced some form of racism nearly daily over decades in Thailand. I accept it. You are the same race as the Thai and are all hair-on-fire about service staff not remembering your triggered self. If it's not working for you there are hundreds of other countries for you to visit

So you know where in the world I have been? You know what my experience has been in Thailand over the years?  So  how many times have been asked "do you speak English?".  Especially after a Thai person has seen my American Passport?  

[sqwakvfr]

40 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

But there are also times where you can fly below the radar because you're Asian and you don't stand out as a foreigner, as long as you don't speak with them. So you probably can get some comfort there at least. But you won't usually get treated with kid gloves the way a westerner might, even with perfect spoken American English. 

True.  I sometimes walk into a business and say little to nothing.  Sometimes it has been postive and sometimes I have been profiled a as an a-hole Chinese guy. Can be a Catch 22. One of the ways some Americans would display their prejudice would be to ask me "Do you speak English?".  Of course at the time I was in uniform because I spent 20 years as a police officer in LA.  I never imagined I would experience something similar in the Land of Smiles.  But it appears the Thai version is based upon ignorance and not malice. 

Edited 1 hour ago by sqwakvfr

[Albo]

Just now, sqwakvfr said:

So you know where in the world I have been? You know what my experience has been in Thailand over the years?  So  how many times have been asked "do you speak English?".  Especially after a Thai person has seen my American Passport?  

 

Who cares. Really.

 

I recall decades ago absolutely everyone you met thought you were a billionaire and States roads were paved of gold. How much do you make??? Without understanding it's meaningless. Still, they asked and jaws dropped.

 

If those questions trouble you. Go back to the United States

 

Stop thinking you're different and you will be.

[Albo]

3 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

appears the Thai version is based upon ignorance and not malice. 

 

Exactly what I'd stated except it's nescience not ignorance. There's no requirement they know or care anything about you or any tourist

 

You're nobody, they don't care. Nobody does. Maybe that's the problem with your outlook

[Albo]

6 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

spent 20 years as a police officer

 

 

Somehow I'm thinking this plays into your mindset. Cops are not low key people. Good luck in low key Thailand

[Expat68]

Just now, Albo said:

 

 

Somehow I'm thinking this plays into your mindset. Cops are not low key people. Good luck in low key Thailand

Once a cop always a cop

[Hummin]

14 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

So you know where in the world I have been? You know what my experience has been in Thailand over the years?  So  how many times have been asked "do you speak English?".  Especially after a Thai person has seen my American Passport?  

I do not see why you should be offended by so e Thai who either is just ignorant by nature, or just serve everybody asking a polite question out of service policy. 

 

You should see what my wife have to go through at some hotels. All I can say, arriving Lebua Chatrium or Hilton compare to some other hotels around Chao Praya river, and can mention Amara as one of the worst experiences, even I have given them her copy of her Id card while I check in, so basically, she just need to show her id card and they hand over the key. 

 

She either check in before me, or after depending on my flight areival. 

 

Never even thinked twice about the general thais ignorance. Never will

[sqwakvfr]

19 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

Exactly what I'd stated except it's nescience not ignorance. There's no requirement they know or care anything about you or any tourist

 

You're nobody, they don't care. Nobody does. Maybe that's the problem with your outlook

I am nobody until I have to do business with Thai people. Also, I never mentioned anyting about alleged wealth or greatness back in the homeland.  I was and still am just an ordinary American of Asian descent.  

Edited 1 hour ago by sqwakvfr

[sqwakvfr]

19 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

Who cares. Really.

 

I recall decades ago absolutely everyone you met thought you were a billionaire and States roads were paved of gold. How much do you make??? Without understanding it's meaningless. Still, they asked and jaws dropped.

 

If those questions trouble you. Go back to the United States

 

Stop thinking you're different and you will be.

I never said these people of trouble me. Who are you tell me to go anywhere?

[sqwakvfr]

20 minutes ago, Albo said:

 

Who cares. Really.

 

I recall decades ago absolutely everyone you met thought you were a billionaire and States roads were paved of gold. How much do you make??? Without understanding it's meaningless. Still, they asked and jaws dropped.

 

If those questions trouble you. Go back to the United States

 

Stop thinking you're different and you will be.

Unless you are of Asian descent then I am different from you. 

[sqwakvfr]

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

I do not see why you should be offended by so e Thai who either is just ignorant by nature, or just serve everybody asking a polite question out of service policy. 

 

You should see what my wife have to go through at some hotels. All I can say, arriving Lebua Chatrium or Hilton compare to some other hotels around Chao Praya river, and can mention Amara as one of the worst experiences, even I have given them her copy of her Id card while I check in, so basically, she just need to show her id card and they hand over the key. 

 

She either check in before me, or after depending on my flight areival. 

 

Never even thinked twice about the general thais ignorance. Never will

Sometimes the question is not so polite.

[Hummin]

Just now, sqwakvfr said:

Sometimes the question is not so polite.

So many ways and possibilities to be offended, and we can choose to not let it bite us, or we can be the victim, and play it out. 

 

The nature of Thai, and many other nationalities is just pure ignorance, and can with my hand on my hearth admit I have been one of them. Might still be a besserwisser and a pain in the ass for some, but then I obviously show them I enjoy it. Right here at AN

[sqwakvfr]

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

So many ways and possibilities to be offended, and we can choose to not let it bite us, or we can be the victim, and play it out. 

 

The nature of Thai, and many other nationalities is just pure ignorance, and can with my hand on my hearth admit I have been one of them. Might still be a besserwisser and a pain in the ass for some, but then I obviously show them I enjoy it. Right here at AN

Not a victim because there is nothig I can do about it.   Expressing anytype of anger or displeasrure in the Land of Smiles is a faux pas.  After years of this I expect it but still sucks.  I try and not commit faux pas' while I roam in the Land of Smiles.  

Edited 53 minutes ago by sqwakvfr

[BritManToo]

43 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

So you know where in the world I have been? You know what my experience has been in Thailand over the years?  So  how many times have been asked "do you speak English?".  Especially after a Thai person has seen my American Passport?  

Just say no, and make stuff as difficult for them as possible.

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

A woman's attraction for a man doesn't last that long IMHO.

You can tell when a woman really likes you, they don't hide their feelings.

 

Paying them a monthly salary won't be the same

Edited 7 minutes ago by scubascuba3