Did you have a happy Childhood?

[BarBoy]

2 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

Cant say I miss Big Nok. 

is she a bar girl on soi 6?

[FriscoKid]

12 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

is she a massage girl on soi 6?

Surely at least 3 with that name on Soi 6. And that's just the ladyboys. 

[BarBoy]

4 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

Surely at 3 with that name on Soi 6. And that's just the ladyboys. 

you seem to know a lot about ladyboys.

[FriscoKid]

6 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

you seem to know a lot about ladyboys.

I've got you to thank for that. You've taught us well. 

[BarBoy]

Just now, FriscoKid said:

I've got you to thank for that. You've taught us well. 

I don't mind a bit of sausage in my bun every now and again.

 

Not every day, though.

 

I mostly prefer the fish supper..

[FruitPudding]

19 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

oh aye..

 

how far off the rails did you go?

 

All the way to Thailand. 

[BarBoy]

Just now, FruitPudding said:

 

All the way to Thailand. 

...that's about as far as you can go!

[FriscoKid]

2 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

I don't mind a bit of sausage in my bun every now and again.

Atta boy bob. That's exactly what you used to say. Not sure why you abandoned your old account though. Nobody truly disliked your old character. It was all a good giggle. A shame you never actually escaped to Spain though. 

[BarBoy]

1 minute ago, FriscoKid said:

Atta boy bob. That's exactly what you used to say. Not sure why you abandoned your old account though. Nobody truly disliked your old character. It was all a good giggle. A shame you never actually escaped to Spain though. 

I've told you already, it's Colin.

 

You do know that it's possible for two people to have similar writing styles/tastes, don't you?

 

Whoever this bob is/was he must have been a real trailblazer on AN!

[FriscoKid]

4 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

I've told you already, it's Colin.

 

You do know that it's possible for two people to have similar writing styles/tastes, don't you?

 

Whoever this bob is/was he must have been a real trailblazer on AN!

Bring back your previous alter ego and I'll gladly pay your next 10 bar fines for you at Soi 6/1. 

[KannikaP]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

When anyone drinks, they are imbibing  100 - 200 mL of a Class 1 carcinogen

A small beer (330cl) at 5% ABV contains 16.7 ml of alcohol. A 700 ml bottle of vino at 12% is 84 ml of C2H 5OH.

From where does your 100-200 ml come?

[KannikaP]

6 hours ago, Ralf001 said:

Yeah was fairly decent, thanks for asking.

I just hate these long winded, AI composed answers!   555

[BarBoy]

2 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

I just hate these long winded, AI composed answers!   555

here's here now, comedian of the century!

[KannikaP]

5 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

here's here now, comedian of the century!

In English please.

[KannikaP]

10 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

here's here now, comedian of the century!

Can't take a bit of sarcasm then Colin?

[BarBoy]

1 minute ago, KannikaP said:

Can't take a bit of sarcasm then Colin?

if that was your pathetic attempt at sarcasm, KannikaP, then boy have you got a lot to learn!

[KannikaP]

29 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

You do know that it's possible for two people to have similar writing styles/tastes, don't you?

You mean TWO posting total BS, most of the time. Your one about needing mental help was interesting.

[BarBoy]

4 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

You mean TWO posting total BS, most of the time. Your one about needing mental help was interesting.

my initially very serious thread has now been hijacked by the usual trolls so I am just playing along as I have nothing better to do and it is making me laugh - another good cure for depression/anxiety! 

 

they say laughter is the best medicine, don't they?

[KannikaP]

3 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

my initially very serious thread has now been hijacked by the usual trolls so I am just playing along as I have nothing better to do and it is making me laugh - another good cure for depression/anxiety! 

 

they say laughter is the best medicine, don't they?

Unfortunatley it is possibly the ONLY serious thread you have posted since Ressurrection.

Your previous reputation knocks you down. 

[transam]

4 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

my initially very serious thread has now been hijacked by the usual trolls so I am just playing along as I have nothing better to do and it is making me laugh - another good cure for depression/anxiety! 

 

they say laughter is the best medicine, don't they?

I didn't have a happy childhood, I didn't realise that until I was a lot older, when thinking about the environment I was brought up in, and the problems that were going on between adults.

 

It is a long story, which will not to be told here........😌

[MangoKorat]

8 hours ago, BarBoy said:

They say everyone's childhood makes them who they are.

Hmmm, yes and no.

 

My childhood was horrific - a drunken father who beat up my mother regulary.  We never had any money because it was all spent in the pub........bla bla bla. I also grew up in an environment where you either had to fight or get beaten up - sometimes both and bullying was rife.  Quite a lot of the lads I grew up with ended up in jail.

 

But, like many other events in my past, I see no value in dwelling on it. Yesterday is gone, you can't change it. Its there but its gone - I'm living in today, not yesterday. You can however, affect what happens in your life today and in the future.  Sure, coming from a troubled/poor background can make things more difficult but very little is impossible - I went to University and obtained a first class honours degree at 40 years old for example.

 

I'm not rich and neither have I any desire to be. I think I've done pretty well in my life but I don't think that's been a reaction to my past or any determination to do better because of it - as I say its gone and I don't see any point in dwelling on something I can do nothing about.  I could have done far better but it depends on what that actually means - to have achieved more I would have had to sacrifice a lot of the fun I've had along the way. I'm quite happy with what I've achieved and it suits me to be where I am.

 

Too many people sit with their head in their hands blaming the past for their woes - far better to just get on with life and use what you have to achieve the goals you want.

 

I don't understand your problems with alcohol or anxiety - just deal with them.  A simplistic statement maybe but when you break it down, its actually not.  Many years ago, following a very hurtful divorce I was in a very dark place.  Following a lot of persuasion from friends and famlily, I reluctantly visited a doctor who told me I was severely 'depressed' and wrote out a prescription for some 'happy pills'. 

 

I'd been sat at home with my head in my hands, doing nothing for months. The bills were coming through the letterbox and remaining unopened - I was on self destruct.  Looking at the bottle of 'happy pills' my doctor had prescribed I thought.......sod this, I'm in control here, its my life I'm wasting, I can either sit here and go further downhill or I can do something about it, I don't need pills to sort myself out. I dealt with it!

 

Like a lot of middle aged guys who find themselves divorced when they least expected it, I was suffering from a huge lack of self confidence and thought my life was finished.  Cutting to the chase, Thailand solved that problem - yes it was pay for play at first but so what? I haven't looked back since.

 

You mention continuing alcohol problems but not constant. Constant would suggest addiction which is an entirely different matter - your problem sounds more like a crutch that you reach for. Leave it be, the sun will still rise tomorrow and you'll still have a life. Past problems are just that - past. Today's problems? Deal with them, make changes if necessary. Life will always throw curves at you.

 

Just remember, yesterday is gone, there is only tomorrow. That's my motto and its served me very well since I employed it.

 

 

[KannikaP]

3 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

Hmmm, yes and no.

 

My childhood was horrific - a drunken father who beat up my mother regulary.  We never had any money because it was all spent in the pub........bla bla bla. I also grew up in an environment where you either had to fight or get beaten up - sometimes both and bullying was rife.  Quite a lot of the lads I grew up with ended up in jail.

 

But, like many other events in my past, I see no value in dwelling on it. Yesterday is gone, you can't change it. Its there but its gone - I'm living in today, not yesterday. You can however, affect what happens in your life today and in the future.  Sure, coming from a troubled/poor background can make things more difficult but very little is impossible - I went to University and obtained a first class honours degree at 40 years old for example.

 

I'm not rich and neither have I any desire to be. I think I've done pretty well in my life but I don't think that's been a reaction to my past or any determination to do better because of it - as I say its gone and I don't see any point in dwelling on something I can do nothing about.  I could have done far better but it depends on what that actually means - to have achieved more I would have had to sacrifice a lot of the fun I've had along the way. I'm quite happy with what I've achieved and it suits me to be where I am.

 

Too many people sit with their head in their hands blaming their past for their woes - far better to just get on with life and use what you have to achieve the goals you want.

 

I don't understand your problems with alcohol or anxiety - just deal with them.  A simplistic statement maybe but when you break it down, its actually not.  Many years ago, following a very hurtful divorce I was in a very dark place.  Following a lot of persuasion from friends and famlily, I reluctantly visited a doctor who told me I was severely 'depressed' and wrote out a prescription for some 'happy pills'. 

 

I'd been sat at home with my head in my hands, doing nothing for months. The bills were coming through the letterbox and remaining unopened - I was on self destruct.  Looking at the bottle of 'happy pills' my doctor had prescribed I thought.......sod this, I'm in control here, its my life I'm wasting, I can either sit here and go further downhill or I can do something about it, I don't need pills to sort myself out. I dealt with it!

 

Like a lot of middle aged guys who find themselves divorced when they least expected it, I was suffering from a huge lack of self confidence.  Cutting to the chase, Thailand solved that problem - yes it was pay for play at first bu so what? I haven't looked back since.

 

You mention continuing alcohol problems but not constant. Constant would suggest addiction which is an entirely different matter - your problem sounds more like a crutch that you reach for. Leave it be, the sun will still rise tomorrow and you'll still have a life. Past problems are just that - past. Today's problems? Deal with them, make changes if necessary. Life will always throw curves at you.

 

Just remember, yesterday is gone, there is only tomorrow. That's my motto and its served me very well since I employed it.

 

 

Brilliant answer, thank you.

[BangkokReady]

6 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

6 hours ago, Hummin said:

An easier life, doesn't mean happier life. There is no connection between happiness and easier life, but there is always a crossing point in either direction. 

I don’t agree. 
I had an easy life which was happy. Enjoying school, friends, hobbies and sports.

 

Yet you spend a large amount of your time logged into your troll account on ASEAN Now, writing unpleasant things to try to aggravate other people?  🤔

 

Something doesn't add up here at all, I'm afraid.  

 

Genuinely happy and fulfilled people don't waste large amounts of their time trying to make other people unhappy, as you very much do.

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, BarBoy said:

my initially very serious thread has now been hijacked by the usual trolls so I am just playing along as I have nothing better to do and it is making me laugh - another good cure for depression/anxiety! 

 

they say laughter is the best medicine, don't they?

I thought this was your best medicine bob?

 

[BarBoy]

2 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

I thought this was your best medicine bob?

 

...alternative medicine that!

 

Colin.

[Patong2021]

9 hours ago, BarBoy said:

If I could do it all again I wouldn't.

 

I would have chosen somewhere other than here.

 

But I can't turn back the clock...

Why not? You aren't Cher. 

 

[EVENKEEL]

3 hours ago, BarBoy said:

you seem to know a lot about ladyboys.

3 a year don't make you queer, right Bob?

[ubonr1971]

10 hours ago, KannikaP said:

Made up, AI trolling, in my book anyway. Perhaps I am wrong, but I think not.

Whatever your childhood, does it permit you to post mostly rubbish here on AN?

sounds like you also had a screwed up childhood. why dont you tell us about your problems and issues??

[Neeranam]

11 hours ago, BarBoy said:

Alcoholism has stayed with me but I do not want help. As I suffer from bouts of severe anxiety it is more like a medicine than it is an addiction. I know my limits and I stick to them.

It's a spiritual disease, finding a higher Power is your answer. 

Dr. Carl Jung’s Letter To Bill W., Jan 30, 1961

 

https://silkworth.net/alcoholics-anonymous/dr-carl-jungs-letter-to-bill-w-jan-30-1961/#google_vignette

[Keeps]

11 hours ago, Gecko123 said:

I endured a lot of psychological and emotional abuse from my mother during my pre-teen years. I got the black sheep scapegoat treatment, but what I never realized at the time was that my siblings, other families in the neighborhood, school teachers were indoctrinated with the narrative that there was something wrong with me. It was like everywhere I went, people had been forewarned about me, or something.

 

When I was 14, I had a fresh start moving to live with my father and his new wife (my new step-mother), but decades later I realized that in order to justify no longer wanting to raise me, my mother likely portrayed me to my father (who I barely knew in early childhood) as an incorrigible likely future serial killer (which couldn't have been further from the truth).  My father no doubt passed this narrative along to his new wife who in turn passed it along to all my step siblings. So the narrative just kept getting perpetuated on and on.

 

While inflicting incredible damage on my self-esteem growing up, this mistreatment had two upsides. First, it caused me to delve very deeply into my innermost psyche, and it provided me with a deep sense of knowing who I am, which is something I have come to realize not everyone has. The second benefit was that it caused me to seek validation away from the home, and I became very motivated (and successful) academically and career-wise.

 

But the damage to my social self-esteem was very lasting, and for this, to this day, I harbor a lasting anger, dare I say hatred for my mother. In some ways, the feeling that she inculcated in me that I was an unloveable and dislikable person might explain why forming romantic relationships back home always seemed to be so frustrating, and why I may have ended up looking for love in Thailand. 

 

But to end on a more upbeat note, Thailand has provided me with some things for which I will be eternally grateful. First, it provided me with the physical distance from my family which enabled me to gain profound insights into my family dynamic and to begin the healing process. Secondly, the social and cultural environment here in Thailand has provided me with a sense of being accepted as part of a community, which is something I never experienced back home. So I have a deep sense of gratitude towards Thailand for having provided me with an environment where I could heal and grow psychologically and heal emotionally.

 

I'm only sharing this in the hope that others might be able to relate to my experience.

 

 

A profound post which certainly resonates with me.