2 hours ago, BarBoy said:

What really does my head in is when you tell them you have a thai wife/gf/gik or whatever and they automatically assume she's from Isan.

 

That really rubs me the wrong way and I have had several confrontations with local men, mostly taxi drivers, on that basis over the years.

 

I know the drill completely. I’ve been through it dozens of times over decades already. It’s the same old grimy sh*t every time and you can see it coming a mile away.
 

As I said, they’re just trying to pigeonhole you as another dumb foreigner with a peasant-class, rented wife. They’re not interested in hearing that you’ve found yourself a great, loving partner who cares for you and that it doesn't matter to you where she's from. They’re only trying to boost their own egos by laughing about another rich foreigner in Thailand who is just another dumb fool that can’t find himself anything better.

 

It's a coup, and you need to cut it off at the pass before they are able to ambush you. Hit them with a response that they never would expect, and this immediately diverts them from their mission. Don’t get upset because they're not smart enough to deal with anything but the response they are expecting from you. So tell them anything you want, it doesn’t matter. Have some fun with it so that it doesn't do your head in. Only make sure that whatever you tell them is the furthest from the truth.

 

Tell them that you have a French wife who is a fashion model. Tell them you’ve got five Thai wives, one from each of the north, south, east, west, and central Thailand. Tell them your Thai wife is rich and that her family owns a hospital, a factory, or a school. Whatever, it doesn’t matter what you say. You're never going to be breaking bread with any of these plonkers again. Just don’t let them beat you to the finish line.

 

And to be honest, a Thai man who has any respect for you wouldn’t even ask if you have a wife from the northeast soon after he meets you. I honestly find it to be one of the most disrespectful and offensive aspects of being a foreigner in Thailand. I rarely get hit with it anymore though, mainly because I’m almost never in those situations where I'm chatting with a random local guy, but, whenever it happens, I make sure they come away with nothing satisfying from the exchange so that I don't walk away with another bad taste in my mouth.

28 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

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The women do get a say. Hence he becomes Mr. Incel not Bob. Not much more to say about it.

Just now, cjinchiangrai said:

The women do get a say. Hence he becomes Mr. Incel not Bob. Not much more to say about it.

Takes one to know one.

You seem to attract hostility, says more about you then them.

 

Put it im a chapter in your book, what will the title be?

28 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

 

I know the drill completely. I’ve been through it dozens of times over decades already. It’s the same old grimy sh*t every time and you can see it coming a mile away.
 

As I said, they’re just trying to pigeonhole you as another dumb foreigner with a peasant-class, rented wife. They’re not interested in hearing that you’ve found yourself a great, loving partner who cares for you and that it doesn't matter to you where she's from. They’re only trying to boost their own egos by laughing about another rich foreigner in Thailand who is just another dumb fool that can’t find himself anything better.

 

It's a coup, and you need to cut it off at the pass before they are able to ambush you. Hit them with a response that they never would expect, and this immediately diverts them from their mission. Don’t get upset because they're not smart enough to deal with anything but the response they are expecting from you. So tell them anything you want, it doesn’t matter. Have some fun with it so that it doesn't do your head in. Only make sure that whatever you tell them is the furthest from the truth.

 

Tell them that you have a French wife who is a fashion model. Tell them you’ve got five Thai wives, one from each of the north, south, east, west, and central Thailand. Tell them your Thai wife is rich and that her family owns a hospital, a factory, or a school. Whatever, it doesn’t matter what you say. You're never going to be breaking bread with any of these plonkers again. Just don’t let them beat you to the finish line.

 

And to be honest, a Thai man who has any respect for you wouldn’t even ask if you have a wife from the northeast soon after he meets you. I honestly find it to be one of the most disrespectful and offensive aspects of being a foreigner in Thailand. I rarely get hit with it anymore though, mainly because I’m almost never in those situations where I'm chatting with a random local guy, but, whenever it happens, I make sure they come away with nothing satisfying from the exchange so that I don't walk away with another bad taste in my mouth.

Chiang Rai actually with a masters degree and relatively light skin, but not everyone can land a bargirl like BarBoy.

8 hours ago, frank83628 said:

your book, what will the title be?

I suggest the following title;

"How to annoy everyone in 1 easy step"!

14 hours ago, johnnybangkok said:

 Can I request Silent Night then? Literally. 

Be nice if the local village idiot ha d a month of would n't it.

15 hours ago, BarBoy said:

Yesterday at the bar I got into a heated debate with a local thai man. He was adamant that farangs aren't allowed to find fair skinned thai women attractive and that we must stick to the brown variety.

 

I couldn't believe my ears and neither could he when I told him that I no longer find darker skinned thai women all that attractive.

My tastes have evolved since moving here and he wasn't happy about that.

 

Seems we farangs (at least in the eyes of thai men) should only date who they think we should be dating. Anything else is unacceptable and incomprehensible to the thai male. I explained that attraction is subjective and can evolve over time but he was having none of it and stood firm..

 

I think it goes without saying that I won't be taking his advice and will go for what I am attracted to, not what some washed up old Thai bloke thinks I should be attracted to!

Be thankful they allow us any, youll find other asians to be far greater cockblockers than thais

16 hours ago, bkk6060 said:

The darker the better fo rme.  Nothing better then a really dark sexy Issan lady.

Thats one thing we can agree on. Isaan women is the real beauties hands down. Except when they had their pla ra, and have to sleep in same room with them. 

16 hours ago, BarBoy said:

Seems we farangs (at least in the eyes of thai men) should only date who they think we should be dating. Anything else is unacceptable and incomprehensible to the thai male.

You came to this conclusion after talking to ONE person? Pretty weak sample size for a survey.