I'm sure that he is going by what you have written here. We all do. It's just that you get mad when it doesn't tally with the way that you wish to see yourself. If, as you claim, that "they came into the marriage that way", why did you marry them? That doesn't make sense does it? It could equally be that your behaviour also had an effect on them, leading to a deteriorating relationship. But that is something that you absolutely refuse to acknowledge. Such behaviour in a relationship can be terminal. Again, a simple observation that can apply to anyone, but you refuse to countenance that it could ever apply to yourself.
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