I take care family. Are bargirls really good mothers?

[MalcolmB]

You often hear this line in the bars. 
Is it true or just an excuse?

[baansgr]

It's rubbish 

[mancub]

Yawn

[marin]

You really do live for the wind up. Even putting the title in bar girl speak. I guess if you have little to no life, this might keep you busy for a day.

[ColeBOzbourne]

Why paint all bargirls with the same brush? Some are good mothers, some are not. 

[save the frogs]

I'm guessing they all send money dutifully back home to Isan, but the grandmother is mostly raising the child. 

 

[blaze master]

You got the language all wrong. Such an amateur......

 

Do for family.

[Stocky]

Little in life is black and white, rather shades of grey; your analysis is facile.

[bkk6060]

All depends on one's definition or opinion.  Many do not spend much time with their kids especially if from Isaan, but working in Pattaya.  But, some may feel she is making money and sending it to take care of her family so that makes her a good mother. 

I think time with family is more important then the money. Whatever. 

[CharlieH]

Generally, and in my personal experience, its the "Thai way" to dump any kids on the Grandparents to raise on a day to day basis, the mother may send money and may visit occasionally but for the most part absent until the kids are teenagers then the whole cycle repeats.

 

Not saying its wrong or right, its just different to how the west generally operate. 

[JimHuaHin]

Regretfully, only two possible response options.

 

In my experience, over too many decades, both response options are valid for different groups of bargirls, and barboys.

[transam]

Are you inquiring because you have actually found a soul mate bar girl to set up home with..........? 🤔

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

You often hear this line in the bars. 
Is it true or just an excuse?

Obsessed with prostitutes? 

 

A prostitute is anything you want them to be.

 

If you use their services, treat them with respect. Do not need to believe their story. Either you enjoy their company, or not

 

Once long time ago, I sit down in front of the bar, one girl jumps on my lap, I get my cold beer, a bar lady chazing a guy with a bottle, and she turns to me wile moving her hand on my tummy, back  then a six pack, looks me deep in to my eyes, and say: My boyfriend is a butterfly

[mangkut70]

"I take care family" it's IMO more about beeing a good daughter and making merit, providing for the parents than about beeing a good mother.

Nothing really to do with Pattaya or bars except the fact that there they can make exceptionally good, easy and fast money.

Especially young women (mothers or not) work away from their families for instance in Bangkok or industrial zones like Chachoengsao or Rayong. There are hardly any well paying jobs in rural areas especially for women. 

 

 

[fredwiggy]

11 minutes ago, mangkut70 said:

"I take care family" it's IMO more about beeing a good daughter and making merit, providing for the parents than about beeing a good mother.

Nothing really to do with Pattaya or bars except the fact that there they can make exceptionally good, easy and fast money.

Especially young women (mothers or not) work away from their families for instance in Bangkok or industrial zones like Chachoengsao or Rayong. There are hardly any well paying jobs in rural areas especially for women. 

 

 

True in a way but Thailand leads the world in children raised by grandmothers, which shows a general lack of care for the children themselves. They can always stay at home and work locally, as moving to a big city to work means they need to rent, which takes up the extra pay they make not working near home. Many only see their children a couple times a year and some don't send money home. My ex, who has a mom living in the same village and me , left my daughter with me full time for three extended periods, months, up to 10, while she went to Pattaya to make a few extra baht, which she didn't send home. They plainly just want to get away from the kids, shirking responsibility because so many here, over 35%, already do it. 

[ThreeCardMonte]

12 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

True in a way but Thailand leads the world in children raised by grandmothers, which shows a general lack of care for the children themselves. They can always stay at home and work locally, as moving to a big city to work means they need to rent, which takes up the extra pay they make not working near home. Many only see their children a couple times a year and some don't send money home. My ex, who has a mom living in the same village and me , left my daughter with me full time for three extended periods, months, up to 10, while she went to Pattaya to make a few extra baht, which she didn't send home. They plainly just want to get away from the kids, shirking responsibility because so many here, over 35%, already do it. 

A little TMI.

 

Best to keep parts of your life to yourself.

[MalcolmB]

51 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

My ex, who has a mom living in the same village and me , left my daughter with me full time for three extended periods, months, up to 10, while she went to Pattaya to make a few extra baht, which she didn't send home.

What was she doing down in Pattaya?

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

What was she doing down in Pattaya?

Why tell you? You'll only forget or find some way to turn it against me later.

[transam]

Just now, fredwiggy said:

Why tell you? You'll only forget or find some way to turn it against me later.

How true...........🤔

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

Why tell you? You'll only forget or find some way to turn it against me later.

The question is, where you present for your kids? 

 

Most of the ladies have no support from the fathers

[fredwiggy]

Just now, Hummin said:

The question is, where you present for your kids? 

 

Most of the ladies have no support from the fathers

I've always been in my children's lives, and had custody of those back home.

[MalcolmB]

55 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

They plainly just want to get away from the kids, shirking responsibility because so many here, over 35%, already do it. 

Thailand, a significant percentage of children are raised by their grandparents, either in three-generation households or in skipped-generation households where the parents are absent. Approximately 31.8% of Thai children live with the elderly, with 27.8% in three-generation families and about 4% in skipped-generation families. This phenomenon is partly due to parents migrating for work in urban areas, leaving children behind with their grandparents. 

 

Here's a more detailed breakdown:

• Three-generation households:

  A substantial portion of Thai children live with both their parents and grandparents, forming a three-generation family structure. 

   
• Skipped-generation households:

  A notable number of children live solely with their grandparents, as their parents have moved away for work or other reasons

   

   

   

  So it appears that only 4% are in skipped generation families not 35%.

  I often have coffee and breakfast opposite a primary school. 
  Looks like most of the kids are brought to school by younger people who are obviously not grandparents.

   

  Maybe the numbers are higher in Issan?

[MalcolmB]

With 27% living with parents and grandparents it Ming explain why they seem much more respectful to older people than what is generally found in the west.

 

I think many bargirls would have their kids taken away from them by the father’s family which is probably a good thing.

[fredwiggy]

7 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

 

Thailand, a significant percentage of children are raised by their grandparents, either in three-generation households or in skipped-generation households where the parents are absent. Approximately 31.8% of Thai children live with the elderly, with 27.8% in three-generation families and about 4% in skipped-generation families. This phenomenon is partly due to parents migrating for work in urban areas, leaving children behind with their grandparents. 

 

Here's a more detailed breakdown:

• Three-generation households:

  A substantial portion of Thai children live with both their parents and grandparents, forming a three-generation family structure. 

   
• Skipped-generation households:

  A notable number of children live solely with their grandparents, as their parents have moved away for work or other reasons

   

   

   

  So it appears that only 4% are in skipped generation families not 35%.

  I often have coffee and breakfast opposite a primary school. 
  Looks like most of the kids are brought to school by younger people who are obviously not grandparents.

   

  Maybe the numbers are higher in Issan?

Unicef did a study in 2014 where they found 30% were living with grandma. The amount rises every year. The mothers leave country Thailand and move to the cities, using the excuse they'll make more money, but the extra made is spent on rent and partying.............https://www.nationthailand.com/life/30238876.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

 

Thailand, a significant percentage of children are raised by their grandparents, either in three-generation households or in skipped-generation households where the parents are absent. Approximately 31.8% of Thai children live with the elderly, with 27.8% in three-generation families and about 4% in skipped-generation families. This phenomenon is partly due to parents migrating for work in urban areas, leaving children behind with their grandparents. 

 

Here's a more detailed breakdown:

• Three-generation households:

  A substantial portion of Thai children live with both their parents and grandparents, forming a three-generation family structure. 

   
• Skipped-generation households:

  A notable number of children live solely with their grandparents, as their parents have moved away for work or other reasons

   

   

   

  So it appears that only 4% are in skipped generation families not 35%.

  I often have coffee and breakfast opposite a primary school. 
  Looks like most of the kids are brought to school by younger people who are obviously not grandparents.

   

  Maybe the numbers are higher in Issan?

"Isaan".............😉

 

People watching opposite a primary school.......

[StandardIssue]

Is this serious?

 

Do you hope to actually learn something of value with this two choice poll? 

 

WHY LOL!!

 

 

 

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Unicef did a study in 2014 where they found 32% were living with grandma. The amount rises every year. The mothers leave country Thailand and move to the cities, using the excuse they'll make more money, but the extra made is spent on rent and partying.

I see how much Thai ladies sending back home in Norway. So depending each and one girl, but still believe the majority stribing to earn as much they can to provide for their families. 

 

 

[MalcolmB]

6 minutes ago, transam said:

"Isaan".............😉

 

People watching opposite a primary school.......

The mothers.

Thai women bodies seem to bounce back after childbirth a lot quicker and better than their western cousins.

[transam]

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

The mothers.

Thai women bodies seem to bounce back after childbirth a lot quicker and better than their western cousins.

Yeh, riiiiiiiiiight......................

[MalcolmB]

9 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Unicef did a study in 2014 where they found 30% were living with grandma. The amount rises every year. The mothers leave country Thailand and move to the cities, using the excuse they'll make more money, but the extra made is spent on rent and partying.............https://www.nationthailand.com/life/30238876.

So about 21% and mostly an Issan thing.