Regarding farang relationships that I know of . A 60 , 70 , or 80 years old man and older, can have a good partnership or relationship with a 40+year old Thai lady . However a 20-40 year old Thai lady may present problems .

Middle aged, single Thai women are grateful for the support that a farang can give as this leads to a much higher standard of living that she would normally expect . In return the man can receive the best devotion and care .

14 minutes ago, Dionigi said:

Accepting that life is not just is the opposite of playing a victim. You accept what comes and make the best of it

“The rain it raineth on the just
And also on the unjust fella;
But chiefly on the just, because
The unjust hath the just’s umbrella.”

― Charles Bowen

Thank you for your reply, and a decent answer to my a bit toxic reply, where I obviously misread your intention. To my defence, we carry the colour of our mind into daily progress, and also into our mood.

Accepting life as it is can be good, but every challenge is still a good challenge in my eyes. It gives us a chance to progress, and also gives life perspective and contrast.

Thanks, I enjoyed the Bowen quote.

18 hours ago, Hummin said:

If you want to play victim, it never will be. Life becomes what you decide to make of it.

Just small self evident truths, you decide

Whatever you make of it life can be sniffed out by illness and accidents.

8 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

Whatever you make of it life can be sniffed out by illness and accidents.

We live today, but we still owe tomorrow respect. Still, we cannot let what might happen get in our way. Be ready, yes. But I see no reason to let “if”, “what if”, or “maybe” overshadow my life.

Awareness has a cost, but ignorance is not protection either. To see deeper can make life heavier, but it also gives perspective.

3 hours ago, Hummin said:

We live today, but we still owe tomorrow respect. Still, we cannot let what might happen get in our way. Be ready, yes. But I see no reason to let “if”, “what if”, or “maybe” overshadow my life.

Awareness has a cost, but ignorance is not protection either. To see deeper can make life heavier, but it also gives perspective.

Have a nice day.

On 5/29/2026 at 6:53 PM, Effective altruism said:

Sounds expensive.

but 2x the fun

22 hours ago, Thingamabob said:

Have a nice day.

To deep? 😘

On 5/24/2026 at 9:31 AM, wil iam not said:

And you forgot to mention whether you mean crossing time zones West to East, or the Equator from above or below.

And please do not tar ALL Thai women with the same brush. My 27 year old step-daughter certainly would not entertain a 'chubby old curmudgeon' as you suggest.

w

No tar, just sarcasm.

The Western or Southern Hemisphere guys tend to believe the clearly sarcastic catcalls of the massage women.

You've likely seen that attitude on this website: "Women back home didn't appreciate me." Same same, but NOT different. Delusions of grandeur.

If a man did not do well with women back home, he's at best just a mark in Thailand, primed to be scammed.

Now admittedly Thai women will accept a wider range of age difference than women in many cultures, but fit, handsome, polite and successful works pretty much anywhere, while the opposite does not...except as a victim of a scam.

1 hour ago, Wingate said:

No tar, just sarcasm.

The Western or Southern Hemisphere guys tend to believe the clearly sarcastic catcalls of the massage women.

You've likely seen that attitude on this website: "Women back home didn't appreciate me." Same same, but NOT different. Delusions of grandeur.

If a man did not do well with women back home, he's at best just a mark in Thailand, primed to be scammed.

Now admittedly Thai women will accept a wider range of age difference than women in many cultures, but fit, handsome, polite and successful works pretty much anywhere, while the opposite does not...except as a victim of a scam.

Where does the Western Hemisphere start and end?

4 hours ago, Luuk Chaai said:

but 2x the fun

Take two, they're small!

(Ah, those were the days!)

A friend of mine say it was creepy for men of our age (old as dirt) to bed teenagers. He may be right--they have to work too hard!

Then again, I don't know any guy who watches granny-porn.

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6 hours ago, Hummin said:

To deep? 😘

7 hours ago, Hummin said:

To deep? 😘

Not at all. At 85 years of age I am still grateful for advice as to how to live my life.

1 hour ago, Thingamabob said:

Not at all. At 85 years of age I am still grateful for advice as to how to live my life.

You are right, my mistake! I will remember you are 85 yers old from now. And honestly, well done,

On 5/29/2026 at 11:56 AM, Explorator en Action said:

The title indicates fairness for older men to date younger women…….I fail to see relevance of “fairness”. Fair to whom??, the man, the woman, older men who can’t get a date?? Color me confused where this is going, because your post above seems to agree it is okay for older men to date younger women. but your original post says quote: "Personally, I tend to think it is not fair” again, not fair to who?? Me?? I think this is a “Nunya” ‘None of your business” what other people do. Peace

Hmmm I usually get a response when I challenge a post.....guess this proves it is a nothing post/subject Peace

17 hours ago, wil iam not said:

Where does the Western Hemisphere start and end?

• From 0° longitude westward through the Americas to 180° longitude

53 minutes ago, Effective altruism said:

• From 0° longitude westward through the Americas to 180° longitude

So Norfolk and Suffolk are quite correctly called EAST Anglia. Europe is in the Eastern Hemisphere?

I would say that the East starts in Istanbul where they say East meets West.

Where does Australia & N ew Zealand fit into your theory?

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I met my Thai wife 15 years ago when she was 19 and a hot gogo dancer (who cares I dont), of 8 months. We married in 2014 and have a house here in Thailand in her name. I have a house in the UK that we go to every year for 4 months. My will in the UK leaves that house to my 2 sons and she is happy with it. We have no kids together I support her like a wife in the west, we go food shopping together and she gets clothes etc when she needs them within reason. We go to the gym together 5 days a week and we go out on the town together when we want. I don't support her family and don't pay her a salary. She will get half my private pension when I pass. I am not a rich person. I met her when I was 55 I am now 70.

On 5/23/2026 at 2:49 PM, BilllyGOAT said:

A couple of footnotes to my OP. I am suggesting a situation where the age gap is no more than roughly a doubling in age, with the people involved still being at least somewhat socially relatable to one another, not a tripling in age or some extreme difference between the man and the woman.

Also, this is not really a question of morality, at least not in the way I am exploring the subject. The question is more whether the woman is getting as much out of the relationship as the man is.

The man may be gaining a younger partner who is potentially more energetic, more open minded, more physically attractive, healthier, and more physically capable than a woman closer to his own age. So the real question becomes: what does the man offer that is of equal value in return, in a genuine give and take sense?

As I said from the beginning, this is not mainly about financial exchange. It may benefit the woman if the man has more money or greater stability, but that is not necessarily the driving force bringing the two together. What interests me more is whether the woman may be settling for less than what she could potentially have with a man closer to her own age, someone who may have a longer future ahead of him and who is less likely to become elderly, physically dependent, or in need of caregiving much sooner in the relationship.

This is me. 55 at the time, 23 year old stunning British girl hit on me. She just loves older guys with white hair, bit of a kink for her. Also likes the maturity and stories of life experience. Lived with me for nearly 3 years. Must admin, difficult for me now to look at women over say, 40. Kinda ruined me. Never mind, going speed dating for over 21 soon.....

On 5/23/2026 at 10:08 PM, BilllyGOAT said:

is it unkind for them to get involved with women who are half their age?

It's a WIN WIN

58 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

It's a WIN WIN

In an ideal world, every plausible scenario can be true. It is only a matter of time, experience, and the right people involved.

But there is still no guarantee.

His claim sounds like every brick laid from the start is perfect. But young women come with history too. Everyone does. So if you treat everyone the same way, will that really work?