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Hi, I am a 45 year old male of mixed ethnic backgrounds that leads a very stressful professional life. I do not smoke and I do not drink but my problem is that I have a sweet tooth and whenever i am stressed or depressed I reach out for sweet comfort foods like chocolates, cakes, etc.

I spend a fortune every month of nutritional supplements and super-antioxidant injections along with laser treatments every three weeks on everypart of my body to keep it supple and well maintained (fraxel lasers).

My problem is over the last three months as a result of work stress , I put on about 6 kg...I am now 65 kg and my waist has ballooned to about 31 inches and I feel so bloated. Really need help to go back to 29 inches waist or 59 kg or even better 28 inch waists. I am a member of numerous private gyms at various hotels but I do not have the time to go for workouts, short of liposuction, does anyone have any suggestions that can give me instant results. Also any suggestions on appetite suppressants as I always feel hungry for comfort foods when I am stress or anxious.

The fact that I am so bloated has also started making me feel inferior and more depressed. My doctors at Bumrungrad and BNH do not wish to classify me as overweigh and treat me and I have seen a shrink who is of no help and also a hynotherapists who is also of no help.

Being gay makes things worst as there is so much pressure to look good . Please help.

Posted

Well, if you were 1.81 meters you would be just about right, then. Well, right then, just use a .09 heel insert for a while until you can lose that flab.

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Well, if you were 1.81 meters you would be just about right, then. Well, right then, just use a .09 heel insert for a while until you can lose that flab.

try drinking a crapload of water throughout the day. i lost a lot of weight a long time ago doing that. it's perfect here since it's always hot. good luck!

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Do not carry money around with you - so can not buy snacks.

When you need a sugar hit - eat a banana / other fruit.

After two weeks you will no longer enjoy the taste of sugar.

Drink water - lots of it.

Eat salads - do not eat small portions.

Avoid all faty foods.

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Extreme weight loss quickly - cabbage soup diet - limit yourself to it fo only two weeks.

If you do not cheat you will achieve the target.

If you need to cheat seeking help with that aspect as mentioned above would be wise.

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If you blame your lifestyle and work for the weight gain then the solution is clear - that is the 'cost' of that work/life stress - remove the stress or accept the cost.

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+1 on Cuban's suggestions

If you find it impossible to drop the sweets cold turkey, then go ahead and eat them. But only eat them AFTER you've drank a bottle of water and ate some fruits. You'll soon find that your taste buds and appetite aren't as keen on the sweets.

Maybe post in the gay forums too.

Most of us regular guys would be very happy with a 31 inch waist. Or 32, 33, 34 ... 38 for that matter :o

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if this post is genuine,the only problemyou have is your mental state.get some serious help with a shrink.i would be very worried if i was that thin and wnated to go down to a 28inch waist.

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If you're Thai, it's not too unusual to have/want a 28-inch waist. They have typically a smaller frame.

But, if you're a Caucasian, with your height, and with an average body-build, I believe maintaining a 28 or 29-inch waist is impractical at 45 years old and above. Be happy with the low 30's. It's just nature's course. Also, trying to maintain a "fit" appearance without exercise is futile. If you don't take time for exercise now, you WILL take time for sickness and accelerated affects of old-age later--not much later!

If your love relationships depend primarily on how you look, you have a rude awakening coming in your 50's and 60's, and you won't weather it, mentally or emotionally. See if you can find relationships which major on the spiritual/mental/emotional level. They'll be far more satisfying and long-lasting. That will be no excuse to let yourself go physically, but at least you'll be majoring on the majors and minoring on the minors for healthy relationships.

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Thanks Cuban,Macx and Toptuan and also the rest,

I am of mixed ethnic backgrounds...Asian plus European. But having grown up in Asia I am more Asian. Just for everybody's info.....even in the US and Europe at the moment, the skinny look for guys in in. You will find that brands like Tods, D & G, Emporio Armani, DNKY, Rykiel Homme, Krizia,Alaia,etc are all now catering for the skinny guy look. In actual fact both ladies and even gay guys find skinny guys to be sexy. Having a waist of 28 to 29 is now a norm .

I am a strategic consultant and a marketing communications consultant for about 47 multinational companies in Thailand and overseas, so I do not think that I am really losing it in the head if I am doing a good job for them so far and as far as my love life is concerned, my Thai bf of eight years is still head of heels with me and we have a fantastic relationship. But I do not believe in taking things for granted (including in relationships when one starts to get sloppy, etc) and in the corporate world, looking good is so important. I was at Thaifex at Impact today to organise the Press Conferences there and take care of the openning, and after that while I was browsing at the various exhibitors booths, I had secured quiet a number of clients just based on my appearances and also due to the fact that my dressing and looks surprised a lot of them as I look younger for the titles that I have.

In the gay community, looking good is even more stressful unless you are in the commercial scenes, then the boys do not care as long as you can pay, they will only care for your money and will close an eye to those flabs though they will be joking to their friends about it later. But in the close circles especially in the entertaintment industry, three inches makes a huge diffrence in your wasitline!

I am starting a regimen of xenical, and an appetite suppressant today and got a nutritionists form Chiva Som to work out a strict regiment diest including two weeks of juicing (but no sugar rich fruits or vegetables) and thereafter a gradual built up to fat and sugar free solid foods. Also, my doctor has started intravenous L-carnithine injections and I am starting to jog this evenning at Lumpini and did about 15 sit-ups. My bf, best friend, my driver and my staff are providing me with the moral support and my mum is flying in a few days time to also assists.

I am also considering doing thermage at Apex as it supposedly works wonders but is painful and also lipolysis at targetted waist points. will keep you guys updated. At the moment I am having throbing headache and feel sick but was told that it is part of the process! God!

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Its my third day of the juice diet and execises, I am FEELING MORE AND MORE GROUCHY AND IRRITABLE! But am not giving up yet. Still have headaches and feeling a bit weak.

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Save your money! You do not need to do all of what you said, it is serious overkill. If you have the time, keep up a good exercise program, Go jogging every 2 days for 30-45 mins and watch what you eat. As for the appetite suppressants, they will make you loopy and unable to sleep at night. Just drink some espressos without sugar. You do not need your mother to come or liposuction and all the other interventions. Just remember that if you lose too fast, you are more likely to put it on. You could reasonably lose 2 kilos a week..so three weeks with a good regimen for you. Good luck.

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Day more, the lethargy and headaches have dissappeared and feeling a bit more refreshed and less bloated. Though the sight of chocolates and cakes are really testing me.!

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Day five, getting a hang of these fruit and veggie juices and they actually taste sweet especially the carrots with celery and green apples.

Will be at the gym today and in the early evenning at lumpini. Having my bf, driver , house boys and staff give me moral support helps a lot.

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Your metabolism starts to change around a lot in that age range as well. I'm only

a few years younger than you and I swear, I think mine cut itself in half. Used to

be able to eat anything I wanted all day long. Those days are over, now it's veggies

and fruits AND forcing myself to go get some exercise twice a week. 28 inch waist?

Yeah, I had one when I was twelve, I think you're being too hard on yourself. Don't

think you can accomplish what you want with advanced chemistry. Better just get

your head right and on a regular diet/routine. I'm straight and we all have pressure. :o

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Ehm.. I'll skip my personal comments.

But If you are serious about attaining your ideal weight and maintaining good health, google these books/audio programs:

Anthony Robbins - Living Health

Robert Young - PH Miracle (http://www.phmiracleliving.com/)

Pete Sisco - Static Contraction Training

Cheers.

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Day six, at office feeling actually great.....PLUS I actually lost about 1.5 kg and my waist seems an inch less! I am actually finding the juices sweet.....today its kiwifruit for breakfast and for mid-morning I will be having a mix vegetable juice consisting of cabbage, carrots, tomatoes and spinach.

If I get my waist down to 28, I am planning to reward myself by getting my navel pierced and have a 3 carat IF quality, E colour Diamond placed there as a constatnt reminder to watch my diet and wasitline!

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:D you got me hating myself in a way I want to kill the 38inch-waste woman I see in the mirror :D

B) I feel scorn & despise towards myself :D for not affording to do Fraxel laser and Thermage treatments as you do to be pretty as you are.

I went to Lumpinin park and searched for you jogging &(bf, driver , house boys and your staff following you in a black limo, as I imagined :o ) just to commit suicide in front of you. I don't deserve to live and breath cause am hel_l ugly and fat if I'd apply your beauty criteria on my measurements.

Dear Sir,

LUCKY YOU :D My mom would not support me in such a SERIOUS catastrophe or even consider flying over here to be with me; because she will be disgraced to acknowledge such an "imperfect" ugly freak as I am now :D

I will book flight to Kabul or Baghdad just to end my misery. I only hope you could pay for the air ticket since it seems you are "awful" wealthy; and on the other hand ; there is a promotion in Thai airways :

BUY 1 GET 1

that's if you wish to end your misery too. :D

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Lol! Dear Zaza,

Straight guys especially Middle-Eastern guys love girls who are meaty (by the way I do not consider you fat just voluptous and sexy!) and its a sign of fertility. Standards in the bloody gay world are different dear....... if you have yet to face discrimation as I had in the past especially in the business industries that I am ie PR and Marketing, Fashion and Jewelry. As much as whatever people can say that beauty lies within, I am in a bloody industry where everything is so superficial and people still judge everything on the outside! If I was perfect and did not have to face the pressures...I would do anything to forget about going for the bloody painful fraxels,despite having numbing cream put all over me for a bloody hour! nor would I starve myself and go through sugar withdrawal symptoms just to look good!

But dear Zaza, anytime you wanna join me for jogs at Lumpini, please PM me. Also if you wanna some fun.....forget about Kabul and Baghdad, I know the guys there are really deprived sexually and some are really good looking, just PM and take you around town and I will take to to all the best gay places with the best guys in town and besides that i have access to some of the best male escorts in town, we could have a real crazy time if you game for it.We could end our miseries and die in total sexual escatsy! Lol! (PS: I am serious!)

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PLUS I actually lost about 1.5 kg and my waist seems an inch less!
Rapid weight loss is due to losing water and not loosing stored fat. But you should drink plenty of water every day.

Loosing stored fat takes time - until your body uses up energy stored in your liver you will not start making an impact on any extra body fat.

You will find the dramatic weight loss tail off soon - to maintain the weight loss you need great willpower to sustain through a few weeks or more of no appearent weight loss.

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Posted
Day six, at office feeling actually great.....PLUS I actually lost about 1.5 kg and my waist seems an inch less! I am actually finding the juices sweet.....today its kiwifruit for breakfast and for mid-morning I will be having a mix vegetable juice consisting of cabbage, carrots, tomatoes and spinach.

If I get my waist down to 28, I am planning to reward myself by getting my navel pierced and have a 3 carat IF quality, E colour Diamond placed there as a constatnt reminder to watch my diet and wasitline!

I think you're off your rocker! All of this for what? To be that anal (excuse the pun) about a 28' waist? Naval pierced at 45? I think you're having a mid-life crisis.

YOU ARE GETTING OLDER...DEAL WITH IT !

All the best :o

RAZZ (Fat bloke)

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