kaledamai Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 I Invited her on facebook like 18 months before, she was not that interested to talk with me just before I bought an air ticket, we met last november I flew from jfk it's very long flights, when I get there she and her sister was waiting for me at the airport, it's North east of bkk, I spent like 2 weeks with her and after 10 days, she invited to visit her family, I could say she is from middle class family, we went to south in the beaches and safari etc and also she invited to visit her grandma's house too, it was very nice respect and also her parents organized party at their house. But all the expenses are paid by myself, she never asked even one time to share the bills, and she never asked money from me but I can tell she is expecting sum if possible. And she wants to do lots of shopping for her and her family, I think she is thinking that some one from United states are so rich or I don't know. Is that in thai culture husband or boyfriend has to take care of all her family ? or what ???... And now she wants to get married with me, and I am saying it's too soon to get marry now, but she wants now.... I can't believe why she wants to get married now because I don't think she knows about me that much because she doesn't understand what I am saying, she can understand written but if I said a sentence then she can't, not even one sentence.. And I don't want baby but she wants..... I really appreciate if you guys drop some good ideas and experiences thanks to all of you guys... kale Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BRichards Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 It is right in front of your face. If this is not a joke then I will suggest you keep her as a internet friend only. Internet friend meaning a fantasy friend and not a real one. In no way does she respect or want to love you. In most cases around Asia there is no such think of Love between a man and woman. there might be real love between her and her baby. What she is after should be easily noticed as what you are after which she knows exactly what you want. She knows you want sex from a teen looking girl and that you will work all your life for it. If you value and love yourself dont move forwards, your time is equally valued as her time so always go Dutch on dates such as: you pay one or two times and a ethical educated woman will pay the third time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rgs2001uk Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 Never mind what she wants, what do you want? I take it if she had so much free time on her hands she isnt working, why not? If she wants to do lots of shopping for her and her family, give the classic Thai answer "up to you", but dont hand over any money. Stand back and wait for the sulks and moody behaviour. What do her parents do? How many brothers and sisters, what do they do? In your shoes I would walk away. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Contrary to what many will say on this subject, I will say that Thai women in general are not that much different than western women. Their priorities may be a tad different (e.g., family is tops), but what they want in a man is a companion and partner, in addition to a provider. Which means communication is pretty darn important. So if you consider that a Thai woman can communicate perfectly with a Thai man, but not so much (if not zilcho) with a farang, then what does she want out of a relationship with a farang? As the old saying goes, money can't buy love, but it can buy near everything else. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bendix Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 Oh boy oh boy oh boy. I'd hazard a guess, like, that she probably wants you for your, like, cool personality and vibrant wit. I could be wrong though. Like. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
necronx99 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 How did 'you' invite her on facebook Mark? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WAYNEandAEI Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Since she has taken you to meet the family, she has big plans for you. She wouldnt have taken you home to meet the folks if she thought it was only a fling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meatboy Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 how can y tell whats she's looking for?"love or money" simple when y dont have any left. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulysses G. Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Just pay for it and move on. This "love" stuff usually ends up being nothing but trouble, but if you are looking for a loving relationship, this is the wrong girl. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kpmsprtd Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 It's not too late for you (and your lady friend) to read the book Thai Fever. Had you done so in advance, you may have thought twice before visiting the parents, which is akin to announcing your imminent marriage. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jimbeam1 Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 What's that I smell. Could it be a Troll? No surely not. lol jb1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maprao Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Wrong girl. Run as fast as you can. There was a good reason they met you at the airport! Very common ploy to ensure that they get their teeth into you straight away 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scorecard Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 how can y tell whats she's looking for?"love or money" simple when y dont have any left. -How old is she? -What's her education level? -Where does she work / what occupation? -Does she have a salary? -Has she had a farang boyfriend before? Any boyfriend before? -How much reading have you done in regard to the differences in expectations (what people expect) out of a marriage etc.? in Thailand, It is in some aspects quite different. -Does she have any understanding of what relationships / marriage involves in a typical western society? -Do you realize that she will very probably be controlled by her family even after marriage, that's the way it works in Thailand, And do you understand that trying to change any of that will be close to impossible? -Do you realize that a very large % of Thais are totally convinced that all western men are mega rich? "your government is rich - they give everybody big money!" is a very common misbelief. And if you try to convince people otherwise you will often, eventually, get the comment 'I don't believe you!" -Do you realize that trying to talk to her parents and family and trying to get them to adjust their thinking is a total waste of time, guaranteed? -Have you done some detailed reading of 'sin sod' or dowry (the Thai custom, which is strong and requires the husband to pay a dowry to her parents and often ongoing gifts. (Dowry would often include: cash, gold, perhaps some land deeds, etc.) Have you made the realization that you will very probably be the one who has to adapt your thinking and expectations? -How long can you cope with a severe lack of spoken communications? How long would it take, if she went to a language school evry day to develop the skills for basic conversation? Maybe 1 to 2 years? Could you cope with being her at home tutor to follow up every lesson on a daily basis for 1 to 2 years? -Are there any other westerners in the family who you could talk to to get some comments on all of the above? Good luck 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamescollister Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Contrary to what many will say on this subject, I will say that Thai women in general are not that much different than western women. Their priorities may be a tad different (e.g., family is tops), but what they want in a man is a companion and partner, in addition to a provider. Which means communication is pretty darn important. So if you consider that a Thai woman can communicate perfectly with a Thai man, but not so much (if not zilcho) with a farang, then what does she want out of a relationship with a farang? As the old saying goes, money can't buy love, but it can buy near everything else. Have to agree, Thai girls or western same same. Sad fat loser comes to Thailand, meets little sweet honey. Asks is it about money. Sad fat loser goes to bar in west in his limo, meets sweet western horny. Asks her if she wants to go to his villa in the med, his private jet is parked at the airport. Would she go it he said my bicycle is outside and I live in a cardboard box under the bridge. Jim 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWalkingMan Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 But all the expenses are paid by myself, she never asked even one time to share the bills, and she never asked money from me but I can tell she is expecting sum if possible. This is what she expects from you from now until you die. Just leave it alone as she is looking for a free ride and you can bet that during your "relations" she was singing a version of "I've Got a Golden Ticket" in her mind. 'Cause I've got a golden ticket I've got a golden twinkle in my eye I never had a chance to shine Never a happy song to sing But suddenly half the world is mine What an amazing thing 'Cause I've got a golden ticket Chalk it up to experience, you had a nice time and now it is time to move on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tonto21 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Hi ‘kaledamai’…….My sincere advice mates………………Keep walking, reading your topic, all I can hear in the back ground is….”Ding-a-ling-a-ling… ding-a-ling-a-ling” and that isn’t church bells. These relationships start with a rice cooker and end in a house and land……….Don’t understand? Go ahead and keep talking to her…………You will. Best of luck! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerryLH Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 I think I'll go with jimbeam1 on this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) I think I'll go with jimbeam1 on this one, me too. Is she really looking for love ? or expecting some financial help. ?? I think you have answered yourself, just read again some of what you wrote. she was not that interested to talk with me just before I bought an air ticket. Really !! it's North east of bkk. Issan I guess.. I could say she is from middle class family. Yep !! and a degree in rocket science. But all the expenses are paid by myself. Really !! I can tell she is expecting sum if possible. Really !! she wants to do lots of shopping for her and her family. Really !! now she wants to get married with me. Really !! I can't believe why she wants to get married now. Really !! because she doesn't understand what I am saying. Really !! And I don't want baby but she wants. Really !! I really appreciate if you guys drop some good ideas and experiences. Really !! OK next comedian please. Edited January 27, 2012 by Kwasaki 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattayadingo Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Presuming you are not a Troll. If you are expecting us all to say, 'Yes, it is love.' Forget it. Use the old and trusted method of telling her you do not have any money. And tell her if she wants to go shopping for the family etc., she can do so and you will meet her later. We are walking ATM's in 95% of cases. And never forget that. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post dean999 Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 His English is as bad as his commonsense....are you sure your from America? Troll for sure. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Payboy Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 All my gigs are nagging me for babies this year - it's the year of the dragon. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparebox2 Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) She don't have to work, mean she is from a rich family. Lots of money. Poor Thai girl have no laptop and don't know how to get onto facebook. Edited January 27, 2012 by sparebox2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturatica Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Troll. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thaimate Posted January 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted January 27, 2012 Take steps f--ing great big ones ,as far away as you can. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happysanook Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 run. far. contrary to popular belief there are sweet, good, non money grubbing females here, but this girl is not one of them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
veryruay Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Stop being Naive!!! And do not think you have all to attract her besides money. "She think all Americans are rich " .....In fact, this thought are most of the Thai girls thinking, they are naive too. And as simple as that to reply your title, what is SHE looking for? She is looking for MONEY!!!!!!!!!! Pay her, spent on her until the very last cent in your bank, and then you will see "real" LOVE soon! Good luck! ps You expect to share bills when going out with a Thai lady.....Dream on buddy! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 I smell a Troll, OR a numb nut. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nocturn Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 <deleted> do you think she wants? is your question rhetorical? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willeyeam Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Goodnight ladies ladies goodnight It's time to say goodbye, let me tell you, now Goodnight ladies ladies goodnight It's time to say goodbye Now, all night long you've been drinking your tequilla But now you've sucked your lemon peel dry, so why not get high, high, high and Goodnight ladies ladies goodnight Goodnight ladies ah, ladies goodnight It's time to say goodbye Goodnight sweet ladies ah, ladies goodnight It's time to say goodbye, bye-bye Ah, we've been together for the longest time But now it's time to get high come on, let's get high, high, high And goodnight ladies ladies goodnight Oh, I'm still missing my other half oh, it must be something I did in the past Don't it just make you wanna laugh it's a lonely Saturday night Oh, nobody calls me on the telephone I put another record on my stereo But I'm still singing a song of you it's a lonely Saturday night Now, if I was an actor or a dancer who is glamorous then, you know, amorous life would soon be mine But now the tinsel light of star break is all that's left to applaud my heart break and eleven o'clock I watch the network news Oh, woh, woh, something tells me that you're really gone you said we could be friends but that's not what's not what I want Ah, anyway, my TV-dinner's almost done it's a lonely Saturday night I mean to tell you, it's a lonely Saturday night One more word, it's a lonely Saturday night [ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/l/lou+reed/goodnight+ladies_20085310.html ] 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HardenedSoul Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Here's what you do: Shag her one more time Give her 500 baht Say goodbye That's it ! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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