Hypothetical Question

[khaowong1]

I also wish you good luck. But if it don't work out, man up dude.

[mjj]

It's a difficult decision and one that I found hard to make many years ago.

At uni my girlfriend of 18 months cheated and me with an ex boyfriend of hers. My brain told me to dump the bitch, by my heart was still devoted to her. We spent the next year together with me becoming the most suspicious man alive - I could just not let it go. I became a monster and did not like what I had become. i let her know that I didnt trust at every turn. If she didnt answer her phone she got the Spanish inquisition etc.

For me I now know I could not be with someone who had cheated on me as I'm not the forgiving type and unless you can move on its pointless. If you can forgive and move on, all the power to you, but bringng it up in arguement and stalling the relationship is futile

Whatever you do, and leaving someone is never as easy as some people like to make out on here, you must move forward not backwards.

Good luck.

[Tonto21]

Hi ‘wellred’ I think either of your proposed courses of action would be just fine………If your mate was 15 years old.

As someone’s already pointed out, if the trust has gone in the relationship what you got left? It’s no longer a relationship, it’s a battle ground.

If I was your, mate’s mate, I would tell him to bail, don’t get mad…..Get out.

There will be no good coming out of trying to play games.

[wellred]

It's a difficult decision and one that I found hard to make many years ago.

At uni my girlfriend of 18 months cheated and me with an ex boyfriend of hers. My brain told me to dump the bitch, by my heart was still devoted to her. We spent the next year together with me becoming the most suspicious man alive - I could just not let it go. I became a monster and did not like what I had become. i let her know that I didnt trust at every turn. If she didnt answer her phone she got the Spanish inquisition etc.

For me I now know I could not be with someone who had cheated on me as I'm not the forgiving type and unless you can move on its pointless. If you can forgive and move on, all the power to you, but bringng it up in arguement and stalling the relationship is futile

Whatever you do, and leaving someone is never as easy as some people like to make out on here, you must move forward not backwards.

Good luck.

This pretty much sums up how I have been feeling. Anyway I took a decision to break up with her. I told her I still loved her (which I do) and coming to this decision wasn't easy but she needs to realise that actions have concequences and she had created this situation. I feel quite bad in a way because I think she had moved on and was in sort of a happy place with me and I dropped this on her out of the blue.

I don't think I will get involved with a Thai girl again until I've spent a decent amount of time getting to know her first. Some guys can quite easily walk away from someone and hop into bed with another to ease the tension but I can't. I was very emotionally attached to her so it will take some time getting used to her not being around now. Overall though I think I have made the right decision.

Thank you all for your input.

Edited May 7, 2012 by wellred

[zzaa09]

I think the hardest part here is getting over the girl in question. Sure there are plenty of others around but my friend (ok maybe me) wants to believe she might change. Can they ever? I don't know but at the moment I'm staying with her kidding myself she won't do it again. And i've never once cheated on anyone either. I'm a firm believer in karma too but it's a read head trip when these things happen.

Simply, one should know and be aware of your intended.

One won't have these suspected problems/issues if you know and understand your partner's truer character. Easier said than done, of course.

From the ever-expected stereotypes and perspectives regarding Thai women and infidelity, I could easily question this ongoing process that they'll always "stray" and the myth of a greater percentage of them might do so. Simply rubbish. An overwhelming percentage of Thai girls are singularly loyal and faithful.....the occasional wayward type tends to be socially exaggerated to a generalisation towards all Thai girls.