samsiam Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 You married a girl in the Biggest Brothel in the World and it does not work out? I'm shocked ! Thailand is not a brothel........if it was true there would be headlines Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 You married a girl in the Biggest Brothel in the World and it does not work out? I'm shocked ! Thailand is not a brothel........if it was true there would be headlines He might have been talking just about Pattaya. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tropo Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 But you complained about it a minute ago....I see you like to bat both ways. You have a problem with the subtle details. I don't enjoy Songkran, my wife does - I try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RaoulDuke Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 If a relationship is based on mutual physical attraction and shared interests/ideologies, then it stands a reasonable chance of survival or at least an amicable end. If it is entirely one sided in physical attraction, where the other person is only motivated by greed, then it will probably not be very healthy, nor will it end well. I don't know your circumstances, but the typical bar girl/expat relationship is typically based on nefarious motivations by BOTH sides. Of course, here on TV, we always get the (s)expat side, never the flip side. Try to put yourself in their shoes before you berate them all as savages. A lifetime of exploitation can ruin the best people. Posted with Thaivisa App http://apps.thaivisa.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markland Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 marrying a prostitute never works out well heck marrying in general is insane old men marrying girls that are decades younger then them denying them there youth note to anyone who is with a girl decades younger then you she does not love you she loves your monaaaaayyyyyyyyy My wife is nearly 3 decades younger. There is wisdom in what you've said. One of the difficult things is to try not to deny then their youth. She wants to go out and play with water - I don't. You have to compromise. I know one thing for sure - she don't love me for my money because I don't have much. sorry i think you didn't get my sarcasm.It happens i am Brazilian and do not convey easy message i applaud any man who is with a girl decades younger then him you are obviously not as dumb as you sound.Just kidding maybe she does love you.So this most mean that you are the opposite in real life then you are on thai visa i hope so or else no one would love you i kid i kid.I not perfect to i have a 20 year old girl and i am only 3 years younger then you she is so sexy and great in bed a little tricky girl though.she will have to create a masterplan to get hold of my money maybe she kill me one day who knows i like exciting life like this we had shouting today but then bang her hard just right now it was amazing and no we cuddle hey i watch american idol to that sanchez 16 year old is amazing some lucky guy in future will be boning that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pipo1000 Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) marrying a prostitute never works out well heck marrying in general is insane old men marrying girls that are decades younger then them denying them there youth note to anyone who is with a girl decades younger then you she does not love you she loves your monaaaaayyyyyyyyy My wife is nearly 3 decades younger. There is wisdom in what you've said. One of the difficult things is to try not to deny then their youth. She wants to go out and play with water - I don't. You have to compromise. I know one thing for sure - she don't love me for my money because I don't have much. sorry i think you didn't get my sarcasm.It happens i am Brazilian and do not convey easy message i applaud any man who is with a girl decades younger then him you are obviously not as dumb as you sound.Just kidding maybe she does love you.So this most mean that you are the opposite in real life then you are on thai visa i hope so or else no one would love you i kid i kid.I not perfect to i have a 20 year old girl and i am only 3 years younger then you she is so sexy and great in bed a little tricky girl though.she will have to create a masterplan to get hold of my money maybe she kill me one day who knows i like exciting life like this we had shouting today but then bang her hard just right now it was amazing and no we cuddle hey i watch american idol to that sanchez 16 year old is amazing some lucky guy in future will be boning that Haha, they all have a masterplan, it is feeded to them with the mother milk. Edited April 19, 2012 by pipo1000 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markland Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 but understand i was scammed out of ten million baht when i first came to thailand i am very very careful now but i will be a man about it and report the truth if she does ever get the better of me the cute nasty little thing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tropo Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 If a relationship is based on mutual physical attraction and shared interests/ideologies, then it stands a reasonable chance of survival or at least an amicable end. If it is entirely one sided in physical attraction, where the other person is only motivated by greed, then it will probably not be very healthy, nor will it end well. I don't know your circumstances, but the typical bar girl/expat relationship is typically based on nefarious motivations by BOTH sides. Of course, here on TV, we always get the (s)expat side, never the flip side. Try to put yourself in their shoes before you berate them all as savages. A lifetime of exploitation can ruin the best people. Nicely summed up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kangeroo Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Hello , The Truth is that there are a lot of good woman out there and i hope the op has learnt a lot from the last one and move on , i have a nice lady by my side for 7 years now but if i gave her a chance she would rob me blind not to mention what she gets up to when she goes out with her friends but we both know that so everything is fine ha ha ha , Cheers . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post irlguy1 Posted April 19, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. Edited April 19, 2012 by Davedm1971 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kangeroo Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 Hello , yes i agree with everything you have said and in my other post i stated that i have thai lady by my side for nearly 8 years now and even though i wouldnt trust her as far as i could kick her she loos after me better than anyone i have been with before . Cheers . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morphious Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 I'm sure that most bar girls are here merely to assist their families back home or escape the life there. Pattaya's streets are paved with fat, rich farang just ready for plucking (I know, I know). Similarly Beach Road is packed with katoeys who can't prance around in Nackon Nowhere. That's Pattaya! Where are you looking to see rich falang??? most places here are full of falang without a pot to piss in !!! You obviously mix in the wrong circles. Well not everybody chooses there friends due to there affluency. No doubt your one of pattayas 10000 x members of the SAS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monty1412 Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Alanb2.. good on you. You've had the guts to realise what the situation is and change the path.. that can only be good. You've had the guts to post a from the heart posting.. not easy and I bet your finger lingered over the "add reply" button. Life goes on my friend.. one thing for sure...Thailand is not short on great ladies from all areas/ walks of life. I would be terrified of starting again back home in western countries.. Get out there, be forewarned and forearmed with your new knowledge and while a high percentage of BG relationships don't work and end up like you have described there are ones that have worked.. Even after some time here I still get surprised... young lady I know originally from Buriram area.. worked in office, perfectly respectful and comes from family with money.. friend of my gf's..... she had a row with family and needs extra money to pay the car payments so what does she do.. registers with an escort agency and now does tricks at night.. just about fell over when I found out as this girl was so prim and proper... likes Japanese clients as they are quick small and pay well apparently. And we discussed this in my apartment over a cup of tea with neither her nor my gf batting an eyelid about her new found nocturnal career... Alanb2, your doing the right thing and yes to your question there are a number of relationships with BG's that have worked but be aware that these are in the proverbial minority.... Good luck.. get back on that horse and dont look back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardholder Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Farngs who marry educated middle or upper class thai ladies have more chance of success... Yes you can meet them. Not if the Farang is a low-class, good-for-nothing, A-hole. ... and YES, you can meet them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rimmer Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Inflammatory post also some quoted replies removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markland Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 It is not even a thai thing it is a wolrwide experience Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 Hello , yes i agree with everything you have said and in my other post i stated that i have thai lady by my side for nearly 8 years now and even though i wouldn't trust her as far as i could kick her she looks after me better than anyone i have been with before . Cheers . Tend to agree cos l trust no one, life's lessons eh. . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exsexyman Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Dream The Impossible Dream Another One Bites The Dust I Cant Get No...Satisfaction Help! So many great song titles to describe the Farang man-Pattaya woman relationship. Please add your two cents worth. Posted with Thaivisa App http://apps.thaivisa.com Without doubt the song that is most relevant to Pattaya has to be ' Is she really going out with him' by Joe Jackson. Opening line, "Pretty women out walking with gorillas down my street" says it all really! I reckon Joe must have taken a holiday in Pattaya before he became famous! I nominate this song as the official Pattaya anthem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smedly Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Like I have said before a lot of these falangs come here leaving ex wife/wives and families after having failed or repeated failures in relationships at home, then they blame the Thai lady because it fails here too...............they need to take a long hard look at themselves - only then will they see the real problem, these self centered angry rude falangs can't live with themselves never mind a partner, a friend of mine married 4x times in his home comes here and is still trying to hook up with a partner - it last a couple of weeks then arguments and seperation, I ask ask him - why bother ? haven't you realised it's you that is the problem not her - deaf ears and goes right back at it with another one - same cycle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tropo Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Like I have said before a lot of these falangs come here leaving ex wife/wives and families after having failed or repeated failures in relationships at home, then they blame the Thai lady because it fails here too...............they need to take a long hard look at themselves - only then will they see the real problem, these self centered angry rude falangs can't live with themselves never mind a partner, a friend of mine married 4x times in his home comes here and is still trying to hook up with a partner - it last a couple of weeks then arguments and seperation, I ask ask him - why bother ? haven't you realised it's you that is the problem not her - deaf ears and goes right back at it with another one - same cycle I would say blaming it all on the Farang is a bit harsh. No blame to a bar girl? They're totally innocent? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardholder Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Dream The Impossible Dream Another One Bites The Dust I Cant Get No...Satisfaction Help! So many great song titles to describe the Farang man-Pattaya woman relationship. Please add your two cents worth. Posted with Thaivisa App http://apps.thaivisa.com Without doubt the song that is most relevant to Pattaya has to be ' Is she really going out with him' by Joe Jackson. Opening line, "Pretty women out walking with gorillas down my street" says it all really! I reckon Joe must have taken a holiday in Pattaya before he became famous! I nominate this song as the official Pattaya anthem. Personally, I prefer:- Lovin' it, lovin' it We're lovin' it Like that (DJ Pied Piper - "Do you really like it") Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spalpeen Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 I can confirm this opinion of Irish women, from all too much experience. Give me Thai women every time ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) Dream The Impossible Dream Another One Bites The Dust I Cant Get No...Satisfaction Help! So many great song titles to describe the Farang man-Pattaya woman relationship. Please add your two cents worth. I'm not entirely sure 'I can't get no .... satisfaction' should be in your list. And can I add Boom Boom Boom Boom (I want you in my room) by Vengaboys Me So Horny by 2 Live Crew Edited April 20, 2012 by TommoPhysicist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smedly Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 nah mate not blaming the falang just showing a picture that I have seen here that many are aware of but will never admit it, as I meet more and more falangs here it is obvious they left their rotten past behind them and are trying to forget, how come there are so many older falangs here without their wives that they obviously had prior to coming here - they deserted them - not all but I'd say most, I try to look at people as people and treat them as I find them not by their nationality gender or skin colour, we are all human Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 how come there are so many older falangs here without their wives that they obviously had prior to coming here - they deserted them - not all but I'd say most, I try to look at people as people and treat them as I find them not by their nationality gender or skin colour, we are all human Quite a lot of women around menopause dump their husbands, 'driven out' rather than 'deserted'. When you get a bit older you may understand how it now works in the west, hopefully it won't cost you too much money. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tropo Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 nah mate not blaming the falang just showing a picture that I have seen here that many are aware of but will never admit it, as I meet more and more falangs here it is obvious they left their rotten past behind them and are trying to forget, how come there are so many older falangs here without their wives that they obviously had prior to coming here - they deserted them - not all but I'd say most, I try to look at people as people and treat them as I find them not by their nationality gender or skin colour, we are all human It seems to me you're discriminating against the males. Considering about 1/2 marriages in the West end up in divorce these days, I'm sure the females should shoulder some of the blame. The way you're posting here every lonely male coming over here is rotten and a deserter. Do you think a divorced male should stay at home alone for the rest of his life? IMO the guys who get totally burned here by bargirls are the nice guys who are too naive to understand the ropes. What about you? What makes you so squeaky clean that you can condemn all others? Are you a missionary? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irlguy1 Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 It is not even a thai thing it is a wolrwide experience Wasnt that what I just said 555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markland Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 It is not even a thai thing it is a wolrwide experience Wasnt that what I just said 555 yes but i summed it up with fewer words 555555555555555555555555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardholder Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 Can I just point out that this happens with relationships irrespective of whether they are bar girls or Thai. You only have to look around to see how many relationships end in disaster so its a bit misleading for everyone to believe its just Thai relationships this happens in. There are good and bad everywhere and the reason we hear far less about the good is because it makes better reading to talk about the bad. Once a Falang has a good marriage they tend to not bother coming on forums and that's the reason you only hear all the sob stories and not about the thousands that succeeded. I was married to an Irish girl that was the poster child for nasty and after 10 years I opened my eyes and caught her on numerous lies and shitty acts. I am now divorced and in a great relationship with a Thai girl. If it goes tits up then so be it but she makes me happy and looks after me a hell of a lot better than my wife ever did. Live for the now because there is as much chance of a bar girl lying to you as any woman on the planet but on the other side of the coin they will definitely look after you better than any non Thai and I know from first hand experience that many Thai marriages do work out. PS.if anyone has any info about accommodation as per my other post feel free to let me know. http://www.thaivisa....09#entry5230509 It is not even a thai thing it is a wolrwide experience Wasnt that what I just said 555 yes but i summed it up with fewer words 555555555555555555555555 Oh crap! People are starting to agree with each other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koratpat Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) There are some good ones out there - yes even bar girls but they are extremely hard to find and getting harder as we falangs increasingly contaminate this society with western values I am so sick and tired of hearing farangs self loathe about being from the West and blaming all things that are bad in Thailand on Western values, cultures etc. Thais and Thai culture have just as many hang ups as the West. To be honest, probably more. Their actions can't be blamed on the West. That is stinkin' thinkin', childish and I reject it 100%. Edited April 20, 2012 by Koratpat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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