Thai Women Extorting Money From Farlangs Through Facebook

[smokie36]

Actually Iv lived in pattaya 6 years, aswell as travelled through Asia. Also having a Thai wife and child.

This post is about the modern day girls of Thailand, not the past!

And the general population of farlangs who live here are...

You seem to be getting very hey up about the topic. Would one believe this has happened to you??

I wonder how many men would admit it? I for one would have to put up my hand and hang my head. Looking back, I cringe at my stupidity, but I suppose what is done is done.I hope my mother is not reading this...

I met a lady via the internet, I didn't send any more to her, I flew in, met her at Swampy, and went on holiday with her. She was stunning, we fell out after a week, ( more to the point I fell out with her, she was WILD!!!! ) and sent her home to BKK on a bus, instead of flying her back from Chiang Mai.

I felt guilty about that later and I ended up sending her about 5,000 baht. I was angry with myself for abandoning my duty of care for her, it doesn't matter how angry you get with someone you always have to remember that duty of care, and I let myself down. So the money I sent was what I saved by sending her back on a bus instead of a flight.

Now I know that story doesn't fit in with the OP, however it does show that it's possible to meet beautiful, ( and by the way, she was jaw droppingly beautiful ) women via the net. WITHOUT PAYING A PENNY!!!

She really was wild though, a typical BKK Party Girl.

This comes back to my other point, you are to sympathetic with these girls.

Let's be serious she went back home, looked in her little black book and moved on to the next one.

I think it all boils down to how you treat people, as long as you approach things with your eyes open then that shouldn't be any different from one lady to the next.

Bargirl or not.

[elliss]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

a fool and his money are easily parted.

the next planeload is arriving soon.

bring on the clowns,

[smokie36]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

a fool and his money are easily parted.

the next planeload is arriving soon.

bring on the clowns,

Absolutely. There are many degrees of clowns though...some smarter than others and some even leaving with a smile.

It all depends upon their act really. If its together then they have fun...if its not then the lions eat them for breakfast!

[trainman34014]

There can't be many men that have not given money to or been scammed by a woman or women in their own country. Who ever heard of having a woman who didn't want your money, if you allowed them to get their hands on it?

When I first started surfing the 'dating' sites some years ago (I was 50's) I had women from all over Asia who wanted to be my 'friend' very quickly. I started playing the field with Filipino, Thai, Chinese etc etc and within a fairly short time the majority of Thai girls were asking for money. I say the majority because there were a few that didn't but they were not from Issan or related to poor families anywhere in the country. They were the ones that were a bit older (30's up) and had decent jobs, and their priorities were not particularly geared to fast bucks. They already had their own computers and had taught themselves some English. The poor ones were using Internet Cafe's. The range of money the girls asked for was between a few hundred Baht and 500,000 Baht to buy a new car. I can say that none of the Chinese girls I had relationships with, and there were a good few trips to China, never once asked me for money. They always said they would like a responsible man that would love them and have a long term stable relationship. I would point out that none of these girls were from poor families either and I think this is the key with the large numbers of Thai girls who are on the make. It's to do with the amount of poor families that exist in Thailand where all the pressure is put on the young girls to provide for the family. It may be true that they think we Farang are all stupid, and indeed some really are, but the main driving force is family pressure and they will do anything to relieve that constant burden.

May i suggest u find a new gf that u dont have to pay,itsd not that hard

I don't need a girlfriend thanks; I've been happily married for four years and apart from normal expenses I've never paid a bad or stupid satang !

[ebmzlm]

I think it all boils down to how you treat people, as long as you approach things with your eyes open then that shouldn't be any different from one lady to the next.

Bargirl or not

I understand your point but pit this into perspective.

You meet a girl on the Internet, in England (I assume your from England) you take the girl away and after a week you decide it's not for you and send her home. Likelihood is you will call the lady and apologise, you wouldn't send 100.

You showed sympathy to the Thai woman and she preys on it. If she had decided to go home, on her own, or even just left you there. You think she would have sent you money, most likely she would have text or called saying sorry! But probably would have said nothing!

[pipo1000]

I wonder if I create a fake profile for myself on facebook, get some photo's of a hot Thai chick.

knock on a few doors so to speak.

Maybe I could make a few bucks myself.

At least stock up the wine cellar a bit.

yes some people really ARE THAT STUPID.

Tip : don't use the one in your avatar

[pipo1000]

Cute girl sends out signals to a guy that she likes him.

After spending a passionate evening with her and a night of lovey-doveyness

with and perhaps the best sex the guy has had for years, he becomes smitten and can hardly believe his luck.

He holds her hand and listens intently to her pitiful hard luck stories and then wants to be her knight in shining armour, to the rescue, at any price, dreaming that at last he has discovered a true soul mate and love of his life, believing in a dream the guy decides to invest in her for a good future.

You just described a day out of the life of 99.9% of foreigners on their first night in Pattaya.............................and probably of 80% of the regulars.

[jamesbrock]

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

For those that don`t believe, won’t heed this advice or willing to take a gamble, than you do so at your own risk. Fall down and no one’s going to care.

"Unconditionally follow"? "Main ambition in life"?

What a pitifully misogynistic point of view!

[kerryk]

Ok so if it's old news explain why many farlangs including yourself are so interested.

Not in one reply have I mentioned my wife is better nor have I mentioned in anyway to sound the better of circumstances.

You sound like a bitter old man.

Probably one who in between friends goes on and on, how lazy Thai people are, how they live like pigs, how the women are always looking for next coo.

Yet I'd happily pay em!!!

Som-nam-na

That is funny considering this is Thailand. I am normally between ladies. I developed a craving for multiple partners years ago. I also find that variety is a the cure for performance anxiety as one gets older.

But you see now what will happen is the age old Thai Visa debate as to what success means in Thailand. The old hands will tell you success is being single with money in Thailand. The new guys will tell you it is the same as the West; a nice wife and family.

BTW I have always found Thai women to be hard working and very clean. I have found little difference in these traits over the last 40 years.

[ebmzlm]

Ok so if it's old news explain why many farlangs including yourself are so interested.

Not in one reply have I mentioned my wife is better nor have I mentioned in anyway to sound the better of circumstances.

You sound like a bitter old man.

Probably one who in between friends goes on and on, how lazy Thai people are, how they live like pigs, how the women are always looking for next coo.

Yet I'd happily pay em!!!

Som-nam-na

That is funny considering this is Thailand. I am normally between ladies. I developed a craving for multiple partners years ago. I also find that variety is a the cure for performance anxiety as one gets older.

But you see now what will happen is the age old Thai Visa debate as to what success means in Thailand. The old hands will tell you success is being single with money in Thailand. The new guys will tell you it is the same as the West; a nice wife and family.

BTW I have always found Thai women to be hard working and very clean. I have found little difference in these traits over the last 40 years.

Fully understood.

The new era is starting.

[kerryk]

Did you ever hear the story about the frog and the scorpion crossing the river? The bar girl is the scorpion. It is not her fault. It's her nature. You can google the story if you don't know it.

Edited May 19, 2012 by kerryk

[473geo]

Ok so if it's old news explain why many farlangs including yourself are so interested.

Not in one reply have I mentioned my wife is better nor have I mentioned in anyway to sound the better of circumstances.

You sound like a bitter old man.

Probably one who in between friends goes on and on, how lazy Thai people are, how they live like pigs, how the women are always looking for next coo.

Yet I'd happily pay em!!!

Som-nam-na

That is funny considering this is Thailand. I am normally between ladies. I developed a craving for multiple partners years ago. I also find that variety is a the cure for performance anxiety as one gets older.

But you see now what will happen is the age old Thai Visa debate as to what success means in Thailand. The old hands will tell you success is being single with money in Thailand. The new guys will tell you it is the same as the West; a nice wife and family.

BTW I have always found Thai women to be hard working and very clean. I have found little difference in these traits over the last 40 years.

Then there are those old hands who would say throw caution to the wind and experience both, you only live once.........or you can be a the true failed dreamer who sit on their wallet, carefully ease out an occasional baht without being spotted....and dream they have experienced everything Thailand has to offer.......

[smokie36]

I think it all boils down to how you treat people, as long as you approach things with your eyes open then that shouldn't be any different from one lady to the next.

Bargirl or not

Did you ever hear the story about the frog and the scorpion crossing the river? The bar girl is the scorpion. It is not her fault. It's her nature. You can google the story if you don't know it.

See I'm having fun. And you could be learning something but the new guys rarely come here with an open mind. Normally they know it all.

Its my quote so I will reply.

I was referring only to theblether's comment about how he should treat a girl he met on an internet site. In my opinion the same as he would treat any lady.

I do the same and have not yet been ripped off by one. Sure there are plenty of women out there looking for a pay off but if you can't learn early to filter them then you will end up broke.

In any country never mind Thailand!

[kerryk]

I think it all boils down to how you treat people, as long as you approach things with your eyes open then that shouldn't be any different from one lady to the next.

Bargirl or not

Did you ever hear the story about the frog and the scorpion crossing the river? The bar girl is the scorpion. It is not her fault. It's her nature. You can google the story if you don't know it.

See I'm having fun. And you could be learning something but the new guys rarely come here with an open mind. Normally they know it all.

Its my quote so I will reply.

I was referring only to theblether's comment about how he should treat a girl he met on an internet site. In my opinion the same as he would treat any lady.

I do the same and have not yet been ripped off by one. Sure there are plenty of women out there looking for a pay off but if you can't learn early to filter them then you will end up broke.

In any country never mind Thailand!

Sorry, I edited as soon as I saw my quote thing was messed up.

[Beetlejuice]

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

For those that don`t believe, won’t heed this advice or willing to take a gamble, than you do so at your own risk. Fall down and no one’s going to care.

"Unconditionally follow"? "Main ambition in life"?

What a pitifully misogynistic point of view!

I was going to reply to you sooner but I had to look up the meaning of, misogynistic, first. Sounds extremely women’s liberation to me and is a word that most men probably would not use.

The title of this thread is: Thai Women Extorting Money From Farlangs Through Facebook. So obviously my response is exactly that; women exploiting men. Of course it works both ways and I would have the same opinions of any women who fall for the charms of men that come across as obvious scammers. More fool them is what I say.

I have absolutely no sympathy or would never show any mercy to men that use and abuse women if these ladies were sincere, good and decent. Those men are nothing but a bunch of A/holes in my opinion. But as I said providing the gals are good and decent as it is obvious the one`s pertaining to this thread are not.

So if anyone decides to create a thread titled: Farlangs Extorting Money From Thai women Through Facebook, than I will simply swap around the words, Farlang and Thai women.

[moe666]

A few here need to get over it, there are nofreeholies you pay one way are the other. Good on the girls who have the intelligents, charm,and originality to bring in a few pounds to support the family less for me to kick in.

[Chivas]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

[pipo1000]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

Why do you restrict it to modern Thais?

[ebmzlm]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

Finally someone with a bit of common sense.

And proving my topic "Facebook" the modern way of Thai ladies finding falangs to send them money on false hope and promises.

[smokie36]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

Yes of course. They should simply roll over and be taken for a ride by the never ending stream of sex tourists.

[pipo1000]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

Yes of course. They should simply roll over and be taken for a ride by the never ending stream of sex tourists.

So you encourage scamming?

[smokie36]

So industrious these Thai women. I applaud them!

Am not sure why you feel the need to applaud.........

Sadly generation of Thais are being tarred by this type of activity. Yes it goes on worldwide but the deviousness of many modern Thais is leaving a sour taste in the mouth.......

Yes of course. They should simply roll over and be taken for a ride by the never ending stream of sex tourists.

So you encourage scamming?

I wonder why these men are sending cash to Thai girls? For their university education? For altruistic reasons?

Who is doing the scamming? Really it is only a scam if the girl is not really a girl but someone posing as one.

Lots of questions on this one but if you are actively pursuing bar girls then you are taking risks from the start. Beginning a relationship with one is a big risk. sometimes things work out great other times not.

Most of these issues can be solved by taking a good look in the mirror.

[pipo1000]

I wonder why these men are sending cash to Thai girls? For their university education? For altruistic reasons?

Who is doing the scamming? Really it is only a scam if the girl is not really a girl but someone posing as one.

Lots of questions on this one but if you are actively pursuing bar girls then you are taking risks from the start. Beginning a relationship with one is a big risk. sometimes things work out great other times not.

Most of these issues can be solved by taking a good look in the mirror.

So if a ladyboy who goes to university asks for money it's a scam

If a real girl who doesn't even know the meaning of the word university asks for money to attend university,it's just a legitimate business?

[smokie36]

I wonder why these men are sending cash to Thai girls? For their university education? For altruistic reasons?

Who is doing the scamming? Really it is only a scam if the girl is not really a girl but someone posing as one.

Lots of questions on this one but if you are actively pursuing bar girls then you are taking risks from the start. Beginning a relationship with one is a big risk. sometimes things work out great other times not.

Most of these issues can be solved by taking a good look in the mirror.

So if a ladyboy who goes to university asks for money it's a scam

If a real girl who doesn't even know the meaning of the word university asks for money to attend university,it's just a legitimate business?

Neither of those are a scam. Its simply someone asking for money. If you are willing to give freely then there is no problem. If you think you are receiving something in return then the simple phrase "caveat emptor" applies.

[arthurwait]

I wonder if I create a fake profile for myself on facebook, get some photo's of a hot Thai chick.

knock on a few doors so to speak.

Maybe I could make a few bucks myself.

At least stock up the wine cellar a bit.

yes some people really ARE THAT STUPID.

Its an age old one. Had a male friend who did exactly that in Argentina about 10 years back using msn.

Agree with Semper. Men can be idiots in this sense. At one point i joined tagged (couple of years back), was single at the time, and wanted to make new friends, and possibly more. Had a few photos up and made a separate msn account. Added a couple of people, several guys. My web cam broke and one guy offered to send me one. Didnt even ask, nor make any story about not having money to buy one, was an out and out offer. Declined. Honestly, its almost like some guys just want to give money away. I guess they equal buying things with being wanted. Im not saying i didnt appreciate the offer, it was kind, but i felt wrong taking it (and i didnt wish to give out my home address). Other women might not think the same way and see it as easy takings. So, in some cases the women dont even need to scam ..the guys actually WANT to offer.

Edit: so its not just a Thai woman thing. Any woman who wants to take advantage, can.

He may have been hoping for something else in return for buying you a web cam.

[ebmzlm]

The opinions are flying.

Changing the subject slightly.

Do you not believe that if they stopped lying, they would have more chance of sustaining a relationship?

The 2 men of whom sent the money of which the debate started, ended up messaging each other through Facebook, claiming they were the boyfriend and warning each other off. Still the funny thing is they have never personally met the girl. Are some people really this naive and desperate.

It's a funny old place Thailand

[smokie36]

The opinions are flying.

Changing the subject slightly.

Do you not believe that if they stopped lying, they would have more chance of sustaining a relationship?

The 2 men of whom sent the money of which the debate started, ended up messaging each other through Facebook, claiming they were the boyfriend and warning each other off. Still the funny thing is they have never personally met the girl. Are some people really this naive and desperate.

It's a funny old place Thailand

Yup. There are plenty desperate and lonely enough. More than enough Thai girls for them as well!

[pipo1000]

Are some people really this naive and desperate.

Yes they are and not only some, read post # 97.

From the other side there are many boiler rooms operating from Thailand, who actually work on the same principle which is make people dream, and those are considered criminal frauds.Whats the difference?

[Beetlejuice]

A few here need to get over it, there are nofreeholies you pay one way are the other. Good on the girls who have the intelligents, charm,and originality to bring in a few pounds to support the family less for me to kick in.

Not smart.

And such a sorry state of affairs when what should be loving relationships transpires into purely an act of make believe for financial gain.

The same applies to the guys who sole ambitions become to bed the girl, again giving the semblance that they are genuinely interested in the relationship but in actuality is looking for some freebies with no strings attached and couldn’t give a rat’s behind regarding the feelings of the girl and the emotional traumas this may cause to them. They could be described as emotional rapists, exploiting a girl’s feelings and affections for a guy.

The problem is that many are just seeking something for nothing, cheapskates that have no decency or respect for anyone, who use bluff and deception without any regard that within these relationships someone is going to get hurt, quite often with dire consequences. This pertains to both the guys and the gals. No wonder there is so much crap going on between people with these sorts of attitudes.

The problems are that the selfish and in some cases criminal actions of the Jack the Lads, fly by night boys and the femme fatale among us makes it extremely difficult to put trust into any relationships and really does spoil things for those seeking genuine partners and a soul mate. Plus that’s called; using people. Those who have mastered the art of bluff, lying and deception so flawlessly, without a bat of an eyelid or any feelings of remorse are of dubious character and should never be trusted, whether is business, as friends or even as an addition to a social circle and should be well avoided for obvious reasons.

[473geo]

A few here need to get over it, there are nofreeholies you pay one way are the other. Good on the girls who have the intelligents, charm,and originality to bring in a few pounds to support the family less for me to kick in.

Not smart.

And such a sorry state of affairs when what should be loving relationships transpires into purely an act of make believe for financial gain.

The same applies to the guys who sole ambitions become to bed the girl, again giving the semblance that they are genuinely interested in the relationship but in actuality is looking for some freebies with no strings attached and couldn’t give a rat’s behind regarding the feelings of the girl and the emotional traumas this may cause to them. They could be described as emotional rapists, exploiting a girl’s feelings and affections for a guy.

The problem is that many are just seeking something for nothing, cheapskates that have no decency or respect for anyone, who use bluff and deception without any regard that within these relationships someone is going to get hurt, quite often with dire consequences. This pertains to both the guys and the gals. No wonder there is so much crap going on between people with these sorts of attitudes.

The problems are that the selfish and in some cases criminal actions of the Jack the Lads, fly by night boys and the femme fatale among us makes it extremely difficult to put trust into any relationships and really does spoil things for those seeking genuine partners and a soul mate. Plus that’s called; using people. Those who have mastered the art of bluff, lying and deception so flawlessly, without a bat of an eyelid or any feelings of remorse are of dubious character and should never be trusted, whether is business, as friends or even as an addition to a social circle and should be well avoided for obvious reasons.

Summary:

Life is full of risk......some you win some you lose