In A Relationship: Are Lies Acceptable?

[007]

Does your Thai partner lie, and, when you give her hints that what she says must be untrue, she still keeps on lying: OK with you??

[ExpatOilWorker]

Lying, as in fabricating an alternative truth is not acceptable, but hiding the truth (sometime) is OK.

[elliss]

thai culture,

farangs stupid , not understand .

best of luck

[Neeranam]

No it certainly isn't ok.

[Crossy]

In Thai culture and politics, 'white lies' are ok.

[TommoPhysicist]

Doesn't matter if it's acceptable or not.

If you want a relationship with a Thai, it's gonna happen.

You know, cultural differences.

[FDog]

Not only are some lies acceptable but they are essential.

[transam]

In Thai culture and politics, 'white lies' are ok.

But a lie is never OK, is it.

[bangkokrick]

My wife says that she never lies to me

[TommoPhysicist]

My wife says that she never lies to me

I never lie to my wife, or anyone else.

[topt]

I would hopefully not be in the OP's situation as my partner is very aware how I feel about it - so no in that situation.

But if you have not talked about it or made it clear.......

[bangkokrick]

Sad but true!

[mixolydian]

It is certainly unacceptable to me. I prefer directness of communication rather than round-a- bout, face saving, non confrontational tactics.

[Semper]

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

[JurgenG]

In Thai culture and politics, 'white lies' are ok.

"white lies" is actually an english expression.

Definition given by Google is "A harmless or trivial lie, esp. one told to avoid hurting someone's feelings"

Basically, while lying is something that should be avoided, western culture still consider that sometime it can be tolerated.

Nothing to do with Thai culture or politic.

[smokie36]

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

No shorts?

[bangkokrick]

007 She know that you know that she is lying, but we are back to the 'face' thing again. She will never admit it and that's the truth.

[MAJIC]

Some Cultures accept that lies are part of negotiating,and saving face,ask any Politition. Doesn't make it acceptable though,and often signals the end of a relationship.

[Dancealot]

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

No shorts?

He attaches them to his long johns.

[Dancealot]

There is a big difference between a mere white lie and a secret that can destroy a relation.

[Semper]

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

No shorts?

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

No shorts?

Shorts are for kids. I use a sarong.

[Dancealot]

I wear belt and suspenders and never believe my wife.

Suspenders and a bra? Wasn't that the

? Edited March 2, 2013 by Dancealot

[Loptr]

Every response here is why I will never again have a LTR with a Thai woman, as in my experience they cannot tell the truth, even if they want to.

[Loptr]

There is a big difference between a mere white lie and a secret that can destroy a relation.

I just love rationalizations. So where do you draw the line? Is it when you find out that her brother is not really her brother, or when you find out that the money she asked for yesterday did not get used for it's intended purpose? Sorry, if someone is going to lie about small things do you really think they would have any compunction in lying about big things too? If so, I wish you luck.

[transam]

Every response here is why I will never again have a LTR with a Thai woman, as in my experience they cannot tell the truth, even if they want to.

We read lots here about culture. In LOS I have had folk tell bear faced lies and I laugh. Guess what, they understand why I laugh.

[Phronesis]

Lying about how much of her hard earned money she has sent to her useless, blood sucking family...no problem

Lying about whether or not a condom was used when she had sex with a Thai man...big problem

[Payboy]

The most commonly used lie in Thailand probably is "rot dtit". Usually used without an apology.

[NeverSure]

"white lies" is actually an english expression.

Duh. This whole thread is made of "English expressions."

If Thais are so far in denial about their white lies and even black lies that they don't have a term for it, it doesn't change the fact that they do it culturally.

How about < Thai script removed, this is the English language side of the forum, if you need to post in Thai, go over to the Thai language forum >

Edited March 2, 2013 by metisdead

[ozziebloke]

I find it hard to beleive that there is noone who lies ? For me it is the really serious ones that will make the difference

[kagan]

ALL women lie