I was happy to exchange my personal security for a fulfilling sex life.

And so far so good eh?

My wife has a couple of hundred thousand in the bank and a decent job that she enjoys, we've been together for nine years, my wife knows that when I die she gets 70% of my assets and my Thai Will confirms this. To be honest I would have no difficulty putting my assets in her name today although that would serve no benefical purpose and we both know that, my overseas investments in my name represent a more sensible solution.

I guess I'm one of the very lucky ones in that both my wife and I have passed all the tests that we've presented to each other, I trust her more than I trust anyone else on this planet.

Maybe the headline should read.

Is it Safe for a Foreigner to Marry a Thai Bargirl?

Many Farangs have married everyday Thai women are raising normal families and living normal lives. It is just my guess that many of the farangs that run foul with Thai women is that they have fallen in love with the 1st young girl that said "you very handsome man, you have wife?" They have actually fallen head over heels with the false smiles and words and don't realise that the moment they walked into that bar they were a scam target.

I think most of they Thai women are sincere. You don't go to a brothel back home in search of bride. Just look in the right places and away from the sleaze and you reduce your risks of suicide and being scammed dramatically.

Bar girsl are not all bad. I have friends who married bar girls are are living happily in the USA

I made the big mistake, based on that assumption, and married a high society woman, not so young, in the Philippines, and she took all my properties, abducted our daughter, hired hit men to kill me and her relative, a powerful politician listed me as the most wanted undesirable alien in the country. I escaped by paying a huge bribe to immigration to get to Thailand ! Now living happily with my Thai girlfriend with and having a new family

Yes, she's a little bit violent and possibly dangerous, but I'm living a full life again.

I was happy to exchange my personal security for a fulfilling sex life.

Well you're one man who doesn't beat-around-the-bush and knows what he wants.

Been married to one for over twenty years and she hasn't killed me yet.

Maybe she is crossing her t's and dotting her i's.

Just kidding, well done 20 yrs is good going and I hope you have another 20. I still have a little way to go to match you but everything is flowing smoothly.

Well, I have to admit she urged me to get life insurance many years ago. Maybe she's just happy to wait until I go naturally!

My pals wife had been married to three westerners with good life insurance policies before she met and married him.

The first two husbands died from eating poisonous mushrooms, the third died from a broken skull.

I asked her what happened to the third husband. She said "He wouldn't eat the bloody mushrooms..."

Heavy drinker great joke made me laugh.

I am more than happy being married to my Falang wife most friends we know who are married to Thai woman are always moaning that they have no money most are my age 62 and have a Thai son/daughter below 6 years of age do I need say any more NO !!!!!!!!!!

I was just wondering if you still have sex?

Sorry to ask such a personal question, but I was married to an English lady for 30 years, and the last 20 years no sex.

Now I have a Thai lady much, much younger than me, and I have plenty of sex.

Yes, she's a little bit violent and possibly dangerous, but I'm living a full life again.

I was happy to exchange my personal security for a fulfilling sex life.

The other possibility is that at age 62 you no longer want sex, I know many men lose their sex drive at that age.

You can have an extremely fulfilling sex life in Thailand without getting married nor ever risking your assets. A fulfilling sex life usually depends on one's partner, not on her nationality.

Editor-in Asia ( who not in Asia) admitted in some of his writing that he married a bargirl....

So, guess where his worries come from

Good news for him, when his wife decide to kill him for his money the UK police will investigate!

Else marry a regular everyday thai, and sleep well. I do.

Go out and with protection, have fun. But you marry a bar girl you most likely have troubles. Now I have 40 years of knowing these people. Very kind mostly good, but very jealous and possessive! Good luck!

Don't get married to anyone of any nationality and don't make anyone a beneficiary for any life insurance or assurance.

Just don't do it, its unnecessary and possibly lethal.

Money means cash but monee in Thai means come to me, strange but true. My ex said it to me one day and I told her I have given her enough and she explained.

My ex-wife, I've posted here before about this person (for the purposes of this post I call her Ami), likes to think of herself as Hi-So. But she needed money. When I met her she already had a civil engineering degree and was working on her masters. Great lady, I thought, not a bar girl, not particularly good looking, but highly intelligent. Speaks English and Chinese and has a smattering of French. We got married and then she moved to the UK with me. After 5 reasonable years, we moved back to Thailand. I should have seen it coming as the whole thing was a scam. You see, you are not safe financially, even from these educated people. She always professed her hatred of bar girls, "isaan" gitls and so on - but her type of prostitution (because that's what it was) is even worse. I lost most of my pension savings to her. She was a con artist of the highest order.

Is it safe being married to any woman from anywhere? ha ha

No it's not safe, my Thail wife murdered me. I got better though.

Just make sure you are worth more to her alive than dead No large life insurance policies, most of your money left abroad and a family lawyer from a big company, not some two bit "lawyer" from a local shop. Monthly agreed allowance to her is probably the best way to go.

One big red flag is "unexpected" large expenses in her family that later turns out to be nothing but lies. Especially if nobody else in her family is paying anything, just you. There are certainly unexpected expenses, because there are no social services, but check those out from time to time. Whether that tractor really was bought or a nephew got his computer

Many bar girls do also farang hopping, one guy paying for rainy seasons and another guy for hot seasons. They are sometimes very clever foxes :-) Actually, look it as "burden" sharing

In Thailand foreigners commit suicide instead of being killed by their Thai-wives!

The only one way to make a small fortune in Thailand, is to come here with at bigger fortune!

When that is said, my wife haven´t killed me yet and I have never paid any dowry or financial support to my wife or her family, so in this way I feel quite unique.

I am more than happy being married to my Falang wife most friends we know who are married to Thai woman are always moaning that they have no money most are my age 62 and have a Thai son/daughter below 6 years of age do I need say any more NO !!!!!!!!!!

I was just wondering if you still have sex?

Sorry to ask such a personal question, but I was married to an English lady for 30 years, and the last 20 years no sex.

Now I have a Thai lady much, much younger than me, and I have plenty of sex.

Yes, she's a little bit violent and possibly dangerous, but I'm living a full life again.

I was happy to exchange my personal security for a fulfilling sex life.

The other possibility is that at age 62 you no longer want sex, I know many men lose their sex drive at that age.

You can have an extremely fulfilling sex life in Thailand without getting married nor ever risking your assets. A fulfilling sex life usually depends on one's partner, not on her nationality.

At age 60 in the UK, it's quite hard to find an attractive partner for sex, and you are also risking your assets (home), marriage or not, if you live together.

So nationality is an issue.

Play in the sewers you,ll encounter many rats, walk in the countryside you,ll hear plenty of lovely bird song, and if you are lucky, you just might catch one, I did !

Agree. Don't look for a peach in a lemon orchard. Just like anywhere in the world, there is a percentage of 'bad' women. Lots of 'bad' men as well.

After 5 years of marriage, I find that my Thai wife is actually more conservative than I am. I suspect that if you are 60+ and going for 18-24 year olds, your chance of a lemon may be higher.

Anectdotal for sure but the Thai restaurant in my sister's village was run for a good few years by a one-legged bloke and his Thai partner - they always seemed quite pleasant and unassuming. They sold up a few years ago and moved to Thailand and she had him run over and killed in a motorbike accident.She got 10 years he got a death sentence

http://www.lep.co.uk/news/local/lancashire-chef-jailed-in-thailand-for-murder-1-84974

Just read the article from the link. She was some piece of work.. Jeez Louise

No, it's definately not safe. Flee! Flee! Flee, while you still can!

gives you more choices I take it.

Is it safe for aThai to marry a foreigner?

Anectdotal for sure but the Thai restaurant in my sister's village was run for a good few years by a one-legged bloke and his Thai partner - they always seemed quite pleasant and unassuming. They sold up a few years ago and moved to Thailand and she had him run over and killed in a motorbike accident.She got 10 years he got a death sentence

http://www.lep.co.uk/news/local/lancashire-chef-jailed-in-thailand-for-murder-1-84974

What country are you in?

Is it safe for aThai to marry a foreigner?

Good question.

Thailand could well be the hub of not quite all there Farangs. Did you notice the age difference in the 4 couples mentioned in the article.

Came to Chiang Mai a little over 6 years ago for a much needed vacation. Stayed at a 5 Star hotel and met a beautiful and charming woman working Customer Service at the front desk. I was 58, but looked younger, and she was 48, but looked 35 or so, with an incredible body maintained by 2 hours in a gym 5 days a week. After 4 days of talking to her when I could, she agreed to have dinner with me somewhere away from the hotel as to not risk her job. When I returned to the States we kept in touch with email and Yahoo Messenger on a daily basis. I made 3 more trips here over the next 8 months. On the last one we got married, and bought a house, putting it in the name of her and her son, who was 23 at the time.

To make a long story short, 2 years later I legally adopted her son, and then HE legally changed his last name to mine, telling me, and others, he did it out of respect for me. We're going on 5 1/2 years now, and could not want a better wife. We both worked hard to understand and work out our cultural differences, and yes, we've had our share of disagreements.

Her family all love and respect me, and only once has any of them asked for money, and that was an emergency situation which I had no problem with, and the money was repaid as quickly as possible.

Overall, I couldn't be happier, or more lovingly taken care of.

No, it's definately not safe. Flee! Flee! Flee, while you still can!

And please take your prejudices and xenophobia with you.

Meanwhile, an average of 50 people die everyday on the road in Thailand ... so, beware when the wife is driving.

I have to be severely over the limit before I let her.

Best insurance is no insurance...... buck stops there.

Anectdotal for sure but the Thai restaurant in my sister's village was run for a good few years by a one-legged bloke and his Thai partner - they always seemed quite pleasant and unassuming. They sold up a few years ago and moved to Thailand and she had him run over and killed in a motorbike accident.She got 10 years he got a death sentence

http://www.lep.co.uk/news/local/lancashire-chef-jailed-in-thailand-for-murder-1-84974

What country are you in?

London,UK

been with my isaan lady for 11 years, married for 7. Brought her to NZ 5 years ago and she is well settled tho misses her family of course. I'd kill for her and die for her (to save her life that is) and trust her with my life and everything else.Totally loyal and loving. I've known one or 2 dodgy ones previously mind you. Trust your gut feelings and dont rush into anything is what I suggest

My Dad married my Mom in the 70's, had me, and they lived happily ever after.

..........that and the fact that everyone, including the Thai government are aware of the marriage industry whereby the Thai women become rich, by their previous standards...and the Westerners become poor....or sick...or deported....or dead....

....and the Thai government has done nothing to stop it....these dozens of years.....

..........that and the fact that everyone, including the Thai government are aware of the marriage industry whereby the Thai women become rich, by their previous standards...and the Westerners become poor....or sick...or deported....or dead....

....and the Thai government has done nothing to stop it....these dozens of years.....

Adjust your thinking, marriage is not an industry!