Farangs with Thai Women

[luckyluke]

"I moved to Phuket with my husband after buying a restaurant. Within 3 months he was cheating with a Thai woman.I really want to know why western men get caught up with the nightmare of being with a Thai woman. When are they going to learn it's all about the money. Go figure."

"I am Thai en was happy with my Thai wife in Phuket, a couple of farangs came to open a restaurant, Within 3 months she was cheating with the owner.

I really want to know why Asian women get caught up with the nightmare of being with a farang man. When are they going to learn it's all about the sex. Go figure."

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For those who eventually should believe this is a real post from a Thai, it isn't, just suppose to be sarcastic.

[Berkshire]

He pretended to go for massages. Packed my bags and came back to Oz. We did notice how they flirted but he always said that it was pathetic how old men went with young woman and I believed him.

Interesting. So when farang couples see an older farang with a younger Thai woman, they both say it's pathetic...but what the man is really thinking is he wishes it was him. Sadly, I think this happens a lot.

OP, you're not alone. I can't tell you how many older farang couples I know who come to Thailand with dreams of a quiet retirement. But eventually, the man will stray, and quite often, with a dubious Thai woman. It's not about whether the Thai women were better, or smarter, or more attractive, or more feminine, etc. It's the youth thing. She was always younger. There should be some sort of warning for older farang couples wanting to retire in Thailand. Many guys just can't handle it.

[blabth]

The Koreans have a thump rule to define the minimum age of their wives

Own age divided by two plus seven sounds reasonable

[jackr]

I really want to know why western men get caught up with the nightmare of being with a Thai woman. When are they going to learn it's all about the money.

Nightmare? I think you should look squarely at yourself as to why he strayed and stop blasting western men / Thai women wholesale. And, all women are in it for the money to a degree... would you go with a pauper living on the street? Move on. Merry Christmas btw.

[Kangawallafox]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good.

So now you blame thai woman.

Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children.

Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

[Somsrisonphimai]

When I see those young Thai girls and the elderly men together, I am more inclined to think they both know what they are in for in the relationship. The men are looking for love/companionship and the girls are looking for financial security/life style. The sad story began when the money ran out, the relationship changed, the men left with broken heart and broken bank account, but the men knew all along how the relationship will end.

[Ulysses G.]

Some young, hot Thai women will actually give ugly, old farangs the time of day. They are kind of hard to resist.

[samuibeachcomber]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good. So now you blame thai woman. Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children. Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

not easy for a farang couple living in thailand,too many temptations for the man.

[Dancealot]

I believe cheated is genuine. I think she came here to talk to people who can relate.

Good luck.

[Somsrisonphimai]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good.So now you blame thai woman.Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children.Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

I don't think she blamed Thai women. I think she was generalizing about the men who are in denied why Thai girls are with them. It is great that you find love and have a happy marriage, but come on look around you, you cannot dispute that there are many young Thai girls who are with the elderly men for money.

[Donnie Brasco]

A yes (*sigh*) The um, *TRUTH* certainly does tend to inflame.

[MJP]

This happened to a friend of mine in Phuket. Her and her husband were from London and retired there in their early fifties. It wasn't long until he'd gone off with a bar girl and left his wife of 25 years. She had a terrible struggle, he left her with nothing. Not long after that he had a heart attack and passed away. I haven't heard from her for a couple of years now and just hope she is okay.

I've also had Thai friends who married farang who've taken them back to the UK and treated them very badly, only for them to 'escape' and back to the same old life.

The whole world needs to find kindness and everyone needs to start caring for one another regardless of nationality.

[scubascuba3]

I believe cheated is genuine. I think she came here to talk to people who can relate.

Good luck.

Who doubted it? Too many paranoid people on TV thinking posters are fake

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[Spoonman]

If the hubby felt the need to wander it is possible what he was getting at home was not sufficient.

[sunshine51]

A yes (*sigh*) The um, *TRUTH* certainly does tend to inflame.

I would seriously like to know the "truth" behind this OP's post.

She says she doesn't blame Thai women, then again, it reads

like she does.

Who failed who...he...she? Who knows what really happened

to make him go & get "massages" so often? I guess the truth is

out there somewhere but most likely we'll only get what she

wants us to read and zip else. I agree this should be moved

over to the womens forum.

[i claudius]

I never knew that my wife was only with me for the money ,i wonder if our 20 year old son has stayed with me for the same reason? these Thai's you never know what they are up to.

[seajae]

trying to lay the blame on all men is crap and you know it. Unfortunately there are a lot of men that think with their dicks but there are also a lot of women that push their husbands away and treat them badly. If two people love each other and they are meant to be together this shit doesnt happen. What you need to realize is that you were not meant to be together, whether it was his fault, your fault or even both your faults it happened. Just because your marriage didnt work doesnt mean it is the same for everyone, I understand the pain involved as I have been there only it was my wife doing the dirty but I didnt blame all aussie women because of it. Time you woke up to yourself and changed your way of thinking, if their is love in a marriage the screwing around doesnt happen, obviously your marriage lacked that. Instead of trying to blame all men/thai women, go out and enjoy yourself, admit to the problems of the past and try to approach life with a different attitude but also take a good look at yourself and make sure that you were not part of the reason it hapened. You say it was all your money and hard work, did you tell him the same thing, did you tell him how good you were and push your views on everything, doesnt matter who earns the money in a marriage as it is supposed to be 2 people not the boss and the other one. You feel sorry for yourself and want to take it out on here/the men, instead move on and get a life. You hubby screwed around on you, you arent the first nor the last, try being p[ositive as it has given you a chance to improve your own life. AS for why are we with thai women, the answer is easy, the genuine ones just want to be a part of your life, they dont put you down if things are not perfect, they dont ridicule you if you dont have lots of money, money is not the most important thing, being together is, your marriage is full of respect for each other and most of all, full of love.

[arthurwait]

Thank you for agreeing. Most of the nasty comments are from guys who are pathetic anyway. Don't even read them. Some of my best friends are Thai women and I love them. It was a generalisation of the men committing suicide it is sad.

The old farang dead , lets just put suicide down and get back to the karaoke bar.

Are you new here or is that the answer you were trolling for ?

[seajae]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good.So now you blame thai woman.Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children.Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

I don't think she blamed Thai women. I think she was generalizing about the men who are in denied why Thai girls are with them. It is great that you find love and have a happy marriage, but come on look around you, you cannot dispute that there are many young Thai girls who are with the elderly men for money.

we are aware of that but there are also a lot that are not there for the money, trying to lump them all together is simply wrong and doing so because your partner screwed around on you is even more pathetic. Its not what she is saying but what she is implying.

[CharlieH]

Its never easy when ANY relationship ends, it doesnt really matter who's fault it is, its over and that hurts, and you want answers and justification, sometimes someone to blame.

If you have invested years into a relationship, had dreams etc, then it all just disappears so quickly so easily, its painful and you want a reason, thats natural but unfortunately its not always that easy. You just have to accept it, move on, learn to live with it, dont apportion blame, dont become bitter, it happened, its done, get on with yiur life, you cant move forward if you keep looking backward.

Thai women are predominently beautiful, younger than their years, extremely attractive in demenour. There are very few western women in normal daily life that are in the same league as a Thai woman. They are totally different in so many ways, ways that a western woman couldnt comprehend, so dont waste your time and energy trying.

[Phoenix1312]

It was the other way around he lasted 3 minutes with me. Yep to you 35 is most likely old

[Phoenix1312]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good.So now you blame thai woman.Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children.Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

How old are you and your wife?

[Shayne123]

I really want to know why western men get caught up with the nightmare of being with a Thai woman. When are they going to learn it's all about the money. I read so often about men committing suicide and it is unbelievable. I moved to Phuket with my husband after buying a restaurant. Within 3 months he was cheating with a Thai woman. Go figure.

I think its dangerous for a western wife to live in Thailand with her husband. I would almost guarantee he will wander, in most cases secretly. You can't compete with the looks of a Thai, unless you are very attractive and slim.

But, I agree its all about the money,as long as the money flows it will be OK.

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There are millions of western women who are more beautiful than the average Thai woman so it is not dangerous for western women to live in Thailand with their husbands.

Studies indicate men who cheat usually cheat WITH uglier and less attractive women so there you go....

[Jasun]

How has your cheating husband turned an entire race of women into 'nightmares'? What a racist, bitter thing to say. I hope your husband has found someone who is more open minded and caring. Som nom na.

[JLCrab]

Per post #37: Nice stock photo UG but this is the one that years back put it over the edge for me:

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[Shayne123]

Sorry cheat on their perfectly good looking wives/girlfriends WITH much uglier and less attractive women*

[Phoenix1312]

I think you are misreading me. Read yesterday that another farang commited suicide over a Thai. I have read about this a lot and have friends who have come home bankrupt. To all of you who have met the woman of your dreams great good luck with it. To all you that have been left heartbroken and broke you have my sympathy.

[GuestHouse]

My advice to the OP is take some time to yourself, try to put the bad feelings you naturally have aside and consider where you want take your life forward to.

The feelings of betrayal and anger that are totally natural and understandable will subside if you let them, they will be replaced by a sense of freedom and hope - if you let them.

If you dwell on these negative feelings they will take control of you.

If you need to see where that will take you, read the posts by many of the expat men who post on Thai visa - they are consumed with bitterness and fear towards western women.

Move on, you got rid of a guy who has shown what he's really made of - remind yourself you deserve better.

Coming on this forum arguing with a guys who have their own women problems to work out is not going to help anything, least of all help you move forward.

Sorry to hear your bad story, you have this expat male's best wishes for a better, brighter future.

[scubascuba3]

I really want to know why western men get caught up with the nightmare of being with a Thai woman. When are they going to learn it's all about the money. I read so often about men committing suicide and it is unbelievable. I moved to Phuket with my husband after buying a restaurant. Within 3 months he was cheating with a Thai woman. Go figure.

I think its dangerous for a western wife to live in Thailand with her husband. I would almost guarantee he will wander, in most cases secretly. You can't compete with the looks of a Thai, unless you are very attractive and slim.

But, I agree its all about the money,as long as the money flows it will be OK.

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There are millions of western women who are more beautiful than the average Thai woman so it is not dangerous for western women to live in Thailand with their husbands.

Studies indicate men who cheat usually cheat WITH uglier and less attractive women so there you go....

Come on, keep it real. Often older men and their western wives come to Thailand, how can they compete with a younger more attractive model, and let's face it its easy to find it.

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[Kangawallafox]

You failed to satisfy him,or he was just no good.So now you blame thai woman.Years with my thai wife,no serious fights,just those five minute tiffs everyone has,awesome marriage,beautiful children.Listening to you just made me like thai woman more,bitter old woman.

How old are you and your wife?

I'm 38 she is 34