In love with thai girl married to thai man

[nonthaburial]

my Thai GF sitting next to me can't wait till your next post.she likes this story better than her damn Thai soaps...she jokes with me that she wishes she met you before me...I'm broke ..haha..and its been 1.5 years with me the broke guy.good luck..and if you need a nice Thai girl I have one and we can use the money...jokeing ...if you do want to throw it away can we get a lil bit?not jokeing 

I'm looking for Thai Chinese woman. Not interested in isaan or Lanna woman

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Danny I write in peace, but you are now starting to read as a loser big time yourself. Your picture shows you as a skin colour similar to Isaan. people. If you are looking at the Chinese DNA suggest you look on other dating sites. Your failure to attract females is irrelevant to this post where the OP is coming through as a total idiot or a superb clever troll. Take your choice.

[BWPattaya]

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Well, after thirteen pages this post it still going. Unfortunately the OP has no interest in listening to what others write........so why ask in the first place.

 

I have a neighbour who contacts men online to scam them. Her American husband gives her a fortune every month but as he is in the US he has no idea what she is up to.

 

I used to go to see a girl to repair her computer and she always paid me in kind. One day I went and she was talking on Skype to her husban-to-be. I had to stand in the corner so he couldn't see ,e. Nothing wrong with the computer, she just wanted sex

[TheRascal]

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 I think there is way to many farang that have massive chips on there shoulders and have been burnt.     Mine is different I tell yas give me time to share more info.   Either way I cant pay 30k yes she has baggage mak mar, but I can deal with that.    Yes even if she is true and I did marry her she would probably just leave me in 2 years anyway..............................hang on wait a minute.

 

Im still on Skype with her at her "husband" business

 

 

 

I think this is a troll now - SHE'S DIFFERENT!

 

 

$18,000 to marry a poor thai girl from Issan who's family you'll end up taking care of later? what the fuks her family smoking?  I wouldn't even pay that here in the States for anyone..
 
"uneducated girl" means nothing.. they're still poor as fuk..  an uneducated girl is making maybe $350 / month.... if that..

We silly farangs responsible to spoil habits of these greedy Thai ladies without proper knowledge about their customs. I know one American guy paid 1 mn baht sin sod to a woman in her 40s with 2 grown up children. Thai men doesn't even pay one baht sin sod if woman is over 30 or already with kids. As per custom sin sod is determined by social status, virginity, job education or on basic of beauty.

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I know 2 thai women over 30, divorced that got married to a thai and got a big sin sod. They were educated and from good families. The likelyhood is they got it back after the wedding however. 

[TheRascal]

READ THE BOOK "PRIVATE DANCER' and that will tell you about the Thai lady's .

 

 

Typical barfly answer about thai girls. It tells you to avoid relationships with prostitutes and not act like a sap with them - nothing about how to act with normal women. 

[ve741]

Email the guy and tell him to come meet you at a local restaurant to discuss the matter...  If he doesn't show up then you can be pretty sure it's a scam.. If he does show up then pimp slap the shit out of him..

 

If you don't know how to do it... this is how it's done:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MzAAZR7F0RA

[nonthaburial]

READ THE BOOK "PRIVATE DANCER' and that will tell you about the Thai lady's .
 

 
Typical barfly answer about thai girls. It tells you to avoid relationships with prostitutes and not act like a sap with them - nothing about how to act with normal women. 

And Rascal would you like to give us all on this thread your perceptive of "normal women" here in Thailand. Remember if you go cleaning sewers you will be confronted by rats. Many many years ago, I met a Thai girl who was uni educated, her father was a bank manager, so believed hi so family, she used to stay with me weekends, sex was great, so was the record of my un replaceable DVDs and valuables disappearing. Do not judge a book by its cover.

[tekNique]

Alright Ive copied and pasted our entire chat keep in mind that we video for quite some time so a lot of content is missing but this is my inner sanctum make of it what you will.   I'll be xposing myself here so not doubt many will tell me to grow a set, I know this.

 

 I just have to work out jow to change our names to "him and her"

[nonthaburial]

Alright Ive copied and pasted our entire chat keep in mind that we video for quite some time so a lot of content is missing but this is my inner sanctum make of it what you will.   I'll be xposing myself here so not doubt many will tell me to grow a set, I know this.
 
 I just have to work out jow to change our names to "him and her"

Sorry, I really now do feel very sorry and sympathetic towards you. When the time comes which it most certainly will, please don't jump off a high rise or slit your wrists as TV is full of losers doing this and you don't really need or deserve the sympathy as you are alienating yourself very big time. If you had any compassion ,balls, ethics, call it what you will please for the love of god ask the mods to pull this pathetic attempt of your Warhol 15 minutes of fame . It's over

[TheRascal]

 

 

READ THE BOOK "PRIVATE DANCER' and that will tell you about the Thai lady's .
 

 
Typical barfly answer about thai girls. It tells you to avoid relationships with prostitutes and not act like a sap with them - nothing about how to act with normal women. 

And Rascal would you like to give us all on this thread your perceptive of "normal women" here in Thailand. Remember if you go cleaning sewers you will be confronted by rats. Many many years ago, I met a Thai girl who was uni educated, her father was a bank manager, so believed hi so family, she used to stay with me weekends, sex was great, so was the record of my un replaceable DVDs and valuables disappearing. Do not judge a book by its cover.

 

 

No you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover but telling people that reading Private Dancer gives an insight into anything other than a tiny subset of Thai women is pointless. Would it have stopped you getting involved with someone who stole from you - no, of course it wouldn't as it's a completely different situation. 

 

It's simple logic that getting involved with a bargirl - a girl who's likely emotionally damaged and potentially has drug/alcohol issues and is most certainly in an environment where they are taught, encouraged and given "face" for cheating men - is not a smart idea. 

 

As you asked my perception and experience of normal women is that the vast majority won't steal or cheat or think about scamming for money, most girls I've met are proud to earn their own money and the idea of going with men for money or having a vastly older boyfriend is repulsive to them. I'm not claiming they are "hiso" , just normal people; teachers, sales staff, office workers, etc. 

[JimShortz]

 
I used to go to see a girl to repair her computer and she always paid me in kind. One day I went and she was talking on Skype to her husban-to-be. I had to stand in the corner so he couldn't see ,e. Nothing wrong with the computer, she just wanted sex

I knew I got these computer skills for something! Lol

[Shiver]

If the husband and mother are colluding, perhaps say "I will pay sin sot $30K when we marry, and then you will have your money, but in order to marry, we need her current husband to consent to divorce" (whether you intend to marry or not).  Bear in mind that in Thailand, and I want to say this delicately, she's 'previously owned', which to many of us would be of no concern whatsoever - an advantage even, but look at it through their eyes.  They're trying to sell her as owners with property rights, rather than a valued human being as a core part of their family for which tradition might see as compensation for all the devotion and effort the family has invested in her (if this was a first time around the block, which is not the case here).

 

If you want to look at it in legal terms, the husband is informally asking for "Right to Remedy", but the person causing damage to him (if even true) is not you - it all happened prior, since there is the ability to demonstrate that she went online looking in order for you to find her, so it would be another party in this situation. So...my 2 cents is if you really really want this girl, then at least for the time being put heart aside and do the analytics and due diligence first.

 

Sadly, like most previous posters I don't see good things coming from this, but at least trying the above suggestion or something like it, you can play poker with them.  Then again, I'm no longer in a relationship due to previous experiences both in the west and here, so I'm no guru, and my opinion wouldn't count for much other than it's what I've observed in self and others.  

 

 

 

 

[metisdead]

Some troll posts have been removed.  A post containing Thai language has been removed, English is the only acceptable language, except within the Thai language forum, where of course using Thai is allowed.

[TheRascal]

Before it was deleted I read the skype conversation. I don't see what it proves - nor what you were trying to prove. 

[tekNique]

Okay I had posted the whole Skype chat but it got deleted because part in thai language (google translate is useful)   I may repost a more condensed version with the thai translated but I couldn't stuffed atm.  I understand the rule and abide.

/cheers

 

 I wasnt trying to prove anything rather people read and make there own assumptions, because she dosent come across as a scammer if you read the whole thing.....anyway 

[nonthaburial]

 

 

READ THE BOOK "PRIVATE DANCER' and that will tell you about the Thai lady's .
 

 
Typical barfly answer about thai girls. It tells you to avoid relationships with prostitutes and not act like a sap with them - nothing about how to act with normal women. 

And Rascal would you like to give us all on this thread your perceptive of "normal women" here in Thailand. Remember if you go cleaning sewers you will be confronted by rats. Many many years ago, I met a Thai girl who was uni educated, her father was a bank manager, so believed hi so family, she used to stay with me weekends, sex was great, so was the record of my un replaceable DVDs and valuables disappearing. Do not judge a book by its cover.
 

 
No you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover but telling people that reading Private Dancer gives an insight into anything other than a tiny subset of Thai women is pointless. Would it have stopped you getting involved with someone who stole from you - no, of course it wouldn't as it's a completely different situation. 
 
It's simple logic that getting involved with a bargirl - a girl who's likely emotionally damaged and potentially has drug/alcohol issues and is most certainly in an environment where they are taught, encouraged and given "face" for cheating men - is not a smart idea. 
 
As you asked my perception and experience of normal women is that the vast majority won't steal or cheat or think about scamming for money, most girls I've met are proud to earn their own money and the idea of going with men for money or having a vastly older boyfriend is repulsive to them. I'm not claiming they are "hiso" , just normal people; teachers, sales staff, office workers, etc. 

Thank you. We agree but from my example, one cannot trust. The secret has to be to see, understand, realise, and aknowledge then react when things go tits up. This OP is unable to do any of the "protect his back " and continues to look like a total idiot.

[metisdead]

Another trolling post has been removed.

[TheRascal]

Thank you. We agree but from my example, one cannot trust. The secret has to be to see, understand, realise, and aknowledge then react when things go tits up. This OP is unable to do any of the "protect his back " and continues to look like a total idiot.

 
It's the same everywhere with everyone I guess, people have to take time to earn your trust and unfortunately there will be occasions where someone you think you trust surprises you.

[ve741]

Soon you'll die from stress brought on by this Thai girl then you won't have anymore problems..

 

me.. I am single and sitting here in my boxers eating Doritos.

[TheRascal]

Okay I had posted the whole Skype chat but it got deleted because part in thai language (google translate is useful)   I may repost a more condensed version with the thai translated but I couldn't stuffed atm.  I understand the rule and abide.
/cheers
 
 I wasnt trying to prove anything rather people read and make there own assumptions, because she dosent come across as a scammer if you read the whole thing.....anyway

 

Dude, I'm not a cynic, never been screwed over and I don't want to be harsh but it proved nothing. You could post 50,000 pages of conversations and it doesn't prove anything. You've already shared the other details that have made everyone tell you that they think it's a scam.

 

I strongly suggest you get someone to investigate here or one of the members (me and at least one of the others) who are willing to test her for you. The fact is that even if you don't send a big chunk of money you've already told her how much you earn per year and agreed to not only give her 20k sent already but also you agreed that you'll send her more money each month to support her.

 

Assuming it is a scam she's already got a nice deal out of it even if she doesn't get a chunk at once.

 

 

 

 

[ve741]

he won't because he's too afraid of the truth!

 

[surfinglife]

POF mate....Plenty of Fish....forget and move on

[Foxter]

It sounds like a scam to me

If she says she being help hostage , then the family don't want the divorce. So why ask for the money for the divorce

The information is coming from her , if they are in it together , that would explain the " hacking" of her e mail

If she gets the money , she gets divorced and then looses the house .

You have only met , how can you trust her , and family's in Thailand are very tight , you need them on your side . If you piss them off you will not be left alone

I know I seem pessimistic. But it's another point of view

Good luck either way


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[roguewo]

Just take a long pause....Longer.....if she screwed around on him, why do you think she won't do it to you?  Don't walk...run if you have too...especially in this case. By her posting on a dating site, it appears she is looking to get away from her current situation.  Her problem not yours.  Any woman can be very alluring to get what they want. You got caught in her trap. If in 1 year she's still available without him, then maybe then go for it.  Otherwise, bow out completely not matter what may be the end result for her. Relationships built on deceit never work out in the end.

 

Exactomondo!

 

One of two things is happening here! She's either looking for a new wallet, I mean man, because women don't go from something to nothing, or she and her hubby are about to empty your wallet drop you in the grease! 

 

FYI; a young Thai man was slurping some noodles yesterday, (Lad Prao soi 24) and another Thai man put a bullet through his noodle, because the first Thai man was putting his noodle in the second man's girl. 

 

Run. Forrest. Run.

[StaffsShot]

Well, I'm in beer garden of my local pub sitting in the sun with a cold lager passing the time reading this nonsense.
The guy isn't a troll, he really thinks he's in love with her, but she's taking him for what she can

You can find a good one. After 6 years playing around I finally found a young never married, no kids, no bros no sisters
She's here now in uk happily married and she's working local Thai restaurant
I'm happy as Larry. The op wants this, it can be found, but as I posted earlier, it ain't her !

[kemjira]

ok...I'm a Thai girl who speak English but I'm not either a bar girl or an international executive. I came across your post by chance and truly feel for you after reading your story. I've searched some information about Thai divorce law and below is what I found that might be related to your case;

 

 

Section 1523. In instance of divorce by judgment of the Court on the ground as outlined in Section 1516(1), the husband or wife is entitled to compensation form the husband or wife and other woman or adulterer as the case may be.

 

The husband is entitled to claim compensation from any person who has wrongfully engaged in liberties with his wife in an adulterous manner, and the wife is entitled to claim compensation from other woman who has openly shown her adulterous relations with the wife’s husband.

However, the husband or wife is not entitled to claim compensation if he or she has provided consent to or connived to the act committed by the other party under Section 1516(1) or consented to the other person acting as provided in paragraph two.

 

 

From the above section, her husband is entitle to claim compensation from you. However, I don't think that $30,000 makes sense in this case. In determining the amount of compensation, the Court will consider his education, social status, personal reputation, etc. and from reading your story, I don't think her husband has such a social status that makes him deserve that large amount.

 

 Just want to provide you some fact and hope this help.    

 

 

[HenryCHunter]

I genuinely feel for you, your heart and mind are probably at war.  You want someone to say take the chance, it will be ok but my friend please listen.  I have been married to my wonderful Thai wife, have a step daughter and three children we share together.  In all the time we have been around the scene, we have had so many convincing stories that my wife has said this is not good.  I want you to be happy and am sorry that you fell in love with a girl who is married but she is also dishonest and a cheat and although she may be different, she may indeed love you with all her heart, she has a duty to perform.  That performance is a stage act and you are a prop, to her family anyway.  This money will set them up forever and they will not bat an eye.  She can leave him, simple.  She can attend at the Amphurs office and state her case but even without a divorce she can get a passport and leave with you if that is what she wants.  She will go back to him for sure so please, it saddens me as you sound like a really good man.  Buddy? find a girl that is single, that doesnt want anything but you.  I love my wife and all my friends will tell you she is one in a million.  When we got together though i kinda still mistrusted her but she has never asked for anything and will live with me whereever i want to be.  Hope you find that happiness, take care mate.  Regards Henry UK

[aussiejon1604]

Mate from one Aussie to another. Here is one reality about Thailand that isn't aimed at successful relationships but is applicable to yours. 

 

Thai woman will stay with farang men for money. How else does a 60 year old man have a girlfriend 20-30 years his junior? In the western world and especially OZ, we call then Gold Diggers. Truly if it wasn't for this fact, they would stay with Thai men and live happily ever after. On your visits to Thailand, do you ever see local Thai men hanging around in the same bars where farang are drinking and socialising with them? Easy answer. NO. Why? They don't have the money. Many bar girls have Thai partners already whilst they sit holding your hand, and being attentive. Many will have two or three farang boyfriends who will never meet each other. Why? One comes to Thailand in January, the other in June and the last in October and all of them are oblivious to each other but all think there the only one whilst financially sending money to her thinking he is making her life better. They are making hers ultimately better and her Thai partners if she has one. It's a scam that when your new to Thailand is easily achievable by a girl who has had a hardened life here. Be sweet and nice and create the allusion that somehow their better partners than western woman.

 

Think about it. If you were a bar girl and the only way to make money was to literally go with 100's of different men and sell your body, wouldn't you become hardened? Don't forget, Thailand attracts some of the worse sexual predators known to man because sex here is so readily available and cheap and they don't do criminal record checks when you arrive at the airport and pass customs. You can't honestly expect that all these men have been respectful and treated them nicely. Some may welcome the release from this work by finding a "Good Man" but the reality is that some will plot revenge with a developed hatred for men of all nationalities. Thus the scams.

 

Finally. There are a lot of Thai men who motivate their Thai partners into such scams. Here is one reason why. Right now the Aussie dollar commands 30 Baht to the dollar. So you can sit in a bar, restaurant etc, eat and drink, bar fine a girl and then pay her for a short or long time. This could cost you on a good night if your on holiday may be something like 3000 Baht. More for some or less but here's the point. Most Thai guys earn between 2500-4000 Baht a month. Your spending their months salary in one night. That's why there is Thai woman in the bars and not men. That's why the girls hang around and they don't. The harsh reality is, a lot of Thai men tolerate us, not welcome us. Thai men are known for not wanting to loose face. Don't you think you are out showing them by flashing your cash and having sex with there woman? Here we are having sex every night if we want and he hasn't had any in months because he's got no money. Thailand is a sex haven for foreigners. Not the Thai men. Please. Do the math.

 

Thailand is not a place to wear rose coloured glasses. Read the other posts, stop and think. It can be a great place with some knowledge or a dangerous place without. Thailand is nothing like Australia and to confuse the two will bring you undone.

 

Sorry to be so blunt but get to know the lay of the land before you start diving into something that you could ultimately regret.

 

Good luck.  

[ve741]

Take her out of Thailand.. that's the only way to do it.  But if she starts asking you to send money back to her family then she's probably sending it back to her husband.

 

I was also talking to a girl on Skype for about 3 months..  I was going to go see her for 2 weeks just like you did..  she wasn't married or anything.. but there were still some red flags here and there...  Either way.. I knew if I did go spend 2 weeks with her I would end up like you...  Luckily for me she eventually got annoyed that I didn't hop onto a plane to go marry her and have kids and all that mess...  and stopped talking to me. 

I probably would have caved if she was a little more persistent......

 

She's still single.. and probably will be forever since her main goal is to find a foreigner to marry her.... unless she finds someone like you that she likes....

 

One thing I noticed though... is how callous those bitches can be... 3 months of daily talking and when she figured she would not get from me what she wanted... she was gone without a tear.

 

 

[pbay]

 

One thing I noticed though... is how callous those bitches can be... 3 months of daily talking and when she figured she would not get from me what she wanted... she was gone without a tear.

 

 

 

Oh so true.

[CWMcMurray]

okay im in Skype at the moment and we have talked many things he is a wealthy thai man, he owns the factory she works at ( that why she can do stuff all all day and Skype with me )and owns many more business, he paid 2 million baht sin sod (I asked if just for face or if ma keep all, ma kept all) and 10 baht gold.  I can understand why he wants money from me but I cant compete even though im on about 70k aus a year.      I asked many serious questions.
 
      Im sure its not a scam either way I cant pay    I will post some of the transcript from Skype later.
 
 I think the best type of private dective work would be on him to see if this is true, if it is obviously not a scam.

Ok OP... This puts me over the top...

If the above is true... What is her family background and education like ?

Is she also from a well to do family and does she have a decent education? At least a 4 years degree?

If not... Then there is absolutely 0% chance they can be legally married ... This is with the experience of 10 years of full time living and working in Thailand

This working in corporate environment with many well to do and middle class Thais

Speaking fluent Thai and having graduated from a Top Thai University, so many Thai friends from well to do families.

I only add the above, so you don't think this is coming from some old guy living in Thailand , who hangs out on the bar stool and only associates with bar workers and hookers...

There is no chance that a well to do family that owns many factories and businesses would allow their son to marry a no body with no money from a nobody family ... Period...

If she is good looking enough, she would be a Mia Noi (minor wife) or Kik on the side... The Role of legal wife would be for some one of similar status from a good family background


Also as FYI... Wealthy Thai husbands do not have their Thai Wives sitting around doing nothing at their companies ...

Either the wife is a really strong personality and steps in and ends up running things...

Or she will then be a "house wife" staying home running the team of house servants and living egg the high life

Completely inconceivable for the wife of a super wealthy business man to be sitting in a small shop house somewhere playing on Skype ... Saying she is "working in his factory"

If he is her "husband" couldn't be anything more than minor wife

Tell her you found a lawyer who will help, but you need a copy of their marriage certificate and copy of her and his ID card and their Tabien Baan to start things

I guarantee 100% she will give you an excuse why this can not be provided... Full stop ...

She will say they are locked away or some similar nonsense...







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