In love with thai girl married to thai man

[ve741]

I still don't understand how she was able to just leave for 2 weeks and be with you without anyone questioning where she was?

 

Didn't the husband or mother wonder where the hell she was during those 2 weeks?  Did you see her talking on the phone to them during those 2 weeks?

[mickjn]

You are a funny guy Sir.I wouldn't worry about her try inserting your penis into the husband if that works you can all live happy together for ever more

[Foxter]

I agree with in you  ve741 in some ways but I cant do that to some I care about.    She  has virtually ruined her life for me....... believe me I will be keeping a close eye on both.  They both don't know I know there face book accounts and I will be checking other things.    If I catch anything out, I will be gone in a flash.     But for now I cant not as Iam a honourable man or as some TV members would say "stupid"
 
 Yea he is goofy looking but he has cash.  Me im good looking but don't have so much cash :P    (awaiting a tv member to say and brains too)   boom tish beat ya too it.

You have no idea. None at all

You are giving her money , per month, on Aus cost of living , not Thailand , not Thai people , my mother in law lives on a few 1000 Bht a month , your gf family could live on that money ,per month and more . They will be having a hell of a time , thanks to you

You have no idea , no idea at all of Thailand or the culture or the people.

You ask advice from people who know , or have more idea than you , which is why you have asked , yet ignore their advice




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[Foxter]

I agree with in you  ve741 in some ways but I cant do that to some I care about.    She  has virtually ruined her life for me....... believe me I will be keeping a close eye on both.  They both don't know I know there face book accounts and I will be checking other things.    If I catch anything out, I will be gone in a flash.     But for now I cant not as Iam a honourable man or as some TV members would say "stupid"
 
 Yea he is goofy looking but he has cash.  Me im good looking but don't have so much cash :P    (awaiting a tv member to say and brains too)   boom tish beat ya too it.

You have no idea. None at all

You are giving her money , per month, on Aus cost of living , not Thailand , not Thai people , my mother in law lives on a few 1000 Bht a month , your gf family could live on that money ,per month and more . They will be having a hell of a time , thanks to you

You have no idea , no idea at all of Thailand or the culture or the people.

You ask advice from people who know , or have more idea than you , which is why you have asked , yet ignore their advice




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[Foxter]

I agree with in you  ve741 in some ways but I cant do that to some I care about.    She  has virtually ruined her life for me....... believe me I will be keeping a close eye on both.  They both don't know I know there face book accounts and I will be checking other things.    If I catch anything out, I will be gone in a flash.     But for now I cant not as Iam a honourable man or as some TV members would say "stupid"
 
 Yea he is goofy looking but he has cash.  Me im good looking but don't have so much cash :P    (awaiting a tv member to say and brains too)   boom tish beat ya too it.

You have no idea. None at all

You are giving her money , per month, on Aus cost of living , not Thailand , not Thai people , my mother in law lives on a few 1000 Bht a month , your gf family could live on that money ,per month and more . They will be having a hell of a time , thanks to you

You have no idea , no idea at all of Thailand or the culture or the people.

You ask advice from people who know , or have more idea than you , which is why you have asked , yet ignore their advice




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[Foxter]

I agree with in you  ve741 in some ways but I cant do that to some I care about.    She  has virtually ruined her life for me....... believe me I will be keeping a close eye on both.  They both don't know I know there face book accounts and I will be checking other things.    If I catch anything out, I will be gone in a flash.     But for now I cant not as Iam a honourable man or as some TV members would say "stupid"
 
 Yea he is goofy looking but he has cash.  Me im good looking but don't have so much cash :P    (awaiting a tv member to say and brains too)   boom tish beat ya too it.

You have no idea. None at all

You are giving her money , per month, on Aus cost of living , not Thailand , not Thai people , my mother in law lives on a few 1000 Bht a month , your gf family could live on that money ,per month and more . They will be having a hell of a time , thanks to you

You have no idea , no idea at all of Thailand or the culture or the people.

You ask advice from people who know , or have more idea than you , which is why you have asked , yet ignore their advice




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[ve741]

You are now just one more sad statistic... the clueless overseas boyfriend sending monthly money to a Thai girl thinking you are knight in shining armor.

 

 

If you can so easily send her money every month then why is it so hard for you to pay a private eye to investigate her there?  All you would need to do is hire a guy to follow her around for a month.. then you'd have your answer.

 

Why would you be so stupid to send a girl money every month based on nothing more than her word?

[deepcell]

look like a trap setup for you! once you pay, you will never ever heard about the girl or husband! be carefull.

If me, buy a ticket to the girl (will cost much less than U$30K) and sugest her to live with you in Australia if she really love you, she will give up every thing in Thailand and will go with you!

It is true what I'm saying. No jokes!

 

Good Luck! Love is beautiful but dangerous.

 

 

 

[F4UCorsair]

 

 

Well im pretty much convinced its not a scam now after this post on his face book account (pic added) 

 

How the fuckk does a picture of her and her husband smiling together make you think it's not a scam?  Why would he post a picture on his face book page showing them together and happy as one big family???

 

next she's going to tell you she's pregnant with your baby

 

 

 

 

Additional fuel on the scam fire from my way of thinking ve741, and even more fuel on the troll fire.

 

As I said earlier, if he drops out, the mods would be on him for trolling, so he has to keep the fiction running.

[Runamile]

Just got up, am a bit bleary eyed, but think I just read there's an adult male in that picture.

 

I'm zooming in ...................... words confirm there's an adult male in that pic!

 

Looks like my then joke about needing to pay for his operation could well be the truth.

 

If he is about to become her, no wonder she wants out through a dating site!!

 

I'm beginning to think no scam but tragic human story - poor woman seems to be surrounded by spineless men. Thinks I should send her some money, too ......

[brewsterbudgen]

Why do so many get so upset about what someone else chooses to do with their money? Despite the many proclamations of happiness and the being in a perfect relationship, I suspect many of those who claim to understand Thai culture and feel qualified to give advice about "scams", are possibly not telling the whole story!

[Tony125]

Why do so many get so upset about what someone else chooses to do with their money? Despite the many proclamations of happiness and the being in a perfect relationship, I suspect many of those who claim to understand Thai culture and feel qualified to give advice about "scams", are possibly not telling the whole story!

 

OK your supposed to have been to Thaikand for like 8 years , I have been here off and on for 14 years and your telling me you have never seen or heard of someone falling for these scams before? Then you don't get out much.. In 1999 I was just learning about computers and was chatting online with a "Thai Girl" for a few weeks as I was thinking of coming over in April of 2000.  Low and behold I get an e mail from Thai Police saying they are investigating a German National  (name I forget) for writing to many farangs and fleecing them of money. One had sent over a thousand dollars for his "Girl" to fly to California and "she " never arrived,files a complaint and police arrested him. They said they were informing everyone on his e mail list in case they wanted to press chargers as well. I replied I had never sent any money and had only wriiten a few times but goes to show you you never know who your chatting online . Even if have video chat you don't know if anything they are telling you is the truth or just a reason to get you to fall in love from afar then once here after the first real sex these losers have had since they can't get it from attractive,young girl in their own country they are madly in love and will do anything to stay with their "girl".

Those of us who have been here a long time have seen it happen over and over again seen some lose everything they had, sold thier homes moved here  and lost everything to  some cold hearted Thai girl so you have to ask why we shoiuld care what someone does with their money. Have seen and if you read Thai papers have farangs all the time diving off hi rises when their tirak has split after their money ran out. Thats why we are giving advice and yes some of TV posters have been burned before by similar mistakes it called "School of Hard Knocks" expiriance. Just tring to give the newbie the benefit of what we have seen over and over either from personal expirience or what we have seen many times-same old story.

[Tony125]

look like a trap setup for you! once you pay, you will never ever heard about the girl or husband! be carefull.

If me, buy a ticket to the girl (will cost much less than U$30K) and sugest her to live with you in Australia if she really love you, she will give up every thing in Thailand and will go with you!

It is true what I'm saying. No jokes!

 

Good Luck! Love is beautiful but dangerous.

 

 

 

He can't just buy a ticket she would need a visa to Austrailia and she can't get one. He could also Google  Styickman web site and hire investigator for a few hundred dollars but he doesn't want to find out the truth , he desreves what he gets, he asked and was warned does not care to listen. PI would prove to him if is a scam or not.

[Coppernicussing]

Come on guys! This Thai family has been working for months to catch that fish!
He is almost in the boat!
Don't spoil it! They need to eat...pay internet bills...Just think, if it was YOUR scam, would you want a bunch of butt-inskies butting in just as the net closes????
Have a heart!

[brewsterbudgen]

Why do so many get so upset about what someone else chooses to do with their money? Despite the many proclamations of happiness and the being in a perfect relationship, I suspect many of those who claim to understand Thai culture and feel qualified to give advice about "scams", are possibly not telling the whole story!

 
OK your supposed to have been to Thaikand for like 8 years , I have been here off and on for 14 years and your telling me you have never seen or heard of someone falling for these scams before? Then you don't get out much.. In 1999 I was just learning about computers and was chatting online with a "Thai Girl" for a few weeks as I was thinking of coming over in April of 2000.  Low and behold I get an e mail from Thai Police saying they are investigating a German National  (name I forget) for writing to many farangs and fleecing them of money. One had sent over a thousand dollars for his "Girl" to fly to California and "she " never arrived,files a complaint and police arrested him. They said they were informing everyone on his e mail list in case they wanted to press chargers as well. I replied I had never sent any money and had only wriiten a few times but goes to show you you never know who your chatting online . Even if have video chat you don't know if anything they are telling you is the truth or just a reason to get you to fall in love from afar then once here after the first real sex these losers have had since they can't get it from attractive,young girl in their own country they are madly in love and will do anything to stay with their "girl".
Those of us who have been here a long time have seen it happen over and over again seen some lose everything they had, sold thier homes moved here  and lost everything to  some cold hearted Thai girl so you have to ask why we shoiuld care what someone does with their money. Have seen and if you read Thai papers have farangs all the time diving off hi rises when their tirak has split after their money ran out. Thats why we are giving advice and yes some of TV posters have been burned before by similar mistakes it called "School of Hard Knocks" expiriance. Just tring to give the newbie the benefit of what we have seen over and over either from personal expirience or what we have seen many times-same old story.

 
I've seen more successful relationships than 'scams', although admittedly the likelihood of a "scam" is far higher for long distance "relationships" than for those of us who live here.

[Krataiboy]

As far as I am aware the divorce consists of signing a paper in the local office and costs a few hundred baht.

 

30,000 dollars !!!!!!!

Only if it is by mutual consent, which this clearly would not be. If the girl manages to leave her husband, she will have to wait at least a year for him to sue for divorce or three if she wants to sue and he doesn't.

 

A contested divorce can be very expensive, though thirty thousand dollars does seem rather exorbitant.

[hawker9000]

A triangle involving a foreigner and a thai man & wife!  'Don't even see room for discussion here!  Just tell her she can email you AFTER their divorce is final. Until then, laa gorn.

 

 

[ve741]

 

Even if have video chat you don't know if anything they are telling you is the truth or just a reason to get you to fall in love from afar then once here after the first real sex these losers have had since they can't get it from attractive,young girl in their own country they are madly in love and will do anything to stay with their "girl".

 

 

 

 

I think you just described the OP

 

 

[sidewaysallwayz]

Ratio of women to men in Thailand,...12 to every 1 swinging d*ck....so should get another one if this one fails,...
You can't say that there isn't a possiblity that this will turn out ugly, and your left on the short end of the stick....

[Runamile]

@Sideways

 

That ratio looks pretty good, even if you're fat, old and ugly!

 

But, come on guys, why are foreigners so insecure. Firstly, you may not be fat old and ugly. But then try comparing yourself to a likely Thai suitor, if only on a relative basis:

 

Wealth.

Alcohol Consumption

Perpetration of domestic violence

Smoking

Drug consumption

Being polite

Being willing to co-parent

Being a provider (which may include wealth, as above)

Willingness to share domestic tasks

Having a Johnson worthy of the name

Faithfulness

 

You're likely to be the winner on all counts, failing that, most counts. If the lady is willing to look at a foreigner at all - big proviso that - the foreigner is likely to look the winner. Far from giving in to outrageous financial demands, we should be charging! How much will you pay me to take your daughter off your hands?  Incidentally, after age 30, that does happen in China.

 

[ve741]

 

You're likely to be the winner on all counts, failing that, most counts. If the lady is willing to look at a foreigner at all - big proviso that - the foreigner is likely to look the winner. Far from giving in to outrageous financial demands, we should be charging! How much will you pay me to take your daughter off your hands?  Incidentally, after age 30, that does happen in China.

 

 

but they don't act that way....  Most thai girls act like you should be glad to have them.. at least the one I was talking with did.... 

[Runamile]

Yes, ve741. But the point is why do foreigners accept their narrative? That's the point I just don't get.

 

Incidentally, that includes, as I've said time and again, that the deal is marriage. Westerners aren't big on marriage or, at least, co-habit lengthily before marriage. Thai women happily live with Thai boyfriends. So where does marriage come in?

[dannyshin]

Hi guys I'm back in Canada. But I see this discussion dragging too long. I saw many massage unread while I was on travel. When will you conclude this topic?

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[dannyshin]

There are many good Thai women different categories. Siam Thai (Central and southern people) = 26 million, isaan = 22 million, lanna = 6 million, thai Chinese = 9 million, Thai Malays = 3.2 million. Others non Thai people = less than million. But I find most scammer women (90%) being isaan and Lanna women. Even though there may be good women too

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[hotrod4098]

this is a scam i think...seen it done many times before...she gets a guy from the internet,,and they all play along..the thai guy dont mind her doing it..ITS MONEY..he will tolerate it as he will get a share...dont forget while she is playing away he will have is GIKS..

 

time to pull the chain..it aint going no where...

[aussiejon1604]

 

Mate from one Aussie to another. Here is one reality about Thailand that isn't aimed at successful relationships but is applicable to yours. 

 

Thai woman will stay with farang men for money. How else does a 60 year old man have a girlfriend 20-30 years his junior? In the western world and especially OZ, we call then Gold Diggers. Truly if it wasn't for this fact, they would stay with Thai men and live happily ever after. On your visits to Thailand, do you ever see local Thai men hanging around in the same bars where farang are drinking and socialising with them? Easy answer. NO. Why? They don't have the money. Many bar girls have Thai partners already whilst they sit holding your hand, and being attentive. Many will have two or three farang boyfriends who will never meet each other. Why? One comes to Thailand in January, the other in June and the last in October and all of them are oblivious to each other but all think there the only one whilst financially sending money to her thinking he is making her life better. They are making hers ultimately better and her Thai partners if she has one. It's a scam that when your new to Thailand is easily achievable by a girl who has had a hardened life here. Be sweet and nice and create the allusion that somehow their better partners than western woman.

 

Think about it. If you were a bar girl and the only way to make money was to literally go with 100's of different men and sell your body, wouldn't you become hardened? Don't forget, Thailand attracts some of the worse sexual predators known to man because sex here is so readily available and cheap and they don't do criminal record checks when you arrive at the airport and pass customs. You can't honestly expect that all these men have been respectful and treated them nicely. Some may welcome the release from this work by finding a "Good Man" but the reality is that some will plot revenge with a developed hatred for men of all nationalities. Thus the scams.

 

Finally. There are a lot of Thai men who motivate their Thai partners into such scams. Here is one reason why. Right now the Aussie dollar commands 30 Baht to the dollar. So you can sit in a bar, restaurant etc, eat and drink, bar fine a girl and then pay her for a short or long time. This could cost you on a good night if your on holiday may be something like 3000 Baht. More for some or less but here's the point. Most Thai guys earn between 2500-4000 Baht a month. Your spending their months salary in one night. That's why there is Thai woman in the bars and not men. That's why the girls hang around and they don't. The harsh reality is, a lot of Thai men tolerate us, not welcome us. Thai men are known for not wanting to loose face. Don't you think you are out showing them by flashing your cash and having sex with there woman? Here we are having sex every night if we want and he hasn't had any in months because he's got no money. Thailand is a sex haven for foreigners. Not the Thai men. Please. Do the math.

 

Thailand is not a place to wear rose coloured glasses. Read the other posts, stop and think. It can be a great place with some knowledge or a dangerous place without. Thailand is nothing like Australia and to confuse the two will bring you undone.

 

Sorry to be so blunt but get to know the lay of the land before you start diving into something that you could ultimately regret.

 

Good luck.  

 

 

how long are you in thailand?

 

thai men get to get these girls when they are really young, promise them the world... they <deleted> them, impregnate them, leave them, over & done

 

thai men do not take responsability for getting a girl pregnant or not

 

they move to the next

 

these girls, leave their baby with their mother and go find work... as what you think .... as the hookers you find in the bars, as she has no education or no future ...

 

 

so thai men screw those girls first and what you get is the trash ...

 

 

broken girls, ready to take revenge, ready to take your money, promise you the world, tell you so handsome man, same same as the thai men did with them

 

 

if lucky, they make your head spin, you marry them, let them build houses, buy cars ... mission complete... time for you to go and time for the next farang with too much cash to spend

 

If you have any understanding about how Thai woman end up working in bars, you may appreciate that the truth is that many do come from poor villages and leave their kids behind for months at a time whilst sourcing work in undesirable occupations. As for Thai men not looking after their off spring after having a night of jollies, I couldn't agree more but then there are plenty of western men guilty of the same practice. A high percentage of farangs who frequent Thailand couldn't even describe a Thai village nor claim to ever setting foot in one. How then does one fully understand the dynamics of this country? Most farang sex tourists couldn't care less. Ignorance is bliss and suffering from an overdose of testosterone is easily compensated at a 1000 Baht which is why some of these scams exist. You cannot blanket every Thai man a sufferer of poor morals. That is just sheer ignorance that should be quickly identified as false.

 

I didn't marry and divorce a Thai bar girl but one who did have an occupation beyond the sex industry and as any good husband would do, I accepted her children as my own and took on the father role. You can't say I will marry you "Sweet heart" and ignore the fact that your new wife and her kids aren't a package deal. Whilst I am not happy with my marriage failure, I don't see the need to go out and abuse other woman because of theirs whether it was one recognised by a Buddha village ceremony or registered at any of Thailand's numerous Amphur's .

 

I have lived long enough in Thailand to have witnessed the good, the bad and the blatantly obvious. If the OP wishes to ignore some good advice from other members who can speak from experience, then he is on a life path of his own. Thailand is a central hub of Asia for many things. Business, enterprise, sex tourism and yes, scams. 

 

Next time Pattaya News throws up a story about a farang committing suicide from a tenth floor balcony, may be questioning how he got to the ground floor just might be in order. Whilst the report could suggest "Drunk with no sign of struggle" the reality might just be the farang had a helping hand over the railing for being a butterfly or missing one of the primary monetary payments some of these woman think they deserve in order to maintain a relationship based on so called love.. T.I.T. 

[dannyshin]

this is a scam i think...seen it done many times before...she gets a guy from the internet,,and they all play along..the thai guy dont mind her doing it..ITS MONEY..he will tolerate it as he will get a share...dont forget while she is playing away he will have is GIKS..
 
time to pull the chain..it aint going no where...

My advice avoid isaan and Lanna women, as you would find many scammer among them. I heard Siam and Chinese Thai (even thai Malay women if you convert to Islam) among the most sincere women. But it is difficult as these women rarely speak English. I suggest if we take little effort to learn English, we can find honest one.

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[mrmarkbkk1]

Turn and run as fast as you can. Do not look back - if you do not follow this advice exactly, you are destined 100% guaranteed to leave Thailand in emotional and financial ruin. Just sayin.


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[TheRascal]

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There are many good Thai women different categories. Siam Thai (Central and southern people) = 26 million, isaan = 22 million, lanna = 6 million, thai Chinese = 9 million, Thai Malays = 3.2 million. Others non Thai people = less than million. But I find most scammer women (90%) being isaan and Lanna women. Even though there may be good women too

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this is a scam i think...seen it done many times before...she gets a guy from the internet,,and they all play along..the thai guy dont mind her doing it..ITS MONEY..he will tolerate it as he will get a share...dont forget while she is playing away he will have is GIKS..
 
time to pull the chain..it aint going no where...

My advice avoid isaan and Lanna women, as you would find many scammer among them. I heard Siam and Chinese Thai (even thai Malay women if you convert to Islam) among the most sincere women. But it is difficult as these women rarely speak English. I suggest if we take little effort to learn English, we can find honest one.

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I don't know what kind of women you spend most of your time around but I assure you most are not scammers. And where you get the idea that most Thai Chinese don't speak English I have no idea. 

 

You got scammed by your ex wife, get over it and stop tarring all Thai women with the same brush. If Thai women are so bad stay in Canada and find yourself a Canadian women - your constant negativity is tiring.

 

It's not hard to find a decent Thai woman, but if you only look online, obsess about wanting to date Thai Chinese and spend most of your time on TV moaning about how most Thai women are scammers it's not going to be easy. Tip for you - decent women want a decent man, not a negative moaner who boasts about spending less than the average Thai per month on their apartment. 

[kemjira]