classic boy meets girl with limited language skills.

[ajarnyai]

I've been in thailand for a few years, and I can speak good basic Thai. I'm wondering what you all think about a farang chatting up a girl you met in a store or on a park bench.

Let's say there's mutual physical attraction, you're both real adults (late 20's or 30's), and you both have something in common to talk about. Let's say you both have dogs. You can talk about the color, size and general temperament of the dogs etc. Generally, would date follow?

At home, that sounds like it would be easy to at least get a phone number, and have a coffee or something, but my friends nor I have had that experience. People we work with or friends of a friend... sure, but not the random spontaneous connection.

Do Thais do that with Thais? Is language and culture fear a big obstacle in this chance meeting? I'm not looking for advice, but would like to hear the stories. Successes and failures alike.

Thanks guys,

Edited May 6, 2014 by ajarnyai

[Thaiberius]

You say you've lived in Thailand for years? Thai women aren't aliens, even though they may sometimes seem like it. Of course you can ask them on dates, it happens all the time. I've taken girls out from my condo block, hotel, in the bank etc etc over the years. Just smile and ask, never been knocked back and I'm not a young handsome man. We generally go for dinner, to a sky bar when in Bangkok or a walk around. It's nice and it's what males and females do.

[wprime]

Yes you can do that here.

[HeavyDrinker]

I've been in thailand for a few years, and I can speak good basic Thai

Do Thais do that with Thais?

Surely better to ask your male Thai pals or colleagues? Some of the gloops on here will have you on Thai Friendly looking for 'quality' women....

[Om85]

Mate, dont think to much about it, jusk ask for her number, if she gives it to ya that means that she is interested in ya

I do that all da time, and dont b shy, the worse thing that ya can get from a chick is an slap and

there is nothing t b ashamed of

[ajarnyai]

You say you've lived in Thailand for years? Thai women aren't aliens, even though they may sometimes seem like it. Of course you can ask them on dates, it happens all the time. I've taken girls out from my condo block, hotel, in the bank etc etc over the years. Just smile and ask, never been knocked back and I'm not a young handsome man. We generally go for dinner, to a sky bar when in Bangkok or a walk around. It's nice and it's what males and females do.

I've been here for 4 years. I've never had this experience. I'm not shy or anything. I guess, I've been "lucky" with ladies that are around me on a consistent basis. Again, I was just wondering what the first meeting stories were, and a little discussion on why you might think it went the way it did.

I move around a lot, so I don't have many Thai friends I can ask about this (limited Thai), but it's been said that friend of a friend is the standard. Especially, when there's there's mid-range language skills involved.....Your thoughts?

[star kicker]

my mate speaks thai and regularly approaches random women in parks, shops and bus stops attempting to chat them up.

he's fairly thick skinned and seems totally unaware of the discomfort, embarrassment and occasionally outright fear he regularly causes.

i've been with him when he sees a girl he likes and just steams right in. i see her body language and the look in her eyes and its clear she is not up for it and wants him to go away.

i advise him to wait until a girl has shown interest in him first with eye contact or a smile but he cant seem to stop himself when he sees a nice looking girl.

i dont think its a thai thing, i dont think its a good idea to randomly approach and try to chat up women in any country

and... he's not that successful.

[I Like Thai]

You say you've lived in Thailand for years? Thai women aren't aliens, even though they may sometimes seem like it. Of course you can ask them on dates, it happens all the time. I've taken girls out from my condo block, hotel, in the bank etc etc over the years. Just smile and ask, never been knocked back and I'm not a young handsome man. We generally go for dinner, to a sky bar when in Bangkok or a walk around. It's nice and it's what males and females do.

I've been here for 4 years. I've never had this experience. I'm not shy or anything. I guess, I've been "lucky" with ladies that are around me on a consistent basis. Again, I was just wondering what the first meeting stories were, and a little discussion on why you might think it went the way it did.

I move around a lot, so I don't have many Thai friends I can ask about this (limited Thai), but it's been said that friend of a friend is the standard. Especially, when there's there's mid-range language skills involved.....Your thoughts?

I've been in thailand for a few years, and I can speak good basic Thai.

Which one is it ?

[NancyL]

It's one thing to be walking your dog in the park and to start talking with another person also walking a dog. Great ice breaker. It's quite another just to plop down next to someone who is quietly using her smartphone alone on a bench and strike up a conversation.

I sometimes eat lunch alone at the food court at a mall near our condo. Almost always a young lone Thai woman on her lunch break will ask to join me -- an older western woman. Not to talk, just to sit at the same table. They're trying to avoid the older western guys who cruise around the food court, looking for young Thai women who were unfortunate enough to have to eat lunch without friends. Yes, I too have the seen look of terror in their faces when some old white guy (remember this is Chiang Mai, all the white guys at this mall are old) sits down at their table and strikes up a conversation.

Edited May 6, 2014 by NancyL

[arthurwait]

[HeavyDrinker]

my mate speaks thai and regularly approaches random women in parks, shops and bus stops attempting to chat them up.

he's fairly thick skinned and seems totally unaware of the discomfort, embarrassment and occasionally outright fear he regularly causes.

i've been with him when he sees a girl he likes and just steams right in. i see her body language and the look in her eyes and its clear she is not up for it and wants him to go away.

i advise him to wait until a girl has shown interest in him first with eye contact or a smile but he cant seem to stop himself when he sees a nice looking girl.

i dont think its a thai thing, i dont think its a good idea to randomly approach and try to chat up women in any country

and... he's not that successful.

Sounds like he's heading for a 'float' down the local canal or an imrpomptu 'meeting' with a gang of locals down a dark alley when he tries chatting up the wife/GF of a local big wig/copper or nutter. You seem a bit more aware than he is. maybe you should have a chat with him before he comes unstuck.

[fatdrunkandstupid]

I was walking on the beach last week. I met a thai girl, mid twenties, who was a doctor in genetics from Had Jai. We had a moment and exchanged numbers. She had good English.

[ajarnyai]

You say you've lived in Thailand for years? Thai women aren't aliens, even though they may sometimes seem like it. Of course you can ask them on dates, it happens all the time. I've taken girls out from my condo block, hotel, in the bank etc etc over the years. Just smile and ask, never been knocked back and I'm not a young handsome man. We generally go for dinner, to a sky bar when in Bangkok or a walk around. It's nice and it's what males and females do.

I've been here for 4 years. I've never had this experience. I'm not shy or anything. I guess, I've been "lucky" with ladies that are around me on a consistent basis. Again, I was just wondering what the first meeting stories were, and a little discussion on why you might think it went the way it did.

I move around a lot, so I don't have many Thai friends I can ask about this (limited Thai), but it's been said that friend of a friend is the standard. Especially, when there's there's mid-range language skills involved.....Your thoughts?

I've been in thailand for a few years, and I can speak good basic Thai.

Which one is it ?

Both, as I said. Any other questions?

[ajarnyai]

I think I made a mistake in using the term "chatting up". Some of you seem to think this is a "how to" question on getting a Thai girlfriend. Sorry, it's more of a "how I met your mother; fun story" question with a light dose of "analysis".

I met a guy a in Laos from Sudan, he said "a relative usually I introduces the couple and they go from there".

Both are probably true here in Thailand, but what have you English speakers experienced?

[marko kok prong]

You could always try this old chestnut, say you were Italian;

You' i say you look very nice do you have any italian in you"

she"no"

you" would you like some"

[Andre0720]

No need for any preamble..

Just ask for her phone number....

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Caw jai tur, lairk burr tor!

My heart wants your phone number.

You can't mispronounce it, cos it's a famous song that every Thai girl knows.

[bigbamboo]

Boys and girls with limited language skills getting together shouldn't be a problem. Happens all the time in Scotland.

[trainman34014]

Errrr; excuse me. Real Adults at 20-30 years old ? The majority of 'Young Women' in Thailand in that age group act like 12-17 year old's for the most part !

As for the Thai young men....well, lets just not go there.

[marko kok prong]

Errrr; excuse me. Real Adults at 20-30 years old ? The majority of 'Young Women' in Thailand in that age group act like 12-17 year old's for the most part !

As for the Thai young men....well, lets just not go there.

But they have the smalls dicks,c'mon Trainman give them some slack.

[shadmo63]

Caw jai tur, lairk burr tor!

My heart wants your phone number.

You can't mispronounce it, cos it's a famous song that every Thai girl knows.

Surely every Thai boy and every farang knows lovely Ying Lee too?

[ggt]

How old are you? You still need dating advice? Just do it!

[NoshowJones]

my mate speaks thai and regularly approaches random women in parks, shops and bus stops attempting to chat them up.

he's fairly thick skinned and seems totally unaware of the discomfort, embarrassment and occasionally outright fear he regularly causes.

i've been with him when he sees a girl he likes and just steams right in. i see her body language and the look in her eyes and its clear she is not up for it and wants him to go away.

i advise him to wait until a girl has shown interest in him first with eye contact or a smile but he cant seem to stop himself when he sees a nice looking girl.

i dont think its a thai thing, i dont think its a good idea to randomly approach and try to chat up women in any country

and... he's not that successful.

Would that not be because he is overweight, tattooed, wearing shorts and has facial hair.

[NoshowJones]

my mate speaks thai and regularly approaches random women in parks, shops and bus stops attempting to chat them up.

he's fairly thick skinned and seems totally unaware of the discomfort, embarrassment and occasionally outright fear he regularly causes.

i've been with him when he sees a girl he likes and just steams right in. i see her body language and the look in her eyes and its clear she is not up for it and wants him to go away.

i advise him to wait until a girl has shown interest in him first with eye contact or a smile but he cant seem to stop himself when he sees a nice looking girl.

i dont think its a thai thing, i dont think its a good idea to randomly approach and try to chat up women in any country

and... he's not that successful.

Would that not be because he is overweight, tattooed, wearing shorts and has facial hair. Oh, and does not have a fat wallet.

[Suradit69]

I'm wondering what you all think about a farang chatting up a girl you met in a store or on a park bench.

Why oh why would you ever pose this question to total strangers (many of whom put the "strange" in strangers) on a forum populated by seemingly scores (a popular word here at TV when reporting disasters recently) of bitter old dears whose skills with women generally and Thai women in particular go way beyond the typical meanings of bungling & "socially-challenged?"

[lucifer666]

Just ask her mate, I have never been refused a phone number yet ( Or a date for that matter), ( and i'm getting on a bit lol)

I sort of understand some of the earlier posts ( being from the UK) some ladies ( In the Uk and Usa) would either slap you or call for their huge boyfriends if you asked for a tel no. I have never seen a Thai girl do that, Now, she may not answer when you call, or a guy may answer, so what!, Plenty more fish in the sea (I'm a diver, go figure lol).

Edited May 6, 2014 by lucifer666

[ajarnyai]

How old are you? You still need dating advice? Just do it!

I guess you missed the end of the OP where I said I wasn't looking for advice.

[ajarnyai]

I'm wondering what you all think about a farang chatting up a girl you met in a store or on a park bench.

Why oh why would you ever pose this question to total strangers (many of whom put the "strange" in strangers) on a forum populated by seemingly scores (a popular word here at TV when reporting disasters recently) of bitter old dears whose skills with women generally and Thai women in particular go way beyond the typical meanings of bungling & "socially-challenged?"

Thought it might make for an interesting conversation, but I wasn't very optimistic about getting any good stories. Also, today's my day off, and I was bored.

[marko kok prong]

I'm wondering what you all think about a farang chatting up a girl you met in a store or on a park bench.

Why oh why would you ever pose this question to total strangers (many of whom put the "strange" in strangers) on a forum populated by seemingly scores (a popular word here at TV when reporting disasters recently) of bitter old dears whose skills with women generally and Thai women in particular go way beyond the typical meanings of bungling & "socially-challenged?"

Oh here we go again,i guess you must now be on the top floor of your ivory tower,looking down on us scum,how does it feel ,or maybe you are the bitter one,sure seems like it from your posts,but of course you sir are so normal and decent,you have to bore the rest of us about it.

[marko kok prong]

I'm wondering what you all think about a farang chatting up a girl you met in a store or on a park bench.

Why oh why would you ever pose this question to total strangers (many of whom put the "strange" in strangers) on a forum populated by seemingly scores (a popular word here at TV when reporting disasters recently) of bitter old dears whose skills with women generally and Thai women in particular go way beyond the typical meanings of bungling & "socially-challenged?"

Thought it might make for an interesting conversation, but I wasn't very optimistic about getting any good stories. Also, today's my day off, and I was bored.

Dont worry mate,this bloke has his head so far up his own **** he has not seen daylight for many a long year.