Getting engaged whilst still married

[y2k]

Currently working through divorce but is it possible to get engaged whilst I am still married?

[glegolo]

What a strange question?? Of course, get her a ring, put it on her finge,r and promise that you shall marry her,,,

And it´s done..... See  how easy it was!!!

 

Glegolo

[kingstonkid]

Not one of the more insightful questions.

 

Just be careful asking the question means you have a contract and she will demand you fulfill it.

[ThaidDown]

Nothing legally to stop you but not knowing your personal circumstances may I ask if your current wife knows of the existence of the future one?

 

If she does then no problem but if she does not then some soon to be divorced wives can throw serious wobblies on hearing such news.

 

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[MJCM]

OP I think that many Tv members get engaged every single day (even while still married) but next morning they forget all about it (I heard that this happens a lot in Soi 6)

:D


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[y2k]

I have every intention to remarry but am concerned that the divorce will drag on. Meanwhile the gf is eager to move to the next level as am I. Just worried about legalities. Appreciate all advice.

[MJCM]

I have every intention to remarry but am concerned that the divorce will drag on. Meanwhile the gf is eager to move to the next level as am I. Just worried about legalities. Appreciate all advice.

Engagement is just a formality and isn't legally binding, its IMHO the same as the village wedding and the official wedding at the Amphur, the 1st one is also not legally binding.

Get engaged (give her the ring, have a party etc etc) but only get married if your divorce is final else you are a bigamist ;)


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[y2k]

That was what I first thought but I'm clueless about Thai laws so felt compelled to ask here.

[godden]

Out of the pan into the fire comes to mind, perhaps you need to seek help

[MJCM]

Its the same as in the Western world, but the only thing what could be different is how the Thai Girl will react if you break off the engagement, I hope you are prepared for that :D


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[asdecas]

That was what I first thought but I'm clueless about Thai laws so felt compelled to ask here.

 

Dubb'n hansum man!

[y2k]

Oh here we go and out come the riff raff with nothing constructive to say but to shoot down any mention of serious relationships. Get a life.

[Bulldozer Dawn]

out of the frying pan and

[BadBouy]

Out of the pan into the fire comes to mind, perhaps you need to seek help

 

You cynical man this one is different!

[y2k]

out of the frying pan and

Copy and paste if you have trouble thinking.

[Just1Voice]

Getting divorced and wanting to get engaged.  Some people just never seem to learn from life's lessons.

[nithisa78]

Out of the pan into the fire comes to mind, perhaps you need to seek help

Indeed, long term. drunks give having a drink bad name. this craps all over the vows of Holy matrimony. best of life and luck. 

[Baerboxer]

Oh here we go and out come the riff raff with nothing constructive to say but to shoot down any mention of serious relationships. Get a life.

 

Ignore the saddos mate. Go for it. I did.

 

Got engaged in Thailand whilst still married although separated for several years. Went back, agreed a divorce with the ex - she was fine as long as I paid all the costs and did all the running around. 

 

Never forget the look on my solicitors face - nice lady, when I told her we'd arranged the new wedding for the 4th January. (Lady lawyers do swear as well  ).

 

Anyway she and her staff did a wonderful job. My decree absolute was dated the 2nd December and duly got married on the 4th Jan.

 

A lot depends if your ex will be willing to co-operate without taking you to the cleaners. Play it cool.

 

I have been married longer and a lot more happily to my Thai wife than the English one.

 

Best wishes and best of luck.

[Frank James]

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[ggt]

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Oh here we go and out come the riff raff with nothing constructive to say but to shoot down any mention of serious relationships. Get a life.

 

Not only rich and handsome...but full of pee and vinegar also...a great guy...your new love will never trust you...make sure your stomach is butcher knife proof...

[y2k]

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Oh here we go and out come the riff raff with nothing constructive to say but to shoot down any mention of serious relationships. Get a life.

 

Not only rich and handsome...but full of pee and vinegar also...a great guy...your new love will never trust you...make sure your stomach is butcher knife proof...

Troll.

[Emster23]

Marry in haste, repent at leisure.

 Here's some slightly constructive statements: are you nuts? What is the bloody hurry? Are you addicted to being married? Did the last marriage mean as much to you as last years fashion? Normal people go through a period of grieving and adjusting to a life without the ex. Good or bad, it takes time. What went wrong with the last marriage, and more importantly, what did you do (or not do) that led to the divorce. Has your behavior and outlook changed? You will be "on the rebound" whether you believe it or not. And please don't say "this one is different". Are you? Have you grown from the experience enough so that you won't be a "serial spouse" unless that is what you want...

[MJCM]

^ what about for the simple reason. He loves her ? And he thinks she is the one? Should he let her slip away? And maybe loose the love of his life?


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[y2k]

Marry in haste, repent at leisure.

 Here's some slightly constructive statements: are you nuts? What is the bloody hurry? Are you addicted to being married? Did the last marriage mean as much to you as last years fashion? Normal people go through a period of grieving and adjusting to a life without the ex. Good or bad, it takes time. What went wrong with the last marriage, and more importantly, what did you do (or not do) that led to the divorce. Has your behavior and outlook changed? You will be "on the rebound" whether you believe it or not. And please don't say "this one is different". Are you? Have you grown from the experience enough so that you won't be a "serial spouse" unless that is what you want...

Sorry if I was implying that I was looking for advice on my personal relationships then I wasn't.

Stick with the title and gist of my OP please.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Why not have a village wedding.
Some girls have one every year (usually to foreigners).
No need to wait for a divorce.

[spacemand]

Can't current wife sue GF?

Can't it effect the divorce proceedings?

 

I know my GF refused to play hide the salami until she knew my divorce were final and were worried my ex knew about me seeing her.

 

[MJCM]

Can't current wife sue GF?
Can't it effect the divorce proceedings?
 
I know my GF refused to play hide the salami until she knew my divorce were final and were worried my ex knew about me seeing her.
 

It could of course affect it,but IMHO only if you have a fightin' divorce. The Ex could of course dislike the fact that you already have a "a new love of your life", while she is still miserable. And why your GF doesn't want to play the game "hide the ....." Is something that you have ask her and not members on TV :D


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[Tony125]

TROL POST___ Mr Y2K same poster of "My Thai G/F wants me to buy her a house " fame  who 98% of TV responders said "Don't do it"  You don't lisen or care for remarks that don't agree with you like when someone said "you can't be that stupid" and you reply "you don't know how stupid I am" just baiting replies. One good thing about the new Thai Visa Lounge that has just opened TROLS won't be showing up exposing their identities unless they can prove some of their BS stories.

[Emster23]

If you look up Thai law (as I did when getting a divorce due to wife wanting to meet this guy and "See where it goes") I know it says if a man knowingly engages in adulterous conduct with a  married woman, he can be liable for damages. Don't know if it applies to both goose and gander. I think it is best to clean up one mess before making another....

[GOLDBUGGY]

Without knowing all the facts the best answer to your question is "Yes" and "No".

 

If you don't have a Legal Separation from your current wife, you are considered by Law to still be Legally Married. As such, Married Men don't get engaged to other women. If you wife found out, she could take you to the Cleaners in a Divorce Court. It is bad enough when you stand to lose 50% as it is, but adding extra Alimony for your wife would make it so much more unpleasant.

 

I guess just getting Engaged does not necessarily mean you are have sex with your Fiancee. But to be honest and if I was your Judge at this Divorce Hearing you would have a hard time convincing me that you were not up to some funny business. At any rate I would certainly understand why your wife is seeking a Divorce and I would side with her. Which is something you don't want any Judge to do. So keep things quiet and don't get Engaged until you are Legally Separated.

 

If you have a Legal Separation then it is no problem getting Engaged. A Legal Separation entitles you to live as a Single Man and do to whatever you want, except getting remarried. DO NOT tell your current wife anything about you even having a girlfriend let alone you want to get married again. I never met or even heard of a woman who easily gave up a Divorce when it was not her who wanted it, or she did not have a good reason to do so. So if she wanted to she could drag your Divorce on for many years.  

 

Having a Woman who treats you nice, doesn't Bitch at you for anything you do, is half your wife's age, and has a body of a Teenage Girl, might be a good reason for you to seek a Divorce from your current wife. But it certainly is not a good reason for your wife to give you one. It is a good reason for her to fight you in court and try to get extra money out of you. For sure dragging the Divorce on for many years. So let her find out on Face Book after the Divorce, and like my last X-wife did.

 

A Word Of Caution if your current wife won't give you a Divorce. Don't withhold Child Support Payments to try and punish her, as this will come back to haunt you later. But also don't get remarried until you are Divorce. Being married to 2 women at the same time (Bigamy) in most countries is considered a Crime Against Humanity". Which means if you got married in Thailand you could be charged for this crime in your home country.

 

In all my life I only knew of one case of a local guy I knew personally who ever got charged with this. Surprisingly he was giver a stiff Jail Sentence. So your chances of getting caught are probably slim. But with the Computer Age now, and more and more countries sharing information these days, I wouldn't chance it! So if you do things legally you won't have to spend the rest of your life looking over your shoulder.   

 

Good Luck.