why oh why do we do it?!

[tingtongtourist]

No doubt every woman of any nationality will want security when marrying/committing to guy but this Thai situation its to outrageous for words.

Thai woman not only want foriegners to take care of all living expenses but expect to profit as well..and get free houses, cars ect

who can blame them tho?

so many woman have multiple stupid farangans overseas sending money for clothes for someone elses baby..send chocolate, sweets. Buy school uniform for kids..And all is BS.

SO..thai father of kid not expected to contribute to his own?

As usual is lies again as many fathers do contribute,only they will not tell you this,hoping to get more out of you

Then will come requests for gold,Money to fix house ect ect and it becomes never ending!

When you say no you will get the childish silent treatment..and then anger

When will we realise we are beig made a fool of?

So many guys dont learn. They go on thaifriendly and find more of the same woman..only twice as more skilled and devious as there perfect english skills has come from duping farangs time after time!!

wake up you guys..if a woman not interested in you from thafriendly it means they know you are not rich or too smart that they cannot con money out of you

Then theres the stupid guys who give once and think its only a small amount but you give money one time and it will never stop.

Marriage even worse, they sweet and demure first but whem married then come request for bulk money time after time. Who wants to stay with a person like this? Your only purpose to them is a walking ATM.

Beware..do not get involved. My richest happiest thai mates are educated in USA,even they will say .go rent girl once/twice per month and enjoy many carefree years savings 10s of 1000s of baht instead of getting involved in thai families who really do not respect you as a person and care for you as much as a piece of soi dogs poo poo!

Take this advice: stay single in thailand and enjoy many carefree happy years spending YOUR OWN hard earned money on YOU!

Why give to these people who have no respect and just ask for free money time after time? I dont get it why do we do it???????

[KhunBENQ]

And what has this life coaching (#256428764 if I counted right ) to do in the Thai language forum?

Edited March 6, 2015 by KhunBENQ

[angiolo]

Why do old ugly guys believe < Me luv you so mush > Well I am more street wise,so when gf becomes too expensive I say goodby and get another good looking actress

[Jai Dee]

Topic moved to Expat Life forum.

/Moved.

[tingtongtourist]

Why do old ugly guys believe < Me luv you so mush > Well I am more street wise,so when gf becomes too expensive I say goodby and get another good looking actress

Dont think to many old guys would actually believe the "i luv yoo to mutt" thing..cannot be that silly surely?

What i am talking about is a situation maybe guy is 40-50 who would consider settling here with normal thai girl around same age or younger and be able to have a good life

but unfortunately greed gets the better of them.

The situation you talk about i seen many times to,only when they find you havent got money, or at least are not prepared to spend at will..they will run and then you try your game on another

[96tehtarp]

Thai ladies come in all flavours, some are money grubbers and some are not. Proper selection is the key. Caveat Emptor.

[ttthailand]

Best advise is to just have fun and don't fall in love.... I repeat " don't fall in love". Once they got your heart many will drain you dry. Also, don't ever let them move in ...

[tingtongtourist]

Sadly, but probably luckily, i find it impossible to fall in love with those ive met here. Things go great for a while and then....

not worth it in my opinion, better to stay single

[tingtongtourist]

Ive heard this term เพื่ออะไร (pua arai?) When thais talk about a thai girls who stay with farangs that have little money or dont pay them every month..why you stay with him? They ask

Well its easy to come back for me.. pua arai ..why would i stay with thai lady that dont want to be married, probably cos already married and lie about it..so cannot help me with visa situation..does not offer anything to the relationship at all rather than the 1 thing.

meanwhile i have to go without the things i like because financing her lifestyle and still not happy as she still always has her hand out.

pua arai indeed!

[Soutpeel]

Proper selection is the key. Caveat Emptor.

you mean like one would select a race horse or a dog you mean ?

[Bernard Flint]

SIR

TINGTONG

is a vey good name for you

[tingtongtourist]

SIR

TINGTONG

is a vey good name for you

nice contribution

Strange an allknowing allwise superior being such as yourself cant offer anything of substence only a one liner

[Bangkokhatter]

I should feel sorry for people like you who only seem to meet gold digging ladies, but I just don't. Not hard to meet a decent lady here, oh and can you stop tarring everyone with your same soiled brush.

[Swiss1960]

Ive heard this term เพื่ออะไร (pua arai?) When thais talk about a thai girls who stay with farangs that have little money or dont pay them every month..why you stay with him? They ask

Well its easy to come back for me.. pua arai ..why would i stay with thai lady that dont want to be married, probably cos already married and lie about it..so cannot help me with visa situation..does not offer anything to the relationship at all rather than the 1 thing.

meanwhile i have to go without the things i like because financing her lifestyle and still not happy as she still always has her hand out.

pua arai indeed!

First I just thought that you are probably not too clever since you seem to always meet the "wrong" ladies....

but now... you write "so cannot help me with visa situation"... so YOU obviously want something from the lady... so why should SHE not be rewarded for helping you?

quid pro quo... ting for tong...

[marko kok prong]

Not every Thai lady is the same ,my wife is wonderful,and has often gone out of her way to help me,sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife,sure you can be on your own,some people like that,most don't,i know i prefer to have a proper relationship,of course we always have posters that say 'rent don't buy',but really does that not get a little tiresome,for myself i think my wife is the nicest lady i have met.

[siamod]

I don´t like to buy and i don´t like to rent as well. Maybe I am a completely kineau. I think I would like to stay here with a nice western woman. Sounds strange?

[tingtongtourist]

I don´t like to buy and i don´t like to rent as well. Maybe I am a completely kineau. I think I would like to stay here with a nice western woman. Sounds strange?

not at all. After knowing both i am starting to gravitate towards western myself if not just for the want of having an adult/adult relationship.

Same ole crew with the same old MO..slurs and saying im not that bright ect

im happy for the poster who has a great wife. Nice to see your positive story instead of the others that are probably in crappy situations but are in denial so they gotta run others down

[tingtongtourist]

Ive heard this term เพื่ออะไร (pua arai?) When thais talk about a thai girls who stay with farangs that have little money or dont pay them every month..why you stay with him? They ask

Well its easy to come back for me.. pua arai ..why would i stay with thai lady that dont want to be married, probably cos already married and lie about it..so cannot help me with visa situation..does not offer anything to the relationship at all rather than the 1 thing.

meanwhile i have to go without the things i like because financing her lifestyle and still not happy as she still always has her hand out.

pua arai indeed!

First I just thought that you are probably not too clever since you seem to always meet the "wrong" ladies....

but now... you write "so cannot help me with visa situation"... so YOU obviously want something from the lady... so why should SHE not be rewarded for helping you?

quid pro quo... ting for tong...

i been with the same girl nearly 5 years but not married, so not always meeting the wrong ones as you say.

my argument of what she has given to relationship comes after years of me giving without thought of how it was all one way.

I provide as a husband would yet have no security and also have to pay 30k a time for school fees + visa runs extensions and fees to stay here..again what for? Only to be pestered for money.

After 4+ years of providing and many donations i do not feel unreasonable in wanting marriage and visa in exchange for all ive given

[Cypress Hill]

sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

[tingtongtourist]

sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

yes and well we should be reminded that in normal marriages and typical thai/thai marriages both partners work..yet if its a fatang/thai its a ticket to riches and a life of privellege.

The eastern cultures will get a shock as economies weaken and currencies shrink..the free money will also shrink.

what long term foriegners Prayuth doesnt drive out with his old school policies the chrashing of certain currencies certainly will

[rabid old goat]

these posters who come on here saying they are happy with their thai wife are the same people who bring you these thai dating sites. they make money from your gullibility.

[marko kok prong]

sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

I see you have crawled out again,with your warped views,surely one should support one's wife,in every facet possible,possibly i would suggest you are not married,but if you are i feel sorry for your wife.

[marko kok prong]

these posters who come on here saying they are happy with their thai wife are the same people who bring you these thai dating sites. they make money from your gullibility.

You made more sense with your rambling post about plums,stick to fruit if i were you.

[BKResort]

Again....

In any place in the world there are good women and bad women. No exceptions!

If you do look in the right places, you do know what you do wants and stick with that without compromising, you do have enough experience in know very fast what kind of woman you got, you are direct and sincere and you do not waste time with the wrong ones, you are confident enough to approach EVERY woman you think it is what you wants, you may be a smart guy, and..yes...some will reject you because you do not have enough money..and some ...because they...have a lot more money or brain than you! Believe it!

Thailand is full of gold diggers women, and full of wonderful women. Full of farangs too, losers and winners.

Something good about your posting?...Yes......At least you do know what kind of farang are you.

Edited March 6, 2015 by BKResort

[Soutpeel]

sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

yes and well we should be reminded that in normal marriages

dear oh dear, my parents have been married for 50 odd years and my mother hasn't worked for 45 of those years, my first marriage to a western lady lasted 15 years and she never worked for 14 of those

and why ? in both cases they didn't need to, so yes lets discuss normal marriages shall we..

in both cases they always received house keeping money, so one sincerely hope that your not suggesting either my mother or my ex-wife were somehow involved in activities if ill repute somehow or were gold diggers ?

suggest you grow up little boy and stop trying to lecture people on what is "normal"

[Cypress Hill]

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sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

I see you have crawled out again,with your warped views,surely one should support one's wife,in every facet possible,possibly i would suggest you are not married,but if you are i feel sorry for your wife.

What's warped about pointing out that your comment is seriously old-fashioned? It is and, as the OP rightly pointed out, in most Thai marriages, both men and women work.

Seems like it's more often the mixed marriages where the women become serial layabouts on an "allowance"

[Soutpeel]

in most Thai marriages, both men and women work.

Seems like it's more often the mixed marriages where the women become serial layabouts on an "allowance"

Funny that statistic, at personal level I must know at least 50 odd married Thai couples and at a guess I would say at least 50% of the women don't work, so lets discuss most Thai marriages shall we, and you can impart us with your knowledge of all things Thai

Edited March 6, 2015 by Soutpeel

[tingtongtourist]

sure i support her,but is that not what a husband is meant to do for his wife

Yeah sure. . . if he lives in a time warp

yes and well we should be reminded that in normal marriages

dear oh dear, my parents have been married for 50 odd years and my mother hasn't worked for 45 of those years, my first marriage to a western lady lasted 15 years and she never worked for 14 of those

and why ? in both cases they didn't need to, so yes lets discuss normal marriages shall we..

in both cases they always received house keeping money, so one sincerely hope that your not suggesting either my mother or my ex-wife were somehow involved in activities if ill repute somehow or were gold diggers ?

suggest you grow up little boy and stop trying to lecture people on what is "normal"

I can get your point. My grandparents were married 60 years and grandmother never worked but had a fulltime job rareing 8 kids. But those were the good old days. Now you read household debt in nearly every country is going through the roof, so maybe best to describe the typical marriage of a median working age.

Still my point was lost on you..that a lot of thai woman expect not to work just because they are married to a farang.

I suspect many guys on here are well off enough to live a good life without the wife working..good for them.

but if the tables turned and the retirement/share fund took a bit hit, how many thai wives would hang around and actually help support? and how many would be off to find a new farang i wonder?

[CharlieH]

Looking like another venom spitting contest, closure on the horizon if you cant control it.

[Cypress Hill]

in most Thai marriages, both men and women work.

Seems like it's more often the mixed marriages where the women become serial layabouts on an "allowance"

Funny that statistic, at personal level I must know at least 50 odd married Thai couples and at a guess I would say at least 50% of the women don't work, so lets discuss most Thai marriages shall we, and you can impart us with your knowledge of all things Thai

Knows "50 odd" Thai couples; presents himself as a credible source of statistical data

Only on Thaivisa

My "most" statement is based on nothing more than the fact that most households live on little money.

This requires that both partners work to bring in as much money as possible. Full employment across the kingdom makes that possible.

I'm certainly not daft enough to nail my colours to an argument that has "50-odd" couples as its foundation

Edited March 6, 2015 by Cypress Hill