Thai wife has moved out.

[Patron]

I moved out on my own when I was 17yrs old,I cannot dream of living with Mom.

My wonderful Thai wife would leave me I think if we moved in with Mom and I

would not blame her. 46yrs old living with Mom.......WOW.

My wife worked 75 hours last week as a Thai chef in the states,about half her

money goes to Thailand for our home and the other half is spent on living expenses.

Myself...I work,work work.

YOU,,,,,Mum what's for dinner...I'm hungry........LOL

You let your wife work 75 hours a week? I thought they had abolished slavery in the USA

She loves it,working with a bunch of other Thai girls.They are like family to her.

You are right,I"ve tired to tell her to take some time off.She loves the big money.

[Patron]

I moved out on my own when I was 17yrs old,I cannot dream of living with Mom.

My wonderful Thai wife would leave me I think if we moved in with Mom and I

would not blame her. 46yrs old living with Mom.......WOW.

My wife worked 75 hours last week as a Thai chef in the states,about half her

money goes to Thailand for our home and the other half is spent on living expenses.

Myself...I work,work work.

YOU,,,,,Mum what's for dinner...I'm hungry........LOL

You let your wife work 75 hours a week? I thought they had abolished slavery in the USA

Not in the deep south where he lives!

Deep south? How about 150 miles south of the Canadian border.

[steve187]

I can only say life is a book made of chapters, it would seem you are about to start a new chapter, its tough starting afresh,

Get a job in Thailand and move there, if she chooses to follow than try again, if not well at least you know where you stand.

don't stab her in the back with immigration, ( never burn bridges) when its time for her to renew her permission to stay see what happens then.

I have been divorced/ ended long term relationships a few times, and it seems like the end of the world, but believe me it isn't, its just that new chapter starting.

good luck.

[dragonfly94]

I moved out on my own when I was 17yrs old,I cannot dream of living with Mom.

My wonderful Thai wife would leave me I think if we moved in with Mom and I

would not blame her. 46yrs old living with Mom.......WOW.

My wife worked 75 hours last week as a Thai chef in the states,about half her

money goes to Thailand for our home and the other half is spent on living expenses.

Myself...I work,work work.

YOU,,,,,Mum what's for dinner...I'm hungry........LOL

You let your wife work 75 hours a week? I thought they had abolished slavery in the USA

She loves it,working with a bunch of other Thai girls.They are like family to her.

You are right,I"ve tired to tell her to take some time off.She loves the big money.

I almost married a Thai girl from Buri Ram, now she is in Illinois working her socks off, married to a man she called the 'fat man' and said being with him was like being in prison, 'happily married' for 10 years. Money is the be all and end all with the lot of them. upps better make that most of them.

Edited March 11, 2015 by dragonfly94

[AdamRich]

So when is the celebration?

[samsensam]

the cause of your predicament is your lack of financial security. you need to find a job and work, any job, any work. my brother lost his senior management position and worked for minimum wage in a warehouse for nine months until he found another management position.

you can do the web based stuff in your free time - do you honestly spend a full days work on it 5 days a week and its showing promise?

financial security will enable you to rent your own property, give you independence and more control over your life.

stop taking holidays which you cant afford and dont blame your parents, you are an adult, you need to take responsibility for your life and your wife.

good luck

[maidee]

why does your wife talk about divorce NEXT YEAR

till may 2015 she has to be GOOD and then she can get citizenship ? then file for divorce in UK, ask for half what is yours + alimony

and then go back to thailand and live the good life with your montly money supply ?

she found out that not all farang are rich, i guess...

and for my experience, NO THAI WOMAN IS HAPPY OUTSIDE OF THAILAND

[recycler]

If you come to Thailand don't make the mistake to live with her parents ;-)

[dragonfly94]

why does your wife talk about divorce NEXT YEAR

till may 2015 she has to be GOOD and then she can get citizenship ? then file for divorce in UK, ask for half what is yours + alimony

and then go back to thailand and live the good life with your montly money supply ?

she found out that not all farang are rich, i guess...

and for my experience, NO THAI WOMAN IS HAPPY OUTSIDE OF THAILAND

They are if the make enough enough. My first Thai GF still is in UK after 25 years, she's made a mint out of a marriage, restaurants and massage shops. She is an absolute C who cares for nothing except her bank balance. She never got anything out of me I'm glad to say. she shot her first husband, cheated on her second but then would never get serious again as she had more money and was scared a bloke might be entitled to some of it on break up, a real charmer.

Edited March 11, 2015 by dragonfly94

[HeijoshinCool]

I moved out on my own when I was 17yrs old,I cannot dream of living with Mom.

My wonderful Thai wife would leave me I think if we moved in with Mom and I

would not blame her. 46yrs old living with Mom.......WOW.

My wife worked 75 hours last week as a Thai chef in the states,about half her

money goes to Thailand for our home and the other half is spent on living expenses.

Myself...I work,work work.

YOU,,,,,Mum what's for dinner...I'm hungry........LOL

You let your wife work 75 hours a week? I thought they had abolished slavery in the USA

.

Not in the States. Either she is on salary, or she's making time-and-a-half.

Good money.

My wife isn't even here yet, and she's been offered three jobs with lots of overtime. She has an amazing work ethic and is excited to do it.

Unlike some of the posters here who are TrueVision couch potato pigs, whose Thai wife brings home the bacon.

[tribalfusion001]

why does your wife talk about divorce NEXT YEAR

till may 2015 she has to be GOOD and then she can get citizenship ? then file for divorce in UK, ask for half what is yours + alimony

and then go back to thailand and live the good life with your montly money supply ?

she found out that not all farang are rich, i guess...

and for my experience, NO THAI WOMAN IS HAPPY OUTSIDE OF THAILAND

You better ask her!

She can't get citizenship, she is on a 2 year visa which expires next year and cannot get another visa without me being her sponsor!

She can have half of what I've got, which is nothing...

[Patron]

why does your wife talk about divorce NEXT YEAR

till may 2015 she has to be GOOD and then she can get citizenship ? then file for divorce in UK, ask for half what is yours + alimony

and then go back to thailand and live the good life with your montly money supply ?

she found out that not all farang are rich, i guess...

and for my experience, NO THAI WOMAN IS HAPPY OUTSIDE OF THAILAND

My wife is so happy, Baht 120,000 last month. Award winning Thai chef.I know she works to many hours.

[dragonfly94]

My wife isn't even here yet, and she's been offered three jobs with lots of overtime. She has an amazing work ethic and is excited to do it.

Unlike some of the posters here who are TrueVision couch potato pigs, whose Thai wife brings home the bacon.

So would you say it's you or the employment opportunities to earn 10-20x what she could back home that has been the main attraction to relocate to another country?

Edited March 11, 2015 by dragonfly94

[dragonfly94]

You better ask her!

She can't get citizenship, she is on a 2 year visa which expires next year and cannot get another visa without me being her sponsor!

She can have half of what I've got, which is nothing...

Yeah but you know what a soft touch the UK is tribal. She might claim you were abusive etc, or get a divorce and get married straight away to another sponsor, is that possible? You don;t see them sending many in her position back home.

[maidee]

did anyone check out his site ?

http://thetravellingphase.com/about-me/

scroll down a bit and you will see his wife, still call it his wife ... she looks nice

might be that she found a new rich man in that restaurant where she works ...

Edited March 11, 2015 by maidee

[roath]

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An update. She is not allowed back in to my parents house as their are really upset that she did even say goodbye to them. The front door locks have been changed today because did not give the front door key back.

I did send her a message this morning on Line to meet up for lunch, she read the message and has not replied. I have had enough of her now with this behavior and may consider informing the Home Office about her current situation as she is legally not allowed to stay in the UK any longer.

All she has to do to secure her stay in the UK is to mention the words "abuse and threats" evidenced by changed door locks!

Much free legal advise is available to to abused and mistreated women who are locked out of their homes.

Bet she will have fun taking you to the cleaners !

That isnt correct mate. you need a lot more than that including police report etc

[mikiea]

Sorry to hear about your Situation, cannot give advice, not sure what your next move would be...

maybe wait and see if she gets in touch..

all the best

dude, .... the only way to say this is well, grow a pair & do it fast. why do you live at momma's house? because it is cheap and you are lazy? go get a job, work at mickie d's if you have to. ahhhh.....too late now, wifey gone, momma mad, quit job for vacation. me thinks your wife is in the right place. ehhh.... where is that exactly iffin ya dont mind tellin me :-)

[mikiea]

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An update. She is not allowed back in to my parents house as their are really upset that she did even say goodbye to them. The front door locks have been changed today because did not give the front door key back.

I did send her a message this morning on Line to meet up for lunch, she read the message and has not replied. I have had enough of her now with this behavior and may consider informing the Home Office about her current situation as she is legally not allowed to stay in the UK any longer.

All she has to do to secure her stay in the UK is to mention the words "abuse and threats" evidenced by changed door locks!

Much free legal advise is available to to abused and mistreated women who are locked out of their homes.

Bet she will have fun taking you to the cleaners !

That isnt correct mate. you need a lot more than that including police report etc

after she says "he slapped me around" its all over for him, she has him by the short hairs & is about to jump to the first floor. police report ? have you been under a rock the last few years? momma should of locked him out also, :-)

[catman20]

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An update. She is not allowed back in to my parents house as their are really upset that she did even say goodbye to them. The front door locks have been changed today because did not give the front door key back.

I did send her a message this morning on Line to meet up for lunch, she read the message and has not replied. I have had enough of her now with this behavior and may consider informing the Home Office about her current situation as she is legally not allowed to stay in the UK any longer.

All she has to do to secure her stay in the UK is to mention the words "abuse and threats" evidenced by changed door locks!

Much free legal advise is available to to abused and mistreated women who are locked out of their homes.

Bet she will have fun taking you to the cleaners !

It's not her home, it's my parents house. She has moved all of her things out of the house and she has not given a forwarding address. She can take me to the cleaners if she wishes, but she will receive nothing as I have nothing som nam na alt=tongue.png>

no wonder she left you ( WHAT A CATCH YOU WERE ) 46 AND GOT NOTHING I THINK UVE BEEN USED TO GET HER VISA IN THE UK

[Swiss1960]

Its not the end but gees at 40+ you should have had more sense in your living arrangments and job prospects before that long stay in Thailand.

Think its pretty clear your Thai babe sees you as a mouse, women everywhere expect there man can provide for then and here you fail badly.

Time to get proactive and off your bum start door knocking for a job, a mate of mine did this and always landed one, and while your out head to where your wife works or lives make a date with her and get that face to face contact going you have a lot of work to do to restore her faith in you.

When your wife decides to spend a month on the farm to help renovate her parents house and refused to fly on her own. I was only allowed 3 weeks holiday from the job, it didn't leave me with much choice.

Anyway time to move on, my needs come first at present.

YOUR needs? Having read what you wrote, it is your mama's needs...

what happened to the famous "in good times and in bad times"?

Get your ass out of mama's bed and tell your wife that you will support her and get yourself a job while building up your new "career"...

[ToddinChonburi]

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An update. She is not allowed back in to my parents house as their are really upset that she did even say goodbye to them. The front door locks have been changed today because did not give the front door key back.

I did send her a message this morning on Line to meet up for lunch, she read the message and has not replied. I have had enough of her now with this behavior and may consider informing the Home Office about her current situation as she is legally not allowed to stay in the UK any longer.

So your a big MAMA'S BOY No place is hiring at all, Not long before your wife finds a real man to take care of her so cut her loose and go cuddle with mommy.

[lucifer666]

let me get this straight. You married a Thai lady and took her back to the UK to live with your parents, and now you have lost your job because you had a extended holiday ?. I have to ask, are you even man enough to be wearing long trousers yet,,, i wonder.

[ToddinChonburi]

Straight out of the Obama play book, Are you still on mommy and daddy's insurance also. Mommy do your laundry and make your bed.

Time to grow up and provide for your wife.

[dragonfly94]

did anyone check out his site ?

http://thetravellingphase.com/about-me/

scroll down a bit and you will see his wife, still call it his wife ... she looks nice

might be that she found a new rich man in that restaurant where she works ...

She is very nice and not many like her around, however they are all nice, at first. You don't really know what anyone is like until you have lived with them, nice can end up being a nightmare whatever your circumstances. Sadly it's impossible to make some women happy, if you gave some of them the hope diamond they would complain about how heavy it was!

Edited March 11, 2015 by dragonfly94

[saroq]

Tough situation .Yes.

Biggest problem mate. YOUR MOTHER.

You are married to your wife, time for your mother but out ,shut up.

How many maraiges have been f....d up, because of interfering mothers? i will tell you too many!!

Biggest problem mate. YOU'RE LIVING IN YOUR PARENT'S HOME AND NOT MAKING A HOME FOR YOU AND YOUR WIFE.

It's not your mother's fault because it's her home &lt;deleted&gt;, but I think you understand that.

Your focus shouldn't be on what benefits you can't get it should be on getting any job that you can so that you and your wife can have your own space. Forget about pie in the sky blogging for now go and get a job that puts cash in your hand and work on the blog in your spare time.

Edited March 11, 2015 by saroq

[Swiss1960]

did anyone check out his site ?

http://thetravellingphase.com/about-me/

scroll down a bit and you will see his wife, still call it his wife ... she looks nice

might be that she found a new rich man in that restaurant where she works ...

She is very nice and not many like her around, however they are all nice, at first. You don't really know what anyone is like until you have lived with them, nice can end up being a nightmare whatever your circumstances. Sadly it's impossible to make some women happy, if you gave some of them the hope diamond they would complain about how heavy it was!

yes, there are those who never get enough... BUT BUT BUT...

here we have a mommy boy who NEVER stood up against the mother when she criticized his wife... there is the mommy boy who does not work and dreams about a carreer... there is mommy boy who let's his wife leave without going after her, calling her... and thinks that a LINE message should make her run back... there is mommy boy who does not intervene when mamma changes the locks to the house and does NOTHING to better his situation in order to save his marriage...

so SHE is much better off without him!!!

[TheRascal]

Not if the new career is 'online pikey'.

New career is evening courses training as a plumber, electrician, surveyor ...........

I've never met anyone who ever made it online, seems a bit like hoping to win the lottery.

Just because you've never met someone doesn't mean they don't exist. I'd suggest there are two types of online worker - people who are doing it because they have very little other options and do anything they can to make money and people who have the freedom to do what they like because they are making money online. The first group are usually not as smart and they are doing something out of desperation and aren't generally successful as they are doing as they see it as the easy route. The second group see it like any job and put the hours in.

Do you actually understand the scope of online work and what it can entail?

I didn't say that I would be working there. And yes I'm thinking about a media degree or online marketing course. I know this won't be easy.

I did a degree in Digital Media and Marketing, largely a waste of time. All my skills I learnt on actual projects as stuff they were teaching was either outdated or would shortly become outdated.

You're kind of heading in the right direction with the blog but I'd be astounded if it landed you a bigger or a proper job - being totally honest and not just trying to be mean. Here's why I say this - you've built up a following on your site and a small social media following. That's great but you're writing in an industry you're passionate about and that other people are interested in. Say for example you pick up a client who works in industrial drainage products - how are you going to transfer your skills to growing their traffic and their social media following - put simply you just can't because people aren't interested in reading about that. That's an extreme example but most business to business markets are like that - not exciting enough to be able to crank out regular content and if you want to make money you can't pick and choose the industries you work for.

Don't spout the Nigel Farage / Daily Mail bull that immigrants are taking all the jobs - at least be honest and say that sitting at home writing a blog every 2-3 days is easier than going and working in a factory or restaurant. I don't know anyone who can't get ANY job, just people who can't get a job that they want and are too proud to go and work in a fast food restaurant / factory / etc etc. It's lazy plain and simple.

Get a job and make some money, re-invest that into online stuff that will actually make some cash - I'm happy to make recommendations of courses that are actually useful but stop making excuses. If you'd got some kind of job and had your own place you'd likely still be with your wife instead of being at your parents place complaining as if it's her fault that she wants something more from life.

[saroq]

let me get this straight. You married a Thai lady and took her back to the UK to live with your parents, and now you have lost your job because you had a extended holiday ?. I have to ask, are you even man enough to be wearing long trousers yet,,, i wonder.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[dragonfly94]

Not specifically humor about Thai woman but it's universally funny, cos it's true!

[CraigSchuler]

Really don't think this is what she bargained for when she left Thailand. Not to be rude but I can fully understand why she left!