Girlfriend put me in a tough spot, how to handle it....

[faraday]

Even if - by some impossible likelihood she isn't getting rogered by them, she will get alot of guys giving her attention.

She's enjoying it. Otherwise, why is she going?

[mauGR1]

If the OP was real, i would tell him to start his own sexual zoo, don't forget to buy a load of condoms together with the load of viagra he already has, and some vaseline as a show of political correctness

On a serious note, i am surprised by the amount of posters who have replied seriously.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

Reality check. She's been going there for 4 years. If nothing is happening most people would get bored. She is getting something out of it and you will never know what.

[bkkheat]

The OP is either full of it or has no clue.

I thought I had no clue, but this guy makes me look like Einstein.... Now I feel better about myself

[bkkheat]

Burn the house down and your problem will be solved for a month or so.

[Morakot]

The parties are just normal house parties, but they have a backyard private pool.... The guys and girls get drunk then get in the pool and they end up naked. There are no hookers at the parties. Its not old white men and Isaan girls who are paid to come to the house.... These are all 20 something dudes and 20 something year old girls who just come to this guys house for an awesome party.

So what exactly is the problem than? I went to house parties like this in the UK; there were always some dudes and dudets ending up in the buff in the pool.

Would it really matter so much, if she tried this? Just go and check out the venue and make up your mind about her.

Best of luck!

Edited August 11, 2015 by Morakot

[manfredtillmann]

when i read stuff like this i often wonder: how do people who spill their guts with their personal stuff and hope to receive 'HELP' on this forum deal with real life and real problems? like paying your power bill or buy beer at the right time at lotus. man, grow up!

if you want a female who does not cheat on you, buy a dog.

I'm obviously not here looking for life changing advice. This is venting.... I also dont care if it is my personal stuff.... I (probably) dont know any of you and if you saw me walking down the street, you would have no idea it was me who created the topic.

Just venting here.... I already knew I have to break up with her before creating the topic.

ok, may be i have been a bit harsh on you...

in my humble opion, there are only two things that drive females: the need to procreate or the aquisition of means to facilitate procreation.

(we can discuss the 'drives' of males somewhere else, if you like).

in this context, i suggest to review your relationship with this girl who obviously favours to keep her options open to comitting to you.

there are more females than males on this planet - nature has arranged that for a very good reson.

[jerojero]

Bite the bullet, and break it off. Your principles and hers are not the same. She yet has to commit truthful to you, don't expect it to change. Why would it? Only very slim chance is jealousy.... Go party with some Thai gals, or a night out at Nana Plaza... See how your gf reacts... .

Edited August 11, 2015 by jerojero

[fish fingers]

I small BS but anyway

She's 22. If she's going to these parties for yrs she won't suddenly become a nun. She's def playing games and I would start distancing yourself from her, rather than all these demands, which will just make her hate you and play you harder.

Show less interest, do it slowly and wind it down. Don't look at her instagram or FB stuff.

Then, either she comes begging and you can just keep it sexual and nothing else (you keep control)

Or she dumps you and you see the relationship for what it was. plenty more fish to catch

Edited August 11, 2015 by fish fingers

[Gecko123]

Owning a telescope, binoculars, or a periscope must be very common in that neighborhood.

[bkkheat]

See if you can rent the house next door

[CharlieH]

Girlfriend hasnt put you in a tough spot, you allowed yourself to be manipulated into this, stop thinking with your little head. You know what has to be done, stop whining, face reality and deal with it.

This is more about you and your insecurity, than it is about her activities and choices.

[steven100]

_Mate,

_{Sorry to hear about your issue..}

_{The bottom line is as you say you are 99% she hasn't f*!ked any of the guys.. it's the 1% that will drive you crazy, and whether you are right or wrong it will be a wedge..}

_{Honesty is key, she wasn't completely honest..}

_{Move on!}

are you wearing special glasses .. ? you need to see the optometrist again ... i think he gave you the wrong test results ..

[fang37]

Definitely, you should ordain as a Buddhist monk! All problems solved.

[chrisinth]

Are you retarded? This is second to the "my girlfriend works in a massage in Pattaya, but she's a virgin and doesn't do happy endings". Your gf is a hooker....either for money or attention. You have 2 choice, go check out the naked party or have one at your house while she's gone.

This is getting out of hand here.... Shes not a hooker. Maybe becasue I used the words "naked party"... The parties are just normal house parties, but they have a backyard private pool.... The guys and girls get drunk then get in the pool and they end up naked. There are no hookers at the parties. Its not old white men and Isaan girls who are paid to come to the house.... These are all 20 something dudes and 20 something year old girls who just come to this guys house for an awesome party.

Some of you guys live in such a small little bubble and dont realize that not every Thai girl is a hooker. Like I said, I am 99% sure shes having sex with no one at these parties, shes just a spectator. The problem I have with it is she is lying or misleading, or withholding information about the parties shes going to.... She obviously doesnt want me to know shes going to pool parties where everyone ends up drunk and naked in the pool....

How do you know there are no hookers at the party?

You state you have never been to one of these parties

How do you know your TGF is not selling her arse at these parties?

Normal Thai girls do not go to naked pool parties

Come on guys, give him a break.

She could be waitressing.

Cloakroom attendant (Awful lot of clothes to look after by all accounts)

OP, is she a certified pool attendant?

You could all be jumping to the wrong conclusions here, even you OP, she could be the one and you are ready to cut her loose through something that could be as simple as a language problem.

Be optimistic, not pessimistic.........................

Gawd, why did i write this stuff?

Added just so you know.

Edited August 11, 2015 by chrisinth

[samsensam]

if your gf back home was going to naked pool parties what would you do?

do the same here.

[slipperylobster]

Does she act bored when alone with you?

Is she always busy with the phone...when with you?

Does she frequently not return your calls?

How many nights a month does she spend with "relatives"?

Does she get upset when you are low on money/miss her allowance?

Even so...I would say she might be playing any and all angles.....party girl.

You can take her as she is...but forget about any serious relationship with her.

[marko kok prong]

Maybe she really likes karaoke ,

[Thongkorn]

I would find out where the parties are going on , then just turn up.

[benalibina]

Interesting....we can read the problems some posters have faced, or still facing, in the past.....keep it going...for entertainmentpurposes only ofcourse....

[MilesofSmiles]

I am a normal guy who came to Thailand for bar girls, Agogo girls, massage with happy ending. Accidentally did the odd ladyboy when out of my head. Then I found a crazy bar girl and married her. My problem is she wants to invite her best mate around for a threesome. Do you think I should trust her??

You should invite all your mates around

[hellohello123]

Kinda feel sorry for the op.

But one thing is you say "you let her go these parties". Keyword is "let"

I sense a bit of insecurity or control freak by the use of that word.

Would i be like most of the tough guys on thaivias and say my way or the highway at this point?

Maybe

But as you said hiw would she like it if you went on a naked girls party. And if she days no but still cant see the double standards. Id simply make my point and if she still doesnt get it. Then id move on

[NanLaew]

Can't beat drama like this....naked parties....oh yes..that brings back fond memories!

Were you there the time that Bob thought it would be cool to stick his knob in the jacuzzi suction inlet? Laugh? We almost shat.

You just can't make this stuff up.

[NanLaew]

... Its not old white men and Isaan girls who are paid to come to the house....

Oh good... it's not one of my pool parties then.

[itsmylife]

If you can't beat them join them.

[bkkheat]

See a fortune teller and see what he or she predicts..... Problem solved

[tubby johnson]

Not telling us where these naked orgies take place is kinda cruel.

But seriously, get yourself checked for STDs at a clinic and replace her with someone more faithful and trustworthy.

[geriatrickid]

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Edited August 12, 2015 by geriatrickid

[geriatrickid]

Have you thought to ask your GF why she hasn't invited you along to these parties?

Is it because he can't hold his liquor and ends up like this?

[geriatrickid]

Maybe she really likes karaoke ,

umm bukake?