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My lovely wife cared for her father in his final years, after he had developed senility and various illnesses. She will be my car-giver in my old age.

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My wife says she will take care of me. I believe her.No plan B at the moment.

Same here. If my wife passes before me, and I still have my mental faculties, I have a nice home in the rural North and I know my wife's extended family well. I have a Usufruct contract in place, and my step son and I get along like father and son. I can hire a member of the family to care for me.

Of course there is the Pattaya option, although I wouldn't have a condo with my 'caretaker' above the second floor.

From what I have seen it seems to be more the "Slipping Over In The Shower" thing than the more upmarket "Falling Off The Balcony" in the North East.

Or the simple "Suicided".

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My lovely wife cared for her father in his final years, after he had developed senility and various illnesses. She will be my car-giver in my old age.

Well...that's a first...a Thai wife is the car giver......hang on a few more years old son and hold out for a house.thumbsup.gif

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In Thailand it is the daughters who look after the parents , so start reproducing. The more daughters you have then they can shunt you around between them and the chore of wiping your bum and face is shared more evenly ..

I hope they wipe my face . .

then my bum blink.png

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In Thailand it is the daughters who look after the parents , so start reproducing. The more daughters you have then they can shunt you around between them and the chore of wiping your bum and face is shared more evenly ..

I hope they wipe my face . .

then my bum blink.png

I'm sure they will the first time.

The second time ...all bets are off if the rag has been washed or not.

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When you get to the point...where you have to have constant attention...unable to care for yourself...what is the point?

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Good topic,, i ask myself the same question.

The older i get the louder the question gets

but,,,, i entered this world alone, i will go the

same way the question is w-h-e-r-e and the

arrows always point back to my home country.

As much as i don't want to i must face reality

and start the relocation process, bye bye.

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On more practical matters.

Who will take care of the 90 day reports and the annual extensions?

What will happen to the departed deported?

Personally I don't care.............yet.

I have seen and experienced the care of the other villagers both for their elders and for me. It is a most touching and wonderful thing to behold.

Pattaya? I wouldn't wish myself upon that quaint little fishing village. I think I might spoil it's image.

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I'm a little confused. Why would anyone marry someone, or into a family, that they suspect would cast them aside in their later years, let alone arrange for them to meet with an accident? The members expressing these concerns really need to have a word with themselves about their motivations for marriage in the first place. It's also a very disturbing indication of their perception of Thai people. Creepy stuff. There's a documentary in this somewhere.

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My lovely wife cared for her father in his final years, after he had developed senility and various illnesses. She will be my car-giver in my old age.

Well...that's a first...a Thai wife is the car giver......hang on a few more years old son and hold out for a house.thumbsup.gif

We have a ;lovely home and I have a lifetime usufruct.

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There are nursing homes in Thailand...just Google to find them.

I have looked into these.

The problems are that these care homes are like full time hotels for old people that are still mobile and can still look after themselves to a point. What worries me is; if I became completely immobile and needed 24 hour care. Hope I would die before reaching that level.

Either you can afford to hire some care attendants to look after you 24/7, or my solution is a razor blade in my wallet ( I can't afford to hire anyone ). I wouldn't wish my petite wife to have to look after my 100kg body if I can no longer function like a normal human being.

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You will never know 100% until you get there.

You've just answered your own question. Why the thread then?

If you don't mind me saying, fang37, you've got quite weird of late.

Edit: when are the quotes going to be sorted out? Very messy and unprofessional looking.

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Good topic,, i ask myself the same question.

The older i get the louder the question gets

but,,,, i entered this world alone, i will go the

same way the question is w-h-e-r-e and the

arrows always point back to my home country.

As much as i don't want to i must face reality

and start the relocation process, bye bye.

That's fine as long as you have friends/ family that will support you in those final years. A nursing home is not a happy place for those that are alone, regardless of the advertising BS. Stuck in front of telly all day anyone?

I have to agree with you though, that if I bottle the final solution in LOS, home country is all that's left. My wife has to work, no way she can take years off to look after me, even if she could physically move my overweight carcass around.

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many hundred years ago, in Sweden, they use to take the elders to a high cliff, push the to the edge and then give them a firm kick in the butt. So when the day comes, do NOT accept a short trip to the mountains....

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My lovely wife cared for her father in his final years, after he had developed senility and various illnesses. She will be my car-giver in my old age.

I sincerely hope then that you will not weigh more than her father did when she was looking after him. As a nurse, I know full well the perils of humping an obese patient around, and it's possible a heavy farang would make her a patient as well as yourself.

This thread shows up the difference in marriage expectancy between farangland and LOS. Few wives in farangland expect to be looking after an aged and infirm husband while they are still middle aged or less.

That is not an attack on you as I am in that position myself.

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I'm a little confused. Why would anyone marry someone, or into a family, that they suspect would cast them aside in their later years, let alone arrange for them to meet with an accident? The members expressing these concerns really need to have a word with themselves about their motivations for marriage in the first place. It's also a very disturbing indication of their perception of Thai people. Creepy stuff. There's a documentary in this somewhere.

Before I got married, I had no idea that my future in laws were the family from hell. That all happened after I signed.

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If you are farang and older than your Thai wife, the family will put you at the nearby temple.

Another generalisation by somebody who has no idea?

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most end up in ''Pattaya'' ???

And die with a big smile on their face.

Actually, many live their later years as as grumpy old men and die with a frown on their face.

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I'm a little confused. Why would anyone marry someone, or into a family, that they suspect would cast them aside in their later years, let alone arrange for them to meet with an accident? The members expressing these concerns really need to have a word with themselves about their motivations for marriage in the first place. It's also a very disturbing indication of their perception of Thai people. Creepy stuff. There's a documentary in this somewhere.

Before I got married, I had no idea that my future in laws were the family from hell. That all happened after I signed.

another one found out the truth about marriage after it was too late

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most end up in ''Pattaya'' ???

true, where they find a new lease of life and marry a 25 year old,,,

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Good topic,, i ask myself the same question.

The older i get the louder the question gets

but,,,, i entered this world alone, i will go the

same way the question is w-h-e-r-e and the

arrows always point back to my home country.

As much as i don't want to i must face reality

and start the relocation process, bye bye.

Feel your pain...already relocated...excellent almost free healthcare...reestablished family relationships...food and climate is more agreeable to me...but at 70...I miss young ladies calling the "handsome man" to come to them...crazy.gif

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