tips for a begginer in Thailand, culture diff., dating ...

[Matej]

Only experiance counts , forget books and asking people ,go out do it and learn , like most of us "oldies" did .

Why not to do both?

To look through someone else's eyes can be very helpful and inspirational in many cases and there has been some useful tips for good literature.

[SoiBiker]

90% of TV members have a hi-so wife or g/f, not met on a dating website, so you should get some good info here !

i met my Wife on a dating site.................10 years ago, she now supports me totally so stop talking out yer ar*e

10 years of being supported by a woman in a developing country? What a loser!!

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FYI ~ Here's a news flash, just for you! In case you've been too busy sitting on the bar-stool to notice, Thailand is not a developing country anymore. Good morning

Yes, it is.

http://www.isi-web.org/index.php/news-from-isi/20018-dc014

[cliffspab]

I have just finished writing a book for expat's living here and Asia Books have picked it up (my second with them). If you can wait a month or so, I recommend it. Written by an expat who has lived here for 32 years and is fluent in the language. It leaves no stone unturned and is very informative.

Living in The Kingdom: The essential Expat's guide to living in Thailand

coming soon ...........

The repetition of 'living' in title and sub-title doesn't bode well...

[catman20]

90% of TV members have a hi-so wife or g/f, not met on a dating website, so you should get some good info here !

that's what they care to believe

[recycler]

Private dancer is a book, but I've seen many similar or worse stories happening in my over 12 years here.

At 25 I would suggest to check out some surrounding countries too that offer a superior experience with less people inclined to be after your money.

As for Thai culture in most cases it's about Baht....

[catman20]

a paper back book called money number one about 350 baht, will teach you all you need to know and save you a fortune and a broken heart.

[elgenon]

Soi Biker

You forgot lying.

[Suradit69]

"Private Dancer is the bible as far as relationships are concerned."

Sorry but books on dating prostitutes shouldn't be a bible for dating. How Jaded are all of you.

You lost money because you came here with an imperialist attitude and a savior complex. If you treat local women the same as you would back home, then you wouldn't have lost any money. Date women with your social and educational background and stop trying to go "pretty woman" turning prostitutes into socialites.

If you really want to watch movies that represent the culture: Fan Shan(modern love story/friendship), Suriyothai (historical) Sukothai is pretty good also, Nang Nak(ghost movie) I don't do the comedies or the horror/comedies but you will understand their sense of humor more.

Reading books written by foreigners explaining dating, culture, etc. will only give you a jaded experience. Watch what the locals watch, listen to the music they listen to.

"How Jaded are all of you."

I don't thin "jaded" is the word you're searching for.

Yes, I was so naive back then, hope it's better now ...

More of a chronic state for some. And bringing your quest for enlightenment to Thai Visa or through movies & novels will only aggravate the condition.

[Jacks77]

Dont date women from Isan. The my tip to you.

[AlQaholic]

Just google "list of books banned.....", those should be the first books for any one planning to stay in Thailand for a longer time.

[NoshowJones]

I learn alot from reading this Thai Visa forum. But first get yourself mentally prepared for some posters who are really nasty with their remarks.

That is only a very small minority, I can count in one hand and remember the nasty ones.

[NoshowJones]

SB, yes, Thailand is a developing country, but it still has a lot of developing to do, ie, the dreadful road statistics, the resurfacing of roads, missing out on the potholes, then

continuing a few mtrs further on. etc, etc.

[yellowboat]

Thailand is a wonderful place to relax, have fun and indulge. But for those with nimble minds, it can be an intellectual desert. There are other countries in Asia that offer better opportunities for the young and industrious with fewer visa headaches.

[MeHere]

I met my wife on a dating website too. That's how a lot of people meet these days. Nothing odd about it.

I also met my Thai wife on a dating web site 5 years ago... Much better than meeting a girl in the bar in my opinion. Although some have successful relationships with bar girls, hookers, freelancers, and party girls, I think generally in then end, by and large, you reap what you sow. Sleep with dogs, you get fleas.

I consider myself very lucky to have met my lady... She's lovely and sweet, smart and strong. Never asked for a baht from me, but I'm happy to support her to be comfortable.

[Lenscraft]

The Vicious Truth About Thai Hookers

by TheBlether

"A finely crafted piece of modern literature that blends good advice with refreshingly original Caledonian humor"

The New York Times Book Review

====

I have actually heard some fairly good reviews about this guy's stuff. Check it out over on Amazon. It'll only cost you a dollar or so.

I have to second this recommendation. TheBlether writes some excellent guidebooks on things to do and not do in Thailand, and they're cheap.

[1FinickyOne]

Well, it sounds like a little maturity and street wise would not hurt - just think 2x before opening purse strings -

Many of us here have reliable, lovely wives though there are cultural differences... a Thai might answer yes to anything, merely to be non-confrontational - if you do not recognise that, you might think of something as a lie... but this is a vast topic...

At least you have your eyes open and that will be a start. I think near all of us older fellows can think back to times at your age that we did not make the best choices.

good luck.

[henry15]

"Thailand Fever" sounds like the book for the OP.

It explains many things about the differeneces in cultures, in both Thai and English (so you can read it together with your girlfriend/wife/bargirl/whatever)

Thai fever is complete rubbish, its the perfect guide for gold diggers and scammmers, an extra advise is, not to read Sticky boy.

I can tell after 40 year Thailand experience, 2 marriedges of 32 and 6 years,

Stay away from beerbars and prostitutes. Trying to date a common girl like an office worker is a long proces. Do some jogging in the local park or go to a Gym is my advice.

[bark]

Try sitting outside the big office building, Bank buildings, etc. There are 100's of girls there. If you see something nice, check out her hand for a wedding ring. If none, note the time that she left for lunch; and just a polite smile. Next day, go at the same time. When you see her, go say hello.

Hope you speak a few words of Thai; and asking to buy her a coffee/tea etc. Just see what happens. Be polite, and show respect.

[DrTuner]

Just read all of TVF through. That ought to scare you away.

[stoneyboy]

Try sitting outside the big office building, Bank buildings, etc. There are 100's of girls there. If you see something nice, check out her hand for a wedding ring. If none, note the time that she left for lunch; and just a polite smile. Next day, go at the same time. When you see her, go say hello.

Hope you speak a few words of Thai; and asking to buy her a coffee/tea etc. Just see what happens. Be polite, and show respect.

Otherwise known as stalking in the west.

[TheKnave]

Private Dancer is the bible as far as relationships are concerned.

Meeting others, either from your own country, or similar background, and sharing experiences, is usually helpful.

I disagree. It is unkind to bargirls.

Edit: unkindness, retracted.

[SoiBiker]

SB, yes, Thailand is a developing country, but it still has a lot of developing to do, ie, the dreadful road statistics, the resurfacing of roads, missing out on the potholes, then

continuing a few mtrs further on. etc, etc.

Well yes. If it had finished developing, it would be developed.

[NoshowJones]

SB, yes, Thailand is a developing country, but it still has a lot of developing to do, ie, the dreadful road statistics, the resurfacing of roads, missing out on the potholes, then

continuing a few mtrs further on. etc, etc.

Well yes. If it had finished developing, it would be developed.

That's true, but I am just making the point that Thailand still has a lot of developing to do.

[Sunlike]

There are a good movie 2 parts from frensh, the name Ladybar I or why u not present flowers at Thailand and Ladybar II. I watching this movie at my 3. time at Thailand and sure the 1. Part I see my first visit in Thailand. I not do the same but it remembers me many times at the true live. Watch him and u will see many thinks clearly

[Shiver]

I read "Thai Fever" when I got here. It's a bit sanitised and clean compared to reality, with both Thai and English on each page side by side, but it's okay as a book of how people would 'like' to believe things are. Worth a read, though not fully comprehensive.

[smotherb]

How do you afford to live in Thailand as a tourist six months out of the year at age 25?

How do you afford to spend money in Thailand?

[TheKnave]

90% of TV members have a hi-so wife or g/f, not met on a dating website, so you should get some good info here !

i met my Wife on a dating site.................10 years ago, she now supports me totally so stop talking out yer ar*e

10 years of being supported by a woman in a developing country? What a loser!!

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FYI ~ Here's a news flash, just for you! In case you've been too busy sitting on the bar-stool to notice, Thailand is not a developing country anymore. Good morning

Hey Ben, were you one of the Tuskegee Airmen? 'Cause I'd really like to hear about the time you landed on your head...

If Thailand's not a developing country, it's only because, currently, it has taken a break from developing. Expect a return to developing country status, sometime after 2017 (or 2018, or 2019...)

Geez, that was a good one.

[smotherb]

Private Dancer is the bible as far as relationships are concerned.

Meeting others, either from your own country, or similar background, and sharing experiences, is usually helpful.

Relationships with Thais or with bar girls?

[TheKnave]

The Vicious Truth About Thai Hookers

by TheBlether

"A finely crafted piece of modern literature that blends good advice with refreshingly original Caledonian humor"

The New York Times Book Review

====

I have actually heard some fairly good reviews about this guy's stuff. Check it out over on Amazon. It'll only cost you a dollar or so.

I have to second this recommendation. TheBlether writes some excellent guidebooks on things to do and not do in Thailand, and they're cheap.

Just how many sock puppets does TheBlether have here?

He used to post a lot of nonsense, but now he has decided to market it? Wonder why he no longer posts...

[TheKnave]

A decent prep book is 'Culture Shock - Thailand', which has been revised many times. The name is close, anyway.

'Consul in Paradise', by W.A.R. Wood, though slightly dated, will give you insight into both Thai (Siamese) culture and temperament, as well as that of Colonial British, who are still around, confounding...

Between the publishing of the latter and the former,there may be another book or two worth reading, but being in Thailand, with a brain and open mind will get you where you need to be, how ever long it takes...