Why would or shouldn't a man get married to a woman?

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎9‎/‎1‎/‎2017 at 8:25 PM, bwpage3 said:

 

 

 

 

There are many people that bash marriage because plain and simply they come to Thailand on a shoestring budget and just cannot financial maintain a real marriage which involves home purchase, kids, cars, education and you name it.

 

 

 

involves home purchase, kids, cars, education

LOL.

I never understand why so many farangs think that although they already have children to another woman, they have to impregnate another woman in LOS and spend the rest of their lives paying for it.

If a "real marriage" involves children, schools etc etc, I scorn it. I'm quite happy to consider marriage as a means of having companionship and a friend in times of trouble.

[bwpage3]

On 9/1/2017 at 0:39 PM, Elkski said:

Thanks page.  A very good post.  

I'm not worried about a scooter but I'm not sure I would want to lose to many brand new 2 million baht cars.  Isn't that what a decent car costs.  Maybe 1.5?

 

Main takaways from your post.  

Plan to spend enough time in Thailand so you can determine if the lifestyle you can afford is acceptable to of you. 

Understand that Thai women have a component of love that is security and support.  I understand plus so many have been abandoned before. 

 

The big unkowns for us all is exchange rates, inflation, investment yields, the junkta, health insurance, is SS going to be broke?.

 

I have read where renting a house would be preferable to buying if the gal doesn't have one.   Will Thai women see this as suspicious or negative.   I mean if I ask a gal to come to my country and buy a 3 million baht house in my name she shuts up real quickly.   It there was fair co ownership divorce laws I think it would be so much better for Thailand unless they do really hate all about us except the green.

They also could gain so much knowledge from us busy body retirees with work ethic and technical skills we wouldn't mind putzing about in Sometimes.  Without having to employ 3 Thais.  

There should be a commitment on her part to love, respect, devotion long before any talks of buying a house. You need to prove to yourself she wants to be with you and not your money. If it becomes about a house and money right up front before you, it will never work out. Only you can be the judge if she can be really honest, truthful and devoted to you and not your money. If she really wants to be with you or even loves you, being together and spending time doing everything together will be the most important thing. If the relationship starts with her wanting you to buy her everything, it will never work. The good ones will never ask for anything and will respect you for what you want to give, not what they ask for.

[OneMoreFarang]

I think this one was not mentioned until now: It seems if a couple is legally married then both have the right to enter any apartment, house, condo which one of them owns or rents.

I heard the following story and I think it's true: A farang was married with a Thai woman and they had trouble and she destroyed everything in their apartment. He obviously didn't like it but it seems legally he couldn't do anything against her, his wife.

He moved to another apartment and she found out. She waited until he was far away and then she entered that apartment. I am not sure with police or how she did it but it seems the fact that she was married to him gave her the right to enter that apartment. She also destroyed that one. He couldn't do anything against her.

Maybe someone can confirm the legality of this. I knew the couple and I am pretty sure this is what really happened.

[superglue]

I discussed this matter in depth with my partner. Once she fully understood it, it was smooth sailing.

In fact, everything is in her name.

I was diagnosed with cancer and she is extremely supportative.

We both feel comfortable with our decision.

BTW, there is a 30+ year age gap.

[Elkski]

12 hours ago, superglue said:

I discussed this matter in depth with my partner. Once she fully understood it, it was smooth sailing.

In fact, everything is in her name.

I was diagnosed with cancer and she is extremely supportative.

We both feel comfortable with our decision.

BTW, there is a 30+ year age gap.

Once she understood what?  Did you get married or not? 

[superglue]

Did we marry?

That was the core of the matter.

I had memories of the past.

A piece of paper does not guarantee peace & harmony.

Answer - no.

We have been together now for 14 years & it just gets better & better.