OneMoreFarang

Is that what you want to do? It might work. How do you think people learn? Normally the more experienced takes the leading role. And the less experienced person learns from that. It works like that in work, relationships, hobbies, anything. And if one person is a lot more experienced then there is almost no discussion. I.e. if there is a professor and a student then normally the student does what the professor suggests. And both know that's the way it is. In relationships it works in a similar way. Obviously it might happen that when the less experienced person gets older and gets more experienced that the situation changes. But I think in Thailand that is less common than i.e. in "the west". And let's not forget that Thais are often from a very young age on trained to do what the older people (older brother, sister, parents, grandparents) want. And most young Thai people have this behavior so much internalized that that is the way it is. And many will never question it. That's life. And the other part of this is the old person takes care of the younger. There you have your perfect relationship - at least for guys who like that kind of relationship.

And some girls with university degree prefer to work in bars because they can make so much money there. And it is obviously also a very different lifestyle. Most of the office girls I know are boring, at least IMHO.

Are all university aged Thai women same same? Some will prefer Thai men, some Japanese, some farangs, and and and

If only one in ten of the short time girls is willing to have a long time relation then that is still enough of girls for all of us.

Why do you think in Thailand women don't talk about that? It seems to me they talk about everything. But I guess not many 20 or 30 year old women will join those discussions because that condition is far far away. They can still talk about it and join the discussion when they are 40 or 50.

This sounds like: up to 20: perfect 20 - 24: ok 25 - 29: maybe >= 30: OLD

And that is exactly the reason why they are perfect wives, particularly with older partners, because they are still learning and accepting "reality" like it is.

Which obviously makes a lot of sense. After all, you bring your car to the office and not your house. ????

Is this good news? Would 100,000 orders or a million orders be better? Don't we have enough cars on the streets already? Imagine news like: This year only 3,456 people bought new cars because they had to replace their old cars. But 100,000 people bough 1 year tickets for the MRTA or something like this. Wouldn't that kind of news be a lot better?

That brings up the question: How many people knew what was going on, maybe for years? And how many people accepted it or didn't want to get involved and whatever. It seems nobody is surprised when just another case like this is made public. In how many schools does that happen? And what happens if any accusations like that come up in schools? Do the schools investigate? And if they find something, what do they do: Tell the teacher not to do it again and we forget about this little misunderstanding? Or maybe tell the parents of the molested children to better shut up or else? I suspect (without any hard evidence) that a lot like this is going on. And a lot of people know about it, including the schools and including the parents. And most of them let it happen.

Does your view also apply to the American presidents who decided to invade other peoples' countries? And does it apply to all those soldiers who invaded i.e. Afghanistan and Iraq and who killed people? And does it apply to all those people who voted for Bush and others? I think if we are realistic then we have to accept that life is complicated. Imagine if a Russian in Thailand (or anywhere else in this world) would go on social media and say what an as$#$# Putin is. He should be hanged and all that. And then, what will happen? Will this Russian person ever be able to return to his homeland? And how about his parents and other family members? Will Putin and his supporters say: That is a single guy in Thailand, we will leave his parents and family alone. Really? I don't like what Putin is doing. And I don't like when people support him. But I try to see reality. And reality is that soldiers all over the world have to follow orders. Or else. And people want to eat and they want to live in a warm home. Should they demonstrate on the streets and then freeze to death at home? It's complicated. One of my favorite quotes is: There are easy solutions for all complex problems. And most of the time they are wrong.

I thought they call that birth control.

I recently saw a video with psychologists and the question (in general) came up: What do you want? Many people answer they want a lot of money. Then the psychologist in the video explained that that is basically no answer. It says something like: I don't know what I want. First I want money and if I have money then I can take my time and think about what I want and how I will spend that money. It would be good if more people would think further than "I want a lot of money". Because if they would think further then maybe they think that they want a house and a quiet life with a decent husband (just an example). But if they don't think far enough and maybe they have or can have a decent guy and a quiet life then many still dream about having lots of money. What can I do that this guy gives me lots of money. For what?

That's why someone invented nurse and maid uniforms. When the girl wears them then she is playing someone else - without her own restrictions. ????

Obviously it is interesting to read all kind of comments here. But I think we should keep in mind our limited understanding of females in general, Thais in general, and then female Thais. How many of us know why women do what they do? And how many know how Thai people think and react. And how many know how Thai females, maybe 20 years younger or more, think? I remember a guy wrote (I think in this forum) about an office girl he was attracted to and it seems she was attracted to him. Later, when they were already a couple, he asked her why she chose him. And she said something like: "You always looked clean. I liked that." That was obviously not what he expected. And how many of us would even think that could be a remote possibility? I guess very few of us would think about that. After being with my gf together since forever I have a good idea what she wants and what she will do. But do I understand why she does it or want it? No. And I doubt she thought much about why. She just does it. Instinct or something like that.

It is based on real places and real people. And all together it is known as the best non-fiction fiction - when you know what I mean.

If he has 270k per month then it is unlikely that he could live comfortable on 70k. I know an ex banker with a huge pension who lives in Thailand. I remember when he said something like: I can't imagine how anybody in Thailand can live with less than 100k per month. I am sure he really though like that. I mentioned to him that there are even people who live on less than 10k per month in Thailand. And he had this "you must be joking" look on his face.

I think it is more the perceived hotness and fun. It seems to be important for Thai men that the other people think he has this hot girl who is so much fun. Is she really fun? Or is she just headache if they are alone? I think for many farangs it is about what they want. Personally I like dusky and petite. And I don't care if any of my friends or other people who I know think she is hot or beautiful. She is what I want. That's all I care about.

I understand the question but does anybody of us really has a realistic idea about that? When I was 20 anybody who was 25 was old and 30 very old and 40 year old parents were unbelievable old. Now I have friends who are over 60 and I know they are not exactly young anymore. But I wouldn't call them old men. I think our perception changes so much over the years that something that it is nearly impossible to anticipate how we will feel in 20 years or even further in the future. And at least I would never choose a gf/wife thinking about what might be in 20 years. We will find out. And likely it will be very different from what we could have predicted. Just think about free (video) phone calls all over the world and any kind of information from anywhere in real-time. Who would have imagined that 20 years ago? And who would have imagined years of Covid? What will happen in 10 or 20 years? We don't know!

Your relationship sounds like it is not about love or sex. It's about control and power. If that is what you like to play...

Here is a part of one of those interviews - if anybody wants to know what we are talking about. Many of his interviews are longer than an hour, some a lot longer. This is just a short part of one of those long interviews. And please keep in mind: He studied this for decades. He knows what he is talking about.

I think the first thing that guys shouldn't forget in Thailand is the fact that there are many willing p$#$% out there. If one get's too demanding there are many others who like to take her place. Make sure she knows that you know and she will be (more) careful with her demands.

I understand your point. On the other hand in the last couple of months I watched many hours of his videos. He is a very smart guy with a huge knowledge. I definitely learned a lot from him. And I am sure that anybody who doesn't learn from him doesn't want to learn or is ignorant. That doesn't mean that everything he or any other person says is always the truth. When I and probably you listen that doesn't mean we have to believe everything or agree with everything. But even then he gives us something to think about.

Most wives of Western men don't let them get away with mia nois. I think Thai older women are a lot smarter. They keep the rich husband and if he want to do something on the side that keeps him happy and because he is happy that is also better for the wife. Win/win/win.

What a cheap Charlie if he buys/rents such a room for his mia noi.