most of these guys that talk about others being an ATM did the same for their wife in the western world.. only here, it is unacceptable for some reason. We are a family and I share my time and money --we share child rearing and family objectives... is part of my relationship and attractiveness due to being a good provider and willing to share? Of course... none of which means that my relationship is bullet proof - but, I am smart enough to keep plenty back for myself if things go south, though during 24 years, there is no sign of that.