Been there done that Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 A couple of posters on another thread asked how one can notice, early on in the relationship, that the other halve plays that game. Your experienced suggestions and wisdom are truly appreciated. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 common sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swissie Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 A talented "con-artist" can and will play the "long-con" for years if necessary. Exclaiming "game over" only after having reached their financial goal. This can be after 1 year or after 10 years. Warning signs? Obviously, if the financial demands become inflationary (never ending) or the relationship "cools-off" (one sided). But that is just the problem: A talented and goal oriented con-artist will not make such blunt mistakes. But even as some con artists display surprising "stamina", a Farang married to a Thai Lady for 10 years or more, is somewhat "on the safe side". I think. I hope. I pray. Cheers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Been there done that Posted October 31, 2017 Author Share Posted October 31, 2017 1 hour ago, swissie said: A talented "con-artist" can and will play the "long-con" for years if necessary. Exclaiming "game over" only after having reached their financial goal. This can be after 1 year or after 10 years. Warning signs? Obviously, if the financial demands become inflationary (never ending) or the relationship "cools-off" (one sided). But that is just the problem: A talented and goal oriented con-artist will not make such blunt mistakes. But even as some con artists display surprising "stamina", a Farang married to a Thai Lady for 10 years or more, is somewhat "on the safe side". I think. I hope. I pray. Cheers. Not a convincing last paragraph, if i might say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DGS1244 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 9 hours ago, Kwasaki said: common sense. Always and also expect it anyway, this is Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grumbleweed Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Breathing is a sure sign Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dotpoom Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 "that the other halve plays that game."...plays what game? We learn and know a lot of things about life mainly through our observations. How can anybody on here possibly know how observant other people are....especially people they have never met. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipi Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Her history. And his....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
expat_4_life Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Have a good look around for something similar to this ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emster23 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Listen closely to your gut. Your mind (or other organ) can be very skilled at coming up with rationalizations. Speaking from experience.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigfarang1948 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 The doubt and suspicion are already in your head. My advice, believe what your brain is telling you. It will save your money if nothing else. \If your significant other is a bar girl, you better wise up because she is a pro at taking your money and you can bet you are being played. Welcome to the club. Don't come to Thailand and expect fidelity and true love in your relationship with almost any Thai girl, especially the ones who have been working the bars for awhile. You are just an easy money target.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catman20 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 If you have to ask. There is no help for u. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowboat Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Heard of a man who had a Chinese wife. They lived in China for many years. He retired and moved back to Australia. She divorced him on the day she go Australian citizenship. My cousin had a stock in a large pharmaceutical company before they developed a profitable drug. To avoid taxes, he bought a house and put it in his wife's name. She left him soon after. Not sure if either man knew it was coming, or they just ignored the signs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beachcomber Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 A friend of mine wife left him after 16 years of marriage. As far as I could tell they had an average sort of marriage with it's regular ups and downs and after 16 years and three kids he thought they'd cracked it, obviously not. Looks like there is no time limit to this happening. Seems one day she went out shopping and then text him she was not coming back. Took the car and left him with 3 kids. Maybe he should't have paid for all those driving lessons. Luckily for him the house is in the kids name so she won't get away with much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Nobody knows what's round the corner regarding relationships. We all change with age so perhaps those changes will make a difference... I have the T-shirt regarding my UK ex after 20+ years... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theoldgit Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Troll post removed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Been there done that Posted November 1, 2017 Author Share Posted November 1, 2017 26 minutes ago, transam said: Nobody knows what's round the corner regarding relationships. We all change with age so perhaps those changes will make a difference... I have the T-shirt regarding my UK ex after 20+ years... The reason i started this topic is to know from people like yourself, who have been there and done it, to know the early, or later developed, signs in the relationship that caused the split. Surely you must have thought alot about why and when it went wrong. Honest reflection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThaiWai Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Foreign cum stains are a tip off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 7 minutes ago, Been there done that said: The reason i started this topic is to know from people like yourself, who have been there and done it, to know the early, or later developed, signs in the relationship that caused the split. Surely you must have thought alot about why and when it went wrong. Honest reflection. In my case with all honesty is we had a great relationship except for 2 days every month, l knew that from the beginning and was no problem, after all we are all human and must deal with what our bodies do.. Anyhooo, during our time together she had a few operations on her women's bits to sort problems out cos she couldn't conceive, plus other stuff . After about 20 years the 2 days got longer and longer until it became a problem that she could not control and talking about it was a no-no...So that was that.. Must admit I was heart broken, just couldn't understand the change in her personality, and nor did her family who still talk to me...Such is life l suppose... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Been there done that Posted November 1, 2017 Author Share Posted November 1, 2017 6 minutes ago, transam said: In my case with all honesty is we had a great relationship except for 2 days every month, l knew that from the beginning and was no problem, after all we are all human and must deal with what our bodies do.. Anyhooo, during our time together she had a few operations on her women's bits to sort problems out cos she couldn't conceive, plus other stuff . After about 20 years the 2 days got longer and longer until it became a problem that she could not control and talking about it was a no-no...So that was that.. Must admit I was heart broken, just couldn't understand the change in her personality, and nor did her family who still talk to me...Such is life l suppose... Sorry to read this but it doesnt look like she "conned" you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 3 minutes ago, Been there done that said: Sorry to read this but it doesnt look like she "conned" you. Weeeell, when it came to going to court to sort the finances out she was given a "Penal Notice" by the judge for telling lies...I just could not believe what was said and her barrister was well pissed off and gave her the sack...So she did try and con me and the court for financial gain which totally backfired cos l did my homework... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 You must always have plan 'B' with everything you do in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Been there done that Posted November 1, 2017 Author Share Posted November 1, 2017 4 minutes ago, transam said: Weeeell, when it came to going to court to sort the finances out she was given a "Penal Notice" by the judge for telling lies...I just could not believe what was said and her barrister was well pissed off and gave her the sack...So she did try and con me and the court for financial gain which totally backfired cos l did my homework... Okay, apart from what you wrote before there must have been more detailed signs during the relationship that she was a person as how she showed herself at the end. Maybe you ignored those signs because of whatever reason. I dont believe people become moneygrabbing liars out of the blue. Am not having a go at you but am just interested in finding out other peoples experiences. Anyway, thanks for commenting honestly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Been there done that Posted November 1, 2017 Author Share Posted November 1, 2017 6 minutes ago, Kwasaki said: You must always have plan 'B' with everything you do in life. If you really have nothing worthwhile to contribute on this topic, well....you know ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proboscis Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 1 hour ago, yellowboat said: Heard of a man who had a Chinese wife. They lived in China for many years. He retired and moved back to Australia. She divorced him on the day she go Australian citizenship. My cousin had a stock in a large pharmaceutical company before they developed a profitable drug. To avoid taxes, he bought a house and put it in his wife's name. She left him soon after. Not sure if either man knew it was coming, or they just ignored the signs. Sometimes it has been a game from the start. Sometimes one party gives an incentive to the other party to divorce his ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLCrab Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 I'm personally no help on this topic but I remember this one where a guy was played for the long con: Seattle Shooting Leaves Two Dead Man Kills Pregnant Wife And Friend At King County Courthouse Fri., March 3, 1995 http://www.spokesman.com/stories/1995/mar/03/seattle-shooting-leaves-two-dead-man-kills/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsensam Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 12 hours ago, Kwasaki said: common sense. agree. unfortunately common sense is not that common (as can be seen in many places on this site) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 you know when your going to be let go when your bank account only has a few zeros ..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 48 minutes ago, Been there done that said: If you really have nothing worthwhile to contribute on this topic, well....you know ! A sensible contributions always think ahead and take things as they come and deal with it, what you want a crystal ball, grow up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowboat Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 16 minutes ago, steven100 said: you know when your going to be let go when your bank account only has a few zeros ..... That is sad. Perhaps we all need a Japanese woman: "Japanese women can tolerate men without money [poor men], but definitely cannot tolerate cowardly and weak men." Your statement is why you only marry for love once and for money many times, unless you find a Japanese woman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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