Marriage to foreigners not all it's cracked up to be complains Isaan woman stuck in Farangland!

[coulson]

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

She has to take responsibility for herself.

 

She has to look after her own child.

 

Things are not done for her - there appear to be no maids in Meuang farang ("Farangland")

 

There are no regular handouts of cash and gifts

 

som nam na

[evadgib]

53 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

I find British and German to be particularly dumb when choosing their Thai partners.

What did you end up with and who helped you?

[anon789561]

Just now, sanuk711 said:

Yes I think they are being a bit hard on her, when she talks on the video in about someone to look after her child its in relation to her working...I know my daughter in Oz used to lose nearly half her wage (& she is high paid) dropping my pre school grandchild off at a day care centre, so she could work.

Yes sure some of her complaints are superficial, but just reflect on the fact that nearly 70%  of the letters on here contains moans about some ridiculous things from mature adult people who have come to live here, not some young person who has probably just taken her first trip aboard.

oh poor isaan girl needs a maid lor

[R123]

Well she should do what most Thais do home and away when they have a farang b/f or 'husband': find some other men, giks etc to keep her happy...as long as the sucker taking care of her does not know about it.....

Edited February 3, 2018 by R123

[Misterwhisper]

Seems like a self-entitled, dead lazy wench from some hick village in Isan who brought absolutely nothing to her marriage except high-flying demands. What's worse, she apparently never had the intention to contribute anything in the first place. Her long list of expectations speaks volumes about her mind-set:

 

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

Everything is not laid on for her all day so she can sleep and eat.

So would that be what she would do in Thailand married to a local, sleep and eat all day? I think not.

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

She has to take responsibility for herself.

As a grown-up in Thailand, is she not expected to bear responsibility for herself?

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

She has to look after her own child.

    Yup, no grandma with whom she can dump her child and be rid of it. As a mother in "farangland" she actually is expected to act like a mother and accept the challenge. Too bad, ain't it? On the plus side, she won't need to be too concerned about being made pregnant by 5 different guys in turn, all of them then running off one after another, abandoning their offspring without needing to fear any consequences.

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

Things are not done for her - there appear to be no maids in Meuang farang ("Farangland")

Having enjoyed a sheltered life in the farm house in Isan with one or several maids cleaning up after her? I doubt it.

 

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

There are no regular handouts of cash and gifts.

How often did she receive constant cash handouts and gifts from her former Thai boyfriend? Rarely, I'd assume. Unless she had napped herself a wealthy local sugar daddy, of course.

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

What's more - things are expensive - and I mean expensive," she says. "What you can find in the markets of Isaan to eat for five or ten baht costs 100 baht. 

Yes, especially when it is expensive imported Thai food stuffs from the Asia store that she cannot do without after settling in "farangland", as the simple verb "adapt" is apparently not in her vocabulary. Perhaps she could drown her woes with an occasional bottle of a good table wine, which only costs about 3 or 4 euros or so instead of the 20 it costs in Thailand for a bottle of mediocre plonk.

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

A dinner at a restaurant that might cost 100 or 200 in Thailand is 1,000 baht a head. It sets you back 6,000 for the family to eat", said the unnamed woman who was wearing a T-shirt indicating she might be in Germany.

You also normally dine in a nicely appointed restaurant instead of in a wooden shack with dirt floor on the roadside. I must assume that's where she usually had her "dinners" back home, because if she went to a better restaurant - even in Isan - the bill certainly was more than 100 or 200 baht. I recently visited a lovely lakeside place near Khonkaen with enchanting open-air dining pavilions along the bank. A plate of "khana moo khrob" cost 90 Baht and a bowl of "tom yam ruam mit" 140 Baht; and that was out in the middle of nowhere with no foreign tourists anywhere.

 

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

There are none of the things that we can find for free growing in the wild.

If she lives in the countryside instead of in the middle of a large city's concrete jungle she could definitely find "things growing for free in the wild". But of course she has no idea what to look for. In Europe, EUROPEAN herbs, vegetables and mushrooms grow in the wild. Alas, not THAI ones.

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

She continued: "It's not "sabai, sabai" like Thailand. In Thailand everyone calls each other auntie or uncle, brother and sister - not here".

Exactly, because in Europe not every stranger you meet automatically wants to become part of your family and they prefer to be addressed in a polite manner instead. And even in Thailand that nice "uncle", the local police man, will suddenly forget all about his "automatic family relationship" when he comes arresting you for allegedly having stolen a couple of chickens from your neighbor down the road, the other "uncle".

 

Ah, and her avid reader Phenkhao finally comes to the crux of the entire matter, the one point that supersedes all:

1 hour ago, rooster59 said:

They thought it meant an easy and comfortable life that would help to raise the standard of living of those left back home in Thailand.

And that's what it all boils down to, isn't it? A marriage with a "farang" male is not entered into because the Thai woman feels an emotional connection ("love") with him but because the foremost objective is to siphon off as much money from the husband to channel back to the family in the village. In fact, her foremost responsibility, so she's been indoctrinated since childhood, will always be to her family, regardless whom she eventually marries or where she moves.

 

Yes, I am aware that I am generalizing, and I expect a lot of backlash for it. As some other posters have rightfully pointed out, there certainly are lots of women in this country who are honest, hard-working and responsible individuals and may marry their "farang" for more than just a continuous stream of dosh. But the whining and complaining Isan woman clearly doesn't not fall into this category. Every word she wrote reeks of false expectations, exaggerated demands and total ignorance of the world outside Thailand.

Edited February 3, 2018 by Misterwhisper

[isaanbanhou]

3 minutes ago, Annunaki said:

I don't know what a tiag is and I've never been to Pattaya.

Question for you, are you another farang living under the thumb of a Thai girl in the arse end of a jungle?

You sound pretty bitter that other farangs should be allowed air their views on Isaan gals.

No, I'm not. 

 

Not bitter what other farangs have to say about Isaan ladies, 

 

 I just think you pulled Sisaket out of the air or saw that is where i live and thought you could try a drive by insult.  Either way my opinion of you won't change.

[Negita43]

How about this for an idea?

 

Let's have a special day when no one posts negative things about Thailand or it's people (or indeed other posters).

 

I suggest April 1st. 2018 as the first day for this annual event.

 

Anyone want to suggest a name for this day?

[smedly]

38 minutes ago, isaanbanhou said:

I think she has a better understanding of life in the west than a great many of westerns have of Thailand.

 

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well she does now, she might even have to work in a real job to help pay the bills instead of swaning around in a bar surfing facebook getting drunk and partying

 

Many Thai girls (just like westerners) work hard but there are also many that don't and are generally lazy  

[Misterwhisper]

24 minutes ago, Topdoc said:

Give her some Sauerkraut

That will definitely shut her up!

[DavoTheGun]

1 hour ago, isaanbanhou said:

i doubt she ate garbage in the jungle

 

makes me wonder who is more ignorant of the otherr's culture

If she came from Issan she ate Garbage!

 

[Annunaki]

6 minutes ago, isaanbanhou said:

No, I'm not. 

 

Not bitter what other farangs have to say about Isaan ladies, 

 

 I just think you pulled Sisaket out of the air or saw that is where i live and thought you could try a drive by insult.  Either way my opinion of you won't change.

 

I was talking about Sisaket, how has that got anything to do with where you live?

Your avatar shows that you are from Si Sa Ket, surely you would not be dumb enough to mis-spell the province that you are living in.

 

Anyway, it is obvious that you are a Thai apologist and the only reason that you are posting on this thread is to de-rail the real subject, which is a about a self entitled bint from the back end of nowhere complaining because her porridge is not 'just right'.

 

As your only goal is to troll this thread and I have no intention in ruining a decent thread, I have now put you on my ignore list.

 

 

 

 

[MaddDog]

For the love of God 

[car720]

1 hour ago, michaelj said:

And that comment says more about you and your Thai social circle than it does about "most Thai" anyone at all.

come back when you have got something to say.

[car720]

Finesse is not exactly the first word you will encounter in the Thai dictionary.

[Odysseus123]

Okay....no rewards for honesty.

 

So I am going to do it.WELL DONE GIRL.

 

Credit where credit is due and I offer my acknowledgement.

 

Brave Thai woman.

 

 

Edited February 3, 2018 by Odysseus123

[jenny2017]

27 minutes ago, DavoTheGun said:

If she came from Issan she ate Garbage!

 

So why are you living there if they eat garbage? 

[Borzandy]

1 hour ago, michaelj said:

And that comment says more about you and your Thai social circle than it does about "most Thai" anyone at all.

a real newbie aren't you....

[smew]

Sounds like she married a day millionaire who painted a bright picture. Ferangs do not make money in the toilet, they work hard !

[KMartinHandyman]

How about this for an idea?
 
Let's have a special day when no one posts negative things about Thailand or it's people (or indeed other posters).
 
I suggest April 1st. 2018 as the first day for this annual event.
 
Anyone want to suggest a name for this day?:smile:

Sure, “the day that will never happen day”

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I don't live in Isaan and I eat garbage.

[crazykopite]

Maybe the husband promised her the world and filled her with bullshit of how great his country was and now reality has smacked her in the face !

[overherebc]

The dream and the reality.

[Baerboxer]

18 minutes ago, Annunaki said:

 

I was talking about Sisaket, how has that got anything to do with where you live?

Your avatar shows that you are from Si Sa Ket, surely you would not be dumb enough to mis-spell the province that you are living in.

 

Anyway, it is obvious that you are a Thai apologist and the only reason that you are posting on this thread is to de-rail the real subject, which is a about a self entitled bint from the back end of nowhere complaining because her porridge is not 'just right'.

 

As your only goal is to troll this thread and I have no intention in ruining a decent thread, I have now put you on my ignore list.

 

 

 

 

 

In fact he spells Si Sa Ket the same way it's spelled in official documents, like a British visa and passport for instance.

 

He isn't an apologist, just annoyed at jackass remarks trying to label and stereotype people from one area of a country with one brush.

 

I know plenty from Si Sa Ket who are hard working and honest. Also know some that ain't. I know one farang wife from Surin whose a right lazy money grabbing unfaithful scrubber - but that's one and certainly doesn't mean all, many, or a most of the others from there are, no it doesn't.

 

Thai, and many other Asian ladies, have a different outlook than Westerners. Many seem to believe that they are what we'd think of as "trophy wives' and expect to be well looked after, receive lots of nice things and not have to worry about responsibility whilst only doing as they please. It comes as a shock when they realize Western women don't have parents who take responsibility for the kids, don't have maids, don't eat most meals out or buy lots of takeaways, do have to work often as well as look after the family and accommodation etc; and in many cases aren't going to get vast sums of money to distribute to all the spongers back home. When that realization dawns, then often so do the cracks in the relationship and very often the Thai partner wants to come home. 

 

Some do work very hard though, earn good money, make a success in Farangland and then return financially well off. But, IME. all Thai ladies do develop and have their own end game. Which may or may not be good for the farang. 

 

 

[connda]

Welcome to reverse culture shock.  The old saying is true, poor Isaan girls: "We careful what you wish for."
But on the flip side, you don't have to renew a visa extension every year, you don't have to submit paperwork indicating where you're staying every 3 months, and if you leave you home for 24 hours, immigration does fine the householder (which will ultimately be paid by you) for not reporting that you left your premise and then returned. 
So, Miss Isaan -  'Boo hoo.'  Suck it up or move back to 'paradise.' 

Edited February 3, 2018 by connda

[KIWIBATCH]

Oh the poor woman.....here's some advice...get off your bum

[brucegoniners]

Typical unrealistic country girl. She doesn’t get it. 

[DoctorG]

I am going to blame the husband who obviously either did a lousy job of explaining the West to her, or was unable to communicate with her in a common language.

Having said that, I still think she is a whiny bitch.

[DavoTheGun]

38 minutes ago, jenny2017 said:

So why are you living there if they eat garbage? 

I live here because I do not eat Garbage, neither does my Thai Wife, she used to, not anymore! Very few people get past 60 In Issan, because of the crap they eat and drink.

 

[impulse]

Kudos to the lady for posting her honest experience so others can have a more realistic expectation about what they're moving into when they decide to leave Thailand with their foreign spouse.

 

And opening herself up to all the trolls and web bullies who seem to live to find fault with other people.

 

[Odysseus123]

Just now, impulse said:

Kudos to the lady for posting her honest experience so others can have a more realistic expectation about what they're moving into when they decide to leave Thailand with their foreign spouse.

 

And opening herself up to all the trolls and web bullies who seem to live to find fault with other people.

 

Yes.Well said.Well done.

 

You are a gentleman,sir!