Relationships and age differences, a personal case study

[Kimber]

6 minutes ago, ALFREDO said:

-JACKPOT-  

 

Why not, Muslims can do it since 1000 years?  

 

That's how I'm thinking, they're both slim lovely Thai women fully employed in the family business and good company. 

[Justfine]

5 hours ago, MaeJoMTB said:

Lanna tradition is for one guy to marry ALL the sisters.

Apparently they view living together all their lives more important than having to share a man.

Borneo traditions were to eat people.

 

 

[Kimber]

Just now, Justfine said:

Borneo traditions were to eat people.

 

 

 

But only after an appropriate garden fresh salad was prepared, and the human cadaver was suitably marinated and basted before cooking. 

[GoDucks]

2 hours ago, NonthaburiBear said:

While she date the other guy , did they sleept together ?..

i'm having a relationship with  Thai woman too, and she's much younger 10 years  than me ( she 20ish)..and i told her , if she meet another man much better than i am, she's free as a bird. I mean i really mean it , as i can find another girl not a problem at all .

But if she's furked another man before our relationship ended..tats another story..

...sorry na, just  asking

 

Actually no, she didn't.  Just a few casual meetings for coffee.  Not that it would matter that much to me.

[seancbk]

On 08/03/2018 at 11:39 AM, marko kok prong said:

Good luck to the op but a 34 year age gap is a fair one,my first Thai wife was 10 years younger than me my second is 13 years younger i am 53.It is hard enough to have a lot in common due to cultural differences,but we mostly get on fine,but i really don't know what i would talk about with a 20 year old.

 

Why?  Don't you like the same things as a 20 year old?   I'm 50 and I still enjoy all the thing I liked when I was 20 and I can't think of anything that I like now that I didn't like at that age.  

 

[Justfine]

5 minutes ago, seancbk said:

 

Why?  Don't you like the same things as a 20 year old?   I'm 50 and I still enjoy all the thing I liked when I was 20 and I can't think of anything that I like now that I didn't like at that age.  

 

Pacman and Galaga?

[MaeJoMTB]

6 minutes ago, seancbk said:

Why?  Don't you like the same things as a 20 year old?   I'm 50 and I still enjoy all the thing I liked when I was 20 and I can't think of anything that I like now that I didn't like at that age.  

Issan music, I listen to the same music as my Thai daughter (and she's 20 this year).

[Kadilo]

34 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

Actually no, she didn't.  Just a few casual meetings for coffee.  Not that it would matter that much to me.

Good that it doesn't matter because it shouldn't, but tbh it's prob crap too. 

[GoDucks]

3 minutes ago, Justfine said:

Pacman and Galaga?

This may be shocking but none of my older friends sit around talking about old Galaga games.  And we all use smart phones, not rotary phones.

Crazy, right?  LOL

[GoDucks]

Just now, Kadilo said:

Good that it doesn't matter because it shouldn't, but tbh it's prob crap too. 

I know pretty much everything about her.  Some things that are embarrassing as hell.   So I doubt she would lie about that (since she had no reason to)

[Gecko123]

8 hours ago, Justfine said:

A 30yo dating a 60yo is less abnormal than a 20yo dating a 50yo. Young people should be young and hang out with friends. A 20yo with a 56yo partner is completely odd no matter how one spins it.

This post sums up my feelings on this matter quite well.

 

I understand that love can transcend generations. I have read biographies about Lewis Carroll's ethereal love for Alice Liddell, and duly note that Woody Allen has remained married to Soon-Yi for decades. However, the risk of exploitation of young people by those with more wealth, power, status, and life experience should not be blithely brushed aside. This potential for exploitation (even when the relationship ostensibly appears to be consensual) increases exponentially when you are talking about Western men dating local women in underdeveloped parts of the world. Awareness of these potential risks needs to be raised in a corresponding fashion. When you're in an underdeveloped country like Thailand I think a heightened level of social consciousness is called for, and one needs to be extra vigilant about the potential for exploitation.

[GoDucks]

4 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

This post sums up my feelings on this matter quite well.

 

I understand that love can transcend generations. I have read biographies about Lewis Carroll's ethereal love for Alice Liddell, and duly note that Woody Allen has remained married to Soon-Yi for decades. However, the risk of exploitation of young people by those with more wealth, power, status, and life experience should not be blithely brushed aside. This potential for exploitation (even when the relationship ostensibly appears to be consensual) increases exponentially when you are talking about Western men dating local women in underdeveloped parts of the world. Awareness of these potential risks needs to be raised in a corresponding fashion. When you're in an underdeveloped country like Thailand I think a heightened level of social consciousness is called for, and one needs to be extra vigilant about the potential for exploitation.

Wow.

Just wow.

Gallant (more like condescending) Westerner here to save the poor, ignorant locals.

Wow.







 

[MaeJoMTB]

7 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

However, the risk of exploitation of young people by those with more wealth, power, status, and life experience should not be blithely brushed aside. 

Usually it's young women exploiting old men IMHO.

 

[Gecko123]

3 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

Wow. Just wow. Gallant (more like condescending) Westerner here to save the poor, ignorant locals.
Wow.

Wow. Just wow. Like sex tourism in third world countries doesn't exist. Wow right back atchya, buddy.

[GoDucks]

Read "Patpong Sisters" an interesting take on the sex trade.

And I have always agreed with that.  As someone who does not find any real entertainment for paying for sex, I always pity the guys who feel the need to blow their stash on the girls.  Its a job for them and I do not look down on them at all.  Well done for making some cash.  

[GoDucks]

3 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

Wow. Just wow. Like sex tourism in third world countries doesn't exist. Wow right back atchya, buddy.

Sex tourism exists!  And whenever its forced its a terrible thing.  But I have never seen that.  I have only seen mutually agreed upon transactions by consenting adults--sex for money.  Not my thing but, thank god, I am not judgemental. Or condescending.

Edited March 9, 2018 by GoDucks

[Justfine]

There is a massive power difference and a 56yo can easily hoodwink a 20yo on world issues and what's normal. Especially one from an inland looking nation.

[Gecko123]

2 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

Read "Patpong Sisters" an interesting take on the sex trade.

And I have always agreed with that.  As someone who does not find any real entertainment for paying for sex, I always pity the guys who feel the need to blow their stash on the girls.  Its a job for them and I do not look down on them at all.  Well done for making some cash.  

How much are you spending to support your "girlfriend," GoDucks?? You've been mighty coy about that.

[GoDucks]

1 minute ago, Justfine said:

There is a massive power difference and a 56yo can easily hoodwink a 20yo on world issues and what's normal. Especially one from an inland looking nation.

Everyting you say comes from this place where "the West's" way of thinking is better and morally superior to here.

its just not true.

 

[GoDucks]

1 minute ago, Gecko123 said:

How much are you spending to support your "girlfriend," GoDucks?? You've been mighty coy about that.

Actually you obviously have not read the posts.

NOTHING.

She refuses money and even  gifts except for very rare special occasions.

[Justfine]

2 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

Everyting you say comes from this place where "the West's" way of thinking is better and morally superior to here.

its just not true.

 

It is true. Not normal. You are on here justifying it to strangers.

 

If you were comfortable with it go live it. Under the surface you know it's not right.

[GoDucks]

In two years, other than occasional movies and dinners, and snacks (she loves dark chocolate)  I can count the things I have bout her on one hand.  And everything was less than 1,000 baht except for the phone which i had to buy secretly, against her multiple objections, because it literally looked like it had been run over by a truck--amazing it still worked.

[Justfine]

3 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

Actually you obviously have not read the posts.

NOTHING.

She refuses money and even  gifts except for very rare special occasions.

Waiting for the house for family.

[GoDucks]

Just now, Justfine said:

It is true. Not normal. You are on here justifying it to strangers.

 

If you were comfortable with it go live it. Under the surface you know it's not right.

hahaha yeah.  You and one or two others are the only "morally superior" ones.  

[GoDucks]

1 minute ago, Justfine said:

Waiting for the house for family.

and agian, if you had read the posts you would know she already told me that if we ever wanted to get married and her family wanted sinsot she would prefer not to marry or marry in secret.  She does not believe in any of that.

[NonthaburiBear]

1 hour ago, GoDucks said:

Actually no, she didn't.  Just a few casual meetings for coffee.  Not that it would matter that much to me.

ahh, ..hope everything runs well on the trip. Just don't forget yer spare wheels tire will ya..it's gonna be a bumpy road i think...good luck to you

[Justfine]

1 minute ago, GoDucks said:

hahaha yeah.  You and one or two others are the only "morally superior" ones.  

Go talk to adults face to face about it.

 

No need to hide behind a computer.

 

 

[GoDucks]

1 hour ago, ALFREDO said:

Moral indignation consists in most cases out off 2% morality. 48% inhibitions and 50% envy.   

Alfredo you are probably spot on here.

[Gecko123]

Just now, GoDucks said:

Actually you obviously have not read the posts.

NOTHING.

She refuses money and even  gifts except for very rare special occasions.

?

 

2 minutes ago, GoDucks said:

In two years, other than occasional movies and dinners, and snacks (she loves dark chocolate)  I can count the things I have bout her on one hand.  And everything was less than 1,000 baht except for the phone which i had to buy secretly, against her multiple objections, because it literally looked like it had been run over by a truck--amazing it still worked.

She's not living with you? For two years you've been seeing this girl, she's a student, where does she get her pocket money from? Does anybody believe this? I sure don't.

[GoDucks]

1 minute ago, Justfine said:

Go talk to adults face to face about it.

 

No need to hide behind a computer.

 

 

Again, my mom and sister recently came over (both have been here many times) and they all met and spent quite a bit of time together.

Does that count?