smotherb Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 1 minute ago, AYJAYDEE said: as I said, representatives. THE PARENTS But, you did not say, "representatives or not" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Just now, smotherb said: Oh, now you are setting rules for use of "may" nope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Just now, smotherb said: But, you did not say, "representatives or not" no, it should be done by representatives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 13 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: then use the word "my" instead of "a". and you just admitted that is exactly what you meant! lol Sorry, I am too polite to laugh at you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 (edited) 4 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: so, when your turn comes dont forget to refuse the gift That particular turn will never come my way - and please don’t be naive enough to think of it as a gift. Such transactions are only ever a realignment of family assets. I bought land over 10 years ago for my partner - and built a house. Edited May 9, 2018 by Jip99 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Just now, Jip99 said: That particular turn will never come my way. I bought land over 10 years ago for my partner - and built a house. good. pity more guys werent of the same mind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Just now, AYJAYDEE said: good. pity more guys werent of the same mind and you will be in the same boat if all goes poorly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 3 minutes ago, smotherb said: Sorry, I am too polite to laugh at you too embarrassed more like Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 12 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: and I'm sure theyre very proud of their tight-fisted in laws! lol Gee, are you grasping at straws; you do not know me and for you to suggest I am cheap only shows your mental misgivings. You think this is about money instead of principle? If that were the case, I would suggest a B300 sin sod and really insult everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 6 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: too embarrassed more like Embarrassed by not buying a woman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 1 minute ago, smotherb said: Gee, are you grasping at straws; you do not know me and for you to suggest I am cheap only shows your mental misgivings. You think this is about money instead of principle? If that were the case, I would suggest a B300 sin sod and really insult everyone. I'm not interested in what you think its about. but I know what Thais think its about. Do your ears burn when theytalk about you when they think youre not looking?? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 14 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: and you will be in the same boat if all goes poorly 14 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: and you will be in the same boat if all goes poorly No. It is a totally different boat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 5 minutes ago, Jip99 said: No. It is a totally different boat. you can keep your land? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post The Fat Controller Posted May 9, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted May 9, 2018 It's all getting a but silly here now. Sin sot has to be a consideration when marrying a Thai, whether anybody decides to put money on the table is a personal choice, but there is a lot to be gained from giving "face" to the future family. Thai's also get ripped off, you just have to choose your partner carefully. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoutman360 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Guys. Why are you so frickin' pandering amongst your so drunken selves? There has not been any valuable comments since the first page. Get some sleep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 (edited) 1 hour ago, AYJAYDEE said: you can keep your land? Not my land. (you really don’t understand, do you). But I have lifetime use of it.? Edited May 9, 2018 by Jip99 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 3 minutes ago, Jip99 said: Not my land. (you really don’t understand, do you). But I have lifetime use of it.? lol! of course you cant keep it and that puts you in the same boat as the sin sod guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 Just now, AYJAYDEE said: lol! of course you cant keep it and that puts you in the same boat as the sin sod guy. Does the sinsod guy have rights of occupation over MIL’s land? (which is likely a crappy part of family land that has little third party value). I didn’t think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 8 minutes ago, Jip99 said: Does the sinsod guy have rights of occupation over MIL’s land? (which is likely a crappy part of family land that has little third party value). I didn’t think so. occupation!! lol! good luck with that. you wouldnt last a week Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 27 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: occupation!! lol! good luck with that. you wouldnt last a week You really are clueless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 9, 2018 Share Posted May 9, 2018 1 hour ago, Jip99 said: You really are clueless! thats it, name calling always helps! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
473geo Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 To me a reasonable amount of sinsot is a sign of commitment, nothing more nothing less. I laugh at those who think of it as buying a wife, there is no man rich enough to afford the true value of my wife!! We have the best parcel of land in the village donated by the mother - in - law on which we built a modest home for my family. (Wife and children) I am not into ownership and certainly would not insult my wife by having a crappy usufruct My MIL supports my wife she is the head of the family, having said that my wife runs all decisions by me. As mentioned in the thread previously, not wise to try and force your will, better to suggest, and if your input is good and your wife is wise she will implement a little further down the line. By way of example when we uplifted the land for our house I suggested to my wife we plant mango trees around the edge of the plot. I said no more, she did it, now years later the whole family benefits from a supply of mangoes from the 7 trees she planted. This was the first step in my wife appreciating my input, but I also appreciate her input as she knows the Thai ways. We are a partnership, we share 'our' money. I'm not concerned about dying a rich man I already have what money cannot buy. Life is good. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poanoi Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 i paid 5k to my wife, i never did meet or discuss anything with MiL, i got zero intention of going to the bush ever again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phetpeter Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 I think those men who have married a Thai and moved on to another Thai woman have already proved that their decision making isn't very good. For them paying sin-sod is part of their bad decision making. For most of us who marry continue in the relationship through many problems. That doesn't mean we haven't sampled the other fruits of Thailand, but, the commitment we made to love and care for a partner for ever, is something we remind each other all the time when the pot is boiling. and a few days or longer and life continues. We don't pack up and leave. The grass isn't any greener, elsewhere as you will find when the green grass turns just as brown and worn after its been trampled on for a short while! Its stays greenish when you you give it time and care, plus the greener grass is just for laying on for a short while to be enjoyed now and then! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 47 minutes ago, 473geo said: To me a reasonable amount of sinsot is a sign of commitment, nothing more nothing less. I laugh at those who think of it as buying a wife, there is no man rich enough to afford the true value of my wife!! We have the best parcel of land in the village donated by the mother - in - law on which we built a modest home for my family. (Wife and children) I am not into ownership and certainly would not insult my wife by having a crappy usufruct My MIL supports my wife she is the head of the family, having said that my wife runs all decisions by me. As mentioned in the thread previously, not wise to try and force your will, better to suggest, and if your input is good and your wife is wise she will implement a little further down the line. By way of example when we uplifted the land for our house I suggested to my wife we plant mango trees around the edge of the plot. I said no more, she did it, now years later the whole family benefits from a supply of mangoes from the 7 trees she planted. This was the first step in my wife appreciating my input, but I also appreciate her input as she knows the Thai ways. We are a partnership, we share 'our' money. I'm not concerned about dying a rich man I already have what money cannot buy. Life is good. But, but, but, doesn't that leave you with too little to whine about?? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torrzent Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 (edited) 12 minutes ago, AYJAYDEE said: 59 minutes ago, 473geo said: To me a reasonable amount of sinsot is a sign of commitment, nothing more nothing less. If you have to prove your commitment with this, then your word is not your bond, and is meaningless! Prove your true commitment with a pre-nup! Edited May 10, 2018 by torrzent 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 (edited) 4 minutes ago, torrzent said: If you have to prove your commitment with this, then your word is not your bond, and is meaningless! Prove your true commitment with a pre-nup! when you regain your senses, perhaps you should address your post to the person that actually wrote that?? Edited May 10, 2018 by AYJAYDEE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torrzent Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 Just now, AYJAYDEE said: when you regain your senses, perhaps you should address your question to the person that actually wrote that?? I have always been in control of my senses, but it sounds like you are not in control of your dollars or "cents-es" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AYJAYDEE Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 Just now, torrzent said: I have always been in control of my senses, but it sounds like you are not in control of your dollars or "cents-es" and yet you post to me about something someone else wrote! some control! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peterw42 Posted May 10, 2018 Share Posted May 10, 2018 Dowry or SinSod, Its the last big bar fine. But paid to the parents not the bar, but unlike some bars, the parents wont give you your money back if it all goes wrong. Also, like some bars, the girl gets a share of the barfine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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