The perfect marriage

[Lacessit]

Perhaps you could explain why you find my post sad, Colin.

[colinneil]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

Perhaps you could explain why you find my post sad, Colin.

I find it sad because you called me a liar.

For those not aware fibbing is another way of saying liar.

[Lacessit]

13 minutes ago, colinneil said:

I find it sad because you called me a liar.

For those not aware fibbing is another way of saying liar.

You're saying you have the perfect marriage? Have you asked your wife for her opinion?

[soistalker]

What happened to my post?

[colinneil]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

You're saying you have the perfect marriage? Have you asked your wife for her opinion?

My wife is sitting next to me, i just asked her... you happy my darling with me?

Her response ........Roi per cent.

[1FinickyOne]

3 hours ago, Gecko123 said:

Would like to hear more anecdotes about the quality of interpersonal chemistry, teamwork as a couple, vibrant sex life after many years together, growing and growing old together, shared values and life goals. Talking about longevity of a relation in and of itself doesn't tell you much about the relationship dynamic.

My experience is that I don't get all of the things you listed but a relationship can be a positive experience with just some of the aspects you mention... there are surely aspects of my relationship that would not work for others, but are ok with me... it is also not just about what I get from a relationship but what I can give... there can be a joy in that too...

 

I think too often on this forum there are people complaining abt their wives or GF's w/o us getting to see the other side. I knew a guy who used to complain abt his wife - she was lazy etc... I was at his house one day and he was outside in the hammock... she inside. He would look up angrily at her and shake his beer can when it got near empty, as if she should have known and brought him one 2 minutes ago. I could see she hated him. Metaphorically, how many beer can shakers are out there?

 

I see the same thing as you in walking through a mall. I wonder how many words in common some of these people might have -- and figure none if she doesn't speak some English. There are farang who don't even seem to know that they are in another culture, or what that means.

 

But then, though I haven't been in a long time, I wonder how many people are walking around malls back home that are smiling happy couples. 

[villagefarang]

Projecting ones own bad experiences on to other’s relationships is sad at best. Not everyone is suffering and miserable. Some of us live amazingly happy and fulfilling lives with our wives, who just happen to be Thai. 

[Lacessit]

17 minutes ago, colinneil said:

My wife is sitting next to me, i just asked her... you happy my darling with me?

Her response ........Roi per cent.

OK, I apologise. You two have the perfect marriage.

[madmen]

The thing I miss most about western Women is the witty banter and true belly laughs and also the ability to discuss problems and not put a lid on it like Thais do . Always felt better getting an issue off my chest even if it ends up an argument and the makeup sex was always great. For me mental stimulation is extremely important and probably why I will never marry a thai because better to be alone than to feel lonely when in a relationship and I see those couples everywhere , sitting in a bar or restaurant both staring off into the distance not saying a single word.. now thats sad

 

 

 

 

 

[Lacessit]

3 minutes ago, madmen said:

The thing I miss most about western Women is the witty banter and true belly laughs and also the ability to discuss problems and not put a lid on it like Thais do . Always felt better getting an issue off my chest even if it ends up an argument and the makeup sex was always great. For me mental stimulation is extremely important and probably why I will never marry a thai because better to be alone than to feel lonely when in a relationship and I see those couples everywhere , sitting in a bar or restaurant both staring off into the distance not saying a single word.. now thats sad

 

 

 

 

 

It becomes easier if one gets reasonably proficient in Thai.

I frequently have discussions with my Thai GF on various matters. She's  not one to bottle up her feelings. As far as banter goes, I can send her into hysterics by donning certain items of clothing.

[madmen]

4 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

It becomes easier if one gets reasonably proficient in Thai.

I frequently have discussions with my Thai GF on various matters. She's  not one to bottle up her feelings. As far as banter goes, I can send her into hysterics by donning certain items of clothing.

Oh for sure I should have mention that I didn't mean all married couples

[villagefarang]

I am sitting in a coffee shop here in Chiangmai with my wife and a very good friend of ours. We are all doing different things right now. My wife is reading a book while our friend is working on her computer trying to wrap up a consulting job she has been working on.  I am posting here and on Facebook and Instagram. 

 

Later we will pick up our car and drive back to our home in Chiangrai. Last night and today have been filled with great food and conversation with amazing friends. Life is good. 

 

 

[vogie]

I thought I had the perfect marriage till I found a porn video of hers, she must have been watching this filth when I went out. Well after 15 years together the thought of her deceiving me was too much, I decided to leave her. I just hope she has many erotic nights in with her 'Free Willy' video.

[473geo]

40 minutes ago, colinneil said:

My wife is sitting next to me, i just asked her... you happy my darling with me?

Her response ........Roi per cent.

My wife laughs when I ask "not 120 percent" ???? she understands my humour.....in English ????

[473geo]

@ Villagefarang is that a bacon and egg toastie? Looks good

[villagefarang]

2 minutes ago, 473geo said:

@ Villagefarang is that a bacon and egg toastie? Looks good

Smoked ham, cheese and egg panini. It was very good. 

[Mavideol]

sorry to disagree but there's no such thing as perfect marriage, all have ups and downs and mostly downs.... have been married 4 x to 4 different ladies from 4 different countries, all from different education and wealth backgrounds, it all started well but than down hill, most here are making jokes and claiming to have fantastic relationships, good for them but would be nice if they were honest and told it how it is or better yet, should ask their partners opinions, quite sure we would have some funny surprises

[toofarnorth]

The perfect marriage by geronimo started yesterday. Well done sir , hope it lasts at least another week .

[villagefarang]

I am sure we are all eager to take advice from a four time loser. ????

[soistalker]

22 minutes ago, Mavideol said:

sorry to disagree but there's no such thing as perfect marriage, all have ups and downs and mostly downs.... have been married 4 x to 4 different ladies from 4 different countries, all from different education and wealth backgrounds, it all started well but than down hill, most here are making jokes and claiming to have fantastic relationships, good for them but would be nice if they were honest and told it how it is or better yet, should ask their partners opinions, quite sure we would have some funny surprises

O-for-4 in 4 countries. You must be a real catch.

[geoffbezoz]

32 minutes ago, Mavideol said:

sorry to disagree but there's no such thing as perfect marriage, all have ups and downs and mostly downs.... have been married 4 x to 4 different ladies from 4 different countries, all from different education and wealth backgrounds, it all started well but than down hill, most here are making jokes and claiming to have fantastic relationships, good for them but would be nice if they were honest and told it how it is or better yet, should ask their partners opinions, quite sure we would have some funny surprises

How strange that almost all on this thread, whom are not , or have not had a happy marriage, blames the breakdown on their partners at the time. Strange that they never accept any responsibility to the breakdown. Just goes to show how perfect these people on TVF are yet completely unlucky when choosing a partner !!!

 

Having said that there is nothing wrong in being married multiple times and the reason for ending one union and entering another is no more than being a good samaritan and could be an act of unselfishness. Why only make one lady happy, when with a bit more thought and patience you can make many more happy. ????????

[Destiny1990]

First Look at your neighbors and now do you envy their mixed married relationship?

 

[marcusarelus]

15 minutes ago, Destiny1990 said:

First Look at your neighbors and now do you envy their mixed married relationship?

 

7 dogs in the area.  I have the nicest one.  Not friendliest or prettiest or best smelling but the nicest.  Tony P said of his mountain tribe princess, "she ain't pretty, don't smell good and has a bad disposition but she's all mine."  You can google Tony P.    

[Destiny1990]

7 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

7 dogs in the area.  I have the nicest one.  Not friendliest or prettiest or best smelling but the nicest.  Tony P said of his mountain tribe princess, "she ain't pretty, don't smell good and has a bad disposition but she's all mine."  You can google Tony P.    

Rumor has it that you had so much problems with your visa extensions that out of desperation you married a visa agent!

[473geo]

1 hour ago, Destiny1990 said:

First Look at your neighbors and now do you envy their mixed married relationship?

 

I've never compared with others, how their marriages work is their business, I concentrate on making sure our marriage is focused on common aims and pleasurable, fulfilling, achievements.

[GreasyFingers]

3 hours ago, villagefarang said:

Smoked ham, cheese and egg panini. It was very good. 

If you eat what is in the photos every day you must happy and fat. Only joking.

[Mavideol]

5 hours ago, colinneil said:

My wife is sitting next to me, i just asked her... you happy my darling with me?

Her response ........Roi per cent.

somebody should ask when you are not present.... maybe  different answer

[Mavideol]

4 hours ago, villagefarang said:

I am sure we are all eager to take advice from a four time loser. ????

when u make such comments you are looking at yourself in the mirror, correct? I thought so.

I am going to be polite to avoid being sacked by the mods, so no name calling  but I am sure you get the drift......Who the heck do you think you are,  did I disrespect you in any way or form? do you know me? based on what are you calling me a loser, I am sure you are a low life type guy, pity and shame on you and hope we never meet face to face because if we did, there, I am sure, will be a loser and it will not be me

[Thongkorn]

i suppose without the ups and downs , life would be boring , maybe be a monk.

[Biikqth]

My wife and I have been very happily married for 37 years. (I first visited Thailand in 1974 and instantly loved the place, people and food but took a while to find the right person to marry). We are the same age (66), same education standard, same middle-class family backgrounds, same dedicated commitment to both our families, same attitudes to work, money and wealth, and have always (and still do) to just about everything together.  Our trust in one another has always been complete.  We have two terrific adult sons.  We have great families who have always totally accepted us. Her English (written and spoken) is excellent. My Thai is sufficient to get by (and to provide laughs for her family and Thais we meet).  We spend most of our time in Australia and make a couple of trips to Thailand each year, staying in our condo there.  The early years of marriage required us both to learn from each other in relation to cultural and language differences but it was no doubt harder for my wife.  We do have some different interests and hobbies but we support each other with these. We talk all the time, laugh a lot, share good friends, apologise when occasionally needed and enjoy our very fortunate life together.  Sometimes good things do happen in life.