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Why it’s time to step away from Thailand

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  • Perhaps because he has been on this forum 10 years & contributed a lot?   Perhaps because if he just left many would wonder what happened to connda.

  • Joe Mcseismic
    Joe Mcseismic

    Why the announcement? Just go.......

  • holy cow cm
    holy cow cm

    Really? It shows more and more where a lot of foreigners (long time) heads and feelings are at. It is really the insensitive ones like you who seem to know squat should refrain from posting. He touche

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Absolutely pathetic post from the OP, not a single nice thing to say about Thailand for the whole 10 years...what a sad <deleted>. 

As the old saying goes don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya !

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6 hours ago, connda said:

Actually it’s time to step back from this forum as well.  It’s become an echo chamber.  We hear the same things from the same people over and over.  But that’s not the reason for me to step back.  I’m stepping back because I’m just hearing my own echos.  And reflecting on it, the repetitiveness is a waste of time.  I’ve better things to do with the rest of my life then dwell on the peaks and valleys of living in Thailand.  

Show some manners, and leave quietly.  No need for a War and Peace length diatribe!

7 hours ago, connda said:

and the worst AQI in the world here in the North

 We grow  pineapples on our  land and yesterday a tractor  came and mashed them all up for replanting, wife had a  phone call this  morning saying please dont burn the pineapples, I  pointed out that yesterday on the way into the  village was a guy  burning his  rice  field. Head of   village said he has been fined for doing this, so it  looks  like enforcement is  being carried out in some areas. I notice many fields now  plough back into the soil instead of  burning so "maybe"  some change is  being done?

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6 hours ago, villagefarang said:

I don't care what you say, I have a great life here and I am staying.????

Yet felt the need to tell him? I find it  odd but hey ho.

I dont have any of the problems he has but who knows if that could  change? Until it  happens to you????

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Connda has always been an excellent poster.

 

All the very best to you and your family in the future, a fair wind and a bright star to steer by.

4 hours ago, sammieuk1 said:

Umm the 70k+ needed to stay in the bank or the 18.k earnings may give you a clue or just read the tory manifesto ???? 

Thought it was  about 60k and not for too  long  either, an option ive often thought about for later if required.

2 minutes ago, gunderhill said:

Thought it was  about 60k and not for too  long  either, an option ive often thought about for later if required.

If its an option for you why wait I'm talking about those who don't have that option left I think its more like 75k than 60k ???? 

5 hours ago, holy cow cm said:

neither here nor there, but almost

I'm of two minds about that, sort of anyway.

10 minutes ago, gunderhill said:

Yet felt the need to tell him? I find it  odd but hey ho.

I dont have any of the problems he has but who knows if that could  change? Until it  happens to you????

Where is this place of no problems ? Ah the graveyard.

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Great post Connda.  There are so many westerners who share your sentiments.  Unfortunately, I couldn't help notice some of the apologist, and Thais posing as westerners posting their usual idiotic comments.  Good luck to you ???? 

You're absolutely right about the difference between being a woman being married to a Thai etc. IMO that's because Thailand hasn't modernized yet in their thinking that men and women are equal and thus no  change in their laws to reflect this. I don't expect a change in my status as a foreigner married to a Thai, it won't happen in my lifetime. But I don't dwell on it, I have too much time on my hands to start brooding -  it would be destructive and pointless, I know myself.  IMO Sounds to me that you need a good long 'you first holiday' away from all so that you may reexamine what it important to you and why. I would not make decisions you cannot reverse till you have given yourself this personal time and looked at the reality of how you've been living your life after you have decompressed some. It sounds like this has been building for some time now and you've internalized it to the point of total disharmony. Go somewhere different and rediscover who you are and what makes you happy, if you still feel the same way after - choke dee..

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1. Best of luck to OP. 

 

2. All of OP's concerns are real ones. Sometimes the best solution is to walk away.

 

3. Remember please OP, your Thai wife (and kids?) face a lot of similar problems in moving to US/UK. The amount of racist hate resurfacing in the developed world is INSANE. You may soon be free from all the difficult realities you list, but your family will face a new set of difficulties. I will never forget my racist grandmother calling my first Asian wife "wifey" at the family dinner table. Large swathes of society have returned to her mindset.

 

4. For all of those considering a similar move, especially those terrified of the local authorities, consider learning the language.

 

Read, write and speak their language with sincerity and the Thais will LOVE you. It does not solve everything, but it quickly expands your group of supporters, and it will make you feel good about yourself. Between the "Women Learn Thai" site and a Thai partner, you have all the resources you need. Give it a try.

 

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Fair points on which i and many more agree.

Glad you are able to make the decision and walk away.

 

Fair winds and safe travels Sir!

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6 hours ago, Joe Mcseismic said:

So.....anyone that decides to leave first has to give an explanation why?

I think most other forum members couldn't give a toss why someone decides to leave. Leave they can, but spare us the long-winded explanations.

Don't worry, he'll be back. 95% of all flouncers just can't resist.

Based on the comments so far Joe Mcbutthurt you're wrong.

3 minutes ago, Oliver Holzerfilled said:

Based on the comments so far Joe Mcbutthurt you're wrong.

Does your mummy know that you're on the computer?

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I am noticing that it is the 'family men' who are leaving? married to Thais or to other farangs? not a scientific observation but it tends to be that way. personally I would never come here expecting to start a 'new' family with a 20+ year old younger model, some do it and are happy and good for them! I decided to retire here for fun, relaxation and travel and it's fine. Not as good as it was but fine.

Good luck, wish you all the best.

Are you from the UK, and if so was your decision triggered by the GBP dipping below 38 to the baht?

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1 hour ago, Joe Mcseismic said:

Does your mummy know that you're on the computer?

Not mine. But yours does.

 

very well written post by connda. 

 

To those that complain about his post perhaps ask yourself why you read it if not interested. And then feel the need to post saying your are not intetested.

 

Some of us are interested. Please be a nice grown up and let us read in peace.

In other words, if u dont like the thread then just leave, no need to tell everyone.

 

Oh the irony.

1 minute ago, Sujo said:

Please be a nice grown up and let us read in peace.

Oh that's rich from you.

Joe McButthurt.

4 minutes ago, Sujo said:

Not mine. But yours does.

I doubt it. She's a bit dead.

Is this your version of the Trump "I'm not the puppet, you're the puppet" defense?

9 hours ago, connda said:

Why it’s time to step away from Thailand.

I have no idea why !!!   please guru enlighten me.

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Taking an Asian wife or GF back to OZ I could never do. The racism is insane and wouldnt be fair on the girl, The guys consider Asian woman as the last thing you pick up in a nightclub at 3am if you did not find better and refer to them all as slopes. The Woman are worse and don't want them in the social circle because they are all prostitutes and will steal their husbands

 

That's the harsh reality 

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"What’s that old saying?  If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything?"

Apparently the OP has a problem following his own advice.

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2 hours ago, Joe Mcseismic said:

Thais posing as westerners? What nonsense!

Indeed the idiots would need 50 years of education, to achieve that.

17 minutes ago, KiChakayan said:

Indeed the idiots would need 50 years of education, to achieve that.

There are actually some people on this board that believe Thais are impersonating westerners so that they can post.

Of course, no proof whatsoever is offered. Unbelievable!

I'm sure these posters believe that the moon landing was a hoax, Elvis is still alive and NASA is covering up that the world is actually flat.

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2 minutes ago, Joe Mcseismic said:

There are actually some people on this board that believe Thais are impersonating westerners so that they can post.

Of course, no proof whatsoever is offered. Unbelievable!

I'm sure these posters believe that the moon landing was a hoax, Elvis is still alive and NASA is covering up that the world is actually flat.

The problem is that there are quite a few members here who keep repeating that everything is fine in Thailand, that "it is their country" and that anyone critical about the local mess should be sent home.

Enough to create a climate of paranoia, if you ask me.

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