My first (and only) Thai wife worked for a bank !

funnily enough she was Psychotic, thieving, lying, little  ****!

And those were her good points

6 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

I really need the iMac as it has so many contacts and work related stuff on

maybe she wipe out everything already.... and this it's why always have a copy of everything in my portable USB DRIVE, better safe than sorry

6 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

No she hasn't, shes holding it randsome as she wants 80k from me today lol.. 

Offer 50.. and then be done with it.

Just now, nauseus said:

6 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

No she hasn't, shes holding it randsome as she wants 80k from me today lol.. 

Offer 50.. and then be done with it.

 

Don't offer anything !!!.. why are all these guys on here saying 'offer money'...  they broke up, he has done nothing wrong. The idea that he should give her any money at all is preposterous. 

 

The Op has his iMac back, however his Ex has now sold his valuable Camera - The Op can now have her charged with Theft - she has stolen from him, there is now no doubt or grey area on this. 

 

 

3 minutes ago, nauseus said:

Offer 50.. and then be done with it.

should start lower around 15-20.... art of the deal 555

"Sorry if this is the wrong forum, but I ended a 4yr relationship a few weeks back. The house we rented is in her name but my clothes, imac camera etc are there. She wants a huge amount of money to get it back go me..."

 

Next time simply move everything before you end the relationship or at least at the same time. Perhaps she was simply very sad and wanted to punish you. 

2 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Don't offer anything !!!.. why are all these guys on here saying 'offer money'...  they broke up, he has done nothing wrong. The idea that he should give her any money at all is preposterous. 

 

The Op has his iMac back, however his Ex has now sold his valuable Camera - The Op can now have her charged with Theft - she has stolen from him, there is now no doubt or grey area on this. 

 

 

He can do that. He might be lucky. But here you are always surrounded by grey areas that might end up costing more.

6 minutes ago, Mavideol said:

6 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

I really need the iMac as it has so many contacts and work related stuff on

maybe she wipe out everything already.... and this it's why always have a copy of everything in my portable USB DRIVE, better safe than sorry

 

Yep - Back-ups to an SSD Hard Drive which can be carried around without risk of damage or failure due to an inadvertent 'drop' or rough treatment is the way to go.

 

That is also beyond the point somewhat - the Ops Ex GF was trying to extort him and has sold his camera (which is now theft), fortunately for him she has returned his computer. 

 

In the Ops shoes I would be very certain about my next course of action which would be to visit the Police Station once again and draw up charges of theft - this is even stronger if the Op has proof of Purchase and can find out where / to whom his Ex has sold the Camera. 

 

3 minutes ago, Mavideol said:

should start lower around 15-20.... art of the deal 555

I suppose it depends on how much free time he has and how soon he wants a result.

2 minutes ago, Beggar said:

"Sorry if this is the wrong forum, but I ended a 4yr relationship a few weeks back. The house we rented is in her name but my clothes, imac camera etc are there. She wants a huge amount of money to get it back go me..."

 

Next time simply move everything before you end the relationship or at least at the same time. Perhaps she was simply very sad and wanted to punish you. 

Beware the woman scorned....especially here.

Well, go over to Randsome and take it back!

6 hours ago, Kadilo said:

She’s probably already sold it 

You heard it here first. 

It's the path of least resistence, grasshopper. Being a foreigner, he's already suffering a major handicap - someone here is going to lose face big time, and it's better that it is him, not her.

Lose face - lol

Well done grasshopper....


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1 hour ago, Mavideol said:

maybe she wipe out everything already.... and this it's why always have a copy of everything in my portable USB DRIVE, better safe than sorry

He already got the iMac back (though she did sell his camera, apparently).

1 hour ago, NCC1701A said:

i don't have a live in girlfriend but i still have a "decoy" house at a different location where i meet everyone.

Only one "safe house" ?   What if you get a stalker ?  You might have to stay away for some time... 

I always kept 3 or 4 safe houses stocked with passports and canned goods.   Learned that from my training as a Navy seal..... or was it CIA ?  

2 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

lol why are some people so not understanding (I do not mean you RedPill, the person you are replying to) I have so many memories, contacts, programs, browser settings and bookmarks... Plus like you said, these days your ID is all over your computer, if it gets into the wrong hands (a vengeful crazy ex) then yeah, who knows. And it wasn't just a laptop, it was an iMac.

 

Timemachine backup....One of the best features of OSX.

Can be easily done encrypted to a remote server a la idrive, a few bucks a month and you have peace of mind regarding that  ????

5 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

I have experience with them, good and bad. I can also speak Thai so it helps. Anyway, I got my iMac, the b*tch sold my camera though, and also some money I had stashed away 'is gone' - funny you meet a girl who works at a bank, seems ok, live with her for 4 years and then when you want to break up, all hell breaks loose. Lesson learned. Also the police didn't require any money 

Good to know you can finaly have sorted pretty well of this.

And yes, never ever let's know to a thai girl you want to break with her

just pack all your stuff when she is not at home and take the way out, as far as you can

eventualy let a little paper on the table to say goodbye and never go back.

3 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

I paid the rent and electric every month, she paid the water bill. 

Then a 95% vs a 5% of the total bills

it was a pretty fair distribution

i can understand she was angry at loosing such a roommate

i hope she was at least good in the bed

11 minutes ago, FredGallaher said:

But just packing up and leaving would not have created 12 pages of utter nonsense. What are you trying to achieve by airing your poor judgement on this forum? You did get some good advice about protecting your data, but you should have known this already.

What are you trying to explain exactly? Sorry i don't get it.

Have you missed the point that i am not the OP?

Or you have just miss quoted?

12 minutes ago, FredGallaher said:

How much was the rent and electricity? 

Do you think it was the same amount for the water bill?

Have you ever rent and paid water and elect bills in Thailand?

 

37 minutes ago, FredGallaher said:

But just packing up and leaving would not have created 12 pages of utter nonsense

mmhh ... the OP posted at page 7 that he got his stuff back and said thanks for the responses and thanks for reading.

 

The stuff which makes it utter nonsense is people going on forever. 

 

Fred, why are you posting on page 12 deep diving into an electric bill with a guy which is not even his? ????

 

That's the kind of stuff which creates page 13 lol. Funny all this. So serious everybody all the time. ????

 

Edited September 28, 20196 yr by RedPill

speaks thai but doesn't have a key to the house he has been living in for 4 years

and so stupid to end relationship BEFORE he removed all his stuff?
 

yea, right

17 minutes ago, phuketrichard said:

speaks thai but doesn't have a key to the house he has been living in for 4 years

and so stupid to end relationship BEFORE he removed all his stuff?
 

yea, right

Nobody is perfect ????

1 minute ago, kingofthemountain said:

Nobody is perfect ????

Yeah, exactly.

 

I could completely relate to the OP. I also once 'lost' my laptop, different circumstances, nevertheless ... a good topic to discuss with others. 

 

What's utter nonsense for one, is not utter nonsense for someone else. 

 

If it's all utter nonsense, then why read the 12 pages and still post on it?

No one forces anyone to read through it at all. 

I will never will understand when people say things like this on a forum ????

 

 

 

10 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

I really need the iMac as it has so many contacts and work related stuff on

time for a negotiation? Ask her what she wants... in Thai. 

15 minutes ago, kenk24 said:

time for a negotiation? Ask her what she wants... in Thai. 

ken,  unfortunately there is no way to fast forward to find out what happens in these suspenseful threads.

I had to scroll through a few pages to get my reward.   

Anyway, all turned out so so.   No broken bones ,  just a few bruises from the TV  experts.   

This is when she went B-A Barakas. That is essentially what happened 

1 hour ago, RedPill said:

Yeah, exactly.

 

I could completely relate to the OP. I also once 'lost' my laptop, different circumstances, nevertheless ... a good topic to discuss with others. 

 

What's utter nonsense for one, is not utter nonsense for someone else. 

 

If it's all utter nonsense, then why read the 12 pages and still post on it?

No one forces anyone to read through it at all. 

I will never will understand when people say things like this on a forum ????

 

 

 

Put it down to their extreme boredom and negative view on life. 

6 hours ago, rumak said:

Only one "safe house" ?   What if you get a stalker ?  You might have to stay away for some time... 

I always kept 3 or 4 safe houses stocked with passports and canned goods.   Learned that from my training as a Navy seal..... or was it CIA ?  

I learned the same in the SNS.

20 days ago, I had enough of my gfs refusing to talk about important issues, among other things.(no, not climate change...but relationship stuff)

She was gone for a few hours, at Mama's. I had my stuffed bagged up in the living room when she returned. Amazingly, she was willing to talk, and even made some changes.....for about 12 hours. The next day it was back to normal, and worse.

Never bothered to unpack. Was gone in 30 minutes. My goal is to not accumulate anything I can't throw in my vehicle in 30 minutes, and leave.

I regret leaving some nice teak furniture behind, but not the dingbat usually sprawled on it, watching music videos or lakorn.

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