2 minutes ago, JaiLai said:

What woud you recommend?

Do the opposite of anything you advise. 

 

Edit. I’ve already said walk away. 80,000 for an iPad and a camera. She’s off her head and that’s just the start. 

Edited September 28, 20196 yr by Kadilo

1 minute ago, JaiLai said:

What woud you recommend?

Offer the ex some money?

Go and buy a fake 3 Baht gold chain and tell her you will borrow your friends gold  to swap for your bank book and laptop . you need the bank book to pay him back

3 minutes ago, Kadilo said:

Do the opposite of anything you advise. 

So get walked all over then, thought so - thanks for confirming that.

7 minutes ago, JaiLai said:

What's your next trick, crossing the road?

No, I leave that to the insane. ???? 

Just now, JaiLai said:

So get walked all over then, thought so - thanks for confirming that.

If you wish to put it that way then yes. Its not a who has the biggest knob competition. 

 

The alternatives are potentially a lot worse than a bit of swallowed pride and iPad/camera. 

Just now, OneMoreFarang said:

No, I leave that to the insane. ???? 

Probably too scared, right?

Just now, JaiLai said:

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

No, I leave that to the insane. ???? 

Probably too scared, right?

There is a reason why insane people are called insane.

 

1 minute ago, Kadilo said:

If you wish to put it that way then yes. Its not a who has the biggest knob competition. 

 

The alternatives are potentially a lot worse than a bit of swallowed pride and iPad/camera. 

No one mentioned knobs.....

 

It's an iMac, a $3000 machine <deleted>, not a 2000 baht camera, but it's the principle anyway...

 

How do you know what the potential alternatives are?

Just now, OneMoreFarang said:

There is a reason why insane people are called insane.

 

he looks like your avatar, is there something you're not telling us?

Sorry but I think you first mistake is going to police.

This only get her more pumped up if she find out about that and probably destroy the stuff in anger.

 

Because my little experience in stuff like this is first thing Thai police to ask you is

"what did you do to her?"

 

they not believe you and mostly side with the Thai anyway because for them thinking its always the farangs out doing stupid drunken stuff.

 

So knowing what actually lead up to all this might change peoples advices.

 

I would say just let her simmer down, soften her up with some few thousand baht worth of gift, then as the many poster said,

Do a BS make-up..get the stuff back and then do some Forrest Gump running.

 

But Of course if the big stuff went down before and if you did some questionable stuff then maybe none of any advices will work and just accept your stuff is toast!

 

1 hour ago, ExpatLife said:

my ex has ALL of my stuff. What is the best way to move forward here??

Should have asked for advice before, answer would have been move out while she's at work/visiting someone, dump her by SMS.

You're lucky she's negotiating, a lot of the ladies would have destroyed it all, passport first.

 

Tell her you want her back, move back in, do it right next time.

Edited September 28, 20196 yr by BritManToo

5 minutes ago, JaiLai said:

Probably too scared, right?

5 minutes ago, tingtongtourist said:

Sorry but I think you first mistake is going to police.

This only get her more pumped up if she find out about that and probably destroy the stuff in anger.

 

Because my little experience in stuff like this is first thing Thai police to ask you is

"what did you do to her?"

 

they not believe you and mostly side with the Thai anyway because for them thinking its always the farangs out doing stupid drunken stuff.

 

So knowing what actually lead up to all this might change peoples advices.

 

I would say just let her simmer down, soften her up with some few thousand baht worth of gift, then as the many poster said,

Do a BS make-up..get the stuff back and then do some Forrest Gump running.

 

But Of course if the big stuff went down before and if you did some questionable stuff then maybe none of any advices will work and just accept your stuff is toast!

 

I wonder how many of the people here who "know" the police won't help have any personal experience with the Thai police.

I know they have the reputation to be corrupt and some prominent cases in the press leave little doubt about that.

But somehow I find it hard to believe the police is always bad news for foreigners.

How many people here have personal experience with the police? And how much of that information if from some guy somewhere in a bar or online?

Have been aware of similar situation, will not go into details but lawyer said owner of goods has full right to get it back.

 

first you file a police report, then if fails, you can hire a lawyer for 10000 baht to come with you to police station and the house . 

2 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

1 hour ago, ExpatLife said:

No she hasn't, shes holding it ransom as she wants 80k from me today lol.. 

 

 

$2500 USD doesn't sound too bad for your computer, camera, and clothes.   

 

Just look at it as part of her co-habitation fees for those 4 years  haha

7 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I wonder how many of the people here who "know" the police won't help have any personal experience with the Thai police.

Yes, will be interesting to see what the results are after the OP goes to the police station with his thai friend to inquire about his belongings / ransom (believe OP said he was going this morning) 

Jesus wept man, grow a backbone be a man and go round take what is rightly yours. Unbelieavable!

just watch the house, when she goes out,break a window, in and out in a few minutes, job done.

47 minutes ago, wgdanson said:

Offer the ex some money?

She want 80K for stuff that belongs to him. I'd bring the police.

7 minutes ago, mercman24 said:

just watch the house, when she goes out,break a window, in and out in a few minutes, job done.

Come on, you can't be serious

9 minutes ago, mercman24 said:

just watch the house, when she goes out,break a window, in and out in a few minutes, job done.

No way do that!!  The police already know about him ...that is the stupid way and way to end up in jail.  You are not smart.

19 minutes ago, Khon Kaen Jeff said:

Jesus wept man, grow a backbone be a man and go round take what is rightly yours. Unbelieavable!

And if she has some friends with baseball bats living with her now.  What then? 

Just take the beating like a man?

File a police report saying your stuff is stolen, and you are confident it is in her house.  Having stolen property is a lot different than her simply not letting you into her house.  Sometimes repackaging things gets better results

6 minutes ago, Skallywag said:

And if she has some friends with baseball bats living with her now.  What then? 

Just take the beating like a man?

Sounds like you are making excuses for yourself, this aint a film I highly doubt you will be clubbed to death somehow. You tried the right approach initially which didn't help so now it's time to take the gloves off.

 

31 minutes ago, Khon Kaen Jeff said:

Jesus wept man, grow a backbone be a man and go round take what is rightly yours. Unbelieavable!

What a stupid comment!

Doing that is the perfect way to get arrested and get thrown into jail - in any country.

Just now, Khon Kaen Jeff said:

Sounds like you are making excuses for yourself, this aint a film I highly doubt you will be clubbed to death somehow. You tried the right approach initially which didn't help so now it's time to take the gloves off.

 

I am not the OP.  But as the OP mentioned earlier, the house where they lived is in her name.  So if he enters it uninvited he is either trespassing or breaking and entering.   The OP is going to the police station with a friend this morning to find out how he can get his things back.  Maybe it will be resolved, maybe he will have to try an alternative method, something like you suggested (agree likely no friends with clubs waiting) 

2 hours ago, ExpatLife said:

Yeah about 100kbaht in total for those 2 items alone.

The police officer that was called to the house yesterday said she must have the key... so i dont have one no

have you ever heard of a LOCKSMITH????

1 hour ago, Momofarang said:

Get there with for or five of your mates beat the excrement out of her, and take what's rightfully yours.

 

1 hour ago, JaiLai said:

Excellent idea, totally agree.

yeah. do it in front of a CCTV camera so we can watch on Thai TV. 

Edited September 28, 20196 yr by NCC1701A

you say your renting the house...so how can the house be in HER name??

your stuff in it IS YOURS go get it out....