a transparent head 

I'm asking this question strictly referring to Thai women for long term relationships/marriage.

For me personally, a Thai woman must possess a few main attributes before I would even think about getting into something serious with her.

 

they are the following :

 

1. Must be well educated, preferably bachelor/master/Phd.  Met Thai wife to be in the US where she was in grad school working on her Master's.  Completed her PhD after that.

2. Has a solid circle of friends who are similarly educated.  Check

3. Has a stable job on a decent income.  Nope, she was a grad student but did have an assistantship that covered tuition, books, and a small stipend.

4. Does not hang around in bars in her spare time.  Never

5. Has never been and does not mix with bar girls or prostitutes.  Never

6. Enjoys similar kinds of food as I do.  Nope but is willing to try new stuff.  Doesn't have to always eat Thai food.

7. Has a decent taste in music & films and/or is willing to learn about them if she doesn't know much.  Yes, including western music

8. Does not have any psychotic brothers that sleep with a pistol under their pillow.  No, her brothers are pretty cool

9. Is calm and affectionate and does not fly off the handle every time I spill beer on the couch.  Luckily I don't do that and she has a lot of patience

10. Has a great smile.  Yes, but it seems most of them do.

In addition, her family definitely has more $$ than mine.  

To those that say these types don't exist, you are wrong.  There are many of them out there.  She had a lot of friends that were very similar to this.  Most were just finishing their grad school degrees and then returning to Bangkok.  

That's pretty close to what I was looking for in a partner. City girl. Middle class or so. Someone like me. Educated, working professional, divorced and kid fine with me because that's me. Similar life experiences/situation. We met through an online site almost 10 years ago. We got married 7 years ago in the States. The #1 was chemistry and we hit it off from the beginning. Not that there were not bumps along the way since we met and both of us have learned and adapted to each other and each culture. Now we are looking to return to Thailand.

 

 

Its entirely no fault of theirs due to the education system and parents etc , but they all seem to lack confidence and intelligence .

And no shame in asking for money . Bar girls are more honest in that respect . There might be the odd one out, but I’ve never met her. Yet. 

Someone who is honest [a lot of them are]; untemperamental; cheerful; hardworking; not from a peasant background; has never worked in the sex industry; doesn't expect money to be sent home; has a maximum of two offspring who are past school age and have good jobs; is tall, slim and shapely and very good-looking. My woman is all these things.

My list has very little in common with yours.

 

Honesty, respect, sincere, kind, thoughtful. considerate, responsible, reliable, higher education not important, unselfish, amenable, adorable, cheerful, passionate about anything that is worthwhile, pleasing on the eye, gives time and attention, love and affection, sense of humour (being able to take a joke).

 

There are more...

 

I have all of those personality and strength of character traits in my Thai wife and I try hard to offer the same in return.

 

No difference whether Thai or any Nationality.

 

I know she wants to be loved and I want that too!

 

In another thread I said I am a Happy and lucky man.

18 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

1 ) Must be 20 years my junior, speak English, be pretty, taller than 165cm, under 55kg, not into nail polish or makeup, I like them ala natural

 

2 ) Has to have had her training in the bar scene

 

3 ) Doesn't have a problem with me going for a short time when I want too

 

4 ) Keeps her family members at bay and doesn't mix with others

 

5 ) Cooks like a chef

 

6 ) Loves to clean, iron while I sit on my rear watching TV

 

7 ) Likes the uniforms I buy her

 

8 ) Isn't a big spender

 

9 ) isn't a ball breaker

 

10) Loves me long time

 

Oh, sorry, I already met and married her 15 years ago ????

 

 

Nr. 9: She better isn't: ouch.

1.) She is not a duck feeder.

2.) Under 30 Years old.

3.) hot bod'.

 

Never be worth more dead than alive.

1. Orphan, no family.

The OP's question and checklist, not to mention many of the replies, are a sad commentary on the general level of intelligence of farang, male expats in Thailand. Pretty pathetic. 

Edited May 29, 20215 yr by stephen tracy

On 5/28/2021 at 11:18 AM, WineOh said:

1. Must be well educated, preferably bachelor/master/Phd.

2. Has a solid circle of friends who are similarly educated.

3. Has a stable job on a decent income.

4. Does not hang around in bars in her spare time.

5. Has never been and does not mix with bar girls or prostitutes.

6. Enjoys similar kinds of food as I do.

7. Has a decent taste in music & films and/or is willing to learn about them if she doesn't know much.

8. Does not have any psychotic brothers that sleep with a pistol under their pillow.

9. Is calm and affectionate and does not fly off the handle every time I spill beer on the couch.

10. Has a great smile.

How do you measure up on those 10 points?  Do you have a PhD? Do you have a solid circle of friends, all with PhD? How about 3, 4 and 5?

6&7 - are you willing to eat what she does and listen to her music? 

48 minutes ago, Brickbat said:

Its entirely no fault of theirs due to the education system and parents etc , but they      all       seem to lack confidence and intelligence .

And no shame in asking for money . Bar girls are more honest in that respect . There might be the odd one out, but I’ve never met her. Yet. 

So you actually know them ALL? ????

An orphan without any siblings who isn't a devout follower of any religion and who doesn't otherwise lack common sense either.

WINOH or is it just Wino? 

 

 What do you look for in a Thai Woman?

 

If you the Wino then those women that have the 10 Things you want them to have . 

I bet they don't want You.    ????

Like many others answering the OP's original question ("..strictly referring to Thai women for long term relationships/marriage") I would not look for anything different in a Thai woman than any other nationality. That is, I would (and did) go for someone of a similar educational level and social class to myself, who would be easily able to mix with my friends and family. 

Ones I would stay clear of are those with 'baggage', as family would always come first. In addition, nobody has yet mentioned compulsive gamblers, a common trait among Thai women. Friends I know who have played cards with them tell me they also tend to be compulsive cheats, and anyone who cheats at cards is likely to cheat in life.

31 minutes ago, stephen tracy said:

The OP's question and checklist, not to mention many of the replies, are a sad commentary on the general level of intelligence of farang, male expats in Thailand. Pretty pathetic. 

What's pathetic is posters who sit in judgment of people they have never met, and snipe from behind a keyboard.

4 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

What's pathetic is posters who sit in judgment of people they have never met, and snipe from behind a keyboard.

I would make the same comment to your face. 

No more than 3 foot high, a big mouth and a flat head, so I can put my beer on it.

Many of the comments on this thread appear to be flippant in answering the OP, though his specifications for a Thai woman didn't seem so serious or relevant to me as it relates to a possible successful relationship.

 

Maybe I did the stupid thing and answered the question!

 

 

2 hours ago, Fex Bluse said:

 

The problem is that we men are wired to believe that only we can fantasize about doing nasty stuff and even do it while still being happy in a relationship. 

 

Women are just as nasty as we are. The 'good girl' who never worked in a bar has accidentally cheated on you, maybe just emotionally, with her work colleague. 

 

She has forgotten to disclose to you that she accidentally got drunk just before meeting you and gave 2 blowjobs to 2 different strangers on the same day, just because she wanted to know what it feels like to be a whore. 

 

Men cannot tolerate this idea, so we let ourselves play along with the fantasy that there are 'good girls'. 

 

It's rubbish 

But, but, my one is different!

12 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

What's pathetic is posters who sit in judgment of people they have never met, and snipe from behind a keyboard.

Incorrect! Some of us arrive at a judgement OF others, not AGAINST them. These judgements or, perhaps perceptions, arise from the distinct impression "others" give from what they write.

17 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

I got to admit, I have been with a lot of women in my life, not bragging, just making the statement. In all had about 3 girlfriends and an ex wife (non Thai), suffice to say I happily married a bargirl of 7 months, and to be honest, I don't give a rats if she was in the gig for 7 years.

 

Of all the people I have met in my life, she is my right hand man, she has made me the happiest I have ever been in the 15 years we have been married.

 

Only if all prostitutes, a word I detest, but will say it, were like her, the world would be a better place and maybe, just maybe the Rob Muirs of the world could also be happy, but I doubt that.

 

Each to their own, never was into women with an education or money, albeit it I had many opportunities but the chemistry wasn't there, I prefer to be with someone who is just themselves and who appreciated life for what it is.

 

We all have a past and those who beat their chests and put others down because they think their %hit don't stink, aren't worthy of even talking about and I wish them all the misery in their search for love, because when it comes knocking on your door, the last person you would think you would hook up, could be a prostitute, God forbid...lol 

 

People are people and those who label and put people down are uneducated where it counts, i.e. streetwise and only know love straight from their soapboxes.

 

Go ahead, make my day and marry a hooker, who knows, you might be happily ever after, after all I know lots of blokes who have and are smitten..... ????

 

 

Spot on, someone can check all the boxes, have the best CV, went to the best schools in the world, but still be deeply flawed characters, LOL. Just look at some of the politicians in the U.S.! ????

Edited May 29, 20215 yr by tao40

A  pulse..............although????

37 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

But, but, my one is different!

Wooden leg eh, bad  luck.

1 hour ago, Caldera said:

An orphan without any siblings who isn't a devout follower of any religion and who doesn't otherwise lack common sense either.

I  married  her already, bad  luck,  no really both parents  dead.

Is Bangkok the only city to meet educated girls in?

1 hour ago, stephen tracy said:

I would make the same comment to your face. 

 I daresay you were not taught good manners as a child. You go around offending complete strangers?

A good friend of mine once said to me " It doesn't matter how smart you think you are, there will always be someone out there smarter than you". Permit me to doubt you are that person.

 

On 5/28/2021 at 12:12 PM, WineOh said:

Thanks for your input.

looking at your list I don't see you marrying soon.

Just now, Tony125 said:

looking at your list I don't see you marrying soon.

I am married.