Age Gap Relationships... in the Later Years? (Opinions/Experiences Sought)

[tethys]

I think we have to look at this from two different angles: one is from the legal angle and the other is from the moral angle.

 

From the legal approach it's nobody's business what two consenting people do between themselves. There isn't one country on earth that forbids this.

 

From the moral perspective it becomes very complicated and dependent on many factors. Western countries decided to become secular, i.e. not to be governed by the morals of a religion. So moral became a simple legal matter.

 

In Thailand it is the same, there is no legal or moral law against it.

 

So those who disapprove this, what are they going to do? Rolling their eyes around?

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, Will B Good said:

Still got 10 years left in me.....but I've made a mental note.....555

Nine years from now, will you be able to remember it?

[Skallywag]

1 hour ago, Will B Good said:

I said she needs to think about remarrying, at which she was horrified and said the last thing she wanted was another man in her life.....Not sure how to take that.

She was likely happy before she met you and can be happy when you are gone.  

 

Some people can be happy with just friends and family, no spouse necessary  ????

 

[Tony125]

19 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

So in other words, you want a maid who will also give you sex.

 

Not judging, but that ain't for me.

Never wanted a live in servant, but someone who was my equal who could if needed knock me on the head and tell me to shape up

Had women at my job say why do you go over to Thailand , are't we good enough for you? I said, no. They said  oh you want a slave.  My reply I don't want a slave and never force any woman to act like one towards me but I also never had any American girls I dated  who offered to cut my toe nails/finger nails give me a massage, treat me like a king as I treat her like a queen. It's not being  a slave or subserviant to your husband but they grow up learning that if you have a good husband  who provides well for you, treats you nicely, is clean curteous and handsome you should treat him well.

 

The above couple don't seem to care what others think about their age gap ( same as Nick Cage 31 years older than his wife, George Cloney 20 years older and many other US stars with biggg age gaps)  And for you that say you are disgusted seeing a old guy pushing a baby carriage thru a supermarket , why?  My friend in US could never have dated a young enough girl/woman to give him a kid but married a younger Thai woman and has the son he always wanted. His son is now 16 and he has had time to take him all around the US , Mexico  and Thailand  and when he passes his son will remember the good times with his dad and my friend provided his wife with a child, home, security, money, cars and a much better way of life than she would have had in Thailand. (came from poor family) Plus his son has dual citizenship and can live/work in US/Thailand  and will inherit money to start him on his way. Mother will also recieve pension after his death. Win win situation.

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

Looking back through the thread, I have to ask, is this girl actually confirmed as being "ugly" by Thai standards?  Or are you just suggesting that this is the kind of girl that you think Thai men don't like?

I don't know what Thai guys think is ugly. I know what some Thai guys think is pretty or sexy and I wouldn't want any of them.

 

One situation which I will never forget is when I was in an office and someone mentioned something like I should talk to Nit about an issue. I told them sorry I forgot the names, who is Nit? The answer was: She is the darkest girl in this office. I still didn't know because I never cared about their skin color. And when I finally found Nit I didn't think she was much darker then the others.

After that I told that story to my gf and then later other office girls. And they all confirmed to me that every girl in every office knows exactly the order of white to dark in their office. Like if 10 girls work there you can ask them who is the 3rd whitest and they all know. I think that is crazy but it seems like that's the way it is in Thailand.

[BangkokReady]

13 minutes ago, Tony125 said:

treat me like a king as I treat her like a queen. It's not being  a slave or subserviant to your husband but they grow up learning that if you have a good husband  who provides well for you, treats you nicely, is clean curteous and handsome you should treat him well.

I think this is the problem with many Western women (I know it's a little cliched to even complain about it), they are encouraged to believe that they don't need to actually do anything and just being them is what they bring to a relationship, while the man must meet a laundry list of requirements.

 

16 minutes ago, Tony125 said:

The above couple don't seem to care what others think about their age gap

A cute couple, and I'm sure both are happy with the arrangement.  Yet I'm sure, sadly, many would object to it and try to pretend the man is doing something bad and the woman is a victim.

 

16 minutes ago, Tony125 said:

And for you that say you are disgusted seeing a old guy pushing a baby carriage thru a supermarket , why?

I speculated on this in another thread.  It could be a subconscious reaction that is something to do with ability to provide and support the woman through childbirth and childrearing.  The reactions we have where we feel disgusted and shame people are often related to behaviour that is bad for the "tribe".  So a lot of behaviour is stigmatised and considered immoral and when people see it they will make judgements and treat the person/people involved negatively.  Another example I thought of is where a woman is very promiscuous and sleeps with many men.  This would lead to a high chance of the women becoming pregnant and the "tribe" being left to care for the baby because the father is not there.  Similarly if an older guy has a baby with a much younger woman, it is possible that she becomes pregnant and then the "tribe" is left looking after the baby again.

 

It's funny, because I don't doubt for a second that women who are quick to say that they should be allowed to behave however they want, would be just as quick to make judgements and shame men for doing something that they disapprove of.  I also imagine that they would try to rationalise it and say that wherever there is an age gap there is always predatory and exploitative behaviour.  But really, women don't like men having options.

[BangkokReady]

11 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I don't know what Thai guys think is ugly. I know what some Thai guys think is pretty or sexy and I wouldn't want any of them.

Yeah, the super skinny, ghostly pale skin (that looks weird because it's out of a bottle), the braces and the coloured lenses do not seem attractive to me.

 

11 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Like if 10 girls work there you can ask them who is the 3rd whitest and they all know. I think that is crazy but it seems like that's the way it is in Thailand.

I remember hearing one girl call another girl "black" and I just thought "she only just darker than you and you have very brown skin".  It's, interesting.

[OneMoreFarang]

18 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

the braces and the coloured lenses do not seem attractive to me

Now there I have to disagree with you. ????

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, BangkokReady said:

A cute couple, and I'm sure both are happy with the arrangement.  Yet I'm sure, sadly, many would object to it and try to pretend the man is doing something bad and the woman is a victim.

I've always felt I was their victim.

[BangkokReady]

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I've always felt I was their victim.

Absolutely.  And this relates to my point above.  As much as people swear that an older man must be taking advantage of a younger woman due "power dynamics", more worldly people are aware of the fact that a cute young girl can have total control over an older guy with great ease.

 

Sadly, some people simply deny basic truths where it goes against their anti-male narrative. ????‍♂️

[BangkokReady]

48 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Now there I have to disagree with you. ????

OK, OK, I meant the whole package and a particular look.  Obviously she looks very beautiful.

[Fat is a type of crazy]

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[Tony125]

3 minutes ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

But..can I say it..that old guy dancing with his young girlfriend to me looks undignified and sad. Not sure why that is my reaction but there it is. 

Probably the way you were brought up kinda a prude who probably believes old guys 70+ don't or shouldn't be having sex. My wifes gran-pa died 2 weeks ago at 92, he was still messing with women when he was 91.  My father died at 95 was still having sex at 93 living in his own aprartment till he had a stroke and had to be put in a nursing home.  If you workout to stay strong/verile and possibly use viagra and/or Testosterone therapy/suppliments  many guys can still function in later years especially if they have a younger, attractive  GF/wife  and not one that looks and feels/acts like a gran ma.

[pgrahmm]

7 hours ago, EVENKEEL said:

I was gone from US for 2 yrs solid because of covid, when I returned late last year for a visit I was quite shocked to see tent cities all over. On ramps, off ramps, for fork sake. 

Two years ago on our vacation to the US my wife spotted a tent city while rolling through Sacramento....

She said "look at all the campers"....I didn't correct her.....

We're looking toward an August return for 4-6 months.... I'm not sure what to expect - but, it can't have gotten better.....

[Fat is a type of crazy]

18 minutes ago, Tony125 said:

Probably the way you were brought up kinda a prude who probably believes old guys 70+ don't or shouldn't be having sex. My wifes gran-pa died 2 weeks ago at 92, he was still messing with women when he was 91.  My father died at 95 was still having sex at 93 living in his own aprartment till he had a stroke and had to be put in a nursing home.  If you workout to stay strong/verile and possibly use viagra and/or Testosterone therapy/suppliments  many guys can still function in later years especially if they have a younger, attractive  GF/wife  and not one that looks and feels/acts like a gran ma.

It's not what he's doing but the way. I think if he was wearing decent clothes and doing something with a bit of dignity instead of trying so hard on camera to say look at me I've still got it and I can keep up with the young ones it might be OK. Not saying older people shouldn't have sex.. with young or old.. whomever is willing to go there. 

[Skallywag]

3 hours ago, Tony125 said:

  My reply I don't want a slave and never force any woman to act like one towards me but I also never had any American girls I dated  who offered to cut my toe nails/finger nails give me a massage, treat me like a king as I treat her like a queen.

Cut my own nails, women massage me 200-300 baht.  ????

I guess I am treated like a king as well, yet with a different queen 2-3 times a week . 555

[Will B Good]

3 hours ago, Tony125 said:

Probably the way you were brought up kinda a prude who probably believes old guys 70+ don't or shouldn't be having sex. My wifes gran-pa died 2 weeks ago at 92, he was still messing with women when he was 91.  My father died at 95 was still having sex at 93 living in his own aprartment till he had a stroke and had to be put in a nursing home.  If you workout to stay strong/verile and possibly use viagra and/or Testosterone therapy/suppliments  many guys can still function in later years especially if they have a younger, attractive  GF/wife  and not one that looks and feels/acts like a gran ma.

No man ever lay on his deathbed and said........"God. I wish I'd never slept with so many women".

[Skallywag]

4 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

As much as people swear that an older man must be taking advantage of a younger woman due "power dynamics", more worldly people are aware of the fact that a cute young girl can have total control over an older guy with great ease.

Once the marriage contract is signed, a wife can do the same, knowing you lose half your assets if you leave or divorce her.  

Best to have an renewable agreement rather than a do or die marriage contract IMO

[Will B Good]

4 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

a cute young girl can have total control over an older guy with great ease.

Tell me about it.......

[atpeace]

52 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

Tell me about it.......

In end it is all about the experience which youth is insignificant in my opinion.  I realized this in my 50's after sleeping with my first 40+ woman and having an incredible night.  Slept with many women since of all ages but that one night changed me forever.  Finding available attractive older women is nearly impossible which prior to my first experience, I assumed would be easy.  

 

Now in a relationship with a 58 yo woman 3 years older than me that is mind blowing beautiful.  She is as fit as young hotties and so much more interesting.  We both are athletes and love being active.  I guess we are in a relationship -555.  Not sure because this is all new to me but it has been 2.5 years and  it feels so good.

[Mac Mickmanus]

2 minutes ago, atpeace said:

In end it is all about the experience which youth is insignificant in my opinion.  I realized this in my 50's after sleeping with my first 40+ woman and having an incredible night.  Slept with many women since of all ages but that one night changed me forever.  Finding available attractive older women is nearly impossible which prior to my first experience, I assumed would be easy.  

 

Now in a relationship with a 58 yo woman 3 years older than me that is mind blowing beautiful.  She is as fit as young hotties and so much more interesting.  We both are athletes and love being active.  I guess we are in a relationship -555.  Not sure because this is all new to me but it has been 2.5 years and  it feels so good.

How often do you have sex ?

Every night ?

[atpeace]

6 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

How often do you have sex ?

Every night ?

The first week we maybe skipped a couple nights.  We still have sex often each week and oddly I think she is more beautiful every new morning. She wakes up each morning and opens the blinds to check on the dogs in her thin t-shirt that melts away in the sunlight. I fall in love each time.  I know how that sounds but it is what it is...

[Mac Mickmanus]

36 minutes ago, atpeace said:

The first week we maybe skipped a couple nights.  We still have sex often each week and oddly I think she is more beautiful every new morning. She wakes up each morning and opens the blinds to check on the dogs in her thin t-shirt that melts away in the sunlight. I fall in love each time.  I know how that sounds but it is what it is...

What about when she isn't there in the mornings, do you usually then feel horny in the morning as well  ?

   I do think that you are feeling lust, rather than love 

[Grecian]

2 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

What about when she isn't there in the mornings, do you usually then feel horny in the morning as well  ?

   I do think that you are feeling lust, rather than love 

You remind me of one of those American preachers who constantly bang on about the evils of lust and then one day get caught with their pants down drinking out of a hookers toilet bowl.

[Mac Mickmanus]

26 minutes ago, Grecian said:

You remind me of one of those American preachers who constantly bang on about the evils of lust and then one day get caught with their pants down drinking out of a hookers toilet bowl.

Just pointing out the differences between true love and feeling horny . 

Its very important to know the difference between the two .

Some guys make the mistake of getting a woman whom they can have sex with anytime they like and then thinking that they are in love 

[atpeace]

9 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

What about when she isn't there in the mornings, do you usually then feel horny in the morning as well  ?

   I do think that you are feeling lust, rather than love 

Too deep for me. 

 

If we are both physically and mentally active and enjoy each other moving through each day and into the night with or without sex, what is that feeling?  I really don't categorize it as lust or love.  It is something that I simply cherish.  It isn't solely a product of her being older, beautiful, funny, or whatever that creates this vibe but something that I really don't understand completely.  I just do the right thing by her every moment I'm with her and the rest seems to take care of itself.

[Guest Isaanlife]

On 4/6/2022 at 9:47 AM, Mac Mickmanus said:

Having an amount of unemployed people doesn't make that Country a poor County , the UK and USA also have millions of people unemployed 

Get it over it.

 

Thailand is a poor country

[brewsterbudgen]

1 hour ago, Isaanlife said:

Get it over it.

 

Thailand is a poor country

It's all relative.  Perhaps you've never been to Myanmar, Laos or Cambodia!

[Will B Good]

1 hour ago, Isaanlife said:

Get it over it.

 

Thailand is a poor country

Being pedantic......not a poor country......just a disproportionate number of staggeringly poor and staggeringly rich citizens.......but that's corruption for you.

[vinci]

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Thailand is a poor country

i think you got your facts wrong