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American woman sexually assaulted in Bangkok


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The victim, an American woman, met the suspect, known only as Tim, through the Tinder app. After meeting at a bar, the suspect asked if he could stay at her place, to which she agreed, stating that there would be no sexual intercourse as she had to work in the morning. 

 

Tinder App...At the Bar... Spend the night together...

I am sure the Chinese man was not homeless... So? What else? Bake a cake in the night?

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7 hours ago, ezzra said:

A woman who agree to a stranger male to spend the night at her place is giving the wrong signals, no wonder the man thought that making a sexual advances would be ok by her, it's really a no brainier, she should have known better...

Big differences between sexual advances and rape

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There is law. There is morality. There is a woman's right to say "No".

 

There is also Darwin.

 

Meet a guy once and invite him to stay with you overnight is bucking for a Darwin Award. Sometimes it makes sense to put limits on one's own freedoms.

 

There are many things I can do, within the law and as my right, but would choose not to do because it could come back to get me. For example, I could draw and publish a cartoon that might offend some members of a faith enough that they would do me extreme physical harm. I would be limiting my own freedom to refrain, but wisely so.

 

What the woman did does not make her responsible, but damn...why would she put herself in that situation. Naivete is not a crime, but it can have consequences. I guess she never watched "Looking for Mr Goodbar".

 

 

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2 hours ago, Freddy42OZ said:

Have you never been in that situation?   I've been with women dozens of times where they wanted to just get some sleep, but where fine with me staying and sleeping next to them.  I never tried to get them to change their mind by touching them up or forcing myself on them.  If they say they want to sleep then you let them sleep. 

If they just want to sleep, I've got better things to do somewhere else.

 

The one time i was stuck with one that 'just wanted to sleep', I called security and he dragged her naked from my room and escorted her to the front entrance of the hotel. I assume the moment i fell asleep she'd be sorting through my stuff looking for things to steal.

 

On the other hand,

The few times where I  just wanted to sleep (too drunk), they were naked and on top of me the second the light went out.

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5 hours ago, Freddy42OZ said:



Rape - “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” 

Sexual assault and rape are often the same thing.

I'm disgusted at some of the replies so far. 

Just because a woman agrees to let you come home with her and agrees to let you sleep in the same bed, DOES NOT mean you can 'try it on' and see if you can change her mind if she's said "No sex, I want to sleep".   

 

Lots of girls have done that with me. Does that mean they too were all rapists?

Sometimes, you really need to take responsibility for crass stupidity. 
I’ve had girls saying they just wanted to ‘use my toilet’ as a way of getting back to mine. Not that the restaurant we had just visited didn’t have one. Girls I met whilst travelling and visited them in their countries, would accidentally burst in whilst I was in the bathroom, feel me up whilst I pretended to be asleep… so many things I could tell. 
But at least I knew these girls for more than five minutes. Certainly not via a ‘hook up’ application. 

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3 hours ago, parallelman said:

Maybe she was expecting to play Scrabble.

Ha ha. Which is all the Commander wanted to do with the Handmaid, literally play Scrabble, in Margaret Atwood’s novel. As far as I can tell, most people posting here would feel right at home in Atwood’s dystopian world.

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2 hours ago, crazykopite said:

Tinder is a sex dating site since Covid a lot of the girls couldn’t work in the bars and massage so turned to these type of sites Thai friendly is another one . I’ve used tinder several times I’m 72 living in my own and the girls you end up meeting eventually you find out that they are freelancers they never returned to there old jobs . Having lived and worked in the USA there are a lot of woman who are up for a bit of fun outside of there normal everyday life . It seems scary that you can now meet a woman on a dating site and before you know it youve been a accused of a sexual assault I think I’ll go back to my old massage lady she can service me once a week in my home that seems to be the safest option 

It’s very unlikely that you’ll be accused of sexual assault unless you actually commit sexual assault. That said, your arrangement with your massage lady sounds like a safe bet all around.

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1 hour ago, peterpaintpot said:

I have to say that this lady was acting in a thouhtless way, but I understand some of the harsh comments that have been posted. However much to my surprise I have discovered as a single man that more ladies act in this way than I would have imagined.

 

While I was single and over the age of 45 at least five ladies suggested it and it happened, all wanting to share my bed just for sleep! The first was a lady from Singapore, a nurse, she was attractive with lively conversation skills, we liked each other but were not sexually attracted to each other. One evening at my house in the UK she had dropped in and we enjoyed sharing too much wine, she needed to drive about 30 minutes to get home on the M25 Motorway. I offered to let her use a folding bed that I had in my study. But she said that she would share my bed with me as she trusted me!

I reluctantly agreed, she was right, nothing happened except sleep.

 

Since I have lived in Thailed and had kicked my Thai wife out it has happenet with at least 4 Thai women, all nice people but no romantic flame burning at all between us.

 

I have written this post to support all others who have posted saying that men do not have to rape any females that fhey bump into.

Thank you for posting that. And further to your last comment, it is *unnatural* for a man to want to rape or physically assault a woman who has said “no” in plain English, casual acquaintance or not.

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13 minutes ago, Cory1848 said:

Thank you for posting that. And further to your last comment, it is *unnatural* for a man to want to rape or physically assault a woman who has said “no” in plain English, casual acquaintance or not.

But is it *unnatural* for him to want to have sexual relations with her? We weren’t there, so don’t know what actually happened. But Tinder, met in a bar and then back to her place…

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5 hours ago, josephbloggs said:

 

No there aren't.

 

I know you like to reply to every single thread on this forum no matter what the topic, and I am used to some of your idiotic replies, but even for you this is shocking.

 

I have to say I am disgusted by this site. The majority of replies in this thread are victim blaming someone who has been sexually assaulted and that seems to be ok as the posts are left to stand, even the ones talking about Chinese penises like that has anything to do with anything, and only the most insecure of racists make comments like that. RIP Asean Now, you've been dying for some time, now it is time to finally put you out of your misery.

Or you can opt out?

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4 hours ago, newbee2022 said:

Maybe for you, old white man. However, the world is changing. It's a matter of respect. Respect women's right to say NO!

Talking of showing respect, please delete old... I find it offensive.

Mature is fine.

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I wonder if a Thai court would convict for this.  The defence will be saying what a slut she was taking a complete stranger she met on Tinder back to her condo which may only have one room at 2.00 am after having drinks with him.  What she claims she told him she wouldn't have sex with him as she had to work in the morning which implied she wanted to have sex with him on a future occasion and probably wouldn't mind, if they did it then anyway.  It was already 2.00 am. So she should have just told him she couldn't take him back because she had to work in the working. Call me for the return match when I don't have to work in the morning.  Goodnight.  If the guy says it was consentful or that he didn't do anything, the court may believe him. 

 

It is also possible that she asked him for money to help pay the rent or something and he did a wham bam and thank you mam.  

 

If she has a job in Thailand, I sure hope it isn't teaching young children.

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1 hour ago, NextG said:

Lots of girls have done that with me. Does that mean they too were all rapists?

Sometimes, you really need to take responsibility for crass stupidity. 
I’ve had girls saying they just wanted to ‘use my toilet’ as a way of getting back to mine. Not that the restaurant we had just visited didn’t have one. Girls I met whilst travelling and visited them in their countries, would accidentally burst in whilst I was in the bathroom, feel me up whilst I pretended to be asleep… so many things I could tell. 
But at least I knew these girls for more than five minutes. Certainly not via a ‘hook up’ application. 

You must be a handsome old dog!

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