Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[123Stodg]

Thanks for the input, everyone. So far, it seems the top suggestions are either to find a ladyboy or get someone to, uh, “probe” my backside with their thumbs. Since I’m solidly heterosexual—and my backside policy is strictly a one-way exit-only portal—I’m not sure how helpful any of those ideas are. But hey, I’ll keep my hopes up that there’s still a good solution out there.

[Thingamabob]

11 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

So? 😊

Infantilism is the retention of childish habits into adulthood. An obsession with the female breast is but one example.

[NowNow]

24 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

Infantilism is the retention of childish habits into adulthood. An obsession with the female breast is but one example.

 

Do I need to repeat the question?

Are you trying to suggest that it's not normal for people to retain some of the same habits throughout their lives?

Do you think that most of the people here behave like adults? What's your point?

[Terrance8812]

51 minutes ago, 123Stodg said:

Thanks for the input, everyone. So far, it seems the top suggestions are either to find a ladyboy or get someone to, uh, “probe” my backside with their thumbs. Since I’m solidly heterosexual—and my backside policy is strictly a one-way exit-only portal—I’m not sure how helpful any of those ideas are. But hey, I’ll keep my hopes up that there’s still a good solution out there.

Maybe this will work for you?

 

[ChrisKC]

I sympathise! But over 50 for you still hasn't yet arrived at me at 79.

 

Can still do everything I could do when I was 25 - just slower!

[newbee2022]

15 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

Is this really all what matters??? You don't have anything else in your head?? Poor (little) man.

[Nick Carter icp]

15 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom.

 

   Its natural , you are meant to reproduce when you are younger and so you feel horny .

   You aren't supposed to reproduce when you are in your 50's . so naturally you don't fell horny when you get older

[john donson]

here, no freaking shame or boasting...

 

penis pump... even the cheap chinese one

 

create the blood, fake erection, where it is needed

 

use daily, 10 min

 

and l-citrulline, better than l-arginine, that can turn nasty in your body if you take too much...buy in powder form on iherb

 

 

mouth wash, can kill the bacteria needed to make nitric oxide you need to get the blood flow and stay in the penis...

 

for the fact checkers...

 

Antibacterial mouthwash can lower nitric oxide levels in the body, which may have a negative effect on erectile dysfunction (ED): 

 

[RSD1]

47 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

Is this really all what matters??? You don't have anything else in your head?? Poor (little) man.

Insulting, pathetic, and useless. 

[IsaanT]

15 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

 

Referring back to the original post...   I'd like to suggest a few things to consider.

Stress Management: While the OP mentioned trying meditation, it would be good to find a stress-reducing activity that resonates personally, whether that’s yoga, tai chi, or even just regular walks in nature. Chronic stress can impact overall health and libido.
 

Sleep Quality: How good is the OP's sleep?  The usual advice is the best, such as establishing a consistent bedtime routine, limiting screen time before bed, or creating a calming sleep environment. Quality of sleep is often overlooked but crucial for overall health.
 

Balanced Diet: While the OP mentioned that he's focusing on healthy eating, specific foods known to support hormonal health and circulation include avocados, nuts, and fatty fish (rich in omega-3s). 
 

Consult a Nutritionist: It may be worth having a session with a registered dietitian who can provide tailored advice based on his specific health and dietary needs.

 

Hormone Levels: Maybe consider a check-up with a healthcare provider to evaluate hormone levels, particularly testosterone. Low testosterone can significantly affect libido and performance.

 

I hope this helps.

[Lacessit]

The main side effect of prescription drugs is a lower blood pressure, and elevated pulse rate.

 

It's not going to kill the OP if he takes Viagra for a short-term association once a week. Nor a Cialis for an overnight stay.

 

50 is far too young to be losing interest, seek medical help.

[newbee2022]

7 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Insulting, pathetic, and useless. 

Who or what? Your post? Agreed🥱

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Thanks for the input, everyone. So far, it seems the top suggestions are either to find a ladyboy or get someone to, uh, “probe” my backside with their thumbs. Since I’m solidly heterosexual—and my backside policy is strictly a one-way exit-only portal—I’m not sure how helpful any of those ideas are. But hey, I’ll keep my hopes up that there’s still a good solution out there.

Why haven't you visited an specialist? 

 

 

[Paul52]

16 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Have you had your DHEA level tested?  Most hospitals and some clinics can do this.  It starts dropping rapidly after 50 and can have a significant affect on your libido.  There are supplements for it, but there’s no evidence they work.  Most men over 50 “peak” in the mornings and drops as the day progresses, regardless of lifestyle, fitness level, etc.  If you want to get it up and keep it up later in the day, the blue pills are your answer.  After all, that is why they were invented.  That’s life!

[jaywalker2]

I find marijuana helps

[Cameroni]

17 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

 

Speak for yourself. I'm 53 and I can do 10 times a night. With the right girl of course. 

 

Maybe your partners are not quality enough?

 

Try NMN, Resveratrol and Zinc.

[Cameroni]

2 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   Its natural , you are meant to reproduce when you are younger and so you feel horny .

   You aren't supposed to reproduce when you are in your 50's . so naturally you don't fell horny when you get older

 

Lol, one of the main hotbeds of STDs are old people's homes. 

 

Old people do get horny.

 

I'm in my 50s and I'm hornier than most teenagers.

[newbee2022]

45 minutes ago, Paul52 said:

Have you had your DHEA level tested?  Most hospitals and some clinics can do this.  It starts dropping rapidly after 50 and can have a significant affect on your libido.  There are supplements for it, but there’s no evidence they work.  Most men over 50 “peak” in the mornings and drops as the day progresses, regardless of lifestyle, fitness level, etc.  If you want to get it up and keep it up later in the day, the blue pills are your answer.  After all, that is why they were invented.  That’s life!

Many things are dropping after 50, later in addition dripping 🥴

[bbbbooboo]

17 hours ago, FriscoKid said:

Indeed. No worries, I'll be your friend. Just so you know, my boobs are off limits though.  

lol… it’s even worse at the bottom( so I’ve heard anyway?)

 

On 9/17/2024 at 11:51 AM, JRG23 said:

Hahahahahaha

 

[Kinok Farang]

17 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Sounds like you might be gay.

 

Try it with a man, let us know the results.

 

Good luck

Enjoyable until you get one with a bigger nob than you then that puts you off a tad.

[Kinok Farang]

2 hours ago, newbee2022 said:

Is this really all what matters??? You don't have anything else in your head?? Poor (little) man.

Obnoxious or what?

[Hummin]

31 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

I'm in my 50s and I'm hornier than most teenagers.

That means you didn't get much in your younger days 😉

[Cameroni]

Just now, Hummin said:

That means you didn't get much in your younger days 😉

 

Bingo!!!!

[newnative]

12 hours ago, KhunLA said:

OP, might want to go see a doc, as 50 is way to young to be having that problem.

Totally agree.  I had no problems in my 50s or 60s and just starting to slow down a bit in my early 70s.  As you say, 50 is way too young.   See a doctor.

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

Bingo!!!!

In my younger days 5 times a day was not a problem, but now 5 times a week is satisfying, and very rear two times a day, and even less 3 times in a day which depends more on my wife, than me. 

[Cameroni]

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

In my younger days 5 times a day was not a problem, but now 5 times a week is satisfying, and very rear two times a day, and even less 3 times in a day which depends more on my wife, than me. 

 

I found out two days ago that 10 times a night is very satisfying for me now.

[Seeall]

12 hours ago, KhunLA said:

OP, might want to go see a doc, as 50 is way to young to be having that problem.

 

at 60 should be able to go 2 x a day, but need the fantasy attractive thing happening.....

[RSD1]

55 minutes ago, jaywalker2 said:

I find marijuana helps

It helps with arousal. But it doesn't manufacture wood. 

[newbee2022]

20 minutes ago, Kinok Farang said:

Obnoxious or what?

I prefer "what"

[RSD1]

11 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

I found out two days ago that 10 times a night is very satisfying for me now.

Talk is cheap. But at least you can enjoy the fantasy.